[ghost-of-luna]

Alright. Like so many people who wind up in this situation, I really did not want it to come to this, but here we are.

I can no longer make rent. I am between jobs, but the job market in my area is not so great, and I am trying. I am disabled and have been in college until recently, I had to take time off due to financial stress — I can’t afford to finish right now.

If anyone would be so kind as to help me pay rent this month, I’m like $200 short right now.

Any contribution is appreciated, and if you want to buy my content you can DM me for those details.

$0/$200

Venmo

Cashapp

[transgendz]

My roomate and I have been trying to escape our dangerous living situation for over a month. We are paying a local bnb host normal rent prices to stay long term, however he's become hostile. Not only that but we need to pay our weekly rent the day after tomorrow and all our resources have gone to keeping us fed while I've been bedbound and sick this week. We have been in this cycle for a while and are losing hope of being able to get out of here. Anything helps and passing this around is very appreciated.

I will do art for anyone who gives $50+ just contact me at my art blog @theartistrans

C: $creepiecrippl

V: @tab-99

Go to paypal.me/creepiecrpple and type in the amount. Since it’s PayPal, it's easy and secure. Don’t have a PayPal account? No worries.

Rent (incl. utilities): $15/$360

Getting out of here + necessities: $0/$1,300

[transgendz]

Rent: $167/$360

[caesthoffe]

One of our siblings was murdered recently, and you need to know about it.

TW // transphobia and violence against trans people

Brianna Ghey was a 16-year-old trans girl from Warrington, England. On Saturday, February 11th 2023, Brianna was found dead on the side of a park with multiple stab wounds. Two 15-year-olds have been taken into custody in connection with her murder.

People in the Warrington area have alleged that Brianna was being bullied in school, and that neither the administration nor the police did anything.

Despite this, local police have said there is no evidence that the attack was hate-based and most news articles don't mention her status as a trans woman. This is deliberate. This is genocide by the hands of transphobes and TERFs.

Britain does not have gender self-identification (your legal gender being determined by how you identify and not any arbitrary medical requirements), meaning even in her death she will be deadnamed and misgendered on her death certificate.

She deserved so much better.

Mourn the dead, and fight like hell for the living.

[infectiouspiss]

a gofundme for her funeral has been set up, please donate if you can, we can’t let her suffer any more than she already has ❤️

[yourenotgettingthisusername]

hii im sorry to make another post like this but i could really use some grocery money😭

c*shapp: $eltigerpuncher

p*ypal: paypal.me/LaurenMcMullins

v*nmo: @Lauren-McMullins

[yourenotgettingthisusername]

ive only got fifteen in my account and im not getting any gig work for the rest of the month please help out if you can🥺

[ecstasydemon]

this joke is so stupid i love it

[midiport]

me when i have to work at the job i applied for

[transgendz]

🚨Help needed!!!🚨

Dm for proof

My roommate and I are homeless, we have exhausted all resources, and we are desperately trying to survive. Before the end of disability pride month, please consider helping two trans, disabled ppl.

We made it to a new, much cheaper BnB. We have 4 more pre-booked and paid for days. The priority now is to raise as much as possible so that I can afford a drs appt to refill my antibiotic prescription needed for my teeth infections, ideally within the next day or two.

On top of this, we still need to raise funds for rebooking and food so that we have the security we desparately need so that I can continue prioritising medical care for my teeth. If we cannot afford rebooking then I will not be able to get help for my teeth which will make everything harder and I've put off getting help for them for far too long already.

$800

(Money for living expenses such as food, BnB, etc.)

$3,600

(money for tooth surgery, and related medical costs like medication, checkup, transportation, etc)

$creepiecrippl

V3nm0: @tab-99

Go to paypal.me/creepiecrpple and type in the amount. Since it’s PayPal, it's easy and secure. Don’t have a PayPal account? No worries.

[cabybapa]

wheeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee

[heathercollinsmd]

fyi for those in Phoenix Arizona: stay away from Target because the Phoenix Police still won't arrest this dude despite it being illegal to declare intention of violence like this 🙃

[heathercollinsmd]

HEY GUYS/GALS/THEY'S I literally hate being the person asking people to reblog something and I scroll past posts that do, but I have been crying tonight about this, because I remember the Pulse shooting where LGBTQIA people lost their lives and the idea of another attack like that terrifies me, so please, because Phoenix has over 1 million people, just reblog? sorry.

[z0mborb]

some of you may've heard about that fancy "bionic reading" typefont thats supposed to be easier for neurodivergent people to read (if you're unfamiliar, it bolds the first few letters of each word to make it easier to follow)

well guess what, its locked behind a $500 a month API to write in because fuck you!

introducing, Not Bionic Reading! it is literally just the bionic reading typefont but for free. god bless neocities

Tech bros are on another world just make a framework like the rest of us.

anyone who can, pls reblog!

[dream-pup]

New dono post coz my other ones lost traction!

So uhh.

Had to buy groceries with money I didn't have so! I'm super in the negative rn!!! I'm a trans sex worker, and before anyone asks I am trying to get a day job!

paypal.me/daydreambear

$dreampup

You can also commission me! Chances are I'll take it at this point <3

[katara]

my last post is dying

Things are getting really hard right now and as i’ve said before me and my family are financially struggling. We’re stuck in the same shitty situation and I’m currently unemployed. Please if you could donate something it would mean the world to us, if you can’t please boost this post!

Ko-fi | Paypal

I don’t have venmo or cashapp, they don’t work internationally.

[vampirejuice-deactivated2019112]

If your apology involves degrading yourself, calling yourself shit or insulting yourself, its not an apology, try again.

[grookeyleaf]

Can someone translate this?

[vampirejuice-deactivated2019112]

Don’t try to guilt people by saying “I’m sorry I fucking suck.” “I’m sorry I’m just the worst and I should die” Because thats not an apology, thats trying to guilt the other person into dropping the subject.

[orangebitters]

Yup.  That’s called Weaponized Remorse.  Basically, you’re avoiding accountability by blowing up a big Feelings Bomb at the person you hurt and going “let’s not focus on what I did or what I should do to make amends, let’s focus on how awful I feel about it all, and how you should make me feel better.”

[aqueerkettleofish]

White Woman Crying Syndrome.

Some of the people doing it are just selfish and insensitive assholes.

Some of the people doing it are selfish and insensitive assholes who are specifically trying to train you to think that trying to tell them what they’re doing wrong is going to involve a Drama Bomb and not resolve anything, so you just shouldn’t bother.

[prof-grace-aspen]

“But I DO feel hurt and upset by the situation I’m apologizing for”

Sure, but the person you’re apologizing to doesn’t want or need to hear about it. Go tell a friend who wasn’t involved. Go tell a therapist. Your spouse. DON’T add it to your apology.

[roach-works]

a lot of people have actually learned that the only way to appease someone who is mad at them (like their parent!) is by showing Genuine Remorse i.e displaying enough of their pain and distress that the person who’s mad at them finally forgives them and goes away. it’s common for people who have been raised by shitty parents or gone through shitty relationships to apologize this way: they really do think that they have to Show Remorse i.e demonstrate a really severe level of emotional distress, to ‘make up for’ their transgression.

it’s manipulative in that it’s preemptively placating someone you expect to be really mad at you and to keep hurting you until they see you’re hurt enough.

if this is part of the reason you include an emotional demonstration with your apology, because you feel like you have to SHOW you’re sorry, try to recognize this reaction and redirect it. most people are uncomfortable with your pain because they themselves will then feel obligated to try and address it, even if they don’t actually want to forgive you yet.

effective apologies to people who don’t want to hurt you are simply an acknowledgement of what you did wrong and a commitment to not doing it again. that’s all.

[roach-works]

i have more to say, it turns out.

as someone who has been repeatedly harassed on the internet: it’s good to consciously pay attention to whether the people seeking your apology want your understanding of what you did wrong, want a confirmation that you won’t do it again, or if they just want you to pay for their feelings.

most of the time when you’re being harassed on the internet, the people just want you to hurt. they’re mad, it’s your fault, they want you to weep and cry and beg for their forgiveness. they want you to suffer and they think they deserve to ask that of you.

giving those people a clear apology that acknowledges what you did wrong, how you learned, and what you’re not going to do henceforth has no effect to people who want you to grovel perpetually. they’ll always say your apology isn’t good enough–or that you didn’t apologize in the first place!–because they want revenge for their own sense of outrage, no matter what their justifications. they will constantly rewind the conversation back to prior points to keep the outrage fresh

pay attention to whether or not people want you to hurt. in many cases they don’t. good friends and partners are distressed by your pain, not satisfied by it. in the cases that someone is demanding your pain as payment for their own, you have no obligation whatsoever to apologize further.

if a sincere apology and an attempt to make amends gets you nowhere, you don’t need to double down, you need to leave.

[cicidraws]

god i love how pitbulls are like

[neopronounsmybelovaed]

The product of my blood, sweat, and tears.

[c0y0t3-dr34mzz]

Hi can i use some of these. I collect pronouns and use them sometimes

[neopronounsmybelovaed]

All pronouns are up for grabs unless specified otherwise!

[adhdbri]

Disclaimer that I am not a professional and this is peer to peer information!!!

While RSD is not recognized as a formal diagnosis, it is understood as an extreme sensitivity to what is perceived as criticism or rejection. There are many theories of what causes RSD, such as being tied to C-PTSD or it being an overreaction of one’s nervous system.

It can affect one’s reaction in many situations, such as they may be quick to jump to conclusions that could hurt their feelings, they may lash out in frustration or anger, they may become a people pleaser and be afraid to say “no” to others in fear of rejection, or they could just withdraw all together.

RSD is not exclusively experienced by ADHD folk and it is important to remember it also shares similar symptoms to conditions like PTSD, BPD, Social Anxiety, Depression, Bipolar Disorder and others. What is usually used to define RSD separately is that while the reactions can be intense, they usually do not last long.

So, what can help RSD? Here are some peer to peer tips:

1.) Clear Communication. Do not be afraid of asking direct questions or asking for clarification when you are not sure how the person you’re speaking with feels. Better to know the answer, if possible, than let your mind make up it’s own negative one.

2.) Take a step back and give yourself some space. If you are feeling overwhelmed, try to remove yourself from the situation, if you can.

3.) Talk to someone you trust. Sometimes we just need to talk it out and get another perspective.

4.) Therapy. Hear me out. While therapy CANNOT fix RSD, a therapist can teach you techniques to help you better understand and process your emotions.

5.) Medication. Some ADHDers have found their medication can help alleviate the symptoms they would associate with RSD. Check with a medical professional if this is the right option for you. Do not self prescribe or self medicate with prescription drugs.

6.) Last, but most importantly, find a supportive community! One of the worst feelings is thinking that you are alone in your RSD struggles, but there are plenty of people out there who experience the same thing. Sharing experiences and having a community to lean on when needed can make all the difference in the world. You are not alone!

[ventingasshole]

the feeling when RSD hits and you start to believe your long time friend hates you, doesn't care about you and hangs out with you only because of pure pity and when they notice your shit fucking mental state and get worried, so you think they're not actually worried but they just don't want to feel responsible for anything bad you'd do to yourself and so you feel like a walking piece of shit but you can't kys because that would upset the friend and you can't talk this over with them because if you're wrong then they will be so fucking hurt because of you and your fucking doubts, moreover you won't believe them anyway because it would be obvious for them to lie