Gay Southern Suburbia

Spoonie, fiber artist, avid reader. Non-binary trans. She/her/they/them.

[pervocracy]

Fun statistical fact: Cows are about 300 times more likely to kill you than coyotes.

Minor sidenote to statistical fact: If it was common for people to keep several hundred coyotes on their property and routinely chase them into a corral and handle them, this statistic would be different.

[biggest-gaudiest-poltergeist]

this is a great summary of ‘conditional probability’, a statistical property many people grapple with 

[friendlyfrankenstein]

…I feel like this post just made me realize that both coconut trees and vending machines, items often quoted in wacky death statistics, are both things that people shake vigorously often. 

[chroniclesofchronicillness]

Non spoonies don’t get it

[hazel2468]

Seems like a good time to remind people that the phrase "from the river to the sea" - while apparently popular on this hellsite, is basically a call for the total eradication of not just the Israeli state (and by that I don't mean the government, I mean EVERYTHING) but of every Jew in that area.

SO. If I see it on your blog? Bye. I do not trust you to have anything even remotely approaching a nuanced take to this fucking tragedy.

[ace7librarian]

I think the saddest part for me about this war is that I don't trust anyone that considers themselves liberal and progressive.

I used to. Seeing a pride flag on someone's profile was enough for me to trust them. I would assume I could be safe and comfortable with them. My family made fun of me for it, but I truly believed there were genuinely good people with a perfect way of living.

I've seen so much shit online. I see all of those blue haired liberals my uncle made fun of me for being tearing away photos of kidnapped Jews. I see people I considered friends posting harmful misinformation. People with cartoons characters I like as a profile picture say my people deserved this.

It feels bonkers to double check if someone wants me dead before talking to them. This shit makes me realise why my ancestors didn't mix with goy people. I know most people don't mean harm to me, but how can I know? Maybe that's why there are Jewish supremacists. Obviously we're all human, shitty people are everywhere, but when everyone tell your community to die, it's easy to hate everyone outside your community.

I don't hate people who disappointed me as a whole. I feel like I lost faith in the entire humanity. Except for my people. This is a fucking terrifying feeling. I've been marginalized my whole life- a queer autistic woman. I never hated men, I never hated cishet people, I never hated allistic people. I'm so close to hating goy people. I've never been closer to being just like the people I hate most. It's a horrible feeling. And I blame every goy person.

Tldr- I lost my faith in humanity and I feel my morals collapsing

[thisgingerisareallybadwriter]

Something that infuriates the fuck out of me is this idea that, because I am heartbroken and angry over the death and suffering of Israeli children, that I must not care about or even justify the deaths and suffering of Gazan children.

Because that’s just not true. I do care. I am horrified. I have been ever since Israel began its retaliation. I reblog links to every aid group I know of specifically because I am so horrified by the suffering of children in Gaza. The only reason I speak more on my blog about Israel and antisemitism is because it’s home to 7 million Jews—who were the primary victims of the 10/7 attack—and there’s a level of intergenerational trauma being triggered on top of everything else (the rising antisemitism in the diaspora and the parallels to my own childhood trauma don’t help). And I’m sorry, but I’m allowed to vent about something that personally affects me. I’m allowed to care about my community and safety.

But all of this brings me to my point: why do you believe that one child’s human rights matter less than another? Why do you believe that it is ever, under any circumstances and for any reason, understandable to intentionally inflict violence upon a child, specifically to terrorize and traumatize them? And why do you think that just because you believe this, I must feel the same way?

[luckys-last-brain-cell]

I didn’t want to say anything because the suffering is not about me. But I have seen so many people I thought were good people on this website wholeheartedly defend the death of over 1000 Jews because they ostensibly support Palestine. I have seen people say things they don’t even realise are calls to violence, support things they aren’t even close to understanding.

If you are just hearing about this ongoing geopolitical situation in the month following the 7/10 attack, it is okay to not say anything until you know more. It is okay to simply say that you fear for civilians caught in this conflict. What is not okay is people acting like they’re experts.

Because before you know it, so many of you have fallen straight into antisemitic rhetoric and started spreading antisemitism because you don’t want to be “on the wrong side” of an ongoing struggle you weren’t aware of until a month ago.

[redbamba]

הצילווווו חמאס וורפד

[natalieironside]

Being a mom and an anarchist and trying to figure out the whole "parenting" song and dance from that perspective makes me think 8-year-olds have about got it figured out. I hate school. I hate tests. I hate bedtime.

[cuetheviolins]

No like here’s the thing: children are an oppressed class. I mean that 100% sincerely. Children m are an oppressed class. They quite literally do not have the right to be free human beings.

Reposting from my twitter here, but: you wouldn't prevent an adult from speaking to their friend or eating when they were hungry. In your personal life that's abusive behavior, in the work sphere a suppression of workers' rights. Other places these rights are violated include: prison.

In Education and Peace, Maria Montessori describes the culture of war and identifies it as originating, on a personal level, in the struggle between the adult and the child that begins as soon as the child is born. This is the very first conflict. The adult subjects the child to their own wants and needs and completely disregards the needs, development and personhood of the child. This struggle continues throughout childhood, between both parents and children and other adults and children:

“Both the adult and the child are unaware of their own characteristic natures. They fight one another in a secret struggle that has gone on for countless generations and is becoming more violent today in our complicated and nerve-racking culture. The adult defeats the child; and once the child reaches adulthood the characteristic signs of the peace that is only an aftermath of war—destruction on one hand and painful adjustment on the other—remain with him for the rest of his life.”

This conflict positions children and adults relative to each other as two distinct classes, one with power and one without. Of course, there are other conflicts at play here—race is a huge one, gender another. And that’s not to say children can’t have power over parents, etc. But one of the most fundamental class conflicts is between adults and children.

Children exist in a state of war from day one. Their environment is completely unsuitable to them; they’re treated as if that’s their fault. They’ve literally been alive for less than a decade. Any action they take is done as a result of class conflict.

[natalieironside]

I vibe so hard w/ this

[derinthescarletpescatarian]

I work in childcare and multiple parents have been MYSTIFIED that I’m able to handle their “difficult” children (this includes both neurodivergent children and children who are just rude/mean/violent) and it’s impossible to get them to understand that 90% of the average kid’s behaviour “problems” are just frustration at having a lack of autonomy in their own lives. Some kids do have complicated problems, yes, but so many parents are confused by perfectly understandable reactions! Of course your child is acting out; they have no self-determination or right to their own resources and it’s the only avenue they have left to assert themselves! Of course your child just yelled at you and stormed off -- you were just bullying them! I heard you doing it! They were responding extremely reasonably to being bullied!

I swear half the people in this world -- including those who live with these kids 24-7 -- somehow manage to forget or conveniently ignore that kids are, in fact, people, and will act like people in response to situations.

[cherrych4]

there is no reason a child should not be able to eat when theyre hungry and not eat things they dislike. if they dont like vegetables then teach them how to make it a way they do like. if you wouldnt yell at and hit your grandparents for not finishing their plate why would you do that to a child. they learn from you, not from what goes through your head while you punish them.

[natalieironside]

I gotta say the notes on this post have been really heartening b/c "Children are people and not property" has historically been one of my more controversial opinions

[turingmashing]

seems right up @nc-lesbo-life 's alley

[dirty]

I’ll choose her thunder over anyone else’s sunshine.

[depsidase]

[t4tstarvingdog]

*through gritted teeth* every day i choose to be kind *barely restraining myself from violence* i choose to have compassion *tamping down the vicious bloodlust inside me* i choose to care and to be kind and to love

[valtsv]

i don't want to go to work i want to do all the things i only want to do when i don't have the free time to do them

[valtsv]

no longer at work and with plenty of time to kill

[funnytwittertweets]

[violetsandshrikes]

entomologists are the most fucking wild people ive ever met

i pointed out a cool wasp to one and she just picked it up with her bare hands and started showing me different features she was using to identify the species

on a walk with another one he just paused, turned, violently shoved his hand into some rotting wood and offered me a tunnel web spider like oh okay i guess-

[skoomabong]

[karhs]

when i was in college i did larp shit and one of the guys in the group was an entomology student and i once watched him drop directly to a plank position in the middle of a swordfight to look at a moth on the ground

[lizard--email]

This is your sign to make friends with a bunch of entomologists today

[cipheramnesia]

I want to, but they're so well camouflaged as ordinary sticks and rocks, I can't find any.

[stworzonka]

being overstimulated is like. the colours hunt me for sport and sound is the same as the texture of wet noodles in a sink

[thelonelywhale]

I know it’s post pride, but consider

[funnytwittertweets]

[mhalachai]

good news! your stomach is super dumb! it can’t tell who chewed your food, and if you shove three cups of Qdoba salsa down your throat all your guts are going to see is a boatload of potassium and vitamin A/C!

[thesealfriend]

also this isn’t even some lifehack to trick your brain this is literally how food works, diet/ED and clean-eating culture has fucked us all up and made us believe that fruits and veggies only count if they’re pure, unadulterated & bland, and that by having them with “”“unhealthy”“” things like cheese and salt and bread (or even by blending them together to make them tasty) you’re negating every positive health effect they have - this is bullshit!!! salsa and guac are fruit and veg, and having well-seasoned extremely nutrition-filled veggie-bombs alongside other necessary parts of our diet like dairy fats and carbohydrates is how food is Supposed To Work!!!