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My Library of Feminist and Female-focused Media: #btl@library
this tag is for my own growing collection of books and media, feel free to surf it yourself! The collection is large and I have not read/watched/listened to everything contained in the tag. But I am sure you can find stuff worth your time!
Notable links in the tag:
ladielabrys's (very organized) google drive of feminist books
The radfem archive
The radfem linktree
im also also mad because there's currently some fuckass bill attempting to pass. it's the "clean water for all life act", which will make every period and miscarriage require some bum investigation. it says doctors who prescribe medication to end things like a pregnancy or to treat a miscarriage are to 'hand out biohazard bags called 'catch kit's.' basically you're meant to turn the bag in, with the remains of your dead baby inside. some of the drugs listed are also taken for other reasons, like to treat ulcers so this is definitely gonna be a massive mess too AUUUGH mind you this act is being hidden under the idea that it's environmentally friendly as if we're all just straight drinking miscarriage water or something?? fuck outta here omg
“gold star” lesbians are an incredibly tiny group. they likely constitute the tiniest niche in the entire LGBT community. yet, online™️ at least, there seems to be a significant cohort of queers, including the average lesbian, who is psychosexually obsessed with us. with a population so tiny, we are absent to just about every conversation that queers and their allies have about this ultimate lavender menace, lol. they are free to stereotype us and dictate our narratives™️ in ways that would earn accusations of bigotry if done to any other group, to the tune of widespread support. queers will complain about the .0001% of “gold star” lesbians that exist in the world more often than they complain about the brutal male supremacy that permeates our lives, for obvious reasons.
we apparently are hitler for being happy and proud to have never touched a man, which is something that both queers and straight people can agree on. whether it’s the male supremacist movement draped in a rainbow flag with all of their radical posturing, or heterosexual feminists, or straight people in general…at the end of the day they all will put their minor differences aside to remind us who the real threat to patriarchal norms is. it always circles back to dykes.
i’m reminded of an encounter a few months ago where a straight male coworker asked if i was a “gold star” lesbian. it gagged me that he even knew what that was lol. after telling him yes, he then proceeded to casually explain that this knowledge entrenched his rape fantasies. his exact words were “now i want to convert you even more.” he threatened to call HR after i said i’d castrate him but that part isn’t important lol. imagine the whiplash when i hop on the terminally online circuit as i often do and see sexually insecure queerbabble about our existence, and how we, an extremely tiny population, are evil for inducing psychosexual rage among queers and their lesbian apologists. we are hated because we are militants against men’s desire in a way that should be impossible under patriarchy, and we militantly reject the social expectations of womanhood. and being a militant against men’s desires is a huge social crime. the hugest social crime of them all. don’t be fooled by queers moralizing about how “gold stars” allegedly are all mean harpies with nasty nasty politics…
they hate us because women like us shouldn’t exist. society™️ either eroticizes sexual violence to correct our behavior or wants our existence to be unknown and unknowable. we are an enemy to these values, and how dare we find pride in our militancy. they hate us because they are male supremacists. but i don’t really want nor do i need anyone’s approval. trying to appease the haters so the world can be nicer to us isn’t a workable solution.
if any “gold stars” are actually out there reading this…don’t make yourself smaller and pretend you aren’t proud. i don’t care who tf it is, queers, average lesbians, straight people—don’t let anyone discipline you for being a dyke who never had to experiment with men, who rejected heterosexual ideology across the lifespan. i get that we’re small in numbers and lowkey, but our mere existence is extremely disruptive, hence the obsession with correcting or erasing us. like, we’re not really supposed to exist. we’re like bigfoot. a sighting is extremely rare. do not allow the weight of patriarchy to pressure you into silence. we don’t have to scream it from the rooftops, but i will (my voice is loud enough for all 37 of us on this earth so it’s fine).
You. Cannot. Tell.
But then what will men use to blame women for the violence of men ?
Researchers look at countries that have prohibited corporal punishment for kids and their rate of youth violence.
Now a new study looking at 400,000 youths from 88 countries around the world suggests such bans are making a difference in reducing youth violence. It marks the first systematic assessment of whether an association exists between a ban on corporal punishment and the frequency in which adolescents get into fights.
[F]or both boys and girls, [prof. Elizabeth Gershoff] said, “We found [spanking] linked to more aggression, more delinquent behavior, more mental health problems, worse relationships with parents, and putting the children at higher risk for physical abuse from their parents.”
“People often ask: Why didn’t you look for positive aspects?” she continued. “My answer is: We did, and there were none. We see consistently that the more children are spanked, the more behavioral problems they have in the years ahead.”
Once again worth emphasizing that this is pretty much the exact opposite of what authoritarians said would happen
This is an important study in the same way that many ‘water is wet’ studies are; it provides hard data that can be referred back to.
But yeah, startlingly enough if you don’t use violence to control children, they’re less likely to try to use violence to control others.
Remember when everyone knew the YouTube CEO by name and blamed her personally for everything wrong with YouTube when the CEO was a woman? And how when she was replaced by a man people didn't do the same to him despite YouTube getting worse and worse? I wonder what the reason for that might be 🤔
i don’t understand how neil gaiman intellectual properties still trend on here so regularly he literally trafficked women. like it’s not even a discourse thing or a “he’s problematic” thing he was “cancelled” for human trafficking. he repeatedly isolated women, usually his or his ex-wife’s fans, with no support system for the purpose of raping them while they were dependent on him for income and housing. that’s human trafficking
Stormé DeLarverie in the Stonewall Veterans Car at the New York City Gay Pride Parade, June 25, 1995, by Morgan Gwenwald
RIP Marjane Satrapi, author of the amazing graphic novels Persepolis about living during the fundamentalist revolution in Iran in the 70’s and 80’s. She also created the animated movie based on the graphic novels, which is where these gifs come from.
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sandra cisneros, the house on mango street / tatyana nilovna yablonskaya - morning, 1954 / anatoly levitin- warm day, 1957 / harry sutton palmer - a cottage garden, 20th c. / phoebe bridgers, i know the end / sarah abraham - one fine morning, 2013 / theo gosselin - denver morning 5, 2015 / gaston bachelard, the poetics of space / federico zandomeneghi - in bed, 1878 / laura ingalls wilder /colley wisson- morning light kyneton australia, 21st c. / @gabi_wahl on instagram / lauren jolly roberts - cecile’s garden, 2006 / maya angelou, all god’s children need traveling shoes
Man, these kids bum me the fuck out.
Here's an example of how the normalization of patriarchal beauty standards hurts us all. Im perfectly able to believe that this person has never seen a woman with a happy trail, even though plenty of us have them naturally (I have one myself). The fact that the vast majority of women are removing this totally natural, harmless feature makes women feel like freaks for having it themselves.
Link to the article quoted above: https://www.feministcurrent.com/2017/11/20/much-women-achieve-rejected-expensive-time-consuming-beauty-routines/
I was always very opinionated as a child. I had a strong sense of what was right and fair and I would often argue about my position. And yes, my parents would tell me I should be a lawyer. Never knew it was a universal female experience, but tbh not surprised🫠
P.s. I’m a geneticist now!
Me too!! I don’t remember my parents saying I should be a lawyer, but other adults did. My mom just said (and still says) that I can “be a lot” or “be a bit much” and that nobody can win an argument with me.
Me being opinionated and vocal about it has gotten me into trouble my whole life. It feels like the world has tried to beat it out of me. Luckily it didn’t succeed 🥰
Amazing that you’re a geneticist!! 💕
The way so many people turn a blind eye to the horrors of the sex industry is so disturbing and infuriating. Someone will tell you all about their night at a strip club and you’re expected to be like “wow so awesome and cool!” And not “well I’m glad you enjoyed a night of exploiting and harassing vulnerable women”
Sometimes I think about the time in high school when a newly trans identified friend was laughing and telling me about how she’d come out to her mother with all these different identities at different times—first some flavour of “ace”, then another flavour, then trans. And how she found it funny because her mom just kept supporting her with each identity label she threw at her and “wow I’ve come out like three times haha!”. Like it was a game. And all I could think about was my own single coming out to my mother. It hadn’t been a game, it had been something I’d been working up the courage for her as she’d been repeatedly asking me if I was gay. When I finally answered honestly and said yes, it was in a public space but she still got so angry with me. I remember walking through the parking lot feeling suffocated by her anger while she kept asking me why I was walking to the car so fast. The car ride home with my earphones in, getting home and dreading dinner, laying on my bed crying. It caused a rift between us for months and was only made worse when she stormed into my therapy appointment and demanded I discuss my sexuality with her while the therapist mediated. They had pre-planned this. This was almost ten years ago and I still feel anxious when I walk by the store I came out to her in. It took me years before I could even go back in. And to this day I simultaneously regret coming out to her and also am glad I did…I regret it because I was too young to be equipped for her reaction, and I’m glad because it put an end to her questioning and “I’m just trying to figure you out!”.
But yeah, haha, so funny that you’ve come out to your mom with all these different identities. So silly! So fun!
I can’t with corset-fuckers, I really cannot.
Everyday, women around the world put ground mica on their eyelids and pigmented clay on their mouths and cheeks in the form of eyeshadow, blush, lipstick, and foundation, because wearing makeup is expected of women.
Everyday, women wear high heels and other uncomfortable shoes not because they want to, but because it’s expected for working in a professional setting.
Everyday, women squeeze themselves into spanx and other restrictive undergarments, because having loose flesh and ripples in the skin is “unseemly”, and the expectation is that women should always be wearing tight fitting clothing.
Everyday, women start new juice cleanse diets or pound laxatives to lose weight, because being fat is synonymous with being lazy and stupid and gross. Sometimes those women die from it.
“You just expect me to believe 95% of the women in ye olden times were idiots who liked to torture themselves” no, I expect you to believe that it’s very easy to pressure a large majority of a population to act in a way that’s detrimental to their own health and comfort, because going against societal expectations can make it harder to find/keep a job, get promoted, or be treated with respect.
i learned that in August 2014 Women’s Voices for the Earth commissioned testing of four types of Always menstrual pads, manufactured by Procter & Gamble. The certified laboratory STAT Analysis Corporation analyzed the products for volatile organic compound.
“The results of the testing indicate that both scented and unscented Always pads emit toxic chemicals, including chemicals identified by the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services National Toxicology Program, the Agency for Toxic Substances and Disease Registry, and the State of California Environmental Protection Agency as carcinogens, and reproductive and developmental toxins. None of these chemicals are disclosed on the product by the manufacturer.” (x)
I switched to dye free fancy cotton pads, after years of having periods so fucking bad I would sometimes faint, and now i just get like. regular cramps occasionally, they’re not even that bad anymore.
i switched back to these after using fancy organic cotton pads during my most recent period & they caused PROBLEMS out of the blue - 100% confirmed, these are not good to use
been using these reusable menstrual pads since november 2019 and im never going back to these commercial pads. commercial pads like these always gives me skin rashes which is so annoying. switch to reusable i swear you’ll not only be period-ready but also rashes-free!
psa they also have a starter pack in case you want to switch and you dont know what to get and an xl size for plus sized women!
EXPLAINS ALOT. WOULDVE BEEN NICE TO KNOW AWHILE AGO. COOOOOOL.
Plus, there’s a study that showed that vagina are highly vascular so, basically, every chemical you put down there is absorbed by your body real fast and really well. In short, ditch tampon too.
TAMPONS are dangerous frequently the direct cause of TSS TOXIC SHOCK SYNDROME
Yeah, reusable pads were one of my first major eco-friendly changes but my body has been way happier that way. They are infinitely more comfortable and effective, and I just throw them in my washing machine on the hand wash + extra rinse and hang dry. I can’t say being on your period is ever pleasant, but it’s way better than before - ESPECIALLY in situations where you can’t change as often - and I don’t feel like the harbinger of the end of the world when I look at my restroom trash can anymore :)
I always buy generic brands but wasnt “always” the ones who were sending fucked up pads to women in africa just a few years ago too???? Fuck always brand.
PSA!!!
they now have a budget-friendly trial pack so you no longer have to worry which pad fits best for you. you can just buy the pack to get one pad of each size!!
Could the fact that i use Always brand be the reason i get such bad cramps?? I must test this theory…
Also, pads can take up to 800 years to decompose. Yikes.
Cariona pads (link above) are AWESOME. Don’t knock it til you try it - I’ll never go back to always pads. My period is, like, manageable, for the first time in my life. It is no longer a struggle with excruciating cramps, heavy bleeding, leakage, and looooong periods, but like, mild to medium cramps, and I HAVE A CYCLE AGAIN for the first time in years. Try it. The upfront cost is daunting, I understand, because I was worried I wouldn’t like them, but I’m SO GLAD I got them. Just toss them in bottom of your shower when you take them off, shower as usual, and then squeeze them out. That basically rinses them for you, and then they’re all set for the washer and dryer. You’ll thank yourself later; give it a try.
Why isn’t anyone talking about how cute the Cariona pads are? They look adorable tbh
Cannot recommend reusable pads enough. They’re much more comfortable, conforming to the shape of your body, no chafing and they’re great for the environment
