holy madonna whore complex batman!

♠ Mona/Sheena ♠ ♦ 20s ♦ ♥ has a thing for bassists ♥

[muppetminge]

Once again watched some lesbian movies by women this june; here's a quick rundown:

Late Bloomers (1996), dir. Julia Dyer. gd was this the right movie to start on. immediately reminded of why i even bother <3 gorgeously nineties! love nineties movies sm. so so so much. this is on like desert hearts level For Me (and can praise get any higher than that?). loved this. lovely leads? check. (bouts of) great lines of dialogue? check (it's funny!). great music? naked basketball? check. check. just the right amount of melodrama? check, check. this is what a lesbian movie should be, basically. genuinely adored it.

Life Partners (2014), dir. Susanna Fogel. this has been on my watchlist for like two years and if you're thinking 'because of gillian jacobs?' then you'd be absolutely right gillian was my absolutely only draw to watch this i love her i wish she was a lesbian <- inappropriate sorry but she is my girl and i think she's incredible. not historically the biggest fan of fogel's work (did not give as much of a shit about booksmart as everyone else seems to, but it's.... fine, i guess; winner was alright), but i think this one is probably my favorite of hers? for certain parts it was surprisingly difficult to watch, because gd being a lesbian really does feel like being stuck in some sort of weird stage of arrested development while your straight friends are latching on to boring guys in dorky t-shirts who communicate through big lebowski quotes and you're supposed to act like that's good and normal and you're happy about that meanwhile you're not fucking going anywhere but you are slightly more alone. anyway. the comedic moments definitely work best here - loved the jen(n)s; loved sasha's girlfriends. loved gillian! wished she was gay in this

Gazon maudit (1995), dir. Josiane Balasko. first of all jesus christ victoria abril is gorgeous in this. like i loved her already in atame and kika but she's so peak here gdddd..... genuinely hilarious. i think maybe gorgeous spanish bisexual women should get to have it all. looks amazing too! just how a movie should look. so close to being a perfect movie for me but i (unsurprisingly, i imagine) wasn't overly fond of the last 20-25 minutes. will say i think they did possibly the funniest thing they could have with laurent at the end, which i appreciate <3 side note: not really into tattoos, but i've always thought if i were to get one it'd be something a lot like marie-jo's double venus.

Kajillionaire (2020), dir. Miranda July. kajillionaire is well-made, heartfelt, and, for all intents and purposes executed to a tee. however... i'd not be fair to say i didn't like it, because i suppose i did, more or less (save the sound design, which there is nothing technically bad about, it's just so indie-sounding it makes me want to disengage.) i get why so many people really, really like this. i'm very glad i finished it (even if on an occasion or two i considered not doing so) because gddamn if the last half hour isn't the best. that one scene is the dark? absolutely fucking loved it, real compelling. very happy to see it more or less keeps pace after that! old volio is such a compelling character.

Portrait d'une jeune fille de la fin des années 60 à Bruxelles (1994), dir. Chantal Akerman. having to conclude by now that i like akerman's ideas more than her execution; i think she's a very interesting woman but her movies do not do it for me. i promised myself no coming-of-age movies this year but this one slipped through (because once again i do so little research before watching something #adventurous) and i do have to say that's it's one of the less annoying ones. it's nice and short.

Happiest Season (2020), dir. Clea DuVall. straight up single propaganda - happy i don't have to deal with that shit! was very low on my list but it's accesible and i didn't feel like spending a lot of time finding something. thoughts: it's an entirely serviceable rom-com, moreso on the com part than the rom; holland and brie both have excellent comedic chops (obviously) and for perhaps the first time ever i even found dan levy quite funny and obviously plaza is amazing. kstew (who is great!) and davis have so little chemistry it's almost sterile. you could've probably have cut like 10-15 minutes - can i suggest starting with the melodramatic monologues in the last act? they feel stilted and preachy and, honestly, slightly dated? like a very straight lesbian movie (sorry clea :/). falls very easily into the category of 'movies i could watch with my mom and we'd agree it was pretty alright'. respect clea for stealing ms plaza in the end credits <3

La amiga de mi amiga (2022), dir. Zaida Carmona. first off funny coincidence (slash one hundred percent definite proof of some very impressive clandestine surveilance, totally) christina y los subterreneos' que me parta un rayo popped up on my spotify radio literally a day after watching this. anyway such a fun movie (borderline required viewing?). turns out i do like stylized semi-pretencious indie movies if and only if it's about catalan lesbians. gd i wish i had her problems! for three weeks, anyway... absolute highlight for me was the vignette towards the middle; really feels like a centerpiece. just feels so lived-in and genuine. a spiritual successor to go fish?

Fun Home, Tesori/Kron. no, not a movie - is this cheating? just finished rereading fun home for the first time in years (and read are you my mother for the first time altogether - decidedly not as good and a lot more woo-y [releated points] but i guess i largely enjoyed it) and i sort of needed to revisit the show. i don't think i've seen it since i was a teenager, genuinely but unsurprised to see it still makes me cry (and earlier in than you'd think!)

Jennifer's Body (2009), dir. Karyn Kusama. wanted to watch something fun and thought i'd get this out of the way - famously bad at horror but it's amanda seyfried (who i love love love genuinely my og teenage crush and i still think she's ********) and megan fox (who, controversially, i do quite like sorry for being a bad dyke) so i figured it couldn't be that bad (and was very relieved to find that it both 1. wasn't scary and 2. was pretty funny). we all know male indie bands are evil. as far as i care she should just have let her keep doing all that. they all sort of deserved it. was i supposed to care about chip? i didn't. sick ending though. amanda seyfried the woman you are...

Como Esquecer (2010), dir. Malu De Martino. oh this i love.... it's funny i'm always saying i'm not into slow movies but then sometimes i watch something like this and i'm just enchanted. loooovely dialogue. julia i love you (get over yourself but also... <3). carmen lygia you are the moment.

Montréal, ma belle (2025), Xiaodan He. oh... first of all i wish dating apps actually fucking worked like that. what do you mean it's that fucking easy? feng xia has the patience of a fucking saint with camille's friends because those dykes really did deserve to fucking hear it.

...and that's the list! watched less, but also i basically liked all of them this year? (the scale probably goes from late bloomeres, which i loved, to portrait which i could take or leave - none that i aggressively disliked for once). fun!

[icehaus]

it’s 2026 i think it’s high time we left mind-body dualism behind us as a species. let’s go into 2027 with the full understanding that we are our bodies and that our consciousness cannot be separated from them thank you

[pjharvey-moved-deactivated20250]

i am an ally to all embarrassing and uncool women forever and ever

[myke-litoris]

An afghan womyn shows us how the world looks through the veil she is forced to wear 💔 I pray she along with all other afghan womyn will get to experience the day she can walk outside and feel the wind in her hair, see the movements of the wind in the grass without mesh to block her view, hear the birdsong without heavy fabric over her ears, smell the fresh air and feel the sunlight on her skin and talk to another womyn about the beauty of the world, all without fear of violence or worse.

This is sex based oppression distilled to its purest form. Some call it “gender apartheid” but frankly even that downplays the severity of the situation for afghan womyn. I don’t even have the language to describe it in only a few words, if that language even exists yet

— source—

Found From sufi495 on twitter: (translated to English):

“This is her Instagram account. She risks her life and films from inside Afghanistan, speaking in English to convey the suffering of women living in Afghanistan to the entire world. https://www.instagram.com/behind.chadari”

93K Followers, 34 Following, 76 Posts - See Instagram photos and videos from Behind Chadari | Zahra Abbasi (@behind.chadari)

[biplet]

“Straws give you wrinkles” “sunlight gives you age spots” “smiling with your eyes gives you laugh lines” okay but what if I did that. What if I drank Vanilla Coke from a bendy straw and danced in the sunlight and laughed with reckless abandon. What then. We all age we all get wrinkles we all grow old and dammit I will do it with the sun on my face and the joy of life at my back

[kiefbowl]

I genuinely, like I'm not kidding...the way men feel for other men, is how I feel for women. men do not care about other men's atrocities. they're overly sensitive about every minuscule mistake a woman can make and then shrug their shoulders at other men doing crimes against humanity. okay and it seems to be working out for them pretty great, so now I do that! I do that but for women. men go to jail women get to commit crimes for free. I don't care.

[occultist-romantic]

i wholeheartedly believe in this to be honest, especially when people say “a woman’s biggest enemy is another woman.” i hate that they make it seem as if women only spacea aren’t good for us, that we somehow hate each other.

[anjomecanico]

"The oppressor would not be so strong if he did not have accomplices among the oppressed."

— Simone de Beauvoir, The Ethics of Ambiguity.

If women weren't socialized to hate each other, patriarchy would crumble. Women hating each other and siding with men to enforce misogyny on each other is crucial to keep the system up

[pillarsalt]

[letterful]

[radfemme-rage]

it pertains to everything, to so much messaging sent out to young women and girls today

“hot girls read”, “hot girls go on walks”, “hot girls work out”

as if the most aspirational thing a woman can be is hot

as if the enjoyment and benefits from reading, from walking, from working out comes from the “hotness” it attributes the woman, and not from the intrinsic act itself

[1five1two]

'Love Letter'. Rebeca Fleur. 2025.

[pure]

“gold star” lesbians are an incredibly tiny group. they likely constitute the tiniest niche in the entire LGBT community. yet, online™️ at least, there seems to be a significant cohort of queers, including the average lesbian, who is psychosexually obsessed with us. with a population so tiny, we are absent to just about every conversation that queers and their allies have about this ultimate lavender menace, lol. they are free to stereotype us and dictate our narratives™️ in ways that would earn accusations of bigotry if done to any other group, to the tune of widespread support. queers will complain about the .0001% of “gold star” lesbians that exist in the world more often than they complain about the brutal male supremacy that permeates our lives, for obvious reasons.

we apparently are hitler for being happy and proud to have never touched a man, which is something that both queers and straight people can agree on. whether it’s the male supremacist movement draped in a rainbow flag with all of their radical posturing, or heterosexual feminists, or straight people in general…at the end of the day they all will put their minor differences aside to remind us who the real threat to patriarchal norms is. it always circles back to dykes.

i’m reminded of an encounter a few months ago where a straight male coworker asked if i was a “gold star” lesbian. it gagged me that he even knew what that was lol. after telling him yes, he then proceeded to casually explain that this knowledge entrenched his rape fantasies. his exact words were “now i want to convert you even more.” he threatened to call HR after i said i’d castrate him but that part isn’t important lol. imagine the whiplash when i hop on the terminally online circuit as i often do and see sexually insecure queerbabble about our existence, and how we, an extremely tiny population, are evil for inducing psychosexual rage among queers and their lesbian apologists. we are hated because we are militants against men’s desire in a way that should be impossible under patriarchy, and we militantly reject the social expectations of womanhood. and being a militant against men’s desires is a huge social crime. the hugest social crime of them all. don’t be fooled by queers moralizing about how “gold stars” allegedly are all mean harpies with nasty nasty politics…

they hate us because women like us shouldn’t exist. society™️ either eroticizes sexual violence to correct our behavior or wants our existence to be unknown and unknowable. we are an enemy to these values, and how dare we find pride in our militancy. they hate us because they are male supremacists. but i don’t really want nor do i need anyone’s approval. trying to appease the haters so the world can be nicer to us isn’t a workable solution.

if any “gold stars” are actually out there reading this…don’t make yourself smaller and pretend you aren’t proud. i don’t care who tf it is, queers, average lesbians, straight people—don’t let anyone discipline you for being a dyke who never had to experiment with men, who rejected heterosexual ideology across the lifespan. i get that we’re small in numbers and lowkey, but our mere existence is extremely disruptive, hence the obsession with correcting or erasing us. like, we’re not really supposed to exist. we’re like bigfoot. a sighting is extremely rare. do not allow the weight of patriarchy to pressure you into silence. we don’t have to scream it from the rooftops, but i will (my voice is loud enough for all 37 of us on this earth so it’s fine).

[the-land-of-women]

x

[ferrethavermoved]

women should get even more childless

[bookwyrmbutch]

i think there are a lot of straight women out there who have pavloved themselves into thinking they're attracted to women. it's classical conditioning meets pornbrain. like the female body is seen as a sexual object, it's inherently sexual, it's often used as a shorthand FOR sex itself and i think some wires get crossed in their brains. and that's why we've got so many "sapphics" out there who won't ever date or fuck women. bc they're not actually attracted to women

[forsapphics]

I DO HAVE LOVE IN MY HEART! ... FOR WOMEN

Hothead Paisan (1991 - 1998) — written and drawn by Diane DiMassa

[loserdogma]

I haven’t been able to get over the grief of all human history being held back by the subjugation of women and I actually don’t think I will. Could you even imagine. Thousands of years of recorded history and women have only just (not everywhere and not fully) been able to really get the opportunities that led to the men of history we all know now. Everyone knows Socrates but so few know Aspasia. The amount of philosophy, technology, theory, and humanity lost due to the oppression of women is a genuine travesty. I think of it all the time; how many geniuses were confined to the home? How many Albert Einstein’s were forced to be wives and mothers? How much of human history is corroded by the subjugation of women? All of it?

[ihatemenandtherearereasons]

Exhibit 3367

Having to use the name of a man, albert einstein, for people to understand that you’re talking about someone who’s one of a kind is one direct consequence of this. It’s devastating

[stephexmachina]

when i was a kid i was so mad all the time bc i thought someday i'd have to be somebody's wife i didn't know it was optional. is everybody reminding the young girls in their lives that it's optional.

[stephexmachina]

AND SO IS BEING SOMEBODY'S MOTHER‼️

[stephexmachina]

it is about being a woman. hope that helps!

[vibrantstarfire]

reading comprehension questions for the notes:

is wanting to be a wife and mother a requirement for being a woman?

why might OP be annoyed with replies assuming that this post is about being aroace or transmasc if a woman doesn’t want to be a wife or mother?

are there reasons unrelated to sexuality and romantic interest that might make a woman not want to be a wife or mother?

are there reasons unrelated to gender identity and expression that might make a woman not want to be a wife and mother?

core concept: what is gender essentialism?

is it gender essentialism to imply that all women inherently want to be wives and mothers? could this be what OP is critiquing?

look at the notes OP responds to. is it gender essentialism to imply that being a wife and mother is so affixed to womanhood that to not want to be those things means you’re incapable of sexual/romantic feelings, or not a woman?

what trait are you perpetuating when you assume that women who do not want to be wives and mothers must be aroace or trans? is it gender essentialism?