actually while we’re talking about this- mocking a bi woman for having a boyfriend when she should have a girlfriend isnt cool or funny or progressive its really annoying actually
I was literally just talking yesterday about feeling like a "bad queer" because to anyone who sees me, I'm a cishet mom with a cishet boyfriend. I'm actually nonbinary and bisexual, but because I'm not flamboyantly queer, I feel alienated in a lot of queer spaces.
Making fun of anyone for their relationship is shitty. And tbh I'd rather be in a room full of cishet allies than fellow queer folks mocking me for being with a man.
People who say being "straight passing" is a privilege miss all the ways that folks who fall into this category are very savagely and cruelly erased from queer spaces by queer people until finally they feel like they're not queer enough to belong when they literally belong as much as anyone else. Being repeatedly erased from your own community is not the privilege some folks think it is.




















