a bunch of males got on the internet, told yâallâpeople who have existed and lived as biological females and as girls/women your whole livesâwhat womanhood is and isnât and so many of you really nodded your heads and went âyes, person who has never experienced womanhood before. youâre absolutely rightâ
if that isnât the most male thing then idk what is.
like deadass???? a bunch of males got on the internet and was like âactually your vagina isnât the reason why youâre treated badly in society, stop talking about itâ and so many of you really went âyeah youâre absolutely rightâ even though throughout human history âpeople with vaginasâ have always been treated worse than âpeople with penisesâ no matter the culture and iâm just like???????
like this is something that really happened. males essentially told yâall to jump and yâall said âhow high?â
TRAs will call you bioessentalist and then proceed to sincerely say that thereâs a difference between male and female brains which impacts what gender stereotypes you prefer
Itâs so bleak that almost every GNC lesbian online goes by some variation of he and/or they pronouns, and that so many have gotten their breasts surgically removed and/or are taking wrong-sex hormones. I hate that itâs becoming normalised, encouraged, and dare I even say expected for lesbians to identify out of womanhood and get surgeries and take wrong-sex hormones that negatively impact health. I hate that this is being pushed as a part of the lesbian experience. I hate that young lesbiansâ role models are telling them they need to surgically and medically alter themselves to be happy and desirable as a lesbian. And I wish that more women were proud to be homosexual women. I wish that young lesbians had more role models telling them that itâs okay to be gay, and that theyâre perfect exactly as they are.
Remember when trump said âgrab them by the pussyâ and part of the response in the womanâs march was to make the pussy hats and then people were mad it wasnât inclusive to wiener havers? A sexual predator was president talking about harassing women and people were mad their dicks werenât included in the protest đ
Men can not be rehabilitated, as psychologist Rebecca Myers found out after many years of hard work.
Rebecca Myers has dedicated her life to trying to change the most brutal of Britainâs serial rapists and abusers. When people hear that, they always want her to reveal the âworstâ thing she has heard.
Go on, they say, as though itâs an episode of The Killing or CSI. Myers, who is a forensic psychologist working with deviant criminals, will give away a few things, such as the fact that she canât look at a table knife casually left in the butter over breakfast after her prison housed a man who stabbed his girlfriend in the bath and left the knife behind, stuck in. Or that the theme tune to Coronation Street gives her chills. One of her first cases was a man who went on a three-year raping spree, breaking into the homes of single women while wearing an animal mask. On one occasion he hid behind the sofa of his next victim in his terrifying costume as she, oblivious and happy, watched her favourite soap opera.
The actual worst thing? She wonât tell me that â she is scared it will contaminate me too. âI have never told a soul, and never will.â Thatâs her job, to suffer so that others donât, to save other women.
One of the worst things she has heard wasnât exactly a crime. It was after a lifetime of getting into the heads of these men through a gruelling and expensive rehabilitation programme for sex offenders that thousands of male prisoners in this country undertook over a two-decade period, at a taxpayer cost of an estimated ÂŁ100 million. She personally started working with the Sex Offender Treatment Programme (SOTP) when she was 22, soon after she joined one of Britainâs most notorious prisons, known for the number of inmates convicted for sexual or violent offences. She worked with them, including the mask-wearing rapist, out of idealism and trust.
Then, in 2017, after Myers had spent 16 years on the front line of the SOTP, the results of a national evaluation came in. The SOTP didnât work. It was abruptly abandoned. She had spent so long attempting to change people who had done horrible things, and when they were released they went out and did them again at just the same rate as the men who hadnât attempted any change.
âIt was gutting,â Myers, now 49, says to me. âJust shocking. A massive disappointment to so many people that had invested decades of their lives, totally and utterly driven by wanting to stop these people from doing it again.â
The worst thing she has heard was not a murder. It was this news that seemed to kill hope. The costs, emotional and financial, hadnât been worth it. Her memoir Inside Job gives the reader an authentic account of what it is like to work with maximum-security prisoners, including when a headless pigeon is lobbed at her from one of the cells (ripped off with the manâs teeth?), splattering her shoes with blood. âWhore!â the prisoner shouts as Myers stares at the pigeonâs still-flapping body, its spinal cord protruding. âSlut!â
She will never know who did it, whether it was because she gave them an unfavourable parole recommendation or it was just a man who hates women. âThere are plenty of them about.â
When I meet Myers over Zoom I can tell how she holds her own as one of the few women in such a hostile environment. She speaks in the North Yorkshire accent of her home town with seriousness and common sense. She began in prisons months after graduating from a psychology degree. She was, she describes, âslim and blondeâ, and understandably naive. She was given a tour of the prison officersâ quarters, with pictures of topless women on the walls, their breasts covered with NSPCC stickers.
Sinister disembodied eyes press against each cellâs viewing holes as she passes. âI wish I had not worn a skirt,â she writes, and she never made that mistake again, switching for ever to work in a baggy outfit of loose trousers and poloneck covered up by a jacket, even in summer. âMy face and hands are the only flesh I allow them to see.â Her psychological armour in prison is represented by her perfect nail polish, which she wears to see me too.
We agree that it seems strange, with hindsight, to think that such a young woman was the right fit for the job. Myers explains that forensic psychologists are not usually like Robbie Coltrane in Cracker â in the UK 80 per cent of them are female. In the 1990s money flooded into prison rehabilitation programmes with a surge of Blairite optimism. Britainâs sex offender rehab became an international flagship, she says. In practice, that meant an âinflux of fresh young female psychologists straight out of university entering the prison to deliver programmesâ.
âItâs an interesting notion isnât it?â Myers says, pondering. âThe damage is done to women yet it is mostly women trying to fix it.â
The Silence of the Lambs, featuring Jodie Foster as a student psychologist at the FBI Academy trying to outsmart Hannibal Lecter was how some of Myersâ friends conceived of her job. âIt was the cool thing at the time,â she tells me. âBut now I completely steer away from anything of that nature. I find crime on TV distasteful. I worry about it being glamorised. Itâs as far from glamorous as you can get.
âClarice Starling I am not,â she writes in her book. âReal-life serial killers are far less exciting and more stubborn and smelly than those portrayed in the films.â
Almost immediately she was left alone with them in unguarded rooms. âIn terms of how things are portrayed on television, that is one of the biggest misconceptions,â she says. âThat the men would be handcuffed, that there would be officers there. There simply werenât. You were left on your own. I was surprised at the time.â
Was that because it was considered low risk? âI donât think itâs low risk. In the book I describe a hostage situation with a female prison officer.â
This hostage-taking goes on for 12 hours, the âdecent, kind-heartedâ woman held at knifepoint in a cell by a man who had been a serial rapist of elderly women in their homes. Myers is rushed to the scene in the middle of the night and helps to assess the man as highly unlikely to surrender. The officers charge in when he begins an assault on the prison officer. âSo itâs not low risk,â she says. âYou never turn your back. But I didnât question it, I just followed the culture.â
The book follows closely her first treatment group of sex offenders, including the masked rapist she names âWayneâ in the book. She is not allowed to name the prison for legal reasons, and she blurs identifying details for the sake of the victimsâ families. When she first reads through Wayneâs crimes she has to vomit in the toilets. In person, though, he presents as a polite, even endearing man who likes custard creams dunked in his tea. This is a hard lesson society is still learning: sex offenders are husbands, dads, people holding down respectable jobs. Even police officers, as the Sarah Everard case showed.
Each psychologist was paired with a prison officer or two for the treatment programme, which took groups of nine men through more than 200 hours of therapy that lasted up to a year. In a twist that makes her book seem even more like a Jed Mercurio TV drama, a young Myers falls in love with the prison officer she is paired with on her first treatment programme. Itâs an ill-advised romance that begins and ends in the dark hours they spend debriefing each other on what they have heard about the rape and torture of women.
Itâs wrong to say the treatment had no effect, because it certainly affected the staff. Myers is covert about her personal life, but she has two children and is often talked out of overprotective parenting by her husband, who does not work in the same world. âHe says: âItâs fine, theyâre going to be OK.â â
A serial killer once made a joke to her about picnic blankets, how they are useful to roll up bodies. She is for ever sent into high alert by lone male picnickers. The two male prison officers she worked with are mentally scarred too. One stopped being able to give his little daughter a bath. The other, then her boyfriend, couldnât drive past a lone woman on the street without fretting over her safety. The pair would wake up together after âmurder dreamsâ.
One core aspect of the SOTP was trying to awaken empathy with victims, to the extent of asking the perpetrators to re-enact their crimes from the victimâs point of view. Theyâd use pens in place of penises, and flick water instead of urine, blood or semen. It sounds like highly risky territory. Indeed, in that first group Myers is aware that one of the criminals is becoming sexually aroused by the re-enactment.
âThey were very powerful, but I think they also had the potential to be shaming, difficult and potentially dangerous,â Myers says of the exercises. âWe started to see from the research that an increase in victim empathy didnât necessarily decrease recidivism.â She spent more than 200 hours with one man who was in jail after a rape and hammer attack. He told her all the right things, and she marked him down as a success. Later she saw the man on the news, convicted of a rape and hammer attack.
âI donât know what the answer is to stopping male violence. I wish I did,â she says.
It is a minority of released sex offenders who reoffend, but each one feels like too many. The sex offender rehabilitation schemes that replaced the SOTP have yet to be evaluated. Myers is no longer involved in frontline treatment. This gets us to the question that hangs over this book. Does she despair? Why not just give up?
âNo, because we canât just do nothing. We donât have the death penalty, we release people. Weâve got to carry on.
âI know the research showed what it showed, but I like to believe that I have averted crimes. I have to believe that over the last 25 years I have made a difference. I have to believe that or I couldnât keep doing it.â
That gives meaning to your life? She sets her face with determination.
âAbsolutely. I do believe that people can change,â she says. She can never know a woman she saved from being attacked, she says. It could be me, it could be her even, but she hopes they exist, and this hope is the best thing about her job â which, by the way, is a question few ask. âI canât think of anything more worthwhile.â
Inside Job: Treating Murderers and Sex Offenders. The Life of a Prison Psychologist by Dr Rebecca Myers is published by HarperCollins, ÂŁ8.99
i donât understand how neil gaiman intellectual properties still trend on here so regularly he literally trafficked women. like itâs not even a discourse thing or a âheâs problematicâ thing he was âcancelledâ for human trafficking. he repeatedly isolated women, usually his or his ex-wifeâs fans, with no support system for the purpose of raping them while they were dependent on him for income and housing. thatâs human trafficking
Because a female author who acknowledges biological sex as a material reality is pretty much the same as a male author anally raping his child's babysitter at their first meeting.
JK Rowling literally funds trans genocide with the money she makes from Harry Potter. Their issues aren't the same, but to pretend that it's just that she wrote a tweet that people didn't like and not violent transphobia is disingenuous as fuck.
But hey, you're probably also a TERF like her, so fuck you too.
stop watering down the term genocide because i see this argument used a lot and its so fuckkng stupid
there is not a trans genocide happening in the UK and jkr is not donating to âtrans genocideâ
examples of legislature before a genocide: denying citizenship, denying the right to work, to own property, to own businesses, to marry, forcing outward identification of self (ex. a badge), loss of the right to vote, loss of automomy over location (ex. being forced into ghettos or certain parts of a city by law), forced sterilization
NOT examples of legislature before a genocide: writing the biological sex of someone on their private legal documents, not allowing minors plastic surgery
throwing around awful accusations does not make them true
Itâs depressing to think about how many leftist viewpoints get completely abandoned in the name of Trans Rightsâąïž.
Be aware of your privilege and make sure to not use it against marginalised peopleâŠunless youâre a man who wants to identify as a woman or a heterosexual who wants to identify as homosexual. Then itâs totally fine to use your privilege to barge into the spaces of those less privileged than you, and to talk over them.
Oppression impacts the human psyche deeply, and sadly it makes many oppressed people hate the traits theyâre oppressed forâŠbut donât you dare suggest we analyse why a woman might want to identify out of womanhood, or why a homosexual might want to identify as a straight trans person, or why a woman might hate her female features so much that she wants them surgically removed or medically altered. These are valid identities that canât possibly be related to the desire to escape oppression.
Capitalism is bad and consumers are exploitedâŠbut anything sold with the label âgender affirmingâ is amazing actually, and the people selling it absolutely have your best interests at heart. Buy buy buy all the cosmetic surgery, medical treatments, and pride merch your little heart desires and never once stop to think about why itâs being sold to you!
Listen to the oppressed and prioritise and amplify their voices, and learn from them to confront your own privilege and biases even when doing so is uncomfortableâŠexcept for women and homosexuals. When they say things that make you uncomfortable, theyâre just evil cis TERFs that must be silenced and condemned! When they talk about how youâre harming them, itâs you who is the victim.
This is just off the top of my head, Iâm sure thereâs more examples so feel free to share if any come to mind. It feels so bleak being a leftist who actually sticks to leftist principles, when it seems like the majority of leftists are willing to abandon them as soon as the word âtransâ is uttered.
there was one super rapey cotton ceiling post i saw once that was so heinous that like i feel like the need to go find it and make everyone look at it to prove that we are not making it up like they really do say shit like that.
it just makes me feel crazy that they will deny that anyone has ever perpetuated this cotton ceiling rhetoric when they make posts like this acting like a woman's lack of attraction to them is a problem to be solved. It doesn't matter why a woman doesn't want to fuck you!!! Coming at her like it's some type of debate and trying to convince her that she's a bad person for not having sex with you is sex pest behavior!!!
Here's another one I found while looking for this one where the same user reblogged that conflates allyship with dating and hookups. Maybe that's why women don't want to be your allies anymore!!!!!!
And here's another one where they're just for real just lying and saying we're the ones who are loudly announcing totally unprompted that we don't want to fuck you!!! No!!! You people will pester us about whether or not we'd theoretically fuck you and then you call us hysterical terfs if we say no!!!! Or you'll hear some random women you don't even know mention that she's only into vagina and you'll take that as a personal attack for some reason because you feel completely fucking entitled to a random woman's body!!!!!
like it reminds me of the scenario in this comic where this person gets offended that a female celebrity that doesn't know they exist would not theoretically fuck them. Like you realize that's a completely normal situation for lesbians since most female celebrities being straight??? who the fuck caresssssssss
Yeah I canât imagine why he never hears lesbians say theyâre grossed out by vulvas. Weird. I canât think of a possible reason that lesbians donât say that. Oh well.
funny how they never realize how men would NEVER do the procedures they list. maybe because these cosmetic surgeries target vulnerable women and are products of an oppressive patriarchyđ€
so which is it? is transgenderism natural and has always existed, or is it â like botox and breast augmentation â a product of sexist oppression?
Ok, following her logic, for breast augmentations and such to be affirming for "cis" women, the "cis woman" gender has to be a bimbofied, makeuped, shaved ideal of womanhood.
And apparently, "cis" means what's typical or expected, where your gender matches your sex. So let me get this straight: the female sex, the typically "woman" gender, what cis women strive to be, is a makeuped, shaved bimbo. Ideally.
And! On top of all this, this is inherent and not social because males can also experience this female womanly gender and literally become suicidal if they don't fulfil this expectation because their brain... wants to be seen as a woman?
Womanly-brained people just feel compelled to do this because of their innate gender, not the system of social norms and oppression, saying women should be feminine.
And we shouldn't get rid of the system because then how will men with womanly-brain feel good? Surely, we should just keep gender for these people, at the expense of "cis" women.
And all of this logic proves that mastectomies, hormones, bottom surgeries, and more are actually just as innate as... female insecurities. Right.
If you've ever wondered if men who identify as women have even the slightest notion of understanding or empathy for what it's like to grow up female in a patriarchal world... no they do not. "Excluded from everything and locked out of genuine expression" gee, sort of reminds me of a class of people who were historically (and many MANY are currently) excluded from participating in society and free expression because of their sex. (What are those people called again? Wumben? Wimpund? Woomud?)
But yeah for sure, your inability to wear a dress to high school was a WAY worse experience than the systematic societal grooming of your female classmates towards becoming a Wife And Mother, while simultaneously being overtly and covertly sexually objectified and dehumanized by men and boys of all ages. Having people recognize that you're male must have been soooo much worse than when girls are denied an education because they're female. Tone-deaf is not nearly a strong enough way to describe this line of thinking; maybe malicious deliberate ignorance instead.
If you watch Harry Potter youre supporting trans genocide but if you watch porn that says nothing about whether or not you support misogynistic violence and human trafficking :-)
its hard to know where to begin with these anti-jkr people. its like arguing with christians about whether god is real. âshes KILLING trans people with her MONEY.â okay well. thats not reality. step one failed already
