bender

little gay boy dating joel miller

[millersfirefly]

“even at my worst?” “even at your worst.”

bender | it/he | 20

joel miller’s boyfriend

carrd byf

[creatingblackcharacters]

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Lesson 1: "White Man Painted Black"?

Lesson 1.5: "Hair for Thought"- how visualizing affects your writing

Lesson 2: “That One Hairstyle? RETIRE IT!” Black Hair is an Art (pt.1)

Lesson 2.1: Addendum to Hair pt 1

Lesson 2: "It Takes HOW LONG?" Black Hair is an Art (pt.2)

Application! Examples of Protective Hair Coverings

Application! Ice's Lazy Loc Wash Routine

Application! How to: Simplified Braid

Application! Daisy E's Simplified Hair Drawing

Lesson 3: "Defying the Default"- Skin Tones and the Presence of Black Characters

Application! What are Black fans looking for in Commissions?

Lesson 4: "Do Black People Blush?" Bringing brown complexions to life

Application! Humanæ- Resource for Skin Palettes!

Lesson 5: "The Same Place As the Music" Lighting & Color

Lesson 6: "Let's Have A Talk, First" Stereotypes, pt 1

Lesson 6: “Why’s she so rude?” (She’s Not)- Stereotypes, pt 2

Lesson 6: "Is He the Threat (Or Are You?)"- Stereotypes, pt 3

Application! How to Spot a Stereotype: An Example

Lesson 7: "That's the Black one!"- Imagery and "Black-Coded" Characters

Lesson 8: “Across cultures, darker people suffer most. Why?” Multiethnic and Multicultural Blackness

Lesson 9: “Romance Will Not Solve Racism”- Interracial/Biracial/Blended Black and White Relationships and Families

Lesson 10: “The Ambiguously Brown Character™”- The Attachment to Eurocentric Beauty Standards

Lesson 11: “No, That’s Not ‘How Color Works’.” - Whitewashing

Lesson 12: “The bulging eyes and the twisted mouth” - Violence, Violent Imagery & Black Horror

Lesson 13: “It’s Giving” AAVE, and the Denied Yet Undeniable Impact of Black Culture

[orangechickenpillow]

Love the idea of Ellie holding a grudge against Tommy because "Joel is myyyyy best friend not yours" UNTIL she actually gets to know Tommy and then she's like "Joel who? Tommy is my favorite brother now"

[barlowstreet]

I'm a big fan of the "Joel likes Tommy better :(" to "Wait Tommy likes ME better???" pipeline :P

[ompatildudooor]

hiii!

💌 Announcement to participants of the Valentine's Day Selfshipping event 💌

Reminder that January 20 is the last day to save your selfship / oc x canon references to the Drive file. If they do not save them, unfortunately they will be dropped from the event and the couples will be formed again!

If you don't know who your secret friend, please go to my blog, there you will find the couples!

Drive file:

[yomi345345345]

JOEL MILLER THE MAN YOU AREEEEEEEE

[aisha-stark]

Joel Miller in my style

[pedropascalpng]

joel miller <3

[coping-gutss]

For selfshippers with PTSD:

Your F/O understands. They don't think you're overreacting. They know what you went through was horrible. And they would NEVER think that you deserved it.

If you have bad nightmares or flashbacks, they'll comfort you.

If you have external triggers, they'll help you avoid any reminders of it.

And if you need to traumadump, they'd let you. No matter how many times you told them what happened. All because they love you.

You're more than what happened. Your F/O knows that. They will be there for you throughout everything. Both your highs and lows. You're not a burden to them. Never were, never will be♡

[wocs]

why are yall always mistagging shit and putting your thoughts and text posts into the ‘x reader’ when it’s not fanfic…… and idc if im being mean, i dont care about you, i want to read a fic and that takes forever to be done and find one bc yall are putting random shit in a tag where it doesnt need to be. get a damn diary

[ellies-enrichment]

[ams-wife-deactivated20260104]

i still get this question to this day. asking for PERMISSION to draw my actual ROMAN EMPIRE. you sweet amazing individuals so. just to let people know

rb this if u are okay with people drawing your selfship!!! this post is their permission slip!!!

pr✧ship + variants dni...

[mandrillluxurious]

i like the new aesthetic of perverts but i'm really gonna miss pd and inbred. gods country music video is just so perfect and so much of her old stuff is just so good. idk if i'll like this new project.

that's totally fine! there's nothing wrong with liking an artist's older work. but, i think it's important to not make assumptions without actually having the album yet. we're all gonna have to wait till january to make our judgements. you never know, you may end up preferring it! artists progress, their sound changes - for some people, that's a good thing, for many other people, that's not so good. for example, i really love lana del rey's older albums, even as far into the may jailer era (sirens is one of my faves ngl), and i'm not the biggest fan of her newer stuff but that's just what comes with liking an artist! not everything is going to appeal and that's okay! don't force yourself to like something you don't lmao :)) for now, though, i think it's important to not make any rash opinions and wait to see where she goes with the album. bask in the excitement instead of worrying!!

[sobadbad]

The Last Of Us Season 2 April 2025

[millersfirefly]

i went absolutely apeshit on twitter after seeing the new trailer . im insane . im unwell . im autistic . im gay

[ompatildudooor]

💌 Official call to participate in Secret Valentine 2025 for Yumeships / Selfshipping / OC X Canon! 💌

Please, if you want to participate, first read the rules and then fill out the form that I will leave at the end!

You can participate by donating a drawing or a piece of writing, but please be responsible! from the moment you fill out the form you have to commit to delivering your gift, nobody wants to be left without a gift on Valentine's Day! So please be responsible with this.

Your secret Valentine will be chosen completely at random, you may get a complete stranger! (For non-sharing users, we will try to make sure that your secret valentine is NOT another user with the same f/o as you. In the form, you can answer the questions regarding your status! this way, we avoid bad times 💗)

I will personally give you the username of your Secret Valentine (so please make sure you have messages available, if I can't send you a message I won't be able to communicate with you) and at the same time I will provide you with a Drive File which will have a folder for you, this way you can leave the necessary references of your yumeship / selfship / oc x canon, and also in the same file you can see the references of your Secret Valentine!

In your folder, make sure to leave all the references you consider necessary; references of your f/o, references of your oc / selfinsert, references of the dynamics of your yumeship / selfship / oc x canon, references of poses you would like! (don't be too picky with the last one, remember that it's a gift! 💗)

When you have the gift for your Secret Valentine you must send it to me through this gmail: [email protected]

In the Gmail you have to specify that it is for the Secret Valentine 2025 event! also add:

your username

the username of your Secret Valentine

The delivery deadline is February 13, 2025! I will post and deliver the gifts on February 14 💓 (I need you to send it to my Gmail since all the gifts will go to another Drive file so you can download them in better quality!)

I guess that's it! 💓 If you have any questions, you can leave them in the comments of this post or in a private message!

If after reading the rules you are interested in participating, here is the Google form 💌

💌 Tumblr Secret Valentine 2025 💌

This form is to confirm your participation in the Secret Valentine! 💟 by: @ompatildudoor

It is mandatory to fill out the form to confirm your participation! I will only take into account users who have filled out the form.

The form closes on January 10th, on January 11th I will be sending messages to let you know who your Secret Valentine.

[needlekind]

filterable picrew database!

original post updated march 7 2024

hey pals!! i'm working on a filterable, tagged collection of picrew i like. right now there's over 100 picrew (and other such makers such as those from neka or meiker) in there with tags for things like fashion, hair options, skin colors, specific features like horns or headscarves, and body types. you can search for multiple tags at a time and filter out tags you don't want. the whole thing is organized in a big grid of sample results from the picrew in question, so you can see the style at a glance and click it for more images and the url, but you can change the view and organization system however you like.

the link is here!!! feel free to share this wherever. i'm still going through my folders and adding more makers, so expect lots of updates real soon.

i'm hoping this makes it easier for people to find picrew that suit them and their characters, especially in cases where it's unfortunately harder to find certain features like dark skin options and fat bodies.

really important notes:

i do not take requests for additional tags. sorry!! please understand that every time i want to use a new tag, i have to manually go into every maker in the entire backlog and check to see if they have it. it's a pain! it takes a while! there's only one of me! the only circumstance under which i'm willing to add a new tag is if you're willing to go through the backlog and link me every picrew that needs the tag, and i can use it going forward.

if something is tagged wrong, i need to know which maker it is so i can fix it. you need to tell me! the most useful way to send me a specific picrew is a direct link, or the artist name (which will be the title when you click into the item in the database). sometimes i get vague comments like "there are makers in x tag that don't fit" and no one EVER follows up with which ones they are so i can't FIX IT.

one big thing that you can do to help me with this database is take one of the links on my tba page and tell me what tags apply to it. literally just one! enough folks see and use this resource that just a few people taking one takes a load off my plate.

💖🍵 if this resource has been useful for you, consider sending me a tip on ko-fi!!

have fun!!!! i hope this is helpful for people!!!

[millersfirefly]

i’ll remake my pinned and carrd soon for the new year #trust