my thoughts on dean and castiel
No one asked for this, but my blog is purely to get things off my chest, so, here's to the rare people who care. So, to start: I've been a fan of Supernatural for, I don't know, ten years? Maybe more? And I've always had complicated feelings about Dean and Cas, especially when I saw how people on the internet felt about them.
I never saw romance as a teen and I still don't. I see something that is "profound" like Cas says, but it never strays into romantic territory because it's just not written that way to me. "Gay subtext" aside or whatever, I just didn't see it that way.
Shippers can have their cake. I just feel like... a man and a male-presenting vessel with an angel inside can have a strong relationship without it being romantic.
Dean inspired Castiel to think for himself, to question authority and, well, God. He represents the best of humanity because he's willing to risk his life for the many, he's willing to stand up to angels to save a town of innocent people and he's loyal to his brother like most of the angels are to each other. They have a great deal in common and a lot of differences at the same time. Dean himself calls Cas a brother and I think that while there is a intimacy that they have unlike many other relationships, it's not romantic, it's, again, profound. Castiel represents the angels that were supposed to have been watching over Dean when he was a baby, like his mother always told him before bed. Cas represents the idea of there being good besides hunters. Also, Cas saw Dean in his most vulnerable moments because of the lack of barriers, such as raising him from Hell, knowing what he did down there, knowing what he's dreaming about, knowing how much responsibility weighs on his shoulders and acknowledging it. Cas basically guided Dean through the post-Hell life and had his back. Before Cas, Dean was always helplessly calling John, dealing with things by himself (which would end in self-destructive moments) and staring helplessly into the sky, crying.
"The Monster At The End Of This Book" is a prime example of what Cas means to Dean. He feels helpless, as always, because Sam seems to be in bed with evil again, or he's at risk of using his powers and going too far. He's upset and pissed off and Cas initially claims he can't do anything. He can't interfere. But with a smirk, he tells him, in a roundabout way, how to save Sam from Lilith. Dean breathes out in relief and thanks him, before leaving to do just that.
Cas eliminates Dean's constant helplessness, most of the time.
As for the sexuality conversation...
While I think Dean's sexuality could be dissected all day by people, Jensen played him as straight and it plays out that way. What fans misunderstand as cues of his bisexuality is Eric Kripke (and other writers) quite terribly ridiculing certain things about masculinity and gayness. Dean being flustered that a guy at the bar would hit on him isn't him being flustered because he's excited, it's him being unaccustomed to being seen as a potential date by a guy. It's him thinking "what about me says that I'm gay?" He doesn't want to be perceived as gay because he was a typical straight guy born in the 70's. The jokes about him and Sam being assumed to be a couple is a very 2005-2007 dig that was played up at the time.
Also, the idea of internalised homophobia be damned, Dean knew himself pretty damn well and after taking on Satan, he would've been out of the closet and done as he wanted, even if it was in secret. If they wanted to do a Deadpool/Peacemaker kind of thing where he's masculine badass but still bisexual, they could have, easily. But they didn't. Dean only hooked up with women. He had the hetero male-crushes that men tend to have, like Dr Sexy, but it didn't mean he was bisexual. He liked Dr Sexy because he wanted to be like him, it seemed. Cowboy boots and sleeping with nurses. Sounds like him.