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Game of Thrones Daily
Love Begins
Janaina Medeiros
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Sweet Seals For You, Always
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izzy's playlists!
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NASA
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@missxnoir
If you lack discipline, you also lack:
Consistency Focus Progress Self control Confidence Time management Achievement Accountability Motivation Reliability Resilience Healthy habits Financial stability Structure Emotional regulation Work ethic Clarity Purpose
Discipline isn’t just about goals or career. It’s about you & the relationship you have with yourself.
Folks with this whole "you're old once you hit 25" mentality are just buying into a repackaged "you need to have your life figured out by 18 and if you're not successful by 22 you're a failure" load of shit. Like....bruh, life doesn't end at 25. Idk how to tell you that the time limit you're silently imposing on yourself and your peers is largely responsible for your dissatisfaction with your life. Stop living your life like happiness has an expiration date. It doesn't.
RECLAIMING DISCIPLINE CAN LOOK LIKE:
• keeping small + manageable promises to yourself daily
• healing your attention span (ex: reading books, watching movies without scrolling, letting yourself be bored)
• moving from "I'll try" to "I will"
• reframing pain + difficulty as often where the growth happens
• showing up as the person you want to be
• making mindful & nourishing choices VS choices that result in instant gratification
even a small win is a win and learn to appreciate yourself for it.
My past self would be so proud of the woman I've become. My achievments, my assertiveness, my determination and endless regenerative power. I've healed from everything life has thrown at me. I've climbed up from rock bottom no matter how many times I've fallen.
Lumen, a harsh truth you’ve learned this year?
Nothing is permanent. People will leave your life. Friendships. Relationships. Jobs. Nothing good comes from getting attached to people or things. Life’s just a train ride where you meet people briefly, have amazing adventures, and then part ways forever and the ride goes on. Don’t get me wrong, it’s okay to love people, deeply, insanely, profoundly. But always remember you don’t own anything or anyone, it’s all an experience in this theatre stage of life. Detach and savour the adventure.
unhealthy self development mindset: believing you have to change and become “better” due to low self worth and believing you aren’t good enough; creating goals to meet external ideas of “success” in the hopes others will accept and admire you to give you the self worth you’re missing 🥀
healthy self development mindset: taking the steps to improve your mindset, skills, and lifestyle in a way that supports your biggest dreams from a place of self worth because you truly believe you deserve your dream life; developing the image of your dream life based on genuine introspection and desire to live a life of purpose and fulfilment 🌹
Always present yourself well: being clean, smelling good, having your hair done, great jewels and a simple but well fitting outfit is better than having your makeup done. Be kind, but step up for yourself. Set boundaries. No means no. Don’t over explain yourself, ever. To anyone. Do not lower your standards. Be honest, own your personality, never be ashamed of anything.
I was forwarding these to a friend and figured it’d be worth sharing them all here too so enjoy some free books and essays and things in no particular order:
Jeanette Winterson - Art Objects
Does Your Daughter Know It’s Okay To Be Angry? - Soraya Chemaly
Braiding Sweetgrass - Robin Wall Kimmerer
Zami, Sister Outsider, Undersong - Audre Lorde
Garments Against Women - Anne Boyer
Laziness Does Not Exist - Devon Price
Learn Socialism Resources
Do Economists Actually Know What Wealth Is? - Nathan J. Robinson
Love Dialogue: CÉLINE SCIAMMA on Portrait of a Lady on Fire - Carlos Augilar
Teaching To Transgress - Bell Hooks
Sexing the Cherry - Jeanette Winterson
Sinister Wisdom Archives
Why Pop Culture Links Women and Killer Plants - Amandas Ong
How To Suppress Women’s Writing - Joanna Russ
Women’s Voices Now
The Life of Tove Jansson
Unbearable Weight; Feminism, Western Culture and the Body - Susan Bordo
‘A Simple Favour’ and That Whole Lesbian Psycho Thing - Ciara Wardlow
OUTWEEK Archives
AirPods Are a Tragedy - Caroline Haskins
Devotions - Mary Oliver
Go Tell It On The Mountain - James Baldwin
Nevertheless, She Feasted: Why Girls Get Hungry in Horror Movies - Francesca Fau
Written on the Body - Jeanette Winterson
Sula - Toni Morrison
Not Vanishing - Chrystos
The Fever - Wallace Shawn
Portrait of a Lady on Fire director Céline Sciamma: ‘Ninety per cent of what we look at is the male gaze’ - Alexandra Pollard
Minimalism Is Just Another Boring Product Wealthy People Can Buy - Chelsea Fagan
AIDS, Art and Activism: Remembering Gran Fury - John d’Addario
In the Day of the Postman - Rebecca Solnit
Blood and Guts in Highschool - Kathy Acker
Mark My Words: The Subversive History of Women Using Thread as Ink - Rosalind Jana
Exploring Frida Kahlo’s Relationship With Her Body - Rebecca Fulleylove
Ravens have paranoid, abstract thoughts about other minds - Emily Reynolds
The Lady in the Looking Glass - Virginia Woolf
Angela Carter talks beauties and beasts with Terry Jones
A Girl is a Half-Formed Thing - Eimear McBride
Why Female Cannibals Frighten and Fascinate - Kate Robertson
Lesbian Herstory Archives
Bartleby
Guggenheim Books
We Are Lisa Simpson: 30 Years with the Smartest and Saddest Kid in Grade Two - Sara David
On Beauty - Zadie Smith
Her Body and Other Parties - Carmen Maria Machado
How Millennials Became The Burnout Generation - Anne Helen Petersen
KIND REMINDERS 🤍
1. You are someone’s dream girl exactly the way you are right now.
We put so much emphasis on growth and getting to that “next best place”, which is fine, but we always forget that we deserve self-love as we are right now. It does not mean that you aren’t at your “best” physically and/or mentally that you aren’t deserving of love, kindness, and respect.
2. Perspective is everything
Stop stressing over that one bad grade you received at school. In ten years, you won’t even remember what teacher gave it to you. Focus your energy on things that’ll have lasting impacts. When you look back on your life, you want to see the beauty of it, not the anguish.
3. Growth isn’t linear
Don’t blame yourself for messing up. We aren’t perfect and we are bound to mess up every once in a while. Learn from your mistakes, and try to not repeat them. And if you do, that’s okay, there’s always another time. Growth has no time limit.
4. You are not a bad person
If you are sitting here constantly asking yourself if you are a bad person or underserving of love, I’m here to tell you one thing: bad people don’t worry about whether they are perceived as “good” or “bad”. Give yourself grace, and stop letting your overthinking consume you.
So much love,
A girl unfiltered 💋
be aware of what you consume:
the energy of others: surround yourself with positive people and avoid those who drain you.
the videos you watch: select content that inspires, educates or entertains you in a healthy way.
what you read: look for reliable sources and material that enriches you intellectually.
who you follow: follow people who inspire and challenge you to grow.
what you scroll through on social media: avoid negative content and look for something that motivates you or makes you feel good.
the news: look for objective sources of information and avoid information overload.
highlights of others: compare less and celebrate more the achievements of others.
the advice you listen to: evaluate advice according to your criteria and needs.
source: @zamirasaba
It might be fun when he’s messaging you all night, and you have nothing else going on. But what about when he stops messaging you and you still have nothing else going on? You are empty. And you are reminded of your emptiness. And the error would be to point at this man as the issue, when the issue in fact is that you have emptiness that is yet to be filled, by you, for you.
Not knowing how to fill yourself and how to prioritise this is often the issue. Who taught you to love on yourself? To put you first? To only give to others when your cup is full? To give only from overflow? Unlikely never was taught. Unlikely you was even aware that living this way was possible.
apps every girlblogger should have ♡
♡ pinterest - my #1 favourite. you can find anything on there. you can save your interests on little boards. my safe space <3
♡ pinterest shuffles - powered by pinterest. create collages from pinterest pictures, and post them! love this, but it's not supported on all devices.
♡ landing - great alternative for shuffles, but has less photos to choose from so you usually have to add them yourself.
♡ study bunny - the cutest app for studing. you get coins when you study, and with them you can buy stuff for your bunny. you can also see your study stats. so motivating and cute!
♡ picsart - a great app for image editing, very easy to use too!
♡ duolingo - such a fun way to learn a language! bite-sized lessons, so not a lot of commitment is needed. i currently have a streak of 555 days of learning french <3
♡ structured - this one is for the extremely productive girls. you can plan your whole day so easily with this!
♡ acloset - remember the dress up scene in clueless? this is it, inside your phone. i've tried like all the digital closet apps out there, and this is the best in my opinion.
♡ libby - all the free audio- and e-books you could ever wish for. use this one constantly, it's so good!
♡ goodreads - to track books you've read and want to read. you can also rate books and read other peoples ratings!
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might add something later if i find something new. have an amazing day, love you ♡
FRIENDSHIP QUESTIONS TO ASK YOURSELF
(NOT ASTROLOGY RELATED)
Advice Post
Do you recieve the same energy when the conversation is about YOUR problems?
I used to have a friend who would call me screaming about her problems and I was always like omg yes absolutely thats horrible!! Asking her questions so she could get it all out of her system etc. But when I had a problem? She barely asked questions and she constantly interrupted me. She was always very quick to change the subject. She never even gave her own opinion on the situation while I would sit there giving her all kinds of advice.
When do they call you?
This same friend always called me when she was angry. She would call me on her lunch break to get it all out. And I would let her because thats what I thought a friend should do. She trauma dumped on me for years before I finally spoke to her about it and later ended the friendship.
What hurt me the most? It was that she did all these fun normal stuff with her other friends like going out for dinners etc. I would see on her Snapchat that she did all those things with others and I would ask her about it and she was like ”oh i forgot to call you i didnt know if you would wanna come”. I dont even think it ever crossed her mind what she was doing to me. I was like a sidechick but in a friendship way😳 So please be honest with yourself, are you the sidechick friend?
Do they hype you up like you hype them up?
Do they hype you up when you tell them good news? Do they hype you up when they see you looking good? Have you ever even recieved a compliment from them? Some people are bad at compliments tho so this one can be ignored if you know your friend have a hard time with stuff like that)
Do they hate on your enemies like you hate on their enemies?
When your friend tells you about that boss they hate you probably back them up even tho you never met that person. But when YOU complain about your teacher thats been horrible to you for 3 years or that boss that keeps on being rude do they hate on them with you? Or do they sound unbothered like ”get over it”.
Do you constantly find yourself wondering if that little joke was a personal dig towards you?
This is a very important one. Do you CONSTANTLY find yourself offended by stuff they said. But then you brush it off like ”No im just sensitive”. Chances are that you are not as sensitive as you think. Try making a change and see if the comments stop. For example when I was unemployed my friend used to always talk shit about unemployed people how ”they” ruin society etc. I was like hmmm and THEN when I got a job the comments just magically disappeared? After I started working full time in a place NOT one single comment about unemployed people.
Are you treated the same as their other friends?
Do they talk to you in the same way they talk to their other friends? Do they invite you to the same things or are you the ”meet up for a cig in the middle of the night but dont hang out with in daylight” friend? Have you met their family like their other friends?
And last but not least… Are they jealous of you?
Sometimes we humble ourselves a little too much. Some people think everyone is jealous of them and those people ruin it for all of us. But do you have a STRONG feeling that they are seriously envying you? They might be.
LOVE YOURSELF
hi zelda! I feel like everywhere I go people disrespect me or are annoyed by me. Its like they dont take me seriously? I have a lot of planets in the 3rd house but I dont talk that much. How do I make people ”respect” me? how i make people look up to me?
Im so sorry. Some people are just rude, they have no right to act this way. I have a friend with a stellium in the 3rd and she sounds a little too nice sometimes and this makes sick people see her as someone to be mean to. The problem is them not you but im going to give you some advice that can make you come across as more respectable ↓
RESPECT ADVICE 🪄
Dont apologize too much when you talk. This is something you might not be aware of but a lot of people say ”sorry” a lot and This can make you come across as insecure and like you are beneath others. (ofc you should say sorry if you do something bad). BUT when you are sorry instead of saying ”omg soooorrryyy I was late! Omg im horrible” Say ”Thank you for waiting for me guys, the bus was late.”
Dont make too many jokes about yourself. Ofc you shouldnt take yourself TOO seriously. But the risk is that if you dont take yourself seriously AT ALL, other people wont either. Dont say stuff like ”Haha Im so stupid, how did I not know that.” Instead say ”Oh really! I didnt know that, now I do, Thank you!” because trust me, people listen to what you say.
If someone is staring you down. Stare back completely quiet. Dont try to break the ice, because trust me. This is a tactic that manipulators often use to see if you will try to break the ice or if you will do the same back. Its a tactic they might not even be aware of themselves. How you handle their stare tells them a lot about how you handle disrespect.
Dont call yourself too many nasty words. Im guily of this myself tho so im not one to speak. Dont call yourself a bitch because you forgot to do something that you said you would do.
How you walk says a lot. If you are walking into the gym for example. Just walk straightly to the locker room. You dont need to look around nervously to see if people are staring at you or not.
Wear clothes that make YOU feel comfortable. Trust me your whole behaviour changes when you wear clothes you actually feel good in. If you only like black clothes, then only wear black clothes. And if someone says ”You should wear more colors” dont say ”Omg I knooooow I shouuuulldd” No, instead you say ”You think so? I feel good in black actually, but YOU look good in your colors”.
Look people in the eye when they talk to you. Dont stare at them in a creepy way tho.
If you dont like a joke dont fake laugh. Say ”What do you mean by that?” Or say ”Thats just uncalled for and distasteful”
Dont fake laugh because you are nervous. It makes you look super nervous and insecure. I did this all the time before. Say something in a straighforward way you dont need to giggle or say ”or i dont know hihi” or ”i sound so crazy right now”.
If someone tells you you look nice dont say ”No I dont” or ”Nooo you look much better” Instead say ”Thank you so much, you look good too!”
If you disagree with something dont say ”I dont knowwwe hehe” say ”I dont agree with you”.
And remember, you are not supposed to make them like you. You are supposed to wonder if YOU like them. Dont walk into a room with the goal of making people like you. They are gonna have to suck up to you! If you grew up in an abusive home all of this will be hard, but try my advice for a month and see the difference 💕
