Heās forced himself in this persona of the nicest guy ever because he grew up in a household where at the age of like. 8. He was forced into a situation where he HAD to be an adult and he HAD to be a care taker.
He needed to be likeable enough to be hired and then to keep his jobs and then likeable enough so MAYBE he could satisfy his mother.
Maybe if he masked any negative trait behind mother henning, he is worthy of love.
This need to āearnā love shaped who he was for the entire rest of his life for the most part. And no matter how hard he tried with this persona it only created more and more distance between him and those around him.
(Obligatory note that i donāt think this was some nefarious attempt to manipulate everyone or that heās evil or whatever the fuck. People please (and the Fawn response) are trauma and fear responses. Two things can be true that he is manipulative and that his manipulative streak when it comes to getting people to like him, isnāt out of any malice.)
Heād essentially isolated himself behind this empty ānice oneā persona. The irony in that is when he drops it in season 4-5 people wanted to be around him more.
ON TOP OD ALL THAT! As said literally by himself, he has really awful self esteem to the point you can totally make an argument that Jon hating him was (at least partially) why Martin fell so hard so fast.
Itās pattern repeating.
Person hates/doesnt care for Martin -> Martinās instinct is to fawn -> Martin goes out of his way in attempt to earn their approval
Mind, this isnāt Jon hate i think his actual reason to be wary of Martin is fair, even if he went overboard on it.
As usual i have no conclusion except holy shit he needs therapy andi should sleep soon
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