Happy national siblings day ❤ . I just want to say, from the bottom of my heart, you're welcome for my existence. You two are the luckiest sisters in the world. I genuinely envy you. I wish I could have a sister like me...I guess I'll settle for the two of you 🙃🐶 . Also...where do they process returns. Asking for a friend? . @v.xn.p @vahini.p . #ionlyaskedforone #becarefulwhatyouwishfor #whenyourparentsoverdeliverforonce #fml #ihatesharing #dontipreachloveandcompassion #oops #siblings #love #nationalsiblingsday #repost (at Toronto, Ontario)
There have to be deal breakers in all your relationships. Family, friends and lovers. Also known as boundaries. . You don't have to announce them, you don't have to warn them. You can keep them to yourself. And when you see them, I don't even think you owe an explanation. Just bounce. . These are inherent characteristics of course - which make them up as a person. They could even be overall good people but on a fundamental level your values clash like the titans. And their energy could be toxic to you. . I'm at a point where when I see a certain type of darkness I peace out. It's not my problem. I don't want to help. No apologies. I owe none. . I've spent too much time and effort working on myself and my energy, I can't put myself in places where it can knowingly get infected and darkened again. . Is that selfish? Hellz yes. I protect myself the way I protect any other person I love. And so should you. You are WORTH IT. . You have every right to come first in your life. YOU are the main character in your own story ❤ . Happy Friday, loves ❤💋 . #love #selflove #hope #spiritual #journey #momentum #mindfulness #imperfect #igotyou #igotme #empower #faith #vulnerability #resilience #strength #fitness #yoga #meditation #girlswholift #liftheavy #girlswithtattoos #friendshipgoals #relationshipgoals #learntogether #swolemate ##knowyourworth #tribe
This really resonated with me. . I never really felt safe owning my power as a woman. And I've allowed myself to play small for so long. . The great thing about adulthood is not having to answer to anyone. You genuinely can just do you. . The problem is the mental shackles we carry forward since childhood. The positive side of that, is they are imaginary! . In order to break free of those shackles, we have to create a safe space. For us to learn and grow. . I have a problem with facing my emotions when they get overpowering. They take me back to that child state of mind where it's fight or flight. Its very frustrating for me and anyone that has to deal with me. . However becoming aware of what your "issues" are is imperative for you to move forward. In order to do that you need to surround yourself with people that are willing to help you through these. . Regardless of what you've been through, know that you are more powerful than you realize. And all I can hope is while I find my power, I help you find yours as well ❤ . #selfimprovement #selflove #honesty #integrity #vulnerability #resilience #strength #fitness #yoga #meditation #girlswholift #liftheavy #grateful #friendship #friendshipgoals #worth #selfworth #health #wellness #healing #balance #feminine #woman #girlpower #wegotthis #wontstop #mindfulness #sisters #istandwithyou
During mountain climbing or deep sea diving, our bodies have to acclimatize to the surroundings to prevent, at worst case, death. So sometimes you climb up, or dive deep, then you go back to a previous level to let your body adjust. You go back and forth until you reach the top or bottom. It's done in stages and the "set backs" are part of the journey. . This is true for anything in your life. Nothing is linear. You could make great strides for days, weeks, months, years, to do nothing but slide back every so often to how things were prior. . It's part of the process. It's part of the journey. It's part of life. . Unless you grew up with the perfect surroundings that handed you all the perfect tools, a lot of remodeling happens in adulthood. We become adults and may need to re-parent ourselves and re-write our blueprints. And re-learn the world. . This is a bit more challenging than when we learned as a child because children are blank slates. As adults, we have already been written on. So first we must become aware of our patterbs, then unlearn the ones that do not serve us, and then we can learn. . So plan for the setbacks. Failure IS an option. You are ALLOWED to fuck up. ROYALLY. Allow yourself to wallow for a bit. However pick your badass self back up and get back on your journey. . Believe in you ❤💋 . #love #selfimprovement #selflove #hope #spiritual #journey #momentum #mindfulness #imperfect #igotyou #igotme #empower #motivation #womenwholift #girlswholift #liftheavy #yoga #meditation #health #wellness #healing #balance #patience
Happy international women's day ladies. . I request you to take the time today to really look at yourself. . To see the beauty the rest of the world sees. . To feel the warmth in your heart. . To remember that little girl, with all of her dreams and a whole world of possibilities that she had before her. . The dreams, confidence and unconditional love and acceptance she had before anyone taught her otherwise. . Remember when we used to make things, and dress how we wanted with so much confidence? . Even the "ugliest" things with adult filters, we used to be so proud of. We were fearless. We used to think all the little girls were awesome and our moms were the most beautiful women alive. . When we used to play alongside the boys and didn't think we belonged anywhere lower than them. . We refused to put up with injustice...because its just not fair! . It's time to go back to that little girl and let her out. . It's time to find that unwavering confidence and love for one another. . I can't put in words how fortunate I am to have a connection to every single one of the amazing women in my life. I promise you, you help me be better. I feel more accountable, I have more confidence, and I'm filled with love thanks to the amazing women I choose to surround myself with. Offline AND online. . I would not be the same without you. . I love you. . Here's to us. . Today and every day 🍷💋 #internationalwomensday
My beautiful friend @re.re23 sent me this poem a few years ago, and then this morning I received a short video from another friend @trijaymedia about a similar concept. It likened people in our lives to: leaves (reason) . branches (season) . roots (lifetime) The leaves in our lives. Are there on the surface. We can talk, have fun, they may provide us some shade, however the bond is weak, and they will fall away. . Then there are the branches. A little stronger than the leaves. They can hold us up, our connection is a bit stronger. However, one major storm and they may fall off too. . Then there are the roots. They're the ones that are always there. They come into our lives and they keep us grounded. They are there when we don't even realize. They hold us up, they love us through all the reasons and seasons. They nourish our souls. We need all of these people. They all play a role in our lives. We just gotta figure out what each role is, so we manage our own expectations. We can't force leaves and branches to be roots. That's a recipe for heart ache. And we can't be pouring our all into branches and leaves. Put them through the test of time and life before you give them your all. Give your all to your roots and give what you can to the rest ❤ So, figure out their roles, and invest in them accordingly ❤💋 . #love #selfimprovement #selflove #honesty #integrity #vulnerability #resilience #strength #dating #worth #relationshipgoals #friendship #friendshipgoals #swolemate #learntogether #teach #lookwithin #reserveyourfucks
The ferocious feminine. There are many sides to feminine energy. There are so many aspects of masculine and feminine energy that I have been blind to my entire life. . Namely the fact that we all possess both. We just express them in different quantities. . We've been raised in a patriarchal system where certain qualities have been valued over others. . We've created a divide, and we've thrown everything off balance. . It's time we look at the importance of balance. We need a shift for us to heal. . The masculine and feminine is something that I've been looking into for quite some time now...and have been using it to figure myself out as well as the world around me. Blog post soon to come via: mendedwithlove.tumblr.com . #unity #selflove #hope #spiritual #journey #momentum #mindfulness #imperfect #igotyou #igotme #empower #faith #vulnerability #resilience #strength #fitness #yoga #meditation #girlswholift #liftheavy #swolemate #learntogether #teach #lookwithin #relationshipgoals #friendship #friendshipgoals #feminine #masculine #build
#momgoals: your role as a parent isn't to create a mini-you. . Your role is to create a safe spot for your child to grow and flourish into who they are MEANT to be. . To guide them into becoming the best possible versions of themselves. . To teach them that they will have a safe haven in this chaotic world. To be the first person that teaches them self-love and unconditional love are one in he same. . I believe in leading by example. Be the person you want your child to grow up to be. Marry the same. . Another reason why self-love is vital. . Love yourself. Happy Monday ❤💋 . . . . #love #selfimprovement #selflove #hope #spiritual #journey #momentum #mindfulness #imperfect #igotyou #igotme #empower #yoga #liftheavy #girswholift #trainhard #meditation #health #wellness #balance #woman #worth #relationshipgoals #swolemate #learntogether
Let’s look at businesses. I’ll get to why in a bit.
Businesses are not silos. They do not operate in a vacuum. They feel the effects of their environment. What happens half way around the world can have a direct or indirect impact on them. Other companies, the time period they exist in, the technology that is available ALL have a direct impact on them.
The boss needs to make the right decisions, the HARD decisions to keep the company afloat at the very least. In order to thrive they need to do things that most people either aren’t thinking of, are too lazy to execute, or are too scared to. They can’t control what goes on around them, however there is no excuse for what is going on INSIDE. They need to be resourceful.
They need to identify THEIR strengths and weaknesses - concentrate on doing what they’re good at and improving what they are not. Then they have to look into hiring the right people, preferably those with the skill sets in areas they lack, AND people that will be a good match for both THEM, and the business. Finally, the hard part, but the part that could make or break the business, is firing the WRONG people. As important as hiring the RIGHT people is, NOT firing the wrong people will sink you. Period.
And of course, there’s the branding, the marketing, the team building, the finances and all of that. Everything needs to be looked after for the health and the sustainability of the business. It also needs to be able to evolve with the times.
Individuals are NO different. All of those things that I spoke about earlier, apply to us. WE are the boss of our own lives. WE get to decide how we run OUR show. WE get to decide who is on our team, and who needs to be let go. We need to look inwards and figure out our strengths and weaknesses and get them to work in our favour and reach out for help when we need.
It’s OUR responsibility to hire or fire the people that are on our team. They will make or break us. There is no way around it.
(I’m not always bright, cheerful and full of love for the world...)
I have been on this self-love/spirituality path for quite some time now. I do my best to lead by example. One of the reasons I re-started my blog was to keep myself accountable. If I wrote about something, I would find a way to practice it. No matter how good the idea is, if I know in my heart I would not follow my own advice, I would not post about it.
There’s always risk in unmasking yourself and being vulnerable. People SEE you. But, that’s the point of this isn’t it? To open myself up to the world, in hopes that me helping myself, and being truthful to myself somehow helps others. We generally want to feel like we have made a difference. No matter how small.
I try to keep all my stuff about positivity and strength. I want to put things out there that motivate people and not get them down. But I find when we share our weaknesses, people can feel less alone. When I hear about something I can relate to, I feel less of a freak (lol…not much less, but a little less)
Today’s post is dedicated to the darker side. The side that I want to pretend that doesn’t exist at times because, well I’m supposed to be spiritual, nah? Well I am. I would never go out of my way to hurt someone. I do my best to be empathetic, however sometimes I just want to look at a person square in the eye and tell them to shove a light bulb up their ass so they can brighten the fuck up (ironic…I know).
I’m finding that I’m having a really hard time dealing with negativity or constant unwarranted and unsolicited feedback from people. Like it’s bringing to surface the “uglier” sides of me that I sometimes wish I could just erase. I know I know I preach loving yourself completely. And weirdly I do. It’s kind of like a child that misbehaves, you may not like that kid’s actions, however you still LOVE them.
It’s kind of the same thing here. I don’t like when my ego starts acting up. I don’t like it when I get rubbed in a way I get triggered to FEEL less compassionate. But, I’m still learning. I don’t think this part of me will ever disappear, but I know I’ll get better at cohabiting with it.
These aren’t parts of me I THRILLED about, however, these parts of me are good cues to turn inwards. WHY do certain behaviours irrationally piss me off? Why am I triggered when certain things happen? Why do I want to completely distance myself from certain individuals? It may mean that I just need to stay away, or it may mean that there is a part of me that needs to heal.
Only time will tell. Patience young grasshopper.
If you have any advice on how you handled these kinds of situations, I would love to hear!
Picture this - two people stuck on opposite ends of a deserted island. One survives until help comes and the other just complains about how hard and unfair life is. . They're both dealt the SAME cards. What's the difference? What they chose to do while they were there. They were both in shitty situations. One just decided to make the most of it. . Perspective is EVERYTHING. . I talk about power a lot because we've been conditioned to live in victim mode. And honestly it's a cop out. . I was there. And it's pure bullshit. . Of course there are things outside of your control (like the past). And there's nothing you can do about those events. . BUT you can choose what to do with what you're given. THAT is your power. . That's like life. We ALL face shit on a constant basis. The question is...are you gonna use that shit as fertilizer to grow your garden...or just complain that it stinks? . The choice is yours, love 😘 #selflove #hope #spiritual #journey #momentum #mindfulness #imperfect #igotyou #igotme #empower #faith #vulnerability #resilience #strength #fitness #yoga #meditation #girlswholift #liftheavy #grateful #honesty #integrity #toughlove
Being spiritual, in my opinion has nothing to do with being "nice". . What is nice? Smiling when you don't feel like smiling? Put others before you? Being agreeable? Act in a way that is expected of you? In a way that is socially accepted? Fuck that. Spirituality, in my humble opinion is about truth. YOUR truth. And that truth may not vibe with everyone. But as long as you are true to you...you will attract the right energy. . The world can turn it's back on you...but don't you ever turn your back on yourself to hold on to acceptance from the world. . Of course, do not harm, but absolutely take no shit. . It's no one's job to like or understand you. It's your job to like and understand yourself to the point where you don't NEED anyone else to. It's just a bonus if they do 💋 #love #selfimprovement #selflove #momentum #mindfulness #girlswholift #liftheavy #yoga #meditation #health #wellness #healing #balance #fitness #stronger #spiritual #honesty #vulnerability
I'm not asking sweetheart. I've learned that asking puts the power in someone else's hands. I'm telling you how you need to treat me if you want the privilege of my presence in your life 💋 Love yourselves ladies. You have no idea how powerful you are ❤ #love #selfimprovement #selflove #grateful #hope #love #spiritual #journey #strength #youcandoit #yoga #meditation #igotme #igotyou #liftheavy #fitness #girlswholift #igotme #igotyou #motivation #empower #faith #vulnerability #resilience #knowyourworth
It's a great idea to have a vast array of outlets for your creativity. It gives us a chance to express ourselves and relate to others with similar interests. I also find it rejuvenates me when I'm feeling stagnant. Admittedly I have let a lot of my projects slide over the last little bit...but recent interactions with a few beautiful souls have inspired me to let my creative juices flow again ❤ #selfimprovement #selflove #momentum #mindfulness #girlswholift #liftheavy #yoga #meditation #health #wellness #healing #balance #woman #girlpower #wegotthis #wontstop #igotme #empower #igotyou #motivation #create #creativity
No matter what aspect of your life...the moment you start slacking and getting lazy, you're most likely going to lose whatever it is you took for granted. . You're gonna have to restart anyways if you want whatever it is back (relationship, health, weight...) . So why not keep working with the same enthusiasm as when you first started so you maintain it. 💪❤ . #selfimprovement #selflove #honesty #integrity #vulnerability #resilience #strength #fitness #yoga #meditation #girlswholift #liftheavy #girlswithtattoos #hope #spiritual #journey #momentum #mindfulness #imperfect #empower #Focus #balance #vulnerability #journey #loveyourbody
I’d like to offer a perspective of how I have learned to view anxiety and depression. This paradigm works like a charm for me. It’s not positive thinking or fluffing things up. I genuinely believe it with all of my heart. . I believe for me anxiety and depression have turned out to be great teachers. They have become very significant aspects of who I am. I’ve come to realize that without the level of discomfort these things provided me with, I would NOT have grown. . I would have been complacent. I would have been fine with status quo. I would have allowed others to dominate, rule and lead me. Because in all honesty that is how I was raised. I was raised be unwaveringly obedient. To listen to any other authority but myself. I was raised to be a “good girl”. But my soul wanted none of that. My soul wanted me to forge my OWN path. She wanted me to become in line with me. And that’s where the anxiety and depression come in. It forced me to find ways to deal with the discomfort. I couldn’t be OK with where I was because it was too fucking uncomfortable. When you’re gasping for air, when you’re sitting alone in your car crying like a mad woman, when you’re so weak that you can’t really do much, and when you hate everything about your life, you start to question EVERYTHING. . You try to find a way to NOT feel that. So first it was unhealthy coping strategies. Whatever gave me temporary relief I clung to it like my life depended on it. But after a while, they start adding more problems – so now you have to deal with that on top of everything else. . So then I turned to healthy, wholesome strategies. And one day I realized, if it wasn’t for my depression or anxiety, I may not be leading a healthy lifestyle. I may have set myself up for a life of chronic illnesses that I am genetically disposed to. . In a way, it saved me. It saved my health, and it changed the path of my life. . #love #selfimprovement #selflove #hope #spiritual #journey #mindfulness #gift #fitness #yoga #meditation #girlswholift #liftheavy #girlswithtattoos #strength #youcandoit #motivation #empower #emotions #compass #insight #serenity #balance #youcandoit #igotme #igotyou
