Arden

[wingkink]

btw it's so fucking stupid you can be anxious physically in your body even after you've decided mentally you don't care. I'm supposed to be in charge here

[pmamtraveller]

Fish-shaped interlocking paving stones.

[sandersstudies]

“They’re just looking for attention.”

Oh, a human being is seeking a social response? Human being, the social animal wired to make and track social connection? A human desires the vital blood that permitted their species to survive for millennia? The human being who was born completely helpless and primed in every way by nature to seek attention and help from their community?

Wow that’s crazy. How embarrassing. Humiliating even. Should we isolate them from community? Should we call Wire Mother?

[ruinationstation]

Abandoned mall in Bangkok.

[greater-than-the-sword]

The problem with being an artist having non-artist parents is that your parents view "art" as being all one skill so maybe you're an expert at digital painting and your mom will say "hey there's jobs everywhere! For example this business is looking for a stained glass window artist!" Like how do I explain that I do not have the skills to do that. Being "artsy fartsy" is not all one thing.

[thesunnahthebetter]

they should normalize saying "I'm thinking of you fondly but don't have much to say and frankly I don't even really want to talk rn but you have appeared in my thoughts and it's nice"

[achillesinhighheels]

[inlovewiththemooon]

alt version

[little-grey-dowitcher]

So many people never learned to live with harmless discomfort at any point in their lives and holy fuck does it show

[little-grey-dowitcher]

“But I wanna know!” You’re gonna have to learn to be ok with not knowing some things, especially when those things involve personal details about strangers that they’re not comfortable sharing.

“But it’s confusing!” If you take the time to educate yourself it’ll no longer be confusing. Otherwise you’re just gonna have to learn to be ok with being confused.

“But it’s weird!” You probably do weird things all the time. Everyone does weird things sometimes. Life goes on.

“But it scares me!” Is it hurting you? No? You’ll be fine. Being scared and being harmed are not always the same thing. Learn to tell the difference and then act accordingly.

“But I want it!” And I want a million dollars. You can’t always get what you want.

[little-grey-dowitcher]

A lot of people were also never told “no” as children and the consequences of that manifest in similar ways. Learn to be ok with being told “no.” You’re not gonna die if you don’t get your way in every single situation ever.

[borderlinereminders]

Reframing does not have to be positive. You do not have to go from “I am terrible” to “I am amazing.” Sometimes the most healing step is going from “I am terrible” to “I am doing my best.” Neutrality is still progress. It is still a shift. It is still a way out of the spiral.

I'm years into my recovery and I still find only neutrality helps, and maybe that's just what works for me.

[tornadointhetundra]

I would love a Christmas movie where a married couple with two or three kids have fallen out of love and find their way back together through the Christmas season.

They live together, but they are distant, almost strangers now. Due to the husband working so the wife can raise the kids and the wife being worn out from raising said kids, they forgot how to be with each other. It’s a common enough story, isn’t it?

So how does the Christmas season bring them back together when it didn’t in the past? What’s different this time? A huge snow storm rolls in, in an area that is not used to snow. This family, the neighborhood, the community, have to work together to survive and take care of each other in the face of the harsh conditions they aren’t used to. Think Texas in the winter of 2021. Zero to sub-zero degree temperatures, snow and ice, water pipe damage and electrical outages everywhere.

The kids are home from school, the husband can’t go to work, and they are forced to live together as a family unity and spend prolonged time together for the first time in years. It’s rough. There’s shouting, frayed tempers, concern about the weather.

But as Christmas draws closer, so does the family as they confront issues that has been bottled up and they learn to live with each other again.

So instead of a movie where there is a new romance around Christmas time, it is the rekindling of an old one and the renewal of family bonds. I don’t know. I just think it’s a neat idea.

[byjove]

cats are great first pets for children because they immediately teach the child the consequences of overstepping boundaries and mishandling animals LMFAO. I grew up in a household with 5+ cats as an only child and every time I would come crying to my mom after I got scratched she would be like “what could you have done differently?”

people buy their kids reptiles and fish and hamsters and then find out they’re extremely delicate creatures that are not ideal for little humans to be responsible for but learning to refill a food bowl, scoop a litter box and dodge claws are things that young minds can grasp relatively easily while also having a furry friend. as much as it makes me cringe to see a toddler dragging a cat around, cats are far better equipped for babysitting than most of the traditional ‘let’s get our 5 year old a little pet’ animals. and it totally depends on the cat too, some won’t stand for it and will spend all their time avoiding the kid and some will willingly put up with being dressed in silly outfits.

[sealradfem]

being a female medical student is just so tiring. oh, you want to study anatomy on a female model in the year 2025? good luck lol. 99.9% of pictures in an anatomy atlas are of a male. learning about the layers of the thoracic wall? male, and breasts are just an add on. every single distinct feature of the female body is just treated as a quirk from the default male body. general dosages of drugs or healthy percentages of compounds in blood? written about male bodies, if you are lucky data about women is given in parentheses. there is literally a sentence in one of my books that hymen is perforated during the first sexual activity, which was proven to be a dangerous myth many years ago, but I guess nobody cares to correct it. almost every picture we use for learning is of a male patient, and when we do get a picture of a woman, it feels like you are blessed by the gods. illustrations of female bodies? clean shaven, if you're lucky maybe you will get a millimeter of a bush. professors saying "rape is natural", "you, the female students should get married before the end of college, otherwise it will be too late", "it is in men's nature to be with as many women as possible", "having children after 30 as a woman is unethical", and nobody even does anything because everyone is just so desentisized from all the stress and being treated like emotionless robots by the system. I'm convinced medical schools are a breeding ground for sociopaths and misogynists.

no wonder women have such terrible experiences with healthcare. we are treated like a special subtype of a human. I mean it's not like we make half of the population right?

idk, I am just so tired of it all, it genuinely makes me so sad...I just hope in other countries it's a bit better, I keep telling myself maybe it's because I study in Eastern Europe

[rootlessly]

blue ridge parkway ⋇ 9 may

[suggestionsofkindness]

If you live somewhere where it gets darker now, here’s a few reminders:

- You can put up fairy lights at any time and leave them up for as long as you want

- Get out if you can, while there is still light outside

- Make it as cosy for yourself as you can. Dial up the comfort and the cosy, whatever that looks like to you

- Make plans to look forward to

- More people than we sometimes realize are affected, be cosy with your friends in person, call them or have a facetime hang out with tea or a movie. Maybe go for a short walk together or meet up for coffee, so you get out a bit too.

- You have made it through the darkness before, you can do it again. If you think back and remember something that helped you the last time, draw on that again

[sage-thyme]

- Try to get outside, even if it means bundling up a ton. Fresh air and sunlight are good, and it makes you feel less trapped in your house!

- Try to get exercise in, whether it’s at the gym, at-home workout, whatever

[lttrsfrmlnrrgby]

Take your vitamins-- B complex, D, C, maybe some fish oil, combat that darkness-induced lethargy

Eat citrus regularly bc vitamins aside, you deserve bright, sweet things

Create a specific Cozy Drink Time and stick to it, let your 3:30 cup of tea be a pause to just sit and drink something warming

[riversofeurope]

Elek Falus (Hungarian, 1884-1950), c. 1897

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[apenitentialprayer]

In the end, spending time with Jesus in prayer should be like a conversation with Him – just as if you were spending time with a good friend. Speak to Jesus from your heart and then listen. You're likely not going to hear anything with your ears. Instead, “hearing” results in an increase in understanding, acceptance, and willingness to follow God's path for your life. Your prayer should bring you a peacefulness about the path forward.

Fr. Chris Bethge