[loving-friends]

entities-unknown -> loving-friends

| 25-years-old, they/them | Autistic Multiple // Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID)

Queer, trans+non-binary butch lesbian womanman/manwoman || we block people who have "men DNI" in their bio

Check out @loving--friends

This blog is my safe space - you're a guest on this blog. If you don't like the things we post on our blog, you don't have to be here.

THERE IS UNTAGGED SEXUAL CONTENT ON THIS BLOG! This is your only warning.

We care deeply about curating a judgement-free space on this blog, where people are kind and respectful and approach one another in good-faith. We block MANY people and aren't afraid to block you if need be.

We acknowledge the existence of transandrophobia alongside transmisogyny, as well as exorsexism.

entities-unknown: our posts+reblogs w/ our commentary

multiplicity: related to DID/etc. (not all posts with this tag are actually related to DID or system stuff at all, it's just about the vibes)

words that speak to us: quotes, song lyrics, poems...

system jukebox: music we like

Educating others about DID is something we're really passionate about, so we really encourage questions about DID, including about our own experiences! We encourage questions, even if it feels "stupid" or if you're afraid that it's "offensive." Topics surrounding DID are like a special interest to us, so we absolutely jump at any opportunity to talk about these things.

We are generally uninterested in syscourse, but we block incredibly hateful anti-endos (such as those who tag posts with "endos fuck off"). You are free to ask about specific opinions.

We've made friends through Tumblr before, so honestly if you feel like you'd want to talk to us and possibly be friends, feel free to message us, we genuinely encourage it, as long as you're 20 or older (sorry if you're 18 or 19, it's nothing against you, I just prefer making friends with adults who are older than "freshly 18-19-year-old")

[jojobearoo]

pearl... he's my boo thang... 😖

[eldritchbauble]

Genuinely one of the worst things about being raised by an abusive parent is that whatever anyone on the outside knows about is the tip of the iceberg. Even if they know, they don't know. They didn't live it. And whatever your parent did/does is like 100x worse than what they know about. Because even if you try to relay your experiences, there is still an ocean worth of shit that's slipped though the cracks and you can't even coherently remember it all to tell them. Even when you can remember, it's hard to put into words everything that's been done to you. It's an insanely isolating thing to go through. It's like you're the only one who's ever truly going to know what it's like to be you, even if other people relate and sympathize. Even moreso if you don't have any siblings who shared your childhood. It's just. Shit.

[90stvqueen]

An old promo for the Drain Lords episode of The Pink Opaque. Does anyone know if this show is available to stream anywhere anymore?

[corporationkills]

[azatomiic]

ame chan!

[vertscha]

[this-is-trans-joy]

Trans joy is being invited to the sleepover by your cis girl friends the day after after you came out ❤️ At the time I felt like I didn't "deserve" to be a girl, I was super conscious of my looks, I wasn't on HRT, didn't voice train, had short hair and didn't feel comfortable enough to wear the more feminine clothes I wanted to. But they still made me feel included and part of the girls right as I was, and that meant the world to me ❤️ A big reason why I feel way less dysphoria now (besides transitionning lol) is because of how my amazing friends have drilled into my head that my girlhood isn't dependent on how I look, and that has allowed me to go at my own pace and focus on the parts of myself I genuinely felt uncomfortable with rather than feel like everything about me was wrong and too masculine. I'll forever be grateful about that!! ❤️

This is trans joy!!!

[laserwalnut]

Ok I just REALLY like drawing them

[gooobraghhh]

If your t-boyfriend doesn’t respond to all your photos like this, what’s the point

[loving-friends]

It's kind of insane how much it turns me on to imagine having sex with women.

[starstruckbaby]

"transmascs love misgendering themselves" hey so are you aware that everytime we try to create inclusive terms we get made fun of? Did you not see how mad TERFs got over the terms "birthing person" or "uterus owner"? We literally can't use terms that wouldn't misgender us because when we do other queer people and people outside the community turn it into a joke.

[dualight]

Preserving @jadwigaspeaks's tags:

#also as far as i can tell most alleged instances of ''transmascs misgendering themselves'' are either#1. a transmasc being gnc / otherwise having fun with gender#2. a transmasc talking about his experiences with misogyny + how being seen *by others* as a woman affected him#or 3. transmascs going into a team/restroom/shelter that's stated to be for women because A. transphobes have specifically banned them from#the men's version or B. the men's version doesn't exist#or C. if the men's version does exist it either cannot or will not meet trans men's needs#none of those can be described in good faith as misgendering one's self#transandrophobia

[stricatul]

My favorite sex position is when you communicate your feelings in a direct way. So i don’t have to do the emotional labor of trying to decode exactly what the fuck you’re saying

[transfem-central]

Topic: Whiteness and queerness

Video has captions! (not entirely accurate, though.)

Transcript under the cut, and cut into tiny pieces for easy reading!

START TRANSCRIPT:

The other day I made a video talking about how white transmascs appropriate black culture in order to feel more masculine because they associate blackness with masculinity.

And never before in my life or in posting videos about trans discourse have I gotten so many comments from people acting completely oblivious or confused to the issue, Even though the issue is a very simple statement.

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I think it reflects the fact that a lot of white queer people are just incapable of thinking about issues if it is not personally affecting them.

And I think this reveals a weaponized incompetence issue in the larger white queer community when it comes to racial issues.

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When someone brings attention to intracommunity issues not about race, I never get these comments. I never get comments acting confused or acting like what I'm talking about is so incomprehensible, or saying things like "well, I've never seen this happen."

Because people accept that maybe this has happened.

but the second someoke brings up a racial issue, suddenly it's incredibly confusing and complex. And people need to explain five million different ways to where they get it.

And obviously other people call bullshit to this, and they say "this is very clearly you just refusing to understand this, not you being unable to understand."

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And a lot of people in the comments seem to be resorting to the fact they're neurodivergent to excuse the fact that they're not aware of racial dynamics in the queer community.

And I think that this is a larger problem. People like to flee back back to a marginalized identity [??] and talk about how they're queer or they're neurodivergent - in order to get away from complex critiques about the way that they ignore racism in their own community.

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There are two possibities:

either one: these people are aware of the issue and are pretending not to know about it

because it allows them to escape accountability

or two: they're just genuinely not aware of it

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but both of these things are real problems because it means that white queer people either do not notice or do not care about the racism happening in their own community.

Because the problem identified is not a niche issue, it happens all the time.

But the refusal to use critical thinking or even just look in the comments for other explanations before jumping to acting confused and acting ignorant of the issue is a bigger problem that white queer people need to examine in themselves.

Remaining ignorant on issues of race and acting like you've never seen this happen or you never heard this before is a result of you ignoring it, not a result of it not happening.

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The fact that tons of people in the comments who are black queer people are saying "this happens all the time" but white queer people are saying they've never seen it happen - suggest that it's not that it doesnt happen it's that white queer people don't recognize it happening - because they don't actually pay attention to racial issues in their community.

Which is why when it gets called out they act so confused about it.

End transcript /

[luckyladylily]

Ok I've said a LOT in defense and support of trans men. I've made many posts, and within the notes of the post something has come up i need to address.

One of the most common tactics to incite violence and prejudice against trans women are accusations of pedophilia. Participating in these accusations is never ok. The frequency of these attacks and the willingness of people to lie means it is impossible for you to make any sort of informed judgement on any individual accusation. We all know this about internet callouts and accusations. Suddenly finding internet mud slinging credible because it's about a trans woman being a pedophile is not doing your due diligence, it's being a transmisogynistic ass.

And you certainly don't get to make fucking vague posts about trans feminists being pedophiles, what the fuck is wrong with some of you.

I highlight trans men in this instance because I've seen several cases of trans men who seem to think a person being transandrophobic justifies participating in pedophile accusations. It's not a lot, but it is enough to be a pattern. You cut that shit out right now. And more importantly, we make sure everyone knows responding to bigotry with more bigotry is unacceptable.

And don't come at me with that shit that sometimes it's justified, we all know you are talking about isuggestforcefemme and it's still bullshit. I don't like her, I think her politics are shit, but i actually read what she wrote and her crash out on the subject of pedophilia does not justify the harassment campaign against her. Suddenly everyone is tripping over themselves to shove as many bullshit conservative lies about trans women and pedophilia into their callout as possible because it is a convenient justification for harassing a trans woman you don't like.

Principles of not being a bigoted asshole still apply to people we don't like.

And if you have ever participated in a pedophilia based smear campaign like this? I get it. Mistakes happen. We are all still learning. I don't need you to feel bad. I just need you to be better.

[eggotchi-deactivated20260513]

nonbinary ppl ARE trans enough no matter how they present themselves. if i hear "that nonbinary person didn't even change anything besides their name and label so they're basically cis" one more time im going to lose my shit. the fact that it's sometimes coming from ppl who also in the same breath say u dont need hrt to be trans is also mind boggling like just say u hate nonbinary ppl specifically and go

[tboy-cock]

st4t is a beautiful dynamic. the fact that we take what our oppressors want us to behave like and completely bastardize it. there is still something wrong with us in their eyes, even if its "the right way." our love scares them. they dont think we should be able to love ourselves or each other, but we do. st4t love is revolutionary