[junglejim4322]

Not having a traditional job or plans to get an education will have people asking you things like so what is the purpose of you staying alive?

[oohsnickers]

[curliestofcrowns]

I’ve been thinking about this daily since it crossed my dash

[impling]

little mans is 100% correct.

[animatedamerican]

I'm gonna put I AM BRAVE OF THIS MEETING on my cubicle wall at work and never explain it.

[dr-otter]

Think about the donuts of your day!

[pocket-deer-belly]

Some gay men really put 0 hours of work into unlearning their hatred of women’s bodies and anatomy it’s embarrassing. Like i’m super fucking sorry that you’ve got a pussy ick thing going on but i got over it after like one conversation with a friend and you’re 29 years old publicizing your pussy ick on twitter dot com dot gov posting about how super fucking hard it is that trans men are also in gay bars and that’s Not Valid because ewwww they have vacheena which is the opposite of gay eeewwwwwww! And you have to let everybody know that you’re gay not because you like men but because you hate pussy so much it makes you transphobic. Like how can you even continue to serve cunt in such a state

[pocket-deer-belly]

What more is there to say. Transphobic gay men could never serve cunt cause they hate pussy too much

[xiaoguiwang]

[ID: tumblr reply by user itsheckinwes, reading, "Love this take <3 Please give us more! /END ID]

[tsscat]

Same for transphobic lesbians who go "penises are gross" it is a body part, please grow up

[pettycentral]

[desperate-acts-of-capitalism]

But with your help, we can make next year even worse for Elon Musk

[thelovers-thedreamers-and-me]

[tam--lin]

Posts that are better with timestamps enabled.

[djmobwife-deactivated20220329]

Remember her

[afeelgoodblog]

After seeing the dad how do I channel, I really wanted this one. I searched for it and, tada! Mom how do I? Seems rather new, but I love it anyway.

[cloudfreed]

This is such a cute and helpful idea, especially since some people either didn’t grow up with someone who could teach them this stuff or they grew up with parents who did everything for them. I knew a lot of guys in college who didn’t know how to do laundry or cook!

[w00dchips]

Mom How Do I

Dad How Do I

[notbomb]

My parents were not very good teachers of life skills so this is G R E A T.

[catchymemes]

[grimeclown]

As a clown I refuse to do sexy stuff in my real actual clown outfit because that is for the kids but I have a separate clown outfit for sexy stuff.

You’re a role model and a legend

[oscillatingdichotomy]

Separation of church & state

[cringepdf-deactivated20240504]

the personification of death being portrayed as deeply kind in fiction is something that reduces me to tears every single time

[skunkes]

[95wonder]

No. I know this is probably just a casual commiseration but I think it's a real and important question to ask and answer. If doing the stuff you're expected to do everyday is super hard, then something is probably wrong.

Anyone who relates to this too hard, I'd recommend looking up spoon theory and starting to make a record of how you feel and your experiences that you can bring up with some kind of health professional. Chances are if doing laundry feels like climbing everest, it's because you're disabled in some way. Whether that disability is some invisible chronic illness or depression or ADHD or burnout, *something* is wrong.

Almost all disabilities have some form of treatment or accommodation that can make your life easier. If you can get a diagnosis, you might also be eligible for official accommodations and benefits. Social security sucks ass and is almost impossible to access but like, it's not the only thing out there set up to help disabled folks and usually local organizations are gonna be better anyway.

Plenty of people reblogging this probably already know they're disabled in some way but if even 1 person sees this and can learn something important about themselves then it's worth saying.

TLDR: people who aren't disabled don't find acts of daily living extremely hard. Maybe look into that and see if you can get help making your life less hard.

Sincerely, a multiply disabled person.

[kiricat]

This is super important okay. Like, I used to try to ask my conservative family/church/etc. for help, and they’d just be all, “suck it up; life is hard for everyone; quit being such a baby”... and then I went to, like, actual experts, and they were basically like, “um, wow, you’re clearly super depressed and suicidal; you should actually be proud of yourself for still being alive!” And I’m still trying to unlearn the former and accept the latter, even after all this time. And I’m so mad that I’ve wasted so much time just trying to “push through it” instead of getting help I clearly need(ed), and that’s still a thing I struggle with.

Please, please seek real help if you need it. Like, I understand that there are shitty doctors and shitty therapists and whatnot, but it’s so worth expending what effort you can to find good ones who can help. If you have mentally ill friends -- which, if you’re reading this in the first place, you almost certainly do -- they might be able to point you in the right direction.

[impernaway]

[Image description: A screenshot taken from subreddit r/TooAfraidToAsk that reads "how do people just do stuff? is life not incredibly hard for everyone?". end ID]

[headspace-hotel]

I've seen this so many times and every time I've thought "this person has an undiagnosed disability"

[bishonen]

youre not yaoiful at all

[typiing-deactivated20240430]

half of adulting is basically you trying not to cry

[frankensteins-revival]

The other half is crying

[moth-grrrl-mavis]

Transfems read this thread

[kaijutegu]

Biological anthropologist here: TERFs are dead wrong about estrogen/testosterone not changing the skeleton. They do so much to the skeleton we had to completely reassess one of the ways we estimate the biological sex of skeletons.

So, before the advent of cross-sex hormone therapy, one of the surefire ways to ID a biologically female skeleton of a person who had borne children (this is important) was by looking for pits of parturition. These form when the estrogen surge during late pregnancy tells your pelvic ligaments to loosen up in order to fit the baby’s massive head through the birth canal. Your pelvis starts to s There’s hypothetically only one normally occurring biological reason for a body to give that signal, and since you have to be nominally XX (or some variant of that where you can still carry a pregnancy to term), it was a pretty solid shorthand for sex!

Until we started looking for these things outside of female skeletons, and surprise! “Male” skeletons can have them too! Sometimes these are chromosomal variants, sometimes they’re men with a high estrogen or estrogen-esque hormonal component, and in the modern era? Sometimes these are trans women whose skeletons have undergone hormonal changes due to taking estrogen.

And then there’s testosterone. You know what that does, right. It makes it easier to build muscle. But what THAT does is put new and interesting stresses and pressures on the bones, making them more rugged and in line with the skeletal structure we see in people who have had high testosterone their entire lives. We don’t just see this in trans men- we see this in older cis women too. Once your estrogen production tanks after menopause, we see what we call masculinization of the face, where the features get more rugged and robust as tissue production changes. These changes don’t happen overnight, and we don’t have good data (yet) but my guess is that when we start looking at the skeletal remains of trans men who took T throughout their adult lives, their skulls are gonna look pretty damn masculine.

Now, hormone therapy isn’t going to change every aspect of your skeleton. Estrogen in particular doesn’t do too much to the cranial bones. Your skeletal height and limb length are unlikely to change. Things like the size and shape of the pelvic inlet, the sciatic notch, and other features that are used in sex estimation, are also unlikely to change. Professional anthropological sex estimation is a complex calculus where you look at many, many features of the skeleton to make the best possible estimation of what sex the person was. It has nothing to do with gender or gender presentation. It simply tells us the end result of your hormonal composition during life. So long as you’re taking hormones regularly for a while and giving your body a chance to change and grow, your skeleton WILL undergo changes based on your hormone levels.

[deadcatwithaflamethrower]

Reblogging for my girl and for everyone:  @drachetirava​

[hymnsofheresy]

i don’t think most cis people realize that we already live in a society that on some level believes there is more than two genders.

[hymnsofheresy]

My gay male best friend has been told by cis people that “he isn’t a real man” but exists outside the category “man” on the basis of his gayness. Keep in mind he is cis, always been a male, but as soon as he came out, his “male-ness” was scrutinized. Socially conservative society looks at my friend and categorizes him outside of the “male” category… despite the fact that my friend is just performing another type of masculinity.

I myself have been called “not a real woman” because of my androgyny, both biological and performative. I have been “accused” of being a trans woman. To many cis people around me I exist outside of the term “woman” because of my gendered appearance.

[tikkunolamorgtfo]

from @warriormythwonder in the notes: “Theyre like “being slightly feminine means you’re not a real man. No not like that. You’re still ‘he’ except when I’m trying to insult you. Please conform.”

[crucifiix]

*pretends to work*

[bemusedlybespectacled]

okay I know the popular conception of stede and lucius' relationship is a father/son thing but like, okay, I get it, and I'm here for it, but I also don't get that vibe at all.

like, I don't think lucius admires/looks up to stede in a parental way. he likes stede, he's supportive of stede, but personally I wouldn't call my dad a bizarre little man or ask him how his breakup is going. like, that's way too informal. that's more a relationship of equals than anything else.

nope. I think their relationship is actually elder gay/baby gay (in the sense of experience rather than chronological age). lucius has been out for years, he has a lot of experience in relationships, he is way more able to read relationships (e.g. knowing that ed and stede are flirting before they even realize they're flirting), and because of that he is extremely well equipped to give advice about navigating queerness.

stede, on the other hand, has just barely started to dip his toes in the gay pool. like regardless if you go with the theory that stede didn't even realize he was gay until he met ed or that he knew for years but couldn't acknowledge it openly until he met ed, stede has zero practical experience. he is, in his forties, experiencing a bunch of "firsts" that lucius probably did in his teens or early twenties. the entire emotional landscape is foreign to him (and I was going to make a joke about how pirating is also foreign to him but then I started thinking about how piracy in this show is a metaphor for queerness and that's a whole second essay)

basically I think lucius spent the first however-many weeks on board the revenge being like "oh my god this guy is a naive idiot but at least he's paying me," and then he heard nigel badminton joking about how he used to bully stede in school and his gaydar went off like mad, and at that moment his attitude changed to "someone needs to protect this naive gay idiot and that person is me" and that's where it is for the rest of the season.

[izzy-hands]

Lucius Spriggs being Iconic™