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Lately, I feel a combination of both inspired and fatigued. How could this be? Well, I think I'm in a transition period. Over the course of the last year, I've had the privilege of making a couple of new connections, but I also grew distant and even estranged from people I had assumed would always be in my life. It's such a sobering feeling. I'm not pleased with my career direction, the quality of relationships, and how I spend my time in general. Parts of me wake up in a dissociative fugue thinking, "Is this really my life?" A recent birthday has really made me reflect on where I am and the stagnancy I've felt the last 3 years or so.

But unfulfillment is also a necessary emotion and something we need to light the fire under our seats to motivate movement in the direction of what needs our focus. We can't continue avoiding or suppressing the feeling with cheap dopamine when so much growth happens through discomfort.

So today I decided something: I am really going to evaluate which areas of my life feel incomplete or unresolved and start tying up these loose ends. Changing jobs, exploring new social opportunities, and backing away from some relationships make me feel increasingly drained or unsettled.

Because you don't get a special award for putting yourself through misery. Hard work and sacrifice only make sense if you're truly invested in the outcome of that decision. Maybe you're not motivated because the level of investment does not match the return. Just food for thought.

mooonjellies

Spacer Conrad

fotobilog

rejection therapy part 1

so today I did a scary thing thing.

I put myself out there and met someone new. I couldn't tell you if this was a date or a platonic meetup, or not. It was vague because we had met off a language exchange application. I was actually hesistant to meet up with this person because I'm not super interested in establishing friendships with men at this point. It's just messy and not clear most of the time - and I really need to heal my rejection wound with women, in particular. Still, I'm glad I met up with this person. He seems kind and like someone I would get along with. I didn't feel a particularly huge attraction to him and I think that was mutural. Still, I'm practicing radical acceptance in this New Year. I cannot force any connections that do not feel authentic anymore. Either you choose me, or you don't (and I have to remember that I'm also choosing to include others in my life as well. Is this person worth being friends with ME? or dating ME?) - that's the reframe that's needed here.

florial

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breadandflowers

Honestly the best piece of advice I can give to younger girls trying to figure life out is to completely ignore men. I’m not being quirky or cute when I say that, I mean it seriously. Ignore men’s judgments of you, ignore their insincere compliments, ignore their half-assed romance. Focus on developing yourself. Practice your art, play sports, do theater, volunteer, spend time with your friends, but do not put substantial effort into pleasing men. They’ll be there for you to pursue when the time comes and if you want to. But nothing will waste your youth more than fighting for male acceptance.

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onlinecounsellingcollege

“People need to be encouraged. People need to be reminded of how wonderful they are. People need to be believed in - told that they are brave and smart and capable of accomplishing all the dreams they dream, and more. Remind each other of this.”

— Stacey Jean Speer

#but you always cannot lie to a person #you were not wonderful or brave

Dear Younger Me

There comes a point where you must forgive yourself for not having the information you now possess. So often, we beat ourselves up for not anticipating the outcome of a difficult relationship, or we berate ourselves for lapses in judgment that led to unfortunate events. But when you lean into regret, you are shaming a younger, more vulnerable version of yourself, a version that was simply trying to figure out life the way you are now.

Your future self sometimes sits on a pedestal, casting judgment on the past: “How could you not have seen the signs? Why were you so gullible?” But that past version of you is still you - just lacking the foresight and understanding that only time could provide.

Can we show that part of ourselves the same compassion we show a young child who doesn’t yet know how to care for themselves? Naivety is not a sin, and mistakes are not crimes. Wrap that younger self in a blanket of compassion. Offer gratitude for this vulnerable version of you for navigating storms without a compass, for doing the best you could with the knowledge you had.

There is no need to despair. I am here now to care for you, to guide you with steadier direction, and to honor the courage it took to keep moving forward.

With love and understanding, Your Future Self

#self compassion #inner child #healing #growth #regret