Nightwing Is Nonbinary

In this essay I will... 💖 Aiden, genderfluid, they/them, queer, bi, enfp 💖 Finishing my bachelors in psychology this May, hopefully starting grad school in August 💖 Comic nut, video game nerd, hopelessly in love with my partner. 💖 Nsfw sideblog is https://sweetest-boi.tumblr.com 💖 No terfs, radfems, truscum, exclusionists, or antis. If you tag queer as a slur or a trigger I’ll block you.

[mxgrayson-abandoned]

The last thing I’m ever going to say on this blog

I’m glad tumblr died. It’s idea of social justice was mob execution brought about in the most childlike, bullying manner. From all sides.

It’s nice to be out of this toxic space where everyone is looking for any reason to tear your face off so they can experience a false sense of power or importance.

It’s nice to be taken seriously. I have a full time job, I am starting my doctorate in psychology and my masters in human sexuality, I have an internship at a school where I provide counseling for kids with behavioral disorders. Everyone in every single one of those settings takes me seriously as a genderfluid/nonbinary, queer person who uses they/them pronouns. I have never once been treated like an imposter, a fake, a danger, an abuser, a liar, a potential source of harm just because of my identity in the real world. Only on tumblr.

Well. That’s not true. I was treated on tumblr the exact same way I was treated in the conservative Christian church I attended that forced me into conversion therapy. Trans folks and gay folks treated me the exact same way the pastor who over saw my conversion therapy treated me.

I have been treated with more kindness by cis straight allies in real life then any lgbt+ person on tumblr ever showed me.

And don’t take that as me saying straight folks are better. Because GROWN lgbt+ folks that I’ve met in real life are just as supportive. It’s just the lgbt+ kids on this site with an overinflated sense of self importance who are disguising militant bigotry with a rainbow flag that are like this.

I hope you don’t think the real world works like tumblr. Because you’re in for a bitter, lonely time if you do.

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Hello, All!

I’m Zacharie, as you know. This is my discourse blog! I used to be @truly-scum, but I’ve moved on. As my bio states, I believe asexuality is LGBT+, non-binary is real, and that dysphoria is required to be transgender. I personally identify as transsexual and queer (but it’s not okay to call others these if they don’t want it/aren’t telling you it’s okay). I’m 17, and growing up.

[mxgrayson-abandoned]

No therapist who’s not a transphobe will tell you that dysphoria is required to be trans.

You’re seventeen. You’re growing. I hope part of that growing is realizing that policing other people’s identities is queerphobic and transphobic.

Truscum and transmed ideology pushes a medical system made by and for cis people that was designed to make transitioning and obtaining care as hard as possible for trans people. It’s been further pushed by terfs and inclusionists because it’s convenient to their narrative.

I’m getting a doctorate in psychology, and a masters of education is human sexuality. If you want I can point you towards so intro literature by the American psychological association, and explicitly trans organizations that are very frank about this.

Truscum/transmed ideology only serves to divide the trans community and make it harder to unite and move forward. You don’t gain anything by shitting on other trans people with no facts backing you up.

[pissed-off-internet-dad]

Quick reminder

That I’m not *Queer* this isn’t the *Queer* community, and to stop forcing people to identify with a slur if they don’t want to

[mxgrayson-abandoned]

A truscum-exclusionist-republican

Saying that somebody is forcing them to identify as queer lmao

This is revisionist history being pushed by somebody using terf rhetoric who has no problem voting for racist, transphobic bigots. Block people like this and stay safe this pride month. Queer folks deserve better than this

[blue---rain]

[ofautumntwilight]

the perfume department

[magpiemistakes]

Person-first vs. identity-first language

Noun vs. adjective

I am a queer, disabled, chronically ill, neurodivergent, nonbinary person of color. Why do I say it that way rather than “I’m a person of color who is queer, disabled, chronically ill, and neurodivergent”? Because nothing I do or am is not shaped by those facts. They are indelibly a part of me and color the way I move through the world.

People don’t have to know I’m neurodivergent for that to have an impact on the way we interact with each other or a social gathering makes me feel. The way my brain is wired is different than a neurotypical person’s brain and I’m going to experience things in a way they can’t understand.

I’m disabled. Whether people know it or not, it’s true. I physically move through the world impacted by my disabilities. My body feels and works differently than an able-bodied person’s body does. Not only that, but the way people interact with me, or don’t, and what I see and hear are all influenced by this. I can’t avoid noticing lazy curb cuts and seeing who will and won’t stand up on a crowded train.

Furthermore, I’m not ashamed of who I am. I’m proud of my identities and their intersections, so I put them first. You can’t know me without knowing these facts.

That isn’t to say people who identify with person-first language are inherently ashamed or wrong. I will happily use whatever form of address someone tells me they use.

For me, identity-first language has been about understanding myself and overcoming internalized prejudices. I am a person but my personhood is an intricate mosaic of these facets of my identity. Personhood does not exist independently of marginalized identities. We are people regardless. That is why I choose to use identity-first language.

[mxgrayson-abandoned]

The person first vs identity first discussion is really interesting as someone who’s getting a doctorate in psychology

It widely varies from community to community and person to person

Person first language for many is a way to avoid being reduced to the thing that other people often rudely define them by

For example: I am a person with trauma. I’m not a traumatized person. I’m a survivor, not somebody who is reduced to my rape.

I’m a person with depression. It affects the way I see things, but I am not a depressed person. My illness does not come before my personhood.

It’s not about just respecting how a person would like to be addressed.

It’s about recognizing that both forms of speech are equally valid, and people use them both for different reasons.

While there are parts of us that affect our lives as a whole, there is nothing that should come between anybody and being viewed and treated as a whole person.

It gets sticky when you say things like “personhood does not exist independently of marginalized identities. We are people regardless.” Because that is exactly why somebody might choose to use person first language.

And while you say that people who use person first language aren’t inherently ashamed or wrong, that is certainly what you imply.

[the-queer-and-beloved]

god i love queer people

[updateplss]

[mxgrayson-abandoned]

Wow it’s almost like tumblr uses “queer baiting” and “my ship isn’t canon so I’m gonna act like the victim” interchangeably

[princesshamlet-deactivated20210]

i think we, as a species, should go back to saying ‘alas’

[there-is-still-some-liquor-left]

it’s like “yikes” but with…culture 

[purple-possibilities]

yikes, poor yorick!

[dankmemeuniversity]

[sunchipz]

Straighties are complaining about Pride being “exclusive” as if we don’t deserve that after everything?? Fuck off

[mxgrayson-abandoned]

This person is an aphobe who is defending using conversion therapy terms to define who belongs at pride

Exclusion comes out of terf radfem and anti swerf rhetoric

It’s not the “straighties” who are the problem. It’s people like this. Stay safe this pride month

[sweetheartfemme]

Literally its got to the point of pride month being stressful. As a lesbian, pride month sucks yall

big fuckin mood!

[mxgrayson-abandoned]

Nobody hates you because you’re a lesbian, they hate you because you sling exclusionist terf rhetoric while crying that you’re being prosecuted. You don’t get to be bigoted and then pretend it’s lesbophobia when someone calls you out 😅

Girl literally goes “lgbt is the full acronym that’s it” like damn ok fuck queer people I guess

Hates ace folks and “mogai wierdos” all examples of which sound oddly nbphobic

You’re the problem hun

[mxgrayson-abandoned]

I don’t jive with vegans who say women’s lives and cow’s lives are comparable.

There I fucking said it.

You can be compassionate towards animals without telling the women you’re speaking to that their struggles are the same as unintelligent animals.

Alternatively: if your philosophy relies on comparing centuries of actual intelligent humans who can comprehend what’s happening to them being abused, raped, or owned like property. You’re a shithead. Same if you compare eating meat to slavery or the holocaust. You’re just a racist, misogynist, anti Semitic piece of shit ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

[willow-s-linda]

[yimyam]

mr hozier PLEASE cover toxic by britney spears mr hozier PLEASE

[toobertpoondert]

My advice to people, but especially kids, who are invested in celebrities, be they actors, musicians, bloggers, youtubers, authors, whatever, is to keep your distance. No matter how happy their content makes you, no matter how strong the pull of a special interest/hyperfixation/obsession might be, it’s important to step back every so often.

Do you find yourself following them on all forms of social media? Do you follow their friends and family, who might not even make content themselves? Do you research their lives? Step back. Just because they are famous doesn’t mean it’s okay to engage in stalking behavior.

Do you find yourself getting anxious if you miss a video, or they upload off schedule? Step back. I know they can help you through dark times but you can’t rely on them all the time.

Would you be devastated if they turned out to be a not-so-nice person? Step back. You can only trust them as much as you trust any stranger. Don’t see yourself up to be shattered if they fall off that pedestal you put them on.

No matter how much somebody interacts with their audience, the relationship is still parasocial. Just keep that in mind. Don’t put all your trust in a stranger. It’s okay to enjoy these people and their content, but keep your distance and step back.

[saturdaynightagain-deactivated2]

when people are like “oh i cant include the lesbian flag into my pride month merch bc its too complicated/hard to design/whatever” they r basically saying that including lesbians, the first letter of the acronym, is too taxing and tiresome and its so blatantly lesbophobic, I have to laugh

[mxgrayson-abandoned]

“The first letter of the acronym” y’all really do think “LGbt” is order of importance huh... and y’all really think that small time creators have a personal vendetta against a lesbian flag that was created by a biphobic racist, and doesn’t represent any lesbian that’s not traditionally femme... get over yourself

[avril-s-garden]

Old drawings i did with the precious Aang :3