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hello I am at my wits end and I need to know something. Do you talk to your mother every day?

Yes

Remaining time: 12 hours 55 minutes

No nuance. If you don’t have a mother/are no contact etc this is not a poll for you.

You can elaborate as to how often you feel is a regular amount of communication between an adult child and their mother.

#flat out I talk to her less than every two weeks #she tried to do every two weeks but I cancel on her pretty regularly #if I could get away with less than once a month I would

mysterypuppys

U literally cannot save your mother like it cant be done

#literally the hardest thing I ever realized was that I can't save her!#and trying to save her was killing me #and I've long since given up #but I genuinely view her as a tragic figure #if only just because she managed to get everything she ever wanted #but she also ruined it because she couldn't live it #she was too caught up in her past and herself #quotes #anyway my relationship with my parents is in stasis and I expect it to be they way until they die #they're unwilling to change #and I'm unwilling to work on a relationship with people who won't change

rebelpeas

fandom will talk about a man being every flavor of closeted queer before they talk about his canon misogyny

rebelpeas

this is another post about how unprepared i was for the magnitude of dean winchester’s sexist gross womanizer remarks. like what do you mean he hits on high schoolers and more than once

#rebelpeas I need you to know it is in fact WORSE than hitting in high schoolers #he once slut shamed a dead woman in front of her family #like #bruh #like “this wouldn't have happened if she wasn't wearing that” type of shit #and yet somehow him baking a cake once (1) makes him feminine and nurturing and queer #like those have any fucking relation to each other #I'm so mad about how the spn fandom treats dean bc he is genuinely once of the most disgustingly and openly homophobic and misogynistic #characters and he is BELOVED #flat out abuser and groomer behavior #is this your queer icon? this who you love?#proof to show that if you put a mid white man on TV and make him cry a little #people will be tripping over themselves to excuse his behavior #I'm mad now #also like I will never accept the idea that fannish behavior has no implications on wider cultural attitudes #it's right there #Dean Winchester is the perfect encapsulation of how white men are coddled and idolized

playwrongs

I think strange horrible things should stop befalling my friends

catastrophespouse

I think strange wonderful things should start befalling my friends

#at the news I got last night #I fucking hope the situation turns around #and that's all I can do

hummingbird-hunter

Spin this wheel. The result you get is a prediction you receive that will happen to you tomorrow.

How fucked are you?

Incredibly dead

This is pretty bad, but not life ending

Not good, but not terrible

Nothing changes in my life

This actually slightly improves my life

This is everything I've ever wanted

Can't spin/can't read/bald/nuance

Voting ended onJul 25

#so I did “remove all instances” of the pig pen prediction and the singular option left was “you get a cake :)”#so that HUGE wheel except for one instance is entirely “you get torn apart by pigs”#fantastic #raughs

yesornopolls

do you have any friends that are 4x your age or more?

Do you have any friends that are 4x your age or more?

Yes

Voting ended onJul 21

#I have friends more than twice my age but even 3x starts to get up past typical life expectancy and 4x is flat out impossible #is this question aimed at like .... teens?#that's the #only demographic that makes sense #polls

miggylol

Spin the wheel. That's who's trying to kill you.

Spin the wheel again. That’s who’s trying to protect you.

(If you have zero idea about a name you got, spin until you see someone you recognize.)

Are you safe?

Absolutely not. I'm dead. 100% dead.

I might stay alive, but it'll be a really close thing.

I'll take some hits, for certain, but I should be okay in the end.

A few attacks might get through, but nothing concerning.

The attacker might be able to get in one lucky hit. If that.

I am the opposite of worried. I'm 100% safe.

…Look. I've tried picturing this. But I honestly don't know how to answer.

Voting ended onJul 14

(I've run this poll twice before, expanding it significantly for the second run. With about a year passed since that second run, I thought it was time to add another couple hundred names to the list and have another go.)

thebandersnatchoftheshire

Edward elric vs the riddler

#scarlett from clue vs t'challa the black panther..........yeah I'm fine

podcastwizard

LIKES TO CHARGE REBLOGS TO CAST

the-goddess-of-annoying

you people aren't CASTING

the-goddess-of-annoying

#fine

sweet4ngell

#I'm manifesting #PLEASE

kiisaes

everyone eat more vegetables NOW!!! and mention the last vegetable you ate in the tags so we're all on the buddy system. I'll start: bok choy

#my was probably also bok choy unless beans count?? I had pinto beans #but also I would like to shout out the humble CABBAGE!!!#the beautiful cruciferous vegetable that bulks out so many of my stir frys yum yum yum

whump-polls

spin the whump trope wheel

opinion on the trope you got?

love it, a favorite

like it

neutral, depends

not really my thing

hate it

nuance

results

Voting ended onJun 1

#GIVEN THE FANDOM IM IN AND MY FAV CHARA RN IT FITS PERFECTLY #but typically it isn't something I'm particularly drawn in by #so I'm gonna cut down the middle and say I like it #but yeah natural disaster+ blorbo with a debilitating phobia of earthquakes?? yessssssssssssssss #u know who it is btw

spin-the-wheel-polls

you have this superpower! BUT you have this side-effect

is it worth it?

yes!!

the side effect is bad but ITS WORTH IT

meh it's okay

the side effect makes it unusable/not worth it

Results/option I didn't think of

Voting ended onMay 20

#talk to animals once a month? hell yeah I see no downside #I don't like talking much in general so this is perfect

renthony

I was 12 when the first of my siblings was born, so I have very vivid memories of the way my mother was excluded from a lot of spaces because people find children annoying.

If you think "children should not be allowed in this space," you HAVE TO reckon with the fact that you are now excluding parents (and very often women specifically) who don't have access to childcare. You are isolating people who are poor, or rural, or single parents, or any number of other factors that might prevent someone from having on-demand childcare. You are cutting them off from being able to exist in public. You are denying parents and children the ability to fully participate in society.

My mom spent several years only leaving the house to buy groceries or take me to school, and even then, people would still come up to her to complain TO HER FACE about how she shouldn't bring a crying toddler to Walmart. Entitled strangers would literally try and demand that my mom leave and come back without the kids.

"Why can't your husband watch them?" Because he was at work, usually working extreme amounts of overtime so we didn't get evicted, because landlords don't like it when you stop paying rent.

"Why can't you send them to daycare?" Because that costs money.

"Why can't your teenager stay home with them and babysit?" Because I also deserved to be able to leave the house for something other than school, and taking me to the grocery store was how my mom taught me to manage a household budget, shop sales, and meal plan.

"Don't bring your kid in public if you can't CONTROL them and make them stop crying!" Kids cry when they're upset, and being dragged around a store is upsetting! Don't be an asshole! Children are human beings who are still learning how the world works, and they don't have a lot of agency. You'd cry, too.

"Spank them until they learn to stop crying!" That's just straight-up child abuse, Jesus Christ.

What the fuck was our family supposed to do? Never go to the grocery store? Starve because strangers couldn't handle a toddler existing in public?

renthony

I am incredibly fucking disturbed at the way this post has brought people out of the woodwork who really want to tell me all about how hitting kids isn't actually abuse, how they think babies are the spawn of Satan, and how being confined to the home is an acceptable punishment for women who dare to have children. People have told me all about how they think children should be banned from airplanes, that I'm being inconsiderate to childfree people, that allowing crying babies in public is ableist against people with sensory issues (I have those, too, and so do many children, which is often WHY THEY ARE CRYING, jackass), and that people who have children are "irresponsible" and "selfish."

I have blocked multiple people who went on tirades about how I'm a "horrible breeder" who is "contributing to overpopulation" and how I and my "spawn" deserve to be trapped at home. (I am infertile and my foster kid is an adult now, so I don't know what breeding and spawn they think they're talking about.)

One person asked if I was posting ragebait for fun because "this isn't a real issue." Several have asked if this "really happens" and told me that my "experience isn't universal." (There are multiple parents in the comments who have agreed with me and talked about how hard it is to navigate the world with their kids.)

Children are an oppressed class who are treated like absolute vermin. Parents are given absolutely no support in caring for them. Good parents are set at a disadvantage even when they have all the best intentions, struggling parents aren't given resources to improve their situation or get community assistance, and blatantly abusive parents don't get caught because hitting and screaming and controlling are considered perfectly normal ways to treat a child. Communities would rather shut kids away where they can be ignored and forgotten and mistreated, all for the sin of "being annoying in public."

Youth liberation is vital, regardless of whether you, personally, like kids. You cannot ban children from public. You cannot shut children away in isolation and expect them to grow into happy, healthy, well-adjusted adults who can function in our society. You do not get to demand children be removed from every corner of public life all for your personal comfort.

Children are people.