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Mads, 20, he/they/she, nonbinary butch lesbian, I talk about nerd stuff, working out, and also being gay

[mediocre-knight]

Look!! Read this!!

I don't know, I felt like I should make a pinned post?? So uh. Here's stuff about me, I guess.

This blog is mainly about three things: professional women's soccer, nerd stuff (usually Willow or TTRPGs like D&D), and the dumb little random gay thoughts I have in my head.

I'm butch

Any pronouns are fine:)

Very butch4butch

This blog might mention sex or sexual body parts at times, so please be 18+. I don't really post NSFW, but I'd just be more comfortable. Full disclosure, I don't know how to block people because I'm bad with tech, just. Until I can figure that out, if you're a minor, please don't follow me or interact at all.

Literally anyone (that's not on my DNI list) can DM me. We can be friends!! Just please be respectful. :))

Header is by @ highfemmewhore on tumblr and insta

⚠️⚠️⚠️DNI LIST⚠️⚠️⚠️

RACISTS CAN DIE IN HELL

TERFS CAN DIE IN HELL

P*DOS/R*PISTS CAN DIE IN HELL

Minors, please DNI. Have a lovely childhood. :))

Finally, yall are beautiful and handsome, yeehaw and safe travels 🤠💚

[adiodont]

figuring things out, reflecting.

[animentality]

[minettas-ploy]

[minettas-ploy]

[koffinrott]

Just so like... it's clear... anyone who censors words that contain "man" or "men" to anything like "xxn" that's TERF shit.

Any reference to women/womanhood that solely revolves around having a uterus or "womb" is TERF shit.

Any sentence where the OP says they support people being "trans identified" with quotes around ""transwomen"" or ""transmen"" is TERF shit.

I'm seeing a lot of you baby Tumblr gays out there not knowing what these specific TERF dogwhistles look like.

"Wombxxn" is an incredibly dumb way of spelling "woman" that treats the word "man" like a slur and also reduces women to their ability to give birth.

"Trans identified" is their way of saying "this person calls themselves trans, but I don't believe they are."

Saying "People should be allowed to identify however they wish, but we still need to protect women/children" IS TERF SHIT.

Learn to identify this garbage, because not all TERFs are going to spell out their intolerance for you. Some of them are going to try and seem reasonable and polite and normal, and it's fucking dangerous to our community.

Also unpack any internalized transphobia and your transmedicalism, because both those things will have you quickly siding with TERFs and bigots.

[tigermotif-deactivated20231010]

women love me for my 80's/90's butch charm

[introvert-time-art]

"being trans is a choice" do you honestly think i would CHOOSE to get gender euphoria from wearing knee-length basketball shorts?? that's humiliating

[genderqueerdykes]

i love ugly dykes so much. i love you weird lesbians. i love dykes with 0 fashion sense and no swag. i love lesbians with bad hair cuts, weird glasses and clothes that dont match. i love dykes who dont give a fuck about looking marketable or presentable ever. i love lesbians who dont care about having imperfect faces, features, bodies and just roll with their natural beauty instead. btw all dykes are hot there are no ugly lesbians

[lovethelifeyoulive123-deactivat]

The time is just flying by🤗

[queerpyracy]

discovering the queer country scene has honestly been so healing because most queer musicians i've seen recommended for years i just couldn't really connect with because it wasn't the sort of music i listened to or had investment in and with queer country it's like. yes. this is the language i speak in. this is Fuck You, I Belong Here Too, not just as a queer person in the country but as a rural person among (sub)urban queers, and saying it with a laugh. when will my hometown take pride in me, goddamn it

[beabaseball]

Drop the list!!

[queerpyracy]

FIRST: rachel holst does the adobe & teardrops blog as well as the rainbow rodeo newsletter & zine. look into the black opry also, there are plenty of black queer country/folk/americana artists & there is a lot of collaboration between them and other queer country/folk/americana musicians

my personal list:

adeem the artist (especially the new album, white trash revelry)

paisley fields (stay away from my man is a good old fashioned honky tonk jam about gay on gay violence)

jake blount (the new faith is an afrofuturist album using roots music to explore life after climate collapse, HIGHLY recommend)

sarah shook & the disarmers (especially the album sidelong, ESPECIALLY the songs fuck up & dwight yoakam)

lavender country (everything but especially cryin' these cocksucking tears. patrick haggerty sadly passed in 2022 and we lost a real one. he self-described as a screaming marxist bitch)

flamy grant (okay so. bible belt baby is Technically a christian album that i was tricked into listening to. but listen. what did you drag me into is an instant classic)

mercy bell (especially who said we were friends. i can't hear the lyric "mea culpa/here's a gulpa/my drink in your face" and NOT recommend it)

amythyst kiah (if you haven't heard black myself by now what even are you doing. go listen to it)

do you want to speedrun a depressive episode as a queer woman who fears you may have too much in common with your father? listen to i drink by mary gauthier now

karen & the sorrows (there is a lot to recommend karen pittelman and the work she has done for queer country artists but i'm a useless lesbian so i'm submitting for consideration a photo of the red dress from the mv for guaranteed broken heart that i think about a normal amount:

[imsoglitter]

I think that if you asked Shaggy what his gender was he'd say "you're, like, livin' in a prison of your own creation, man" and then eat a huge sandwich in one bite

[toskarin]

me: if I become the evil overlord I will never harm my minions

[5 years later]

highly throwable imp: hoohoohee

me: hmm

[toskarin]

[dragon-in-a-fez]

consider: teenagers aren’t apathetic about everything they’re just used to you shitting all over whatever they show excitement about

[antigothesis]

Teen: *gets a job*

“I GOT THE JOB!”

Parents: Well, when I was your age, I already had 5 jobs and was supporting my family

[discowitchparty]

Teen: *gets all A’s*

“I worked really hard!”

Parents: Well, of course you did, this is the expectation, not a celebration.

[silver-tongues-blog]

probably why so many teens take to social media where they can enthusiastically share their interests and achievements and get positive feedback that their parents never gave

[moonlighteduniverse]

A LITTLE LOUDER FOR THE PEOPLE IN THE BACK

[bisexual-boredom-deactivated202]

This hit hard

[rowark]

I remember once, when I was in my early 20s, I was an afternoon supervisor at my job, and I worked with mostly teenagers, and the one day this one kid, who was like 15, was bored so I suggested he could clean out the fridge. He did and when he was done I said he did a good job.

After that, this kid was cleaning out the fridge at least once a week, and I was like, “why are you always cleaning the fridge?” Like, I didn’t mind, but it seemed odd. And he said, “one time I cleaned the fridge and you said I did a good job. I wanted to make you proud of me again.”

Literally, I changed the entire way I interacted with teenagers after that. I actually got a package of glitter stars and I would stick them on their nametags when they did a good job, and they loved it.

My manager had commented on how hard these kids work and I said, “they’re starved for positive feedback. They go to school all day then come to work all evening and no one appreciates it because it’s expected of them, but they’re still kids. They need positive feedback from adults in their lives.”

Like, everyone likes feeling appreciated. Everyone likes being complimented and having their efforts be noticed. Another coworker (who was a mother of teenage children), hated that I did this, and said they were too old to be rewarded with stickers, but like… it wasn’t about the stickers. The stickers were just a symbol that their effort was noticed and appreciated. I was just lucky that I learned this at a time when I was still young enough to remember what it was like to be a teenager. I was only 2 years out of highschool at that point and highschool is fucking hard. People forget this as they get older, but ask anyone and almost no one would ever want to go back and do it again, but they expect kids to suck it up because they’re young so they should be able to do school full time, plus homework, and work, and maintain a healthy social life, and sleep, and spend time with family, and do chores and help out at home, and worry about college and relationships and everything else, and then just get shit on all the time and treated like they’re lazy and entitled. And then they wonder why teenagers are apathetic.

[zediina]

For a german exam I had to argue against an article that was essentially „kids these days, they don’t care about anything and are constantly on their phones“ and really it was the easiest essay I‘ve ever written.

Teens don’t talk to adults bc adults only ask „so, how‘s school“ to then interrupt them two sentences in. And because they can’t engage in a conversation about buying houses and working in a bank. I would’ve loved to talk about philosophy and politics and history with family the way I did with friends and in class but because I was young no one took what I had to say seriously.

And no, teens aren’t always on their phone. They’re on their phone when they’re bored. You think I‘m on social media when I‘m with my friends? When I‘m talking about something I‘m interested in?

Maybe the reason kids are so distant and always on their phone during family parties and the like is because you‘re failing to engage and include them.

[aromantic-goldfishdeactivated202]

Whoop there it is

[midwesternlikeope]

When you respect kids, they really respond and learn from you. But if you treat kids like “theyre just a kid, what do they know??” then you’ll never find out.

[imagitory]

As a Disneyland Cast Member, I’ll add my own experience onto this –

Very frequently, when I first speak to a child while I’m at work, they’ll kind of withdraw and act uncomfortable and shy. Their parents will then rather frequently tell them to not be shy and try to coax them to talk to me – whenever that happens, I always, without fail, politely dissuade the parents from pressuring them.

“I’m a stranger,” I’ll tell the kid’s parents. “I don’t blame them for not talking to me – if they were anywhere else, they’d have the right idea, to not immediately trust me.”

I cannot tell you how many times I’ve seen that same kid – simply after hearing their initial reaction being validated, instead of reproached – immediately open up to me after that. I also cannot tell you how many times that child and I would go on to start a friggin’ marathon conversation, and I got to hear all about how great their day was or what their favorite Disney movies were or what rides they liked and didn’t like or how much they like a certain Disney character or song…all from me validating that initial feeling and showing genuine interest in what they had to say.

This isn’t just young children, either. I will always remember being positioned outside the Animation Academy one day and starting up a conversation with a young lady, perhaps 12 or 13, who joined the line with her father a full 25 minutes before the class was supposed to start. Now keep in mind, we do a drawing class every 30 minutes: there was no one else in line at that point, and no one else joined the girl and her father in line for a full fifteen minutes. So I could tell pretty quickly that this girl was very emotionally invested in getting a good spot for the drawing class: a conclusion all the more bolstered by the fact that she had a notebook under her arm. I asked her if she was an artist – she said yes, but seemed uncomfortable at the question, so I skipped even asking her if I could see her work, instead admitting that I myself wasn’t very good at art, but that I’m trying to get better and that I love the history of Disney animation. On the screens around us was video footage of different Disney concept art and animation reels, so I pointed one of them out (for Snow White) and asked if she knew the story behind the making of the movie. Upon confirming that she didn’t, I proceeded to get down on the floor so I could sit next to her and her father and dramatically tell the whole story of how “Uncle Walt” created the first full-length animated motion picture, even though everyone and their mother thought he was an idiot for even trying, and how the film ended up becoming the first Hollywood blockbuster. After the story was over, the girl’s father said that his daughter really wanted to be an animator when she grew up, and she finally felt comfortable enough to open her notebook and show me some of her artwork. It was wonderful! Every sketch had such character and you could tell how much work she put into it! And I could tell how much telling her that – and sharing that moment with her, where we got to connect over something we both really enjoyed – had meant. And after the class was over, she sought me out to show me what she and her father had drawn – and sure enough, hers was great! (Her father’s was too, really. XD)

People, kids and teens included, love sharing what they love and how they feel with others. You just have to give them the chance to show it.

[moony-moons-world]

A LITTLE LOUDER FOR THE PEOPLE IN THE BACK!

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I feel like I am obliged to add one more thing: don’t ever think that the kids won’t feel your unspoken judgements cause they do!

I felt always like a ‘problem’ in my family, until I was about sixteen, I got this teacher who was litterally the first to tell I was worthy. He changed my life up till this day.

Also how do grown ups imagine how ‘we’ will ever learn to engage in conversations with adults properly if you don’t teach us?

[manifestingdestiel]

This post is

Everything

[branchesofyggdrasil]

I told one of my new coworkers (who is 26) that he was doing really well and that I was proud of him and his progress. I thought he was going to start crying for how quietly he said “really?”. 

Positive feedback makes the biggest difference to everything.

[roninkairi]

VELMA.EXE HAS STOPPED WORKING

[skipppppy]

Since it’s spooky season and Scooby Doo reboots are all the rage I figured I should throw my pitch to the winds of tumblr. Hanna Barbera give me money so I can make a gay character driven mystery show

[steviecopeland]

Why you should watch Scooby-Doo: Mystery Inc. (2010)

The Mystery Gang are all actually friends and hang out together at each other’s houses and make jokes and act like real teenagers

We also see their families for the first time and they’re all great. Daphne has a huge house and 4 sisters, Shaggy is weirdly rich as well, Fred lives in a McMansion with the mayor (adoptive father), and Velma’s parents run a museum dedicated to the Gang’s solved mysteries (all of which are references to the 1969 series)

Scooby beats up a robot dog with a forklift and quotes Alien

There’s a very Twin Peaks-esque episode in the second season, complete with the red stripy room

One of my favorite episodes has a parody of Andy Warhol and the Velvet Underground

The art style is GREAT

The Hex Girls are, like, friends with the Gang and help them out sometimes

(They’re also very hot please step on me)

In the 2nd season, the monsters are real more and more often, and also magic is very much real, which has a whole host of implications for the world

Lewis Black, the comedian (aka Anger from Inside Out) plays a character named Mr. E who acts as a Cigarette Smoking Man-type instigator of mystery

The writers got reallllly close to having Velma and Marcie (aka Hot Dog Water, on account of her wool sweaters) be a couple. They’re not in the final show, but they’re still v queercoded. Marcie also spends some offscreen time in prison.

Every character gets the chance to show their smarts. The Gang is decently knowledgeable in true crime, chemistry, and trap-building (Fred) and it shows

Fred is obsessed with building traps to the point that his house is filled with them. Autistic king

Fred and Daphne have a healthy relationship that ebbs and flows and they work through it in a realistic way

Velma and Shaggy also have a realistic breakup and accept that they’re better off as friends. The romantic relationships in this show are great, y’all

Scooby gets a girlfriend, but it’s not forced because she’s actually an alien who gives an exposition dump

Oh yeah there’s aliens too

In one episode it’s revealed that every generation has a group of four people with an animal mascot, and the Scooby Gang are just one part of a repeating cycle

There is actual death (mostly offscreen)

And, last but not least:

Shaggy’s favorite music genre is polka