maybe one of the worst things you can do to a potential trans ally is peg them as Definitively Cisgender
tme people when they see a "man" express clear interest in femininity and constantly "ironically" engaging with femininity and girlyness: wow you're such a cool ally for a cis man, it's cool that even though you're a cis man you're really open about this stuff, you don't have to be trans to enjoy femininity, it's cool that you're a boy who likes girl stuff (but i'd like to implicitly maintain a boundary between you and transfemininity, cause like, that's not you, right? you're a cis man.)



















