Live, Laugh, Lobotomy

25+ | she/her | Friendly Neighborhood Dyke

[orteil42]

given the current climate this pride especially i feel i must mention that i love my trans friends, i stand with trans people in the fight against transphobic legislation and those who would enforce it, and this blog is not a good place for you to be if you do not vibe with that

[anxietyproblem]

[lovesongs4robots]

also i think there is a larger issue at play here, which is how white-liberal ideology around the construction of "proper" behavior has done a number on how conflict vs. safety, and safety vs. comfort, are conceptualized in collective spaces, where for example any confrontation or interruption to actually address something potentially unsavory is seen as an escalation, borderline an act of violence the way it disrupts everyone having a good time, and "letting it slide"/moving past something/redirection is seen as a de-escalation and the righteous choice of "not taking the bait" or "being the bigger person" or whatever self-pat on the back. that is not what de-escalation is. conflicts and disagreements aren't inherently dangerous, and trying to prevent the existence of conflicts by entirely ignoring the issue because confronting it is uncomfortable and we do not want to "escalate" is not how safety is achieved.

[hjbender]

The Four Discoursemen

[meangirlnurse]

gosh, isn't it interesting that this symptom is specific to men for some unknowable reason? listening and learning

[meangirlnurse]

why is this symptom specific to men. think

[meangirlnurse]

#‘I HAVE BIG FEELINGS’ is only allowed for toddlers#you are an adult. use your words. stop making excuses.#bet these men dont do that around their bosses or anywhere there could be consequences they care about either 💅

[mockiatoh]

lol “have you considered your abusive boyfriend might have ADHD? Try having some empathy once in a while”. Great. Love it.

Seriously, ‘the angry man being aggressive and physically threatening is doing so to express that he is mad’. WOW ya don’t say. ‘But this common abusive behavior is different because he’s special’. Bro they all think the reason they’re abusive is special and not actually abuse or not actually about hurting you or not actually about intimidating you!

[obestriddbifftomat]

Why does he do that? - Lundy Bancroft

[just-a-silly-jellyfish]

something about ryland grace erasing Who Am I? off the whiteboard to replace it with flight plan back to rocky. something about the question of who ryland grace is is no longer important to him, because it doesnt matter who he is if rocky is dead. something about him letting go of his distress over his amnesia and his will to go back home in favour of saving his friend.

[luckyladylily]

When I was in a conservative religious cult, two of the women in my congregation hated each other. It was so bad leaders of our congregation would conspire to try to have them sit as far away from each other as possible, not be in the same room as much as possible, etc. It was some serious drama.

But when one of the women needed help packing a large house worth of boxes into a big moving truck, the other was there with the rest of us, moving boxes. Because that's what you did. Personal dislike and rivalry were trumped by the social obligations of being part of the community. Mutual aid trumped mutual hatred.

Now, I have no desire to go back to the cult, but I do think they were on to something here. Community can't be about who we are friends with or get along with easily. If you won't go to bat for people you hate then this is not a community, it's a popularity contest.

I mean, come on. We can at least be as good as the Mormons. That won't be the end of it, it isn't anywhere near good enough, but we currently fail to meet even that benchmark. And until we do the very idea of leftist and progressive mutual aid is dead in the water.

[preserving-tiktok]

[taraljc]

This is an awesome use of what is probably a master's degree if not a doctorate and I am 100% thrilled that she shared it even though it was embarrassing and she squeaked.

[liminalbeauty]

Thank you, adorable scientist, for making people's lives better.

[punchspeedchunk]

As an Australian, THIS WOMAN IS A FUCKING GODSEND.

[notasapleasure]

this is Hannah Fry, Professor of the Public Understanding of Mathematics at the University of Cambridge and president of the Institute of Mathematics and its Applications.

[lifeafterpsychiatry]

It's a lot healthier to go for a daily walk than to sign up for a gym membership you won't be using because you hate that kind of exercise. It's a lot healthier to eat a frozen meal than to skip a meal because you were too tired to cook something healthy. It's a lot healthier to take a quick shower than to procrastinate an elaborate routine for days. Don't aim so high that you won't be hitting anything!

[creamypancakebatter]

this is actually really helpful and affirming thanks

[breelandwalker]

[depsidase]

[rovermcfly]

rocky's crew dying from radiation exposure, something humans go to great lengths to prevent and are very scared of and grace's crew dying in their "sleep" with nobody watching, something eridians go to great lengths to prevent and are very scared of. cool book that is easy to read through your tears.

[duckbunny]

remember kids, the moral of "Irish and Italians weren't even considered White yet!" isn't "because in those times people were so ignorant they didn't think the Irish were white". the moral is "because white is an unreal category created to justify slavery and ongoing hoarding of power and wealth". It's not that you know better about Italians. It's that the boundaries of the higher caste have changed.

[podcastwizard]

sorry boss can't come in today i was on my way to work and then a gentle spring breeze kissed my cheek and reminded me it is a serious thing just to be alive on this fresh morning in this broken world

[great-and-small]

Don’t mind me just thinking about the hole in the middle of the United States where Chipping sparrows refuse to fuck

[great-and-small]

[inkloom]

I started thinking about that one post about how from dogs POV humans are beings that live like 500+ years (because I was petting my dog and I was looking at her like “thirty thousand years of cooperation have led to this. our species have spent 30k years building up to the point where you, child of wolf, descendant of noble hunters and wild things,  would come all the way out of the office and come sit with me in the hopes of letting a souped up monkey rub its paws on you”)

and then I thought about what it must have been like for the first humans to let a fucking wolf, maybe only a few generations from the wild, behold their infant child. Like man can u believe that? Maybe this alliance is only a few years old and sure you’ve seen the wolf’s kids but now you’ve got one of your own. And even though you’ve seen this wolf tear out the throats of creatures that could kill you, this wolf is your family. This wolf is your friend, you love them and they love you and you gotta show ‘em the new kid, look, friend, I had a child. I know you are wild and dangerous, but look at this, my most precious thing, sniff him, give him a lil lick, his children and your children will be bound together for thirty thousand fucking years because I love you

There’s a set of  preserved footprints from 30k years ago that is a young child and a wolf standing side by side can you fucking imagine? Maybe the kid’s mom was like “hey go get some water from the stream, but take the wolf with you. I trust him, he will protect you.”

[asthedeathoflight]

My favorite quirk of American English is that since we're constantly exaggerating, sometimes it's more intense to say something slightly less intense. Because like, it means you actually thought about it.

"you look great!" - normal. Anyone could say this. Could be true or could just be lying to be nice. Very normal expected thing to say to someone

"you look good." - gay as hell thing to say to someone.

[asthedeathoflight]

This post getting a lot of notes is good for my ego but bad for my social life because its actually about me failing to not flirt with someone

[depsidase]