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[leighlew3]

ALL. OF. THIS.

[mrs-goemio]

The selfship community lost a good one today. Thank you @deathdetermineslife for everything you’ve done for us. You were going through so much but you still took the time to be kind and supportive to everyone in this community. You won’t be forgotten anytime soon and especially not by me. Take care of yourself wherever you may be now. :’)🩷

[flowerhound]

In light of a tragedy in the selfship community today

Please, if you are struggling, if you are hurting, reach out to someone. You can reach out to me even, anytime.

Nobody should be lost to their pain in this way, I care about all of you, please be safe

[mrs-goemio]

Actually I made one more because the community needs it rn 🫶🏻💞

[tittytron]

tumblr friendships are hard to maintain like im sorry i know i havent talked to you in 5 months but you’re still super rad and i still consider us friends im just dumb

[ironbound-oberon]

#if you’re wondering if this is for you #it’s probably for you

[lifeisaroughjourney]

If I have ever messaged you or messaged me and never heard from me again, I still consider us friends. I just suck

[antisocial-astronaut]

To everybody I’ve done this to I’m VERY sorry

[thatweirdwalangpake]

Me sending vibes to my tumblr friends instead of talking to them:

[mx-brahms]

/!\ BROADCAST TO ALL MY MUTUALS /!\

[oldiestheserver]

Hey gang what’s up my name is Ste and I HAVE FINALLY RETURNED TO SELF SHIP TBLR! Please read THIS!!!!!! Before interacting with me.

Shares are really appreciated, thank you I love u have a day. (And sorry for the long wait x)

[shez-a-dove-deactivated20161204]

i hope im a positive influence on somebody’s life

[carro179]

fuck it. starting a reblog game

reblog this if prev has been a positive influence in your life

[mangoshiploops]

Sorry to bother, is To My S/I still a thing? Or ANY selfship events? I’m trying really hard to find shippers in my fandoms and am having such poor luck!! :((

Hi there, anon!! It's so rare to see people mention To My S/I nowadays, so this made me smile!! Thank you for sending this ask!! :D

Unfortunately, I stopped hosting To My S/I a few years back due to my chronic illness deterioating, thus I got very inactive in the self shipping community and on Tumblr in general. I know there are some self ship events here and there, like for example F/Ovember created by @cherry-bomb-ships! There also used to be weekend events called F/O Takeover where people would RP as their own F/Os and people could send asks to eachother as some sort of AMA about their self ships! However the original host, myrainydayloves, seems to have left the community a few years back.

That being said, that doesn't mean those events can't be revived!! A couple of years back I said that if anyone wanted to start hosting their own To My S/I event, they have my full permission to do so!! The reason I started making To My S/I a thing is simply because I didn't see an event like that before and I knew that a lot of happiness and joy could be shared and could bring people together!! The self shipping community has become a lot more secluded and anxious in the recent years because of multiple reasons, and it's such a shame because this community is all about our shared love for fictional characters and storytelling!! And seeing how many people wish it was more open and welcoming again, I say be the change you wanna see in the community!! Start treating others how you want to be treated!! Change can happen, but it has to start somewhere, y'know?

Other than that, there are some Discord servers dedicated to self shippers in a specific fandom being promoted here and there, but I can't point to anything specific atm, sorry :(( Best of luck, anon!!

[sexboobomb]

Reblog to give prev a fucking break holy shit y’all

[cherry-bomb-ships]

Self shippers.

We need to relearn the balance between not wanting to share your f/o and accepting that there will be other people out there who also ship with your f/o. I've been around a long time and I'm seeing people slipping back into this mindset of hating "doubles" (tbh I don't even like the use of that word for people who share an f/o) and not only that, but getting upset at others who may support that ship as well. You may not want to hear this, but it is selfish to expect a friend to cut ties with one of their other friends only because that other friend of theirs has the same f/o as you. Self ship "doubles" are not out to take away your f/o or be more popular than you, they just want to enjoy themselves as much as you do.

Block and move on, put tags and urls on your filtered content, write out your angry thoughts in a word doc or to a close friend. But please try to be a bit kinder. This is a community based on love. Remember that.

[midgelslovebug]

I want to add to my partner's beautifully-worded post: destroy the mindset that love is a FINITE resource. In the same way that you have love for many people, characters, friends and THEIR ships others will have for you!

Someone else's gain is not your loss, and you can exist in your friends' hearts at the same time as others and if the idea of that causes you such distress then it's a good idea to try talking about it with them or a professional. As someone who USED to very upset by seeing other ships with their f/o, you'll be a lot happier when you can look at them and say 'good for them' and move on.

[sesamie-moving]

the dash is in tatters. please say something nice to the person you reblog this from. it's so sad to see you all so sad

[mangoshiploops]

I know I'm still struggling to stay active here, but I promise you guys I'm not dead!! I'm still vibing with f/os and all!!

Also off-topic it's my birthday today, wahoo!! :D

[fictionalcharacterlovetimes]

imagine your f/o celebrating your birthday with you! they're more than happy to do something special for you if you want them to! or, if you'd rather keep it lowkey, they're also happy to do that.

[yumepuppy]

Selfshippers! Are you in a relationship with a non fictional person?

Monogamous single

Polyamorous singe

Monogamous partnered

Polyamorous partnered

Aro/Ace spectrum

Otherwise not applicable

Nuance

Voting ended onOct 10, 2024

Okay redid this poll a little to be clearer about what I was asking

[sesamie-moving]

ok. because my whole like mutual group is all different interests rn. reblog and tag what interest/fandom/media you associate with prev that you've never been into, but know some about because of them

[zarithial]

thinking about the people who vanished without a trace. The mutual who reblogged something as usual and never came back online. The friend on discord who just disappeared, and when you go to check on them their account is deleted and theres no other way to contact them

I look out of my window and hope you are okay, I wish you well and Im sorry I didn't get to say goodbye.

I hope we meet again someday but until then. Stay safe. Stay alive. Be well.

[disorganizedreligionofmyhead]

If anyone out there wonders if their old friends miss them despite the fact they vanished without saying goodbye, look at the tags on this post.

People care. They wonder. They pine.

The tags are full of messages in bottles, thrown into the internet sea in the hopes their intended recipient might find them.

Look to see if there is a message in a bottle here addressed to you.

[shippin-in-the-rain]

Happy Juneteenth!

As your resident black self shipper, here's some stuff to remember this day:

Stop using simp as a description for yourself and you faves.

Stop fetishizing your black and brown faves (stop making them hypersexual and objectified and angry all the time.)

Either write more black and brown traits into your reader inserts OR stop writing EXCLUSIVELY white traits onto your reader inserts (Or do both. Both is good.)

Artists! Erasing your faves black traits (Shrinking their nose, straightening their hair, lightening their skin) is racist !

And most importantly: Support your local black and brown self shippers.

ALL of your black and brown self shippers in the community! Wlw, mlm, t4t, disabled, and so much more!

But that's all from me! Have a great day!

[White people can reblog but don't comment. Freaks will be blocked and survivors will be shot.]