How to change your significant other:
To all my engaged friends and family, going into marriage is a little frightening and exciting all at the same time. I truly believe that each of us are worried, sometimes fearful of the irritants our significant others have and want to change at least 1, maybe even 5 things about him or her. Well, here is a little insight on how to change him/her: Go to God with what bothers you. When you confess those things, you will see a change in those irritants. But the thing is, it's not your significant other that needs change, it is you. You have to really check your own heart in this circumstance. You need to learn to see things the way God sees them, not how you think they should be. If you go into marriage with a specific image of what your marriage will look like, you will be extremely disappointed. It is impossible to to truly give yourself in prayer for your husband with out first examining your own heart. You cannot go to God and and expect answers to your prayer harboring unforgiveness, bitterness, or resentment. Instead of asking God to change him, you ought to ask him, "Change me!" The most effective tool in transforming your significant other is your own transformation. You are not the only one who struggles with this. I just recently had this conversation with God and it looks like this: "Do you see the way he is, Lord?" "Do you see the way you are?" "Lord, are you saying there are things you want to change in me?" "Many things. Are you ready to hear them?" "Well, I guess so." "Tell me when you're really ready" "Why me God? He's the one that needs to change." "The point is not who needs to change. The point is who is willing to change." "But God, this isn't fair" "I never said life is fair, I said I am fair!" Yes, dying to yourself is always painful, but if you want to see improvement in your marriage or engagement, start with yourself.