staring at maslow's pyramid of needs like at a picutre of myself and a childhood friend trying to figure out what and where went wrong for us to end up this way.
there is something else in realizing that because your parent grew up in an environment where the maslow's safety and security needs weren't met, they had very limited resources to make it better for you.
i understand that you are and were struggling too but i still was affected by missing everything you could've never give me in the first place.
the very next need is love and belonging. and this is the point where everything falls apart. a parent like that won't care much about your interests nor what you are doing, as long as you are in the house.
you were busy so i sat safely and securely. that was enough for you so you didn't even try to make me feel like i belong. all my physical needs were met but now i am writing this vent with an empty pit for my heart feeling detached from my friends and my partner.
