definitely a real person

i swear i know what a traffic light looks like

[murderessdominatrix]

you'll accomplish more by working with others irl than by fighting with strangers online.

shit, you'll likely accomplish more by fighting the right people irl than fighting with strangers online.

[kuttithevangu]

Every work of art says things the creator hasn’t considered, but if you’ve really thought about what you’re trying to say then generally the additional dimensions you didn’t know it had are in alignment with your purpose, whereas if you think you’re making no cultural comment at all you are actually making a LOT of cultural comments, most of which will be unflattering to you

[kuttithevangu]

Porn is one of the most culturally rich types of media imaginable so the answer is: you cannot do this

[murderessdominatrix]

Youtubers be like "Uh oh! They should have used protection! Thankfully today's sponser- ah- uh- an- if- whle- do- fr- uh- ba- so click on my link for 20% off and lets get back to the video."

[murderessdominatrix]

I fully believe the group 'The Monkees' replaced some members and became 'The Arctic Monkeys', then replaced some members again and became 'The Gorillaz' and I refuse to let anybody tell me otherwise

[murderessdominatrix]

Like, believing that genAI is your actual significant other and telling people you're married and everything, is that a break from reality or is that just being misled by false advertising?

[murderessdominatrix]

Had to read a report that said "The doctor offered to ovulate his eyes" like no he didn't.

Im so tired

[un-monstre]

Hate it when TikTok farm cosplayers and cottagecore types say stuff like "I'm not going to use modern equipment because my grandmothers could make do without it." Ma'am, your great grandma had eleven children. She would have killed for a slow cooker and a stick blender.

[un-monstre]

I’ve noticed a sort of implicit belief that people used to do things the hard way in the past because they were tougher or something. In reality, labor-saving devices have historically been adopted by the populace as soon as they were economically feasible. No one stood in front of a smoky fire or a boiling pot of lye soap for hours because they were virtuous, they did it because it was the only way to survive.

[jimmythejiver]

Taking these screenshots from Facebook because they make you log in and won't let you copy and paste:

[sforzzz]

the thing fantasy racism doesn't understand about real racism, and honestly all bigotry, is that it's silly. like on its face it is absurdly silly. it follows zero logic at all. trying to backfill it with reason and logic belies a misunderstanding of this. so when you say the bigotry a class of fantasy people face is due to some event in the past, or some inherent danger to them, some genetic predisposition, or anything else to make it make sense, you're giving credence to the idea that bigotry makes logical sense. which it doesn't. it never has.

[dustsculptures]

“no one’s ever mad at me unless they tell me so” is the best assumption i’ve ever made

[dustsculptures]

sorry for tagwatching but you still have to act like they aren’t mad at you imo! bc it’s the mad person’s duty to make it known if they want anything changed. it is never anyone’s duty to be a mind reader.

[nooblord9001]

If I am mad at someone and am remaining Quiet about it, it is because I Do Not Want them to know that I’m mad.

Please respect my boundaries and assume that I am Not mad.

If you’re worried that I am mad, consider the possibility that I am mad for reasons I know are stupid and do not want to make it your problem.

[blazing-butterfly-inactive]

Ohhh that last addition opens my eyes in a big way, thank you.

[writerlyn]

The idea of “but everyone knows that” needs to stop.

I saw a post about someone chiding Millennials for not knowing about JKRowlings transphobia, and asking how it is at all possible that people can exist in the world and the internet and, you know, not know.

Which I mean, I get. It is so present in so many of my online spaces that it seems astounding that someone could simply be ignorant! It feels impossible!

But let me tell you a story:

I went on a girls trip with a bunch of friends. All of us are rather incredibly liberal and all of us are incredibly online.

One girl would not stop talking about Harry Potter.

At one point, another girl asked her why she was ok with supporting it, and she had no real clue that JK Rowling was at all transphobic. She had heard that she likes to support Lesbian causes and thought “oh ok cool!” And that was it. She was AGOG with the news and rather horrified.

I must once again emphasize that she was an incredibly online person. She’s a foodie and a restaurant blogger.

Later in the trip we were picking restaurants and I suggested one I found on Google, and she gasped at me. Actually gasped, asking how I could ever be okay picking that one.

The shock must’ve been on my face, because she then told me all of the shitty things that restaurateur does. He abuses staff. Underpays them. Fires them on a whim. Is known for being one of the worst people to his employees in the entire restaurant business on this coast.

And she was so shocked I had never heard of this. Because in her mind, I was just as online as her. And in her online world, EVERYONE knew about this guy.

So I think the moral of this story is: always approach the other person with some empathy. Even online people, even people you think MUST know about how bad people are, may not have heard. It may truly be just them being on a different sphere of the internet than you.

So be gentle, be kind when letting people know they might not have heard about the cancellation of XYZ person. Don’t assume that everyone knows all the same info as you.

By all means, let them know so they can make informed decisions, but being kind will go a lot further than attacking them for some info they might not know yet.

[molluskmagus]

[junglejim4322]

Unironically I think the early to mid 20s age group in America has unbelievably bad consent boundaries on all levels and so much language to defend it but this makes me sound like elon musk if I say it however the commonality of someone who will be like “I had 47 panic attacks and it’s your fault” if you tell them no is insane

[junglejim4322]

I rejected someone and got called “the scariest person I’ve ever met” with so much therapy speak interspersed like alright okay alright okay alright okay

[junglejim4322]

“You just say whatever you’re thinking and I don’t know how to handle it” was verbatim part of this conversation. Also everyone hates to see an autistic bitch

[transhumanisticpanspermia]

When I was in this age bracket, there was a huge emphasis on improving consent culture via graceful rejection, and it's gone by the wayside. Which sucks.

Twice in my youth (once in high school and once in college) I was in situations where I was asking someone out and I could tell they were calculating in their heads the risks of rejecting me, and both times I said, out loud, "you can say no, I wouldn't have asked if I wasn't prepared for either answer." And then they said no. This wasn't some spark of special wisdom I had - I knew to do it because feminist conversations among my age group brought it up regularly. This isn't happening nearly enough anymore.

More recently, I was really glad when we got to "rejection sensitive dysphoria" in my IOP program and it was one of those symptoms where the therapists really emphasized how it affects others. Because it does.

Being someone who cannot handle rejection makes you much more likely to violate boundaries, and yes, that includes sexual ones. Yes, you, reader who has never hurt a fly. If you don't want to stumble backwards into sexually assaulting someone, fix your RSD meltdowns. If you keep them up it's only a matter of time. Because if you're nice enough to interact with, but are known to have RSD meltdowns, guess what happens when your friends and acquaintances need to reject you?

[carolsturka]

guys i really don't think it's cool or awesome that streaming is taking 2-3 years to produce 10-episode seasons. in fact i think it's bad and not good

[geyfrog]

As far as my personal experience goes “men ain’t shit” is actively a counterproductive attitude to getting straight women out of unpleasant relationships. Like, if men ain’t shit, the implication is that (barring lesbianic conversion) any relationship she’ll be in will be shitty, and thus there’s not really a point in trying to do better, because the only other option is being single. And this exact attitude IME is very common in women in unhappy relationships. But it’s not true! Some men are good partners! It is possible for these women to find a fulfilling heterosexual relationship! And they need to believe that to give up on an unfulfilling one!

[geyfrog]

The mostly non-actionable “ugh, I hate men” supplants the very actionable “ugh, I hate Brad”. In this kind of situation, you gotta swallow your smugness about being a lesbian for a bit to give them hope that they can be happy while straight

[waterloggedsoliloquy]

"im having creation ideas beyond my skill level" DO IT ANYWAY. "i don't have good supplies" DO IT WITH BAD SUPPLIES THEN. "i don't have free time" SO DO IT SLOWLY.

FIND THE SHORTEST MOST DIRECT ROUTE TO YOUR CREATION BEING REALIZED AND DO WHATEVER IT TAKES TO GET THERE

[butchlinkle]

+ you can revisit ideas as many times as you like as frequently as you want to so creating it now with your current skills, supplies, and time available is also not the be all and end all of that concept's execution.

do it anyway, either you'll be pleasantly surprised by the results, or you'll have something for your future self to find and revisit another day instead of losing the idea to the void

[waterloggedsoliloquy]

absolutely wonderful addition, thank you!

[pussyhoundspock]

joining the war on kids reading any book they want on the side of kids reading any book they want. simply you will be fine. it's even good to be confronted with things you don't understand and even find upsetting, uncomfortable and difficult. it's a surprise tool that will help you later.

[nonevahed]

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literally ok so not a funny story but kind of funny? when I was nine I encountered rape in a book and I was like hey mom what’s this mean and she explained it and I was like oh. gross. and then like two weeks later a girl on the bus abruptly disclosed her csa and we were all like ????? what ???? but I was like wait hang on there’s a word for that ☝️🤓 and explained what it meant and that it was illegal and that you could talk to a teacher or my mom if it had happened to you and everyone was like ohhhhh I see I see and very somberly comforted the girl (she was safe she was removed from her home and living with my neighbor at the time so it wasn’t Urgent)

[zarohk]

And this is a perfect illustration of why it is important for kids to read or variety of things, and why abusers don’t want them to.

[stephocrates]

Baseball has gotta be the funniest sport to make kids under 10 play. The rules and gameplay of baseball are so incompatible with small children not a single kid on that field knows what’s happening

[stephocrates]

If you’ve never watched a children’s T-Ball game It’s like if you showed some aliens ten minutes of baseball and then they tried to recreate it from that memory. They know they’re supposed to hit the ball and run but everything else is kind of a black box.

[medusadyke]

academic dishonesty is not something you can spin as moral lol i do not want to share a career field let alone a social sphere with a bunch of chatgpt using ass bitches

[medusadyke]

"you're just scared your diploma is going to devalue" i'm afraid you dumb bitches are going to become my colleagues and drag social services to hell

[hylianengineer]

I'm afraid they'll become scientists and data that lives depend on will turn out to be wrong - and people will die.

I'm afraid they'll become engineers and sign off on bridge designs that collapse - and people will die.

I'm afraid they'll become medical professionals who don't know what they're doing - and people will die.

The assumption that academic dishonesty is okay is rooted in the idea that what you're learning to do doesn't matter.

[constance-mcentee-deactivated20]

"The assumption that academic dishonesty is okay is rooted in the idea that what you're learning to do doesn't matter."