The Mind of an Ace Nerd

I'm an ace and this is my space. Recently out in real life as ace, and discovering my demiromanticism...probably what I'll post about when I'm not geeking out over movies/books or laughing at memes.

[knifearo]

i think a lot about the loneliness of being aromantic. because it's something that's so profound, right? you're told your whole life that you need something to make you happy, to make you complete, to give you connection with other people, and when you realize you're aro, that's torn away from you. everything you've been raised to want is no longer something that will fulfill you. you are not built to be happy. and it gets better with time, it does! you restructure your world view, bit by bit, and the sting fades, but... i don't think it ever truly goes away. it's hard to express, because i love being aro, and i'm happy being aro, i wouldn't want to be any other way, but at the same time. there is such a profound heartbreak to knowing that you will never be someone's most important person in a society that values romance. that you'll never get the happy ever after that you were promised as a child. and you know you can be happy. but there's a lifetime of amatonormativity that lives in your brain and tells you that you can't.

[zemathememequeen]

For me, the loneliness never came from knowing that I'd never have someone special like that in my life. I didn't want that. I didn't care for it. The thought of spending my entire life with someone like that just didn't occur to me.

No, the loneliness I felt when I was younger was more an isolation from not knowing anyone like me. I was constantly surrounded by people who were into romance while I had no interest. I realise now that I'm loveless, but at the time I hadn't even heard of aromanticism.

When I first found the aro community in early 2016, it was the first time I felt like I truly belonged somewhere. And that sense of loneliness and isolation disappeared. Because I had found my people.

[pickypickypeak]

Why is no one talking about jentorra from ant-man

I mean

[my-aro-space]

All of my favorite scenes included her

[my-aro-space]

Yall are hilarious

[my-aro-space]

Yall are hilarious

[my-aro-space]

This aro is grateful today to live in Louisiana where Mardi Gras overshadows another holiday that falls around mid-Feb so I don't have to be reminded how single I am

[dimanchea]

Aces, Aros and Aroaces when it's time to take over valentines day

[youknow-youknow]

[ID: bugs bunny meme reading “I wish all aromantics a very normal tuesday”.]

[arotechno]

time to get aromantic to trend again this year. it was so fun last year and i wanna hit number one again who's with me

[life-is-more-than-just-surviving]

We love a couple of unhinged sword lesbians that can and will slice you in half

How cute are they using the same moves, i like to think that jade taught Kit this

Girlfriends that kills trolls together stays together

Jade's like: that's for interrupting my kiss, bitch

Boorman might know something about this, if I had a nickel for every time boorman had Kit's and Jade's swords pointed at him I'd have two nickels which isn't a lot but it's something

Boorman this two times " this gays are trying to murder me"

Bonus: sync attack

If killing is bad why so hot

In this blog we support women's rights but most importantly women wrongs doing what they have to survive

[sunf10wer67]

I love this 😂😂

[my-aro-space]

There I fixed it

[Image description: white text on grey, "used to think my dad was hard on me for no reason, now I realize he was (following text scratched out and replaced) "abusive""]

Via Facebook

[life-is-more-than-just-surviving]

Me: I don't have a type

My favourite characters:

I actually have 2 types:

Type A: deeply traumatized person, highly guarded emotionally, raised with the sense of duty and responsibility for their people, loyal and rational, only opens up and let her be herself with the person she loves.

Type B: deeply traumatized person that hide their feelings with sarcasm, few working braincells active only when needed, partially selfish just because they didn't have the possibility to choose freely for most of their lives but in the end does the right and selfless thing.

Yes, they are all highly trained warriors that could kill me very easily.

Yes, it didn't pass unnoticed that 3/4 use swords.

Do we think that's just coincidence? No I don't think so.

My two types in the end are just two sides of the same coin so technically i have a type.

Thank you for coming to my TED talk.

[biggest-gaudiest-poltergeist]

i'm begging you guys to start pirating shit from streaming platforms. there are so many websites where you can stream that shit for free, here's a quick HOW TO:

1) Search for: watch TITLE OF WORK free online

2) Scroll to the bottom of results. Click any of the "Complaint" links

3) You will be taken to a long list of links that were removed for copyright infringement. Use the 'find' function to search for the name of the show/movie you were originally searching for. You will get something like this (specifics removed because if you love an illegal streaming site you don't post its url on social media)

4) each of these links is to a website where you can stream shit for free. go to the individual websites and search for your show/movie. you might have to copy-paste a few before you find exactly what you're looking, but the whole process only takes a minute. the speed/quality is usually the same as on netflix/whatever, and they even have subtitles! (make sure to use an adblocker though, these sites are funded by annoying popups)

In conclusion, if you do this often enough you will start recognizing the most dependable websites, and you can just bookmark those instead. (note: this is completely separate from torrenting, which is also a beautiful thing but requires different software and a vpn)

you can also download the media in question (look for a "download" button built into the video window, or use a browser extension such as Video DownloadHelper.)

[biggest-gaudiest-poltergeist]

reiterating that you absolutely need an adblocker for these sites (to avoid malware if nothing else), and i HOPE you already have one installed bc using a (free) adblocker for daily browsing tremendously improves your internet experience!

I recommend installing uBlock Origin whenever possible (Adblock Plus is also popular). Also using Firefox, bc they're a nonprofit that gives you privacy and lets you fight ads, while Chrome is owned by Google; they just want to mine your data and sell ads.

How To Block Ads:

for Desktop, click this uBlock Origin link (works with most browsers). install, restart browser, good to go!

for Android, open Firefox and go to "3 dots menu > add-ons > add-on manager > enable uBlock Origin." (this also blocks youtube ads within firefox!). this doesn't work on Chrome, because Chrome hates you, but there are some ad-blocking apps in the play store that will give you varying results.

for iOS, it's trickier, bc Apple also hates you. here are some recommended apps in the app store. (some of them keep premium features behind a paywall, bc again Apple hates you. but there are options.) If those aren't enough, Firefox comes to the rescue again with the Firefox Focus browser app, which includes a powerful built-in adblocker. I can't find specifics, but try clicking the 3 dots menu and fiddling around to customize your preferences.

in conclusion: a combination of Android, Firefox, and uBlock Origin makes for the best browsing experience. But no matter what system/browser combo you use, please install at least one adblocker. you will thank yourself every damn day. it will give you a faster, safer, and much less aggravating experience as a user of the Modern Internet (derogatory)

ko-fi

[sunf10wer67]

Lives were lost

[spacejes-deactivated20250119]

honey, I don’t think you’re gonna be the one taking it off.

[winduppup]

girls go to college to get a degree in a program that they were once excited for but have since had all the enjoyment sucked out of it and is no longer a baseline requirement in an increasingly competitive and demanding workforce

[winduppup]

and boys go to jupiter to get on the compupiter

[grammymeagle]

Make it make sense

[luulapants]

My dad and I once had a disagreement over him using the adage "What doesn't kill you makes you stronger."

I said, "That's just not true. Sometimes what doesn't kill you leaves you brittle and injured or traumatized."

He stopped and thought about that for a while. He came back later, and said, "It's like wood glue."

He pointed to my bookshelf, which he helped me salvage a while ago. He said, "Do you remember how I explained that, once we used the wood glue on them, the shelves would actually be stronger than they were before they broke?"

I did.

"But before we used the wood glue, those shelves were broken. They couldn't hold up shit. If you had put books on them, they would have collapsed. And that wood glue had to set awhile. If we put anything on them too early, they would have collapsed just the same as if we'd never fixed them at all. You've got to give these things time to set."

It sounded like a pretty good metaphor to me, but one thing I did pick up on was that whatever broke those shelves, that's not the thing that made them stronger. That just broke them. It was being fixed that made them stronger. It was the glue.

So my dad and I agreed, what doesn't kill you doesn't actually make you stronger, but healing does. And if you feel like healing hasn't made you stronger than you were before, you're probably not done healing. You've got to give these things time to set.