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Call me by your pronouns
(I have preferred pronouns but i think this is funnier)
People i installed linux for: around 4 i guess
Not a minor but i don't wanna see NSFW stuff.
Just saw someone with “use whatever pronouns you use for yourself for me” in bio. I honestly never considered the depth the pronoun metagame could have, we’ve barely scratched the surface with this shit
I don’t think I’m an asshole. I try, sincerely try, to be a decent person.
But. I’ve noticed that on the relatively rare occasion when I literally have no deadlines, no schedule, no worries at all, that I am in fact just much kinder, more patient, and more helpful. When I have no stress on me, I become that guy who will miss his train to explain how the metro works. I will carry stuff for you. It’s just… I’m a better person when I’m entirely relaxed.
And I think maybe that’s across the board? That maybe we’re all low-key kinda stressed all the time, and that makes us more hurried, less inclined to help, less compassionate… simply more selfish and less caring.
Which doesn’t mean “You’re stressed and that makes you EVIL!!!!”. I don’t think people are necessarily like that. But maybe we just have less kindness to share when we’re like that. Maybe you’re normally a saint and the crushing weight makes you just be pretty nice most of the time. Maybe you’d normally be sullen and angry, and it makes you into a huge asshole who actively makes things worse for everyone. Maybe it makes a big difference, maybe it makes a little one. I think maybe we have trouble being nice to each other because of that, though. Because we’re always rushed and worried and stressed out all the time.
Maybe that’s why the so-called friendliest countries are often the ones either with really good social safety nets (so less background radiation worry), or the ones that have culturally built-in de-stressing methods (so ways to keep a more even keel)…
"only a poor artisan blames his tools" is such bullshit, in almost every imaginable line of work the quality of the tools you have access to plays a massive role in the quality of the end product, sometimes in excess of the role played by individual skill! For example, some people have to code in javascript
i definitely think minecraft won't be the game for everyone in the end and that's just how things are no problem but i do think *some* people who don't get the hype of it just need to play with their friends and build a house with them. its also for doing things like this.
I wonder if being bullied as a kid has any inoculating factors? like "I can do this now, because I could do this at 4 feet tall" type stuff. or does it just permanently make you into a quivery little prey animal? much to consider.
This is not new. Several years ago, the creators of Phineas and Ferb had issues with Dropbox for the same reason: they got copyright struck on private files of their own show, because they got picked up by Dropbox’s content ID system. MOST cloud providers use tools like content ID to scan uploaded files, EVEN PRIVATE ONES, for copyright infringement or “objectionable” content. Do NOT trust the cloud, under any circumstances, with anything potentially pirated, questionable, or as your sole backup. There’s nothing wrong with using cloud storage for convenience, but it should never be your only copy, and it should be totally avoided with pirated or copyrighted content. This is part of the reason I have harped so hard on not storing the TPK leaks in Google Drive as a long term solution. They will get nuked eventually, they’re in contentID now.
I’ve mentioned my manager and his baby many times but it is so funny how the baby is just like... his friend. Like I had great parents, I’ve met a lot of great parents, and I’ve never met somebody who talks about their baby like he does.
He’s like “aw I actually can’t go out that night, I’m gonna hang out with [baby’s name].” He talks about her like they have conversations even though she can’t talk yet. It’s never “I took her” to a place, it’s always “we went.” He’s confident that she understands most if not all that happens around her and acts accordingly and it’s so sweet.
When he brought her to see us at work the first time, he was making a pot of coffee for her mom, and even though she was still tiny I remember he talked her through how to make coffee just as if he was talking to an adult.
That is gonna be so fucking good for her development.
Feeling appreciated, getting undivided attention, being taught that she's basically competent and just needs experience to do things, the language modelling, the behaviour modelling, the respect for her as a person.
My grandfather did this. He would always talk to me like he cared about what I was saying. He listened to me like whatever I was talking about was the most important thing in the world.
okay so, guy at work, who i find out afterwards is famous at this place for being a sex pest, comes up and starts with what i also learn is his favorite opener to conversations where he’s going to be a sex pest, namely: “Do you know where the term ‘blow job’ comes from?”
and here he made his first fatal error. his moment of hubristic sex pesting. because of course i know where the term blow job comes from, i love learning about sex and the history of sexual terms! i know so much about oral sex that i could write a book on it!
his second error: approaching a little autistic freak with what he intended to be an uncomfortable sex question that would make me feel weird and gross. Friends, Romans, Countrymen, I Have Never Misjudged A Man’s Intentions So Incredibly In My Life. because i did not realize he was trying to harass me. because i love talking about sex facts, albeit not usually at work. unless. someone prompts me. my coworkers are the kind of people who are generally online enough to know terms, but not exactly what they mean, and they realized they could ask me a while back and get good answers without the resulting awkwardness because i do not experience shame. i am primed to answer questions like the one he has proposed.
So I Answered It.
and well, really, what happened is that I began answering it, then realized the answer required a bit more context. I mean, you can’t just say “oh, well, the term first appears in writing in the 1940s” without first explaining that ‘blow’ by itself already had sexual connotations for centuries, and then, really, are we talking about the origin of the term or the origin of the act. and well we have a ton of literature and art depicting fellatio throughout human history, did you know a lot of it was men performing it on other men? oh, that reminds me, there are a multitude of latin words for oral sex performed on penises, and hold on let me quote you the entirety of catullus 16 from memory and explain it’s fascinating insights into the roman world of homosexuality-
i do not know how to turn any of this ^ off, by the way. i’m sure some people out there have a switch that disables their infodumping mid-speech. i do not. and i also didn’t realize he wasn’t looking for a real answer until my other coworker explained so hours later. he could not excuse himself from the conversation he started, and i made a conservative man at least 30 years older than me to listen to my catullus recitation. i will sodomize and facefuck you, indeed.
anyway, i think i got a bad grade in being sexually harassed. my pro tip is maybe don’t start with what a very autistic individual will misconstrue as you earnestly asking them to explain sex to you. the special interest shield will cause splashback damage.
interesting how, in the realm of fiction, there are some morally reprehensible behaviors that are "acceptable" for someone's character to have, and some that wait a minute post canceled. My cat who doesn't like cuddles just settled directly into my lap for the first time in the 10 years I've known her
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