sorry for bpd posting

mouse/eden/angel | they/it | plural | mousebites2live.straw.page/

[mausenkonig]

you are going to wake up the next morning still alive

[sigmaleph]

people hate it when you say things like 'this policy that was mostly meant to hurt [marginalised group] also sometimes hurts [other, less marginalised group]" which is fair bc it can definitely come across as 'who cares if those subhumans get hurt, the problem is when it happens to real people'. but unfortunately a fact about being a marginalised group is that it makes it much cheaper politically to hurt you.

immigration officers arresting citizens is not worse than immigration officers arresting noncitizens, but turns out weirdly enough 'citizens' is a category with a lot more political power than 'noncitizens' and so it's strategically useful to get them opposed to immigration enforcement. so that might affect which things you talk about how much.

[bisexualbaker]

This! I call these "curbcutter arguments", after the curbcutter effect, where it was observed that an improvement made for wheelchair users had knock-on positive effects for other people.

Should "This marginalized group is being hurt by [thing], so we should stop doing [thing]" be enough of an argument? Sure! But for a lot of people, it's not. And until we get to a point where it is, I'm going to keep using curbcutter arguments when I need to, because sometimes that's what it takes to get the problem fixed. And fixing the problem is the important part.

[queeranarchism]

These are useful when you want someone's one-time participation in a political effort to get result, or as a gateway to get people active.

To get people to stay active, they do need to learn that actually things are still bad when they only hurt the marginalized group. People who don't internalize that make terrible allies that could betray the marginalized group at any moment.

Luckily, the result of getting into activism is often that your perspective broadens in exactly this way because when ''the marginalized group" becomes "my buddies who always help with the protest" or "that medic that was there for me when I as hurt", caring about the marginalized group becomes a lot more instinctive.

[dragon-in-a-fez]

"you don't know what you have until you lose it" works for things that suck too btw. sometimes you need to experience life without something for a while to realise oh damn that was some bullshit

[decompose1]

ohhhh shit. target is recalling their up & up baby wipes (fragrance free & fresh cucumber scented) because they're contaminated with Burkholderia cepacia complex and Burkholderia gladioli, multiple people are reporting discoloration & infections. i just got a call about it cuz i had purchased those but i've already gone through them 😅 so no refund for me. but im fine. if you have these they're saying you need to immediately stop using them and bring them back to target for a full refund. this bacteria can cause life threatening infections in children/infants and people with compromises immune systems (ESPECIALLY cystic fibrosis!!) and i know lots of other chronically ill people follow me!!!!

[decompose1]

Hold on i should've been more specific.

First: THIS RECALL IS NOT STATE SPECIFIC. IT IS NATIONWIDE.

here are the specific products and dates:

FDA page on this:

Target Recalls Up & Up Fragrance Free and Fresh Cucumber Scented Baby Wipes Due to Potential Microbial Contamination

Target is voluntarily recalling Up & Up Fragrance Free and Up & Up Fresh Cucumber Scented Baby Wipes following customer complaints of produc

[dr-otter]

If you use baby wipes go check them NOW. A lot of Burkholderia bugs are antibiotic resistant so infections can be really difficult to treat.

[battle-for-dyke-island]

you can be loveless. You can literally be loveless. It’s allowed. You aren’t, like, evil or anything. You are in fact awesome. Please accept yourself and be compassionate to yourself if you are loveless. It is not something wrong with you.

[bovid-beauty]

"Fascism"—New Federal Rule Would Require Federal Funding Recipients To Deny Trans People Exist

The rule could have heavy impacts towards trans people across society.

Last week, the Trump administration quietly released a sweeping new federal rule that would use funding threats to force institutions across the country to reject transgender people. The 400-page proposed regulation would codify the administration's anti-trans executive orders into binding federal policy, imposing a blanket prohibition on federal funds going toward "gender ideology"

The proposed rule, formally titled "Regulation for Federal Financial Assistance," rewrites the government-wide framework governing all federal grants across every agency. Among its most consequential provisions, it requires that before a federal grant recipient can receive money, the award must pass a "pre-issuance review" conducted by a political appointee—not a career expert or peer reviewer—to ensure it is "consistent with applicable law, Federal agency priorities, and the national interest." The regulation explicitly instructs these appointees to screen for "denial by the recipient of the sex binary in humans or the notion that sex is a chosen or mutable characteristic." [...] An institution that acknowledges transgender people exist—through its policies, its training, its healthcare, its bathroom access, its HR procedures, its name-change processes—could be deemed to "deny the sex binary" or to “support the notion that sex is mutable” and have its federal funding blocked.

Importantly, the gender ideology prohibition has no age limitation—hospitals could be targeted not just for providing care to minors but for providing gender-affirming care to adults, because prescribing hormone therapy to a transgender patient of any age could be deemed promoting the belief that "sex is a chosen or mutable characteristic."

[junequeer]

THIS IS OPEN TO COMMENT UNTIL JULY 13, 2026

[featherandstorm]

This is all very bad and horrible, but I want to be clear that it’s worse and more sweeping than just eliminating trans research.

This torches everything. And I do mean everything.

A very abbreviated list of its ramifications include (but are not limited to):

ending funding for ALL DEI related initiatives

allowing the government to terminate grants at any point for any reason

preventing researchers from publishing, going to conferences, and being part of academic societies

requiring that topics must support the president’s agenda.

What this means, and if anything I’m under selling it, is the death of science and research in America. It allows the government to restrict any topic they please at a whims notice, putting officials who have no background in the topic in charge of deciding funding continuity. It controls what gets researched and if/how researchers are allowed to share their discoveries. There are no books to burn if the government never allows them to be written. This is fascism plain and simple.

Please, if you only ever write one public comment, this is the one to do.

[genderkoolaid]

Bringing back this guide to writing an effective public comment. This gives you the basics you need to know, what you need to include, a basic outline you can follow, etc.

Public comments are not a vote, it is a chance for you to say "here is an issue with this law I think you need to address" and provide justification for legal challenges if it goes forward:

"Comments raise the bar that agencies have to meet when making a rule; “if an agency fails to adequately respond to significant, relevant comments in a final rule, members of the public may seek to challenge the rule in court on that basis and claim it could be struck down.ˮ"

But also, if possible, don't stop at writing a comment. Don't stop at calling your representatives. You should ideally be talking to people in your community about this and organizing resistance on-the-ground; there is a good chance people are already doing that even if you aren't hearing about it.

[brainscrems]

Also, please keep in mind, this is 100%, without a doubt, wholly unconsitituonal. They will try to enforce it regardless, but that does not make it legal. Do not treat this as law because it is not.

[probuccalfat]

i cannot emphasize enough how important it is that you should ideally give birth in a fully equipped and staffed medical facility or if you insist on giving birth through an alternative method you should be within minutes of a hospital and i mean under 5 minutes if you’d like me to be really fucking frank

[probuccalfat]

like i can get on board with so much feminist theory and stuff, truly, and i do acknowledge that obstetrics and gynaecology as a field holds blind spots that are egregious (e.g. infant and maternal mortality in the black community) but there is no empowerment in risky birthing practices that our foremothers, and i’m not mincing words, often suffered through. birthing is natural, but it is not “easy” or even “innate”, it is best practiced guided and witnessed by those that know what to do in an emergency. you are not reconnecting to any innate feminine nature by practicing dangerous birthing practices—you are recreating a time when the bodies and lives of women barely mattered and it was expected that death would/could occur at insane and tragic rates.

[probuccalfat]

this is a hill i will spend the rest of my days fighting on because while i am not interested in birthing children myself, i have an incredible passion and interest in the field of labour and delivery. it’s been one of my greatest joys to play even a small part in delivering neonates. i do not want anyone to risk their babies over a deeply, deeply misguided idea of free birth being “the natural way” when natural is not always synonymous with the safest way.

[anarchohellenism]

So many people think it's either midwife or doctor. It's not. Have your midwife or doula in the hospital room with you, I promise the doctors don't give a shit. Hell, you can have her do the delivery itself and just have the doctors there as emergency backup! But for the love of your baby, go to the fucking hospital.

[probuccalfat]

yup. a lot of hospitals are willing to work with you to realize your birthing plan as much as they can within safe limits and parameters. my hospital is closely and highly allied with midwives all up and down the coast, with the explicit instruction to call the midwife when we know a labouring patient is about to deliver so we can respect their plan. genuinely, you can have almost any kind of birth you want—just make sure that there are qualified professionals in attendance, and it’s not just midwives or OBGYNS you need. you have no idea when you’ll need a respiratory therapist on call, you have no idea when you will need a blood transfusion within minutes or risk certain death, L&D nurses do not have the same training as NICU nurses if a baby declines rapidly. it’s a literal thousand things that can go wrong and you should be in the best place for them to go wrong.

[angelandreus]

it is so vile to me that whenever I like a post criticizing transmisogyny tumblr immediately assumes i want to see posts degrading trans men. it’s so transmisogynistic to think that anyone who supports trans women hates trans men. genuinely distressing.

[jewishbarbies]

saw the original tweet the other day and the responses have been great but no one in the comments can seem to grasp what they’re looking at. radfem/TERF ideology and rhetoric is so normalized on a lot of the internet now that you can’t even point out the obvious anymore without a billion buzzwords thrown at you like it somehow changes anything.

“the patriarchy exists so therefore men are inherently thinking bad things about women while having sex” is objectively stupid and claiming women need radfem saviors to free them from the shackles of sex with men is misogyny. full stop. yet we now have people bean souping the fuck out of it like it’s some gray area.

[sighinastorm]

Seems like the specific version of "the patriarchy" some people believe in is like two clicks above the Jewish Freemason NWO conspiracy theory... maybe almost up to Time Cube.

[queer-folk-abroad]

Also, for a movement that claims to be materialist, they sure do worry about thoughts.

Same as their hatred of porn and trans women- dress it up as they may, it’s a disgust reaction at the idea of Womanhood being somehow spiritually degraded by icky manslime.

[fireleaptfromhousetohouse]

"Can you believe that the gross incels think women are attracted to men who despise them? But also, coincidentally"

[necropolistheatre]

just in a very human way, I think we should always balk and re-examine an ideology that is predicated on mind reading. "if you knew what men were thinking-" and you do? I thought you were, famously, not men? What makes radfems so special, so superior to other women, that they have gained the ability to read the minds of all men across the globe?

The truth of that question, is that radical feminism is so dependent on believing the lies and propaganda of western patriarchy, that it cannot exist without it and therefore will never truly examine or deconstruct it.

[politijohn]

Source

This should never have been a thing

[papercook1e]

Whoever wrote this, slayed so hard with all these statements, truer words have never been spoken

[cock-holliday]

yknow i didn't think I had kinship with women because I *do* feel more at home with masculinity. Masculine presentation. Masculine interests. A lot of femininity does not appeal. I couldn't relate to a lot of femininity among queer men, but then I felt even more disconnected from "masc 4 masc" spaces that hated femininity. I didn't hate femininity, and didn't want masculinity to be shoved onto my feminine friends. I saw how it hurt trans women and gay men I knew. It just wasn't me.

Then I met lots of queer people who were isolated from queer spaces for their masculinity. Nonbinary people. Butches. Trans men. Mascs.

Suddenly there were people I didn't think I was similar to expressing both an expression similar to mine and a discomfort at the type of identity being shoved on them that was being shoved on me.

I saw these wandering outlaws. These homeless identities. Like me and not like me but KIN. And it clicked.

I've had types of masculinity shoved onto me. I've had types of femininity shoved on me. I don't hate expression that's not like me, but it makes me feel insane to see cis women gatekeep womanhood until you are feminine enough and then watch trans spaces gatekeep womanhood until you are feminine enough.

I understand exactly why femininity is coveted, desired.

There are parts of it I want for myself, but not all of it. And none of it not on my own terms.

I didn't think I could see myself as a woman at all because I loathed the cage of what is expected of women, and I don't find it affirming to say "no it's okay, we are getting better at fitting inside the cage."

Femininity itself is not a cage, but the requirement that women BE feminine, and a certain type of feminine, IS. And I see that in cis women, in trans folks of a lot of genders, in the implication that the more feminine a gay man gets the closer he is to realizing he's really a woman...

He may. He could also be nonbinary. Or a really feminine man!

I do not want to be a mirror to cis society. I do not want to gauge my "success" on how well I can pretend I'm cis.

I'm not.

Passing is a goal for many. Passing is safety for many more. Passing itself is not a bad thing. But it is a tool, not a moral position.

I do not want to shave off parts of myself to suit other people. I'm genderfluid. I am both. I am neither. I'm something else entirely. And the "woman" parts of me are not contingent on how much I can be mistaken for a 4channer's dream girl. The feminine parts of me are not taken from a tradwife playbook.

I hate that nonconformity is increasingly viewed as a threat to trans safety--you are afraid we will keep you from being able to go stealth in the future. We are not why you are at risk, but sometimes you are why I am at risk.

"Non-men" I'm not cutting off my legs so you don't have to feel short.

"divine, pure, chaste, feminine" the gruff hairy dykes of various cis and trans flavors made me feel more seen that Barbie.

I don't want either of us to be deprived of feeling at home with these shortsighted labels.

I hope the celebration of transgenderism as a process of nonconforming transformation rather than a temporary aberration from cisness survives this fascist onslaught.

[vague-humanoid]

Transgender woman faces two felony charges after drawing a firearm during an altercation.

A Wyoming transgender woman is facing two felony charges after drawing a firearm during an altercation she says began with anti-LGBTQ+ and a

Ríhanna Kelver, a bartender and trans rights advocate in Laramie, has been charged with aggravated assault and possession of a deadly weapon with unlawful intent after a 13 September 2025 confrontation outside the Crowbar & Grill, whereshe worked. Kelver could be sentenced to up to 15 years in prison if convicted on both charges.

Kelver says one man in a group of men across the street from her started shouting homophobic and transphobic insults at her before the man allegedly shoved her to the ground in a downtown crosswalk, as reported by The Laramie Reporter.

[el-shab-hussein]

There's more, as it pertains to Black trans people's right to self-defence:

Despite Wyoming’s “Stand Your Ground” statute, which allows people to use reasonable force in moments of self defense, Kelver faces up to 15 years in prison for both charges, as well as up to $11,000 in fines, per Cowboy State Daily. Kelver faces an additional year and $1,000 fine for a charge of interference with a peace officer. [...]

As pointed out by Slate, self-defense laws are often put into question when people from marginalized communities, especially trans people, use them, including Cece McDonald, a Black trans woman who served time in a men’s prison for defending her friends during a racist and transphobic attack. Ky Peterson, a Black trans man from Georgia, was also arrested and imprisoned for killing his rapist in self-defense.

[victusinveritas]

"Now I've shot so many Nazis, Daddy will have to buy me a sable coat." (From his Wikipedia article).

Neil Munro "Bunny" Roger

June 9, 1911-April 27, 1997.

Bunny Roger killed a bunch of Nazis and then invented Capri pants.

He was expelled from Oxford for his indiscrete gayness (discrete gayness being perfectly fine at Oxford and part of the curriculum until...today probably, at least like 1992?). Then, having been sent down to London, he started his own fashion business, and his first client was Vivien Leigh.

Bunny served in WWII, killing fascists in North Africa and Italy, and often wearing a mauve scarf in the field. Roger claimed that he had gone into a battle brandishing a rolled-up copy of VOGUE and commanding: "When in doubt, powder heavily!"

Roger was known in high society for his themed soirées; Diamond, Amethyst, and Flame Balls were held to celebrate his 60th, 70th, and 80th birthdays. He wore a curious plum colored catsuit with a feathered headdress at his 70th birthday ball in 1981. At his 80th, he made his entrance in a catsuit of scarlet sequins with a cape of orange organza, greeting his guests from behind a wall of fire. His parties were covered by the newspapers, including a New Year's Eve Fetish Ball where the proper upper class mixed with young guests in rubber S/M gear.

From an obituary: "Beneath his mauve mannerisms, Bunny was stalwart, frank, dependable and undeceived; to onlookers a passing peacock, to intimates, a life enhancer and exemplary friend."

From another obituary:

He served valiantly in every way.

[shabbytigers]

happy 125th birthday to bunny roger

[victusinveritas]

Found this color photo:

And this in-memoriam piece.

[marzipanandminutiae]

(he did not precisely invent capri pants- Sonja de Lennart did, and they popularized them together)

[tzikeh]

Maryland to Become First US State to Ban Surveillance Pricing That Charges More After Mining Personal Data

Maryland will become the first US state to ban surveillance pricing in retail stores, after passing Protection from Predatory Pricing Act.

Jesus fucking christ that this exists in the first place

[boyslit]

I WAS FUCKING WONDERING WHAT THOSE DIGITAL PRICE TAGS WERE ABOUT SUDDENLY i had hoped they were so the workers didn't have to finagle those little papers into the slider part anymore 😭

[eclipticasolaris]

Hi, yes, that is the OFFICIAL excuse made to me by the guy replacing the paper tags with digital ones at my local Walmart, but the end goal is to remove the numbers off the shelf entirely, replacing them with QR codes that you have to scan with the app…. Which requires your login information….. and also stores your card information so even if you didn’t use your Walmart account at the physical checkout, if you used a card they recognize, they assign that purchase to your Walmart account purchase history.

I explained very clearly to the manager my issue with the meat section not having the price tags listed, and they claimed it was only going to be for the meat, since meat is by weight, and the price of each item is printed on the packs of each item.

Sure. That’s how they get their foot in the door. Fast forward not even two weeks, and here we are:

Bar codes. No prices, no item descriptions. No price stickers on the individual items. Heck, not even the name of the item that is SUPPOSED to be there.

No. The only way to see the price is to scan it on your phone app, which is also recording what you looked at recently, as a way of gauging what you might be looking for in the future.

So here’s what we’re gonna do gang:

Every time you go into a store that has implemented these price-less tags:

Take 1-3 items up to the cash register. Ask the cashier for the price, or hit the price check item on the self checkout, which will likely call over the attendant.

Express that you didn’t actually want it, you just couldn’t see on the shelf how much it was.

POLITELY, AND WITH A THANK YOU FOR THE PRICE CONFIRMATION, Give the items to the cashier or attendant to put back.

When they inevitably try to push the app, politely decline. If pressed for why not, say you don’t want to have to carry your phone in-hand the whole time you are shopping in order to see how much things cost. (Not having cell service or data to use the app is NOT a valid excuse, as stores already often have complimentary WiFi AND more stores will provide WiFi rather than give up on this push for surveillance pricing)

If it’s a shelf-stable item, the cashier will have to set it aside, taking up room in their limited operating space, and eventually pass it off to someone to put in a holding area to put back later. If it’s a fridge/freezer item, it might have to get tossed due to food product sale regulations.

In either case, you are making it a pain in the ass for them to have these digital bar codes. Tie up the checkouts. Give the employees more busywork that the company has to pay them to do. Hurt their bottom line having to toss the pint of ice cream you carried around in your cart for 20 minutes before giving it back to the cashier.

Yes, call your reps. Yes, push for more legislation like this in more places. But also take an extra minute out of your shopping trip to MAKE IT HURT for companies to pull this shit.

[antisocialxconstruct]

I've seen some people in the notes express (very fair) concern that this is only going to inconvenience already under-paid laborers, and not have any impact on corporate. While I can't speak for every company or every store, I do work in a grocery store and I can tell you this is precisely the kind of thing that would have an impact, especially if people are doing it en masse. Stores absolutely track their shrink numbers, and they do draw distinctions between what gets stolen, damaged, or wasted for other reasons. If people are making it clear that the reason they're bringing things to the cashier is that the prices are not adequately represented on the displays, and rather than improving business it's wasting product, slowing down transactions, and causing confusion and mistrust in customers, that is a language that shareholders speak.

[materassassino]

If there is enough widespread complaint about it at store level, it WILL get back to corporate. You can also make complaints online.

[median-culture-is]

Median Culture is feeling tired/guilty telling people about your plurality when they're only exposure to it is DID

Like we appreciate the enthusiasm and effort we really do, but it is so rare they'll ever directly talk to anyone but the host even when they insist they wanna know and help everyone

.

[i-enact-postvore]

You ever think about many peices of media have zero women and thats just perfectly normal but if a peice of media has an all female cast people get... like that? Women should be allowed to kill over this btw

[loveshoplifter]

same but it's black people

[i-enact-postvore]

That's right