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hey. if you want to actually change minds, don't be unkind to the people you're trying to convince. or you CAN but in most scenarios you'll alienate a potential ally. what matters more to you? taking your anger out on someone? or helping them actually understand the situation at hand?
"wow you're fucking stupid OBVIOUSLY x isn't y. can you learn to read or something" <- changes no minds, the person you're talking to will struggle to agree with you because by extension they would have to agree that they're stupid for being wrong, total happiness for everyone involved is through the FLOOR. in the NEGATIVES. no one wins, even if you feel good in the moment.
but....
"hey there, I understand that you're very passionate about this, but the most recent studies out there show that x isn't y. I just wanted to let you know, because you clearly care a lot about the subject!" <- I have seen this change minds firsthand, it's easier for the person to agree with you because they're not feeling defensive over an insult, and total happiness for everyone involved either stays the same or goes UP. everyone wins. if they're still being silly about it, at least you can walk away knowing that you tried. and often times, even if they show no change in the moment, that kind of interaction stays with people. they'll ruminate on it. you might have helped incite a later change of heart.
all that being said, conserve your energy and efforts. if someone repeatedly shows that they have no intention of considering any of your words, disengage! walk away! you CAN change minds but you CAN'T change everyone. "is this a constructive use of my time?" is a question worth asking yourself when you catch yourself talking to someone who is attempting to animorph into a brick wall. patience and kindness are awesome weapons but you do have to pick your battles. [:
there was a post on here a year or two ago that was like "radfems think feminism is when women create a feedback loop to justify their harmful trauma responses" and I think about it every week. that one sentence helped me understand the abuse I suffered from my ex more than several dozen therapy sessions did. I hope whoever the op was is having a fantastic decade
So as an artist who has been known to play a few instruments, I've been thinking about this recent thing radfems are doing, where they’ve decided, seemingly out of nowhere, to just wildly shit on ukulele music. And not just the music, but to brand it as “cringe transmasc music.”
And look, even if that wasn’t deeply racist, it would still be stupid. And wrong. But the fact is…
it is deeply racist.
The ukulele is a Hawai'ian instrument, descended from the machete de braga, a small Portuguese guitar brought to Hawai‘i in the late 1800s by Portuguese immigrants from Madeira. Hawaiian luthiers adapted and reimagined it into what became the ukulele. It’s a cultural symbol with a history of colonization, cultural appropriation, and resilience, born from the blending of immigrant traditions with Native Hawaiian artistry.
When you reduce it to some internet stereotype, you’re not just making a dumb music take, although you are also doing that, more importantly you’re participating in the long tradition of white mainland culture flattening and mocking Indigenous Hawai'ian traditions for sport.
It’s also worth noting that the ukulele’s popularity didn’t explode because it’s “quirky” or “internet twee”, it’s because it’s approachable. The instrument is physically small, light, and low-tension compared to guitars or violins. You don’t need huge hand strength to fret it, the (usually) nylon strings are soft, and it can be tuned in a way that’s forgiving for beginners. That makes it accessible to disabled musicians, kids, elders, and anyone without the privilege of formal music education. You can teach yourself entirely off the internet or even practice alone if you're dedicated.
I say this as someone who used to play violin and piano but now plays ukulele and ocarina because those are instruments my bad back and hand tremor will actually allow me to enjoy.
My own ukulele was an investment, imported from Hawai‘i, made of mango wood, rosewood, and bull bone. It’s a gorgeous instrument, it’s one of the most expensive things I own (a very spicy $500), and I cherish it deeply.
But here’s the thing: you don’t need a $500 ukulele to make beautiful music. You can get a perfectly playable one for cheap, especially secondhand.
That means this is an instrument that’s accessible to poor and working-class people, including those from marginalized communities who often don’t get the same access to “prestigious” music education or expensive instruments or expensive equipment and programs to make music digitally.
So when I hear someone mocking “cringe transmasc ukulele music,” here’s what I know immediately:
They’re definitely not an artist making art with any real value
They’re transphobic toward trans men and likely nonbinary people too
They’re ableist
They’re racist
They’re classist
And if someone is happy being a mediocre artist who’s also multiple kinds of bigoted, that’s their prerogative, but I’m not going to respect their opinion on art, or trans people, or disabled people, or Indigenous people, or poor people.
I genuinely don’t have much more to say. That’s it.
You make fun of ukuleles like it’s an aesthetic crime instead of a living piece of Hawai'ian culture and a vitally accessible instrument for marginalized folks, you’ve told me exactly who you are.
And I believe you.
it was so insane that they even sent this out in 2018 but you know its like staffs current behavior isnt anything new
they had no evidence then with the blogs they terminated & they have no evidence now either so ig its always been your blog gets deleted for "any reason or none at all" when they dont like you for being black or transfem
Let him top please 🙏 please let him top when he’s with a cis man🙏 please. Prayer emoji🙏
I'm coming to realize how vital it is to keep a running list of shit you did in the past few weeks so that you can participate in small talk. It's literally not anything to do with them being interesting at all it's just having Something to say to give people even the barest thing to hold on to. It's so you don't get into the "what have you been up to" "nothing much what about you" "yeah same" trap. Literally just say something.
What have you been up to? Um well it's getting warmer so I've been having to brush my cat every day.
Like no it's not that interesting of a thing to say. But now they can respond to it. They could say, man yeah it really is heating up, I've been trying to think of things to do inside more often. Or, oh you have a cat? What's their name?
Like. It's Something. All you need is Something. And if you're like me and your brain immediately goes blank upon entering small talk then keeping a list will help you remember things to say.
this website is so funny because every couple years we repeat the discourse of "which marginalised group is it morally okay for us to shit on?" and somehow nobody ever learns from it. we just look back and go, "hey, remember that time when everyone was joking about how ace people should all be put in meat grinders? that was so messed up. we should not have done that. anyway, here's my topical joke about how polyamorous people should all be put in meat grinders."
this post is still getting me anon hate pretty much on the daily btw. in case you were curious about the state of things
not now sweetie, mommy is watching how the massive girlbossification of female characters has led to the belief that weak and vulnerable female characters are badly written characters because apparently every woman needs to be outspoken and witty and snarky and brave in order to be considered “complex” and have any value in a piece of media!!
awww the like button turns into a rainbow when you press it! that's so cute...hey staff what's with all the trans women you keep nuking?
i think we should be ridiculing them more for this. you don't get to try and go all "queer website" when your staff likes to go on nuking sprees targeting the trans fem users
this pride month, i'd just like to remind everyone:
LOVE, SUPPORT, UPLIFT AND PROTECT TRANS MEN OR ELSE
LOVE, SUPPORT, UPLIFT AND PROTECT TRANS WOMEN OR ELSE
LOVE, SUPPORT, UPLIFT AND PROTECT TRANS NONBINARY PEOPLE OR ELSE
LOVE, SUPPORT, UPLIFT AND PROTECT TRANS THINGS OR ELSE
LOVE, SUPPORT, UPLIFT AND PROTECT TRANSFEMS OR ELSE
LOVE, SUPPORT, UPLIFT AND PROTECT TRANSMASCS OR ELSE
LOVE, SUPPORT, UPLIFT AND PROTECT TRANSNEUTRALS OR ELSE
LOVE, SUPPORT, UPLIFT AND PROTECT TRANSGENDERS OR ELSE
LOVE, SUPPORT, UPLIFT AND PROTECT TRANSSEXUALS OR ELSE
LOVE, SUPPORT, UPLIFT AND PROTECT DRAG KINGS OR ELSE
LOVE, SUPPORT, UPLIFT AND PROTECT DRAG QUEENS OR ELSE
LOVE, SUPPORT, UPLIFT AND PROTECT DRAG MONARCHS OR ELSE
LOVE, SUPPORT, UPLIFT AND PROTECT TRANS PEOPLE WITH EXTREMELY BINARY GENDERS OR ELSE
LOVE, SUPPORT, UPLIFT AND PROTECT TRANS PEOPLE WITH WEIRD ESOTERIC GENDERS OR ELSE
LOVE, SUPPORT, UPLIFT AND PROTECT TRANS PEOPLE WITH NO GENDER OR ELSE
LOVE, SUPPORT, UPLIFT AND PROTECT TRANS KIDS OR ELSE
LOVE, SUPPORT, UPLIFT AND PROTECT TRANS TEENAGERS OR ELSE
LOVE, SUPPORT, UPLIFT AND PROTECT TRANS ADULTS OR ELSE
LOVE, SUPPORT, UPLIFT AND PROTECT TRANS ELDERS OR ELSE
THIS IS NOT OPTIONAL!!!!!!!!!!!!
drug addicts deserve housing, food, water, and healthcare btw
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Cute little rainbow heart for pride month tumblr but how about you stop disproportionally banning trans women and marking sfw queer posts as mature
by default i dont understand people with boobs who argue against freeing the nipple and think top nudity is shameful. but ESPECIALLY i dont understand it when you live somewhere where temperatures can exceed like 80F. youre telling me you havent ever wished it was socially acceptable to walk downtown with your tits out when its hot outside. youre just okay with having to wear shirts in all weather and this doesnt bother you. i simply do not believe you............