Pronouns are so so so easy to respect actually. Like if you've known someone as one thing their whole life and now it's a change fine, but for the love of all that is good put some effort in. And if you knew them as their preferred pronouns/name initially and changed how you referred to them when you found out they're trans, shame on you. Its not difficult to have basic respect for people guys it's really so easy to just be a decent human being. It isn't even going the extra mile or anything it's literally just being not an asshole.
This pride month educate yourself on the struggles of those who need our aid most. Be transfeminist. Love your transgender sisters genuinely more than you performatively hate their oppressors.
more people could identify as asexual/aromantic if they not only knew what that label is but also knew about how wide the spectrum could be. because not every ace/aro person feels the same way and even people who DO have a general idea on what it means, could still be like "yeah no i cant be possibly ace/aro because i feel/do this and that"
Asexuality and Aromantisism aren't monoliths! There are so many labels (if that's your thing) that narrow down like specific traits and I personally love how diverse and vibrant our communities are!
I'm going to use my own labels as an example because thats what I know best and can explain in detail let's go:
So asexuality isn't just not liking or being repulsed by sex. I am an asexual person and I have had sex and done sexual things with a past partner. I identify with a label called Cupiosexuality because, while I don't experience sexual attraction and I wouldn't seek out sexual activities for my own enjoyment, I'm not opposed to participating in those activities with someone I have a deep love for. (Also, a side note because this is a point that needs to be made but I can still find people hot/attractive. I'm Cupiosexual not blind just because I think someone is hot does not immediately mean I want to bang them on the kitchen counter). Another term I would use for this is sex indifferent, and there are many terms like this in the asexual community, such as sex favourable and sex repulsed. It's like eating a meal because your loved one cooked it - you wouldn't pick it for yourself at a restaurant, but it makes your partner happy and it doesn't taste bad. You're there for the closeness with the other person rather than the experience yourself. And that's just a section of the spectrum - some asexual people are completely sex repulsed and would not have sex ever, whereas others would seek it out and even feel varying degrees of sexual attraction to other people. Asexuality does not mean you find your partner disgusting or unattractive, and thats a common stigma that often prevents asexual people from dating. It's not a lack of love, it's just a different way of experiencing relationships.
As for aromantisism, I personally use the label of demiromantic because I tend to only develop romantic feelings for someone when I've formed enough of a connection with them. This means that I'm less likely to say go on a blind date or something spontaneous and would prefer to get to know someone for a few weeks, eventually developing romantic feelings if I feel properly connected. However, much like asexuality, this isn't the only way you can experience aromantisism- some people are completely romance repulsed and would never engage in a romantic relationship, some people don't feel traditional romantic attraction and still get into relationships and some people are just indifferent. Aromantic people don't have to date. We can, and sometimes we do, but not everyone wants to, and thats alright too. The point I'm trying to make here is that everyone experiences these things differently, and just because you know one asexual who is sex repulsed or one aromantic who is in a romantic relationship doesn't mean everyone in that community will act the same way.
Im also a lesbian but that's unrelated (I want a gf to go on cute summer dates with and eat strawberries with don't even the breakup is taking it out of me)
OH YEAH GOOD POINT ACTUALLY you can be asexual/aromantic and fall under other orientations too! For example, I would describe myself as an Asexual Lesbian (I'm less out and proud about being demiromantic, mostly because people don't understand it and would therefore assume that I don't want a romantic relationship when that's not the case at all).
Happy Pride Month!! I hope this has helped you learn a little more about these communities, because they are both very dear to my heart and they are often misunderstood and misrepresented, ESPECIALLY on the Internet by what I have not so affectionately dubbed 'the gay police'. Just because your label doesn't fit one mold doesn't mean you're an outsider in our community. Please be unique, please use as many niche microlabels as you want, and please share them with me because I love learning new things about our community! Bye bye for now xx
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