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At Target this lady told her son he couldn’t have a Wonder Woman doll because “that’s for girls” and then bought her daughter the same one. It got me thinking about how often I see people bar young boys from appreciating girls/women as protagonists and heroes, and my own experience with it as a kid.

ginazmemeoir

SPREAD IT AROUND

abovobee

Camp camp but with reALLY HUGE TREES

kidkitthekingslayer

The fact that nobody is talking about Secret’s new commercials pisses me off

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This makes me so happy ☺️

iamhannalashay

Yesssss😭 I damn near cried

jaxuhmillion

I LOVE THIS OMFG

taylorzrealm

YOOOOOOOOOOO THATS AMAZING!!!!!

saiasus

trufflebootybuttercream-deactiv

Can someone help me understand I wanna cry to ..I feel something went over my head

writingsandwonders

The woman in the bathroom is trans and is scared that if she comes out of the stall the women that walked in will insult or harass her. but when she comes out they compliment her on her dress instead. The add ends with saying “stress tested for women.” It means Secret is including trans women in their definition of women.

viragon

I have reblogged this three times now, each one mentioning the fact that Secret not only included a trans woman, but that they /had the other women compliment her dress and treat her with respect/. I will reblog this every time I see it because it’s so important. More companies should involve trans people in their marketing - we do exist. Props to Secret for getting in on this movement. It makes me really happy to see more of the trans community represented in daily television.

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Reblog the shit out of this

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This is literally the last month you can reblog this joke

gayemo

op u were wrong you can reblog this any month of 2020

repostzilla

greatmindquotes

Companionship is a foreign concept to some people. They fear it as much as the majority of people fear loneliness. - Criss Jami

momosweetpeach

Monster Omens comic I’ve been meaning to do for a while!

Crowley’s hell, lol

graduallywatermellon

Hey so "all men are trash" posts help terfs

I'll explain if one of you want

graduallywatermellon

Know what fuck it explaining as soon as I get off mobile this is important and I'm pissed and I need you people to hear it

graduallywatermellon

so i’m trans and i have been spoon feed this shit for years

There are more, but you get the idea. If you’ve been on this website, or any website really, you’ll know just how much of everywhere this is. You can not escape it. Men are Trash and Pigs and all that good stuff. Recently, I found “Where’d you go?” a comic by Jason Porath, the man behind the Rejected Princesses book about a nightmare he’s been having since 2016 that seems, at least a little, connected to the “All men are trash” thing. Reading this kind of made me realize something about myself; all these All men are trash posts have given me internalized transphobia. I Actively hate myself for not being cis. For giving up womanhood to join the side of evil. And it’s not like i hate any other trans people, yall are great, it’s just me, and it’s my first time really realizing what internalized transphobia feels like or means. What makes it worse is this is something TERFs what. For those (lucky) few who have avoided TERFs, they are Trans Exclusionary Radical Feminists. They hate Trans Men for betraying woman by becoming part of the problem and they hate Trans Woman for being Men “pretending” to be woman to hurt them. They’re the kind of people making all the “If we let trans woman use the right bathroom they’ll assault cis woman!!!” stuff. Trashy people who think trashy things that only hurt people. But they made me have their ideology. So, how many people in the above screenshots are TERFs or Radfem? 3. And those are only the ones who say it on their blogs. 3 out of 5 of the screenshots are from TREFs or Redfem and these are just the first few post i saw when I searched up “All Men are Trash.” This shit is everywhere I feel awful I hate myself They won I hope you all are happy

graduallywatermellon

a bonus:

note is in response to this

graduallywatermellon

Listen. Please share this. There are already trans guys in the notes saying this is important. Listen to us.

graduallywatermellon

Hate to make a long post longer but here are some important takes from the notes

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I have a friend who is constantly racked with guilt about being attracted to women since he started transitioning because posts like this have taught him that men’s attention to women is always predatory. I have friends who are cis dudes who feel the same way. I have a transfemme friend who constantly questions whether they are actually just fetishizing women because being “socialized male” means they can never unlearn the predatory nature of their AGAB.

This sort of thinking also trains straight and bi women to expect to get treated like shit by their partners instead of believing that men are compassionate, kind, generous people who should be expected to treat their partners well.

And, not to get all “what about cis people” on this but there are young teen boys on this blogging platform who are learning that they are “trash” simply for looking at or being attracted to women and there are adult men on this platform who are trying to turn themselves inside out to try to “make up” for their maleness and framing men as terrible, unsafe, selfish, bad people is the exact kind of gender essentialist bullshit that says all women are compassionate and good communicators and naturally maternal caregivers.

It’s crap! It’s garbage!

You can write off all cops as bad because they all looked at an abusive, corrupt system and went “I want to be a part of that.”

If you write off “men,” the type category, fifty fucking percentish of the goddamned species, as trash you’re looking at a little boy or a black father or an autistic teen or a gay pensioner or even just a totally run of the mill cis straight white dude and saying “you were born wrong.”

And you know what, for fucking YEARS I’ve been saying “feminism benefits men too” and “feminism helps everyone” and there has been this loud minority of utter fucking assholes saying that men are trash and there’s no such thing as misandry and I’ve been trying to say “yeah, okay, those people are assholes but they’re not really a huge part of the movement” and but now it seems like their shitty ideas about purity culture have crossed over to the mainstream and their shitty sex negativity has crossed over to the mainstream, and radical feminism in general and TERFs in particular are brimming with misandry that is an exact fucking mirror to the misogyny of blackpilled incels and we are very calmly letting it infect our discourse and discredit our philosophy.

ALSO all of this bullshit broadcasts and spreads the idea that women must always be protected from men (which is exactly how JK Rowling justifies her transmisogyny) which does NOTHING to accomplish the equality that feminism is nominally about.

“Men are trash” and “kill all men lol” is a memeified, gender-swapped version of Mike Fucking Pence refusing to meet with women unsupervised because they might contaminate or tempt him.

And it *also* paves over the shitty, rapey, abusive, power imbalanced, oppressive things that women do. “If men are trash and women aren’t then clearly the abuse or sexual assault I’m suffering from my female partner must be *different* in some way because she’s not harming me through patriarchy or oppression.”

nyanifesto

The idea that men are evil and dangerous was something I internalized deeply very early. It took me years to recognize my dysphoria, because I thought that hating yourself for being born male was normal and logical. To this day I exhaust myself trying to take up as little space as possible, to make sure I’m not threatening anyone. It’s fucking awful.

jadensilver

Just seeing the way people treat men has me terrified of what it will be like when I can finally pass.

sfitty

Life saving tip for trans men: If you have a friend that says this shit, but they're also like "oh but you're okay", do not fucking trust that.

You can translate it as "I will never see you nor treat you like a man" or "You get spared because you aren't there yet" depending on the circumstance.

Best just to leave them behind. Which is hard, I know, because friends are hard to come by these days, but it's for your own good.