everybody stop talking about adoption as this straightforward, easy "solution" to infertility or surrogacy as if you're reading outloud from an adoption agency pr pamphlet in general pls. it's not easy at all, you can definitively not "just" adopt a child, and it takes a special kind of person to be able to handle all the added complications and needs & wants that come with an adopted child.
the idea that it's easy and that adoption means biological mothers/parents are 100% irrelevant, and that children come with no history, or that every adopted child will just seamlessly blend into their adopted family and it'll be just like if you had a biological child is wrong. (by biological child i mean yourself or your partner being pregnant, surrogacy is adoption, the biological mother is the woman who was pregnant idc about dna). there is lots of violence and exploitation in the world of adoption and even the very best cases are often difficult bc seperation is traumatic for children.
sometimes we just have to accept that things a difficult and especially in the field of reproduction no feminist should ever uncritically talk about "solutions" as if it's a technical or economic issue to be solved. that mindset fuels exploitation of women and children, we have to accept that when it comes to pregnancy and having children somtimes things just dont go the way people would like to and you have to accept that, not 'solve' it trough new ways of commodifiying pregancy and human babies
