I have been with my partner since April 2016 and we have known each other since late August 2009 when I was a freshman in high school. Now we are 23 and 26. I am a Sagittarius Sun and he an Aquarius Sun. Harmonious most of the time.
Last year, we had our daughter. It was an unplanned pregnancy and we were scared to death. We waited till we were 20 weeks into the pregnancy to tell his parents. We literally just handed over the ultrasound picture on the 4th of July. He never wanted children. I already had a daughter and son from a prior relationship who I was trying to regain custody of. It was not perfect timing. It was stressful. Yet we persevered and now our baby girl is 9 months old.
So, how do we not get tired with one another? Well, we are both independent. We each have our own interests. He plays D&D and Pathfinder and video games. I am more artsy with blogging and crochet and design. When we do talk it’s mostly about shared interests. Disney and MLP, for instance. We both love adventure and thinking outside the box. We definitely are non-conformists. We never bore of each other because someone is always saying something new or coming up with something new. We listen to each other (even if I have to repeat myself. At least he admits when he isn’t listening.) Also, we respect each other and trust each other. Sharing memes and music is fun, too. Our relationship is based on fun.
At the beginning, most of the issues we faced dealt with my insecurity. Over time though I learned I could trust him. I knew he wouldn’t break my trust like my exes have. It took some time, but we are good and going strong.
I think that is a major factor into why relationships dissipate. One person or both just cannot let go of the way things have happened in the past and project their fears into a new relationship. Essentially, these people also are drawing in the same partner in a different form each time. It falls under the Law of Attraction.
Another factor to consider is if both people are in it for the long run. Some people want long-term commitment. Some people prefer one-night-stands and hook-ups. Whichever you choose is up to you. It is completely up to you and your partner. Never try to trap anyone, though. It doesn’t work and is abusive.
In my current relationship, we never really officially said “we’re dating.” It just sort of happened. He asked me to go out to the movies to see Zootopia. He had already seen it a couple of times prior and loved it. I was hesitant at first because I was living with my ex and we were still married. My ex was abusive and I needed a break for a day at least. My friend also convinced me to go. I count that day to be the official date we started dating.
I don’t regret moving forward with my life. Sure, the circumstances weren’t ideal, but there never really is an ideal time to jump into a relationship. If it happens, then it happens. That said, I am fully committed to my partner. I am happy with him and he is happy with me.
I do want to note I have been in long-term relationships before and hook-ups before. I have seen both sides and experienced them.
If you are in an abusive situation, then leave. I know how it feels to feel like you will never get out, but you will find a way somehow, often through a friend or family member.
Also, not every argument is a bad one or abusive, but they can be. It is all about communication. About blending two completely separate lives into one. Never assume what your other half is thinking, feeling, or doing, no matter how similarly you think.
I hope this helps clarify your questions. Sorry if I got too serious. Lol.
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