Daffodil / Narcissus

ran by a C-DID system w/ NPD

[narcboyfie]

Narcboyfie , Aka : Narcissus / Daffodil

It/him pronouns , masc or nonhuman terms

Proshipper + anti endo + transandro"bro"

Mostly a ranting / discourse side blog :p

Don't bother sending hate, it's likely I won't reply, or if I do I'll laugh at you

To weed out the weirdos, I will say I am against :

Censorship / antishippers

TMA/TME binaries + the belief that trans men don't experience their own unique form of discrimination + the belief that trans men are somehow more "privileged" than trans women

Endogenics / any form of non-traumagenic system or "plural"

Harassment

[decadentqueentidalwave]

"Theyfab is a slur against trans men!"

And nonbinary people, right?

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...and nonbinary people, right?!?

[carapaced]

imo the reason that theyfab actually “works” as a slur is that it’s meant as an insult to nonbinary ppl because of its inherent derision for anyone seen as “not trying as hard” to pass as a binary gender, and its assumption that enben are somehow less trans because of this. So, first and foremost, it’s a slur against nonbinary ppl.

The myth around trans men is that they pass as a binary gender soooooo much easier and more quickly/reliably than trans women, so, when ppl who feel this way see trans men who do not pass, are gnc, or who are not making efforts to be stealth/100% pass as a cis man, the assumption is that (just like nonbinary ppl), they aren’t “really” trans, just sort of trans lite.

TLDR: It’s only an insult for trans men because of the idea that comparing them to nonbinary ppl is calling their transness into question

[narcboyfie]

I feel like. I can see how you think that but I don't 100% agree

Trans men are not insulted by it because they go "ugh, don't compare me to being non-binary!!!" They're insulted by it because it's misgendering and it's bringing up their agab (and, if they use they/them, then it's msolty just because its bringing up their agab)

I may be taking this wrong but this take just feels very like. Assuming the worst of people who are being insulted. No I do not think that theyfab is a slur for trans men only, but we are definitely affected by it also and it's not just because we hate being seen as non-binary, because most of us don't (not in the way you said anyways. Some of us may hate it because it's misgendering, which is fair. If someone isn't non-binary, it's not wrong of them to not want to be seen that way. This does not mean they think non-binary people are less trans)

You could be talking about the people using the insult, in which case I apologise for the upper part, I'm a little confused by your wording. But I also think the people using the insult use it more for the misgendering and mentioning of the agab thing

The idea is definitely "non-binary people are less trans" with the slur, but it's also "afab people are less trans/don't have to put effort into being trans", which is why I think it's also used on trans men and anyone the person using the insult perceives as afab

The slur is definitely targeted towards non-binary people first and foremost, and the way it's used against trans men can have the goal of making them feel less trans by being non-binary, but honestly I feel it ends up insulting them because it brings up their agab and on occasion misgenders them when they do not use they/them pronouns (though, imo bringing up agab can also be misgendering too) and I think that can also be the intention of the person using it at times.

I'm sure there probably is a trans man out there insulted by the idea of being non-binary because he sees it as less trans, I won't deny that, I just do not think that is the majority nor is it why all trans men attacked by this slur hate it.

[oxymoronnic]

I-I don't have a valid argument against what they've said nor do I have enough intelligence to think of asking for proof of this statement they had left under my comment to fact check them to see if what they said was truly correct!... I-..um UWU. What do I do... OH I KNOW! CHATGPT MUST HAVE WROTE THIS AS PEOPLE DON'T HAVE THE CAPABILITY TO WRITE BIG WORDS OWO....

Damn it they pointed out my incapability to spell.... I MUST SAY SOME BULLSHIT! ..

I CAN'T DEAL WITH THESE TYPE PEOPLE BRO AND I DO IT EVERYDAY EVEN OUTSIDE OF THE INTERNET I mean thank you for the new post but my gods

Here are links given by the other person in this

https://www.stopitnow.org/faq/am-i-a-bad-person-if-im-only-attracted-to-children

https://www.treatmyocd.com/what-is-ocd/common-fears/if-i-like-lolicon-does-it-mean-im-a-pedophile-a-therapists-view

I read both of them and I agree with them, I don't see anything wrong or misleading. If there is do tell

Remember paraphilias are not something people chooses to have. A paraphilia is an atypical sexual or romantic interest that develops involuntarily, ones that cause distress are paraphilic disorders ones that dont are simply paraphilias, also they can be for anything not just what the "big three" are. I personally don't think people should be dehumanized simply because they have an attraction they didn't choose. Instead, we should encourage people to seek professional help if they are distressed by their attractions or believe they may be a risk towards acting on them. Treating every person with a paraphilia as though they are automatically dangerous discourages people from reaching out for support and may cause them to become what you think they are, a predator

Having an attraction that someone cannot control is not the same as choosing to act on it. People are responsible for their actions and if they harm someone or not, but a simple attraction doesnt automatically make them harmful. This is especially important to remember when discussing pedophilia, also I'd like to add just because someone is a pedophile doesn't meant they're attracted to every single child in the world, thats a misconception also research has found that not every person with pedophilic attractions has sexually abused a child, and not every person who sexually abuses a child has a sexual attraction to children. These are related but distinct concepts, and confusing them can make it harder to understand, prevent, and help child sexual abuse effectively. Most child sexual abuse is committed by someone the kid knows and trusts, such as a family member, family friend, a teacher, or some other trusted adult, not just by strangers and it's not always done purposely, like posting a cute yet vulnerable moment of your child on the internet of them in the tub playing even if nothing is showing this can definitely be a form of harm or used for harmful reasons, yet unfortunately I see a lot of parents do this. Protecting children means recognizing warning signs, taking concerns seriously, and teaching children about ACTUAL body safety and consent. And we shouldn't be using baby talk when talking about sexual body parts it just pushes that we should be ashamed of them which can in fact cause children to keep the sexual abuse they may experience a secret. Prevention of sexual abuse should focus on reducing harm and supporting victims, not focusing on what someone finds hot in fiction. Whether you find it weird or not

https://www.msdmanuals.com/professional/psychiatric-disorders/paraphilias-and-paraphilic-disorders

(Link given by friend)

Look I'm not the most educated person on this topic so if I'm wrong about anything please inform me I don't focus all my time on this so there is a chance.

Crazy how one person can say something then I go down a rabbit hole and I start talking...

▸ I DONT CONDONE ANY HARASSMENT TOWARDS ANYONE THAT IS POSTED TO THIS PAGE, ANTI OR NOT.

[pankendev]

i should be nicer to anons calling me an egg maybe it's their first time seeing someone even slightly gnc

[pankendev]

i have to ask actually. what happens when you go in someone's inbox and go "omg you should try being a girl i bet you're actually a closeted girl" and it's a trans man. does that ever happen. what then

[pankendev]

auaahhauhghhh awful awful awful

[mischiefmanifold]

Every time someone lumps being anti-censorship ("proship") in with radqueers and transids an angel loses its wings.

[narcboyfie]

"not all men but always a man"

Now quick, tell me what you mean by that.

Quick, tell me what is always done by a man? Rape? Is that it? You don't think women or anyone of any gender that isn't male are capable of rape. Okay. How incredibly telling.

Fuck you.

[narcboyfie]

And you know what, I have more to say about this, because there is no use for this phrase that doesn't inherently exclude, ignore and dismiss other victims

Men are not the only people who commit murder, women and people of other genders also do that

Men are not the only people who are capable of abuse

Men are not the only people capable of cheating

Men are not the only people capable of treating a partner or a child like shit

Men are not the only horrible people in the world

This phrase means fucking nothing, all it does is act as if women (and other people of other genders or of no gender at all) are incapable of doing any wrong ever and it invalidates all victims who were not targeted by a man. Also it invalidates male victims heavily, as it gives this idea that they too are destined to be or must already be a perpetrator

And before anyone says "that's not what it means" then WHAT DOES IT MEAN? Cause it clearly isn't a phrase meant to support victims, unless the only victims you think about are women targeted by men.

It's disgusting and I'm tired of seeing people make the claim that this phrase is a better version of "kill all men". They're both terrible phrases (though KAM is worse, I will say) and none should be used. We shouldn't be generalising people based on gender at all. I don't care if it's a joke or a vent or whatever. You're a fucking horrible person for doing it.

[narcboyfie]

I can't believe people are so fucking up and arms about fictional characters (literally just lines and letters on a screen) that they think people deserve to die over them

No, someone calling that stupid fucking purple rabbit a man doesn't mean they deserve to die, the rabbit isn't even REAL. ITS FICTIONAL, ARE YOU FUCKING STUPID??

And no, someone writing rape about fictional characters or shipping two fictional characters isn't equivalent to actual abuse or actual rape and no they don't deserve to die for it, you're a fucking horrible person if you think so

In general, if you've ever told someone to die over a fictional fucking character then you're a horrible person. You value fucking fiction over real living breathing people and that says a whole fucking lot about you.

[narcboyfie]

"not all men but always a man"

Now quick, tell me what you mean by that.

Quick, tell me what is always done by a man? Rape? Is that it? You don't think women or anyone of any gender that isn't male are capable of rape. Okay. How incredibly telling.

Fuck you.

[narcboyfie]

Saw a post that annoyed me so.

Being marked green on shimigami eyes is NOT something to brag about gang. I'm not 100% sure how the thing works, I've never used it, but if we're assuming people are marked green manually then that means the same people who think "all trans men should be raped" agree with you.

That's disgusting, that's gross. You should feel fucking horrified by that. Why the fuck are you pulling this "oh I'm marked green because I'm so KIND and WONDERFUL" as if being marked green isn't the same thing as being marked as a hateful bigot who wants all trans men dead.

Because yes, that's what I'll assume. Everyone who uses that fucking extension and supports it seems to be of the "TME people should die/should be raped/should be grateful when they're forcibly impregnated/are oppressing me because they exist/should all be women" group. And that group is fucking dangerous and I don't care what anyone says.

[rainbowspaceprince]

As a transmasc nonbinary person who is usually read as a very masculine cis woman because I'm not on T yet, I can tell you with full confidence that masculinity is not rewarded in everyone. I have had family members say horrible disgusting things to me and try to force me to be feminine. I've had friends who knew I was transmasc nonbinary try to force me to dress feminine for their sake. Once, I wore a tux for a friend's wedding. None of the cis men in the wedding party had to put on makeup but as the transmasc nonbinary person, not only was makeup demanded for me but it had to be feminine to offset me wearing a tux. I needed to have femininity to their standard. People treat masculinity in trans people as a threat. As a sign of evil. It can never just exist. I have been eating in a restaurant by myself quietly minding my business and had people glaring daggers into my soul because I existed as a masculine person and I knew that if there wasn't a camera they probably would've attacked me. A specific kind of masculinity is acceptable in cis men, but even then, it must be performed properly. The masculinity of trans men and transmasc people is seen as deviant and perverted. It's seen as a threat to the carefully balanced order of cisheteropatriarchy. As someone of lower status trying to reach above their station and attack their betters. It's seen as ruining innocent girls and taking away the wombs needed to incubate more babies. Refusing to accept this doesn't make it any less true; it just shows those of us with these experiences that you'd rather we die tragically as women rather than live as our vibrant trans masculine selves.

[material-possessions]

“Trans music” and not a single non-transfem artist is featured

[arichronistic]

I don't at all mean to imply that I'm some Great and Influential Force, but getting double banned confirming that it was not in fact a glitch that I got banned does kinda remind me of how when a bunch of popular "transfeminist" blogs got nuked, half the site started posting about it and decided to boycott the site until said bloggers were reinstated but I've watched countless blogs that are less popular, less martyr able, or who just simply are trans men, transmasc, nonbinary, and/or intersex and therefore arent marketable as victims get nuked without so much as a peep.

And again this is not me calling for hell and high water to be raised just because I got nuked. I just know I was very much not a small presence on my first account and it's. notable. that the groups who are notoriously erased and have their erasure ignored are the ones who's blogs disappear without uproar.

[senhor-do-escuro]

I don't believe transandrophobes are just a "loud minority" because if that was the case transandrophobia would not be so normalized and rampant in queer spaces.

I also think that people who keep saying that are just lying to themselves because they prefer to believe a lie than face reality.

I also don't believe queer spaces really support trans men until you all start holding bigots accountable and stop tolerating them just because they happen to be queer.

[sonwashed]

i love trans men and being a trans man. not just for the fact that i "got to experience being a woman", but because right now i'm experiencing being a man. that is a good thing. being a man is a good thing, no matter what tumblr echo chambers and the off terf lgbt group/space says.

i love boyhood. i love being my mother's son. i love being the random boy in a girl's friend group. i love the cracks, the cravings, the hair growing oddly, and the constant sexuality crisis. i love all the "rough and tumble" and the mess and being the "little guy". i love getting pissed when my friends scruff up my hair. i love punching my wall and silently cursing from the pain. i love eating ice cream with my teeth. i love how my hair is thick and my eyebrows are dark and my posture is hunched and aloof. while this isn't everyone's boyhood, it's mine. i love being exactly who i am.

no amount of rants, fear-mongering, slurs, dog whistling, or invisibility is going to stop me from being trans or a man. so i'm not going to try. i love being a whiny, offensive transandrobro. i love being me.

[riv3rboychaos]

saw a video on tiktok today criticising the people who complain about "bi girls and their straight boyfriends at pride" right? and they were talking about it being exclusionary to trans men

anyways one of the comments was "oh but they obviously meant cis men in context" IF YOU'RE TALKING ABOUT ONLY CIS MEN THEN SAY CIS MEN BECAUSE GUESS WHAT? SAYING "MEN" OR THINGS THAT MEAN "MEN" WITH NO SPECIFICATION INHERENTLY MEANS TRANS MEN AS WELL YOU FUCKING IDIOT.

if it means cis men specifically then fucking say that lmao otherwise it is perfectly valid to assume you mean trans men as well and you will be treated as if you meant trans men as well

the assumption that "men" with no specifier means cis men only is transphobic and quite frankly if you give a shit about trans people in any capacity you should realise that

[ugh-hes-fabulous]

Ok I’ll be the one to say it. Some of you don’t think anyone born with a vagina has the interiority or awareness of self to be a “real” tranny or discuss or opine or theorize about their own experiences with oppression. and its making you stupid

[narcboyfie]

hello from another anti censorship cluster b system ^_^)/ your blog is very refreshing amongst the sludge of tumblr discourse lol

Ah, thank you!! This makes me really happy to hear. I worry I'm a little but uh, ranty, at times, but I dunno. I'm glad people agree with me, it gives me some hope