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Just a quick reminder that I have moved to this blog:

ninjabluewolf

New blog

I haven't been very active on my blogs lately. There really isn't much reason behind it other than I have been wanting to make another. And in celebration of a new year I've finally done just that.

On this new blog I will still live blog books I read as well as posting more things that happens in my day to day life, my thoughts and feelings, photos, and my writing.

From here on out these blogs will no longer be active but I will not be deleting them for nostalgic and reference purposes. I will be going through following/followers and refollowing people on the new blog. That's all. If you wish to still follow me you can find me at ninjabluewolf.

Thank you so much and have a wonderful day :)

#personal #new blog #Ninjabluewolf

onlinecounsellingcollege

Don’t beat yourself up for not knowing the answers. You don’t always have to know who you are. You don’t have to have the big picture, or know where you’re heading. Sometimes, it’s enough just to know what you’re going to do next.

Sophie Kinsella (via weliveandbreathewords)

#Quotes

jamiebenn

if you listen carefully you can hear me whisper “shut the fuck up” at least once every five minutes

tomb-of-madeline

A comic about a vampire and a friend

beben-eleben

Punctuation Matters by The Visual Communication Guy

mommy-marathons-and-motorcycles

The most persuasive arguments for punctuation I’ve seen so far!

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jassmarie19

Kids born between 1995 and 1998 are interesting because they fall somewhere between Gen X and Millenials cause they grew up on the tail end of left over 90s stuff but also were right there at the beginning of the 2000s and all that tech and innovation. They don’t really identify with, like, Nirvana being the voice of their generation, but they still hold onto the 90s nostalgia and remember a time before widespread Internet and dial up. 9/11 is like a distant memory but the ramifications are just an accepted part of life. They remember a time before iPhones and the economic collapse but much of the pop culture is too old for them. They’re an interesting transition group of kids that don’t really fit perfectly into either group. I just think that’s really interesting.

soloontherocks-moving-refol-blog

my favorite side effect warning is for antidepressants

pros: you won’t want to kill yourself

cons: you might want to kill yourself

notnights

Back when I was in a psychiatric hospital, and was offered antidepressants, my mother had declined them due to that apparent side effect. So the staff actually explained about this effect antidepressants have, that give reason to that warning. When first taking antidepressants they raise up your energy first. So that you have the energy to do the tasks you might have avoided doing due to your depression. Because of this those who were already suicidal, now have the energy to go do so. Which is the ones this warning is given for. It’s not that a side effect of antidepressants magically makes you want to kill yourself, it’s the energy it gives those who were already struggling with suicidal issues, to actually attempt the act.

butterscotchwm-deactivated20181

Very informative…

staying-happily-high

Wow. I’m so glad you explained that. Now I understand

its-thedinosaurman

My high school choir/psych teacher actually told is about this. She also said if you have a suicidal friend who starts seeming like they might be getting better because they have more energy, that’s the time to be cautious because that’s when they may still be suicidal but they’ll actually have the energy to go through with it

starlight-and-promises

THIS. a thousand times THIS. I had it explained to me in my AP psychology class in high school. super fucking important.

letsplaysocialjustice

when will ppl realise that i’m not a computer expert i just know how to click on things until i find the problem

darkersolstice

No, but seriously, this is one of the greatest skills Millennials have. I have gotten heaps of praise from my boss for being able to go to my desk, google for five minutes, and come back to fix her computer issue. A lot of it is that the vocabulary is something natural to us. We grew up with these systems from when we were kids–checking that the monitor’s plugged in, that we have the right drivers, that there’s a connection is something we learned young, an internal checklist that’s as natural as the one we use when starting a car–moreso, even. Lots of us have laptops, but no car.

Troubleshooting basic software and hardware issues is something that you can put on your resume. So is rapid skill acquisition, for clicking around in a new program until you know how to use it. These are what we’re good at, Millennials. Don’t feel ashamed of it.

@howtogrowthefuckup, @resumespeak, do either of you have comments to add?

louciferish

Understanding how to correctly google something and get the result you are looking for is a skill we don’t recognize in ourselves until we see someone else floundering.

My mom and I hear a song on the radio with a female singer and the chorus is something about lilies growing on a hill. The radio doesn’t identify the artist.

When we go home, my mom will google, “Who sings the lilies song?” and if the song is popular enough the answer will be somewhere on the first page, maybe.

I will google “lilies growing hill lyrics” and the first link will be a site like AZlyrics listing the artist, title of the song, and all the words.

novangla

“Rapid skill acquisition” is the perfect description for what happened at my last job – I was brand new but within two months I’d figured out our homework/grading/online program almost as well as the tech department, and learned things about it that returning teachers had no clue of. I’m not a computer genius. I just spent time exploring until I figured it out.

Also: lots of us have laptops, but no car speaks to me so much. I have no effing clue how to troubleshoot a car, which I think was a common skill for older generations (esp when cars were more mechanical).

maxattax

This post is why I love this xkcd comic:

catastrofries

@typesetjez THIS IS WEIRD.

howtogrowthefuckup

This is absolutely a skill that Millennials and Homelanders (is that the term we’re using for GenZ now?) have. Everyone in the Homeland Generation is a digital native and while most Millennials are not exactly, we did grow up in a time when technology became an increasingly more important part of our lives. We grew up alongside the internet and therefore understand it a little better because there was never the issue of things being different beforehand.

The Google thing especially is a skill that will carryover into the workplace and potentially bring you praise from your supervisors and certainly help you out at home, like in the lyrics example above. I work as a reference librarian in a public library, which means all of my coworkers are information experts and spend a huge chunk of their day looking things up. And despite only working their a year, I can find the answers to “simple” questions almost instantly, whereas it may take my coworker a few minutes or more to find the same thing. This isn’t to say she isn’t smart or good at research—she’s probably the most skilled person I know in that area—it’s just that I understand modern keyword search terms better. We Millennials (and Homelanders) just understand the best way to formulate a search, because it’s something we do all the time and have always done.

It’s the same thing for computer troubleshooting. It’s not that we’re all computer experts, it’s just that we have knowledge of what “usually” works and know the different little things to check. This is something we grew up with, figured out along the way, or, depending on how old we are, maybe even learned in school. Personally, I was lucky enough to be in the weird middle ground when basic computer skills were actually taught in schools, right in the sweet spot where computers were just popular enough that we might have one at home and just before they became normal and common knowledge. That wasn’t an option for our parents or anyone older, because the technology just wasn’t around for them to be familiar with early on.

Before I continue writing a novel here, the point is this: being familiar with technology, being able to do quick google searches, and being able to quickly diagnose a computer issue is a SKILL. It’s an ASSET to your job and your company and don’t let anyone tell you any differently. But, at the same time, remember that everyone older than you did not have these same advantages and that you need to be patient with them when they don’t get a google result immediately or can’t connect to wifi.

wordsnquotes

She’s known sadness, and it has made her kind.

Nathan Filer, The Shock of the Fall - via wordsnquotes (via caffeous)

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acutelesbian

A lot of people ask me what my biggest fear is, or what scares me most. And I know they expect an answer like heights, or closed spaces, or people dressed like animals, but how do I tell them that when I was 17 I took a class called Relationships For Life and I learned that most people fall out of love for the same reasons they fell in it. That their lover’s once endearing stubbornness has now become refusal to compromise and their one track mind is now immaturity and their bad habits that you once adored is now money down the drain. Their spontaneity becomes reckless and irresponsible and their feet up on your dash is no longer sexy, just another distraction in your busy life. Nothing saddens and scares me like the thought that I can become ugly to someone who once thought all the stars were in my eyes.

fat-thin-skinny

this fucks me up every single time

acutelesbian

I never expected this to be my most popular poem out of the hundreds I’ve written. I was extremely bitter and sad when I wrote this and I left out the most beautiful part of that class.

After my teacher introduced us to this theory, she asked us, “is love a feeling? Or is it a choice?” We were all a bunch of teenagers. Naturally we said it was a feeling. She said that if we clung to that belief, we’d never have a lasting relationship of any sort.

She made us interview a dozen adults who were or had been married and we asked them about their marriages and why it lasted or why it failed. At the end, I asked every single person if love was an emotion or a choice.

Everybody said that it was a choice. It was a conscious commitment. It was something you choose to make work every day with a person who has chosen the same thing. They all said that at one point in their marriage, the “feeling of love” had vanished or faded and they weren’t happy. They said feelings are always changing and you cannot build something that will last on such a shaky foundation.

The married ones said that when things were bad, they chose to open the communication, chose to identify what broke and how to fix it, and chose to recreate something worth falling in love with.

The divorced ones said they chose to walk away.

Ever since that class, since that project, I never looked at relationships the same way. I understood why arranged marriages were successful. I discovered the difference in feelings and commitments. I’ve never gone for the person who makes my heart flutter or my head spin. I’ve chosen the people who were committed to choosing me, dedicated to finding something to adore even on the ugliest days.

I no longer fear the day someone who swore I was their universe can no longer see the stars in my eyes as long as they still choose to look until they find them again.