[girlfailure-poetics]

I’ve seen trans women on tumblr get called TERFs for believing that trans men are men and trans women are women and transition materially changes your social class. What are we doing

[sin0fempathy]

the urge to write an essay about the “detransitioner” community grows stronger by the day. it’s one of the clearest microcosms of how transmisogyny benefits cafab people just as much as it benefits cis men, despite the insistence from twerfs and ignorant transmascs/cis women alike that they can’t possibly oppress transfems when they themselves are oppressed by different societal forces.

just as there is intersectionality when it comes to axes of oppression, there is also intersectionality within axes of oppressor classes. the sooner people realize this the sooner we can nip this particular twerf pipeline in the bud

[neovagi]

I wasn't expecting to get so much positive feedback so quickly. I expected my fight would go largely unnoticed. Thank you all for the kindness. I could have gone it alone, but it is much easier with community.

[kayla-denker]

TME/TMA isn't "creating a binary", it's describing and criticizing one that transmisogynists created and forced on us.

Do you think that describing and criticizing racism is "creating a binary" between racialized people and white people?

[andrinoaddiction]

According to transandrophobia truthers, it is now stupid to say that nonblack people cant experience antiblackness.

I genuinely cant with these people. The lengths that they go to in order to silence trans women are genuinely mind-boggling to me.

[belayedbybadeline]

What unique combination of neuron firings makes someone respond to “trans women are women and trans men are men” with “okay, transphobe”? Like, what is the chain of logic here?

[neovagi]

I have received this multiple times. It is beyond parody.

[ghostlyharrow]

people love to try and handwave transfeminism as some quote-un-quote “terminally online queer in-fighting” or whatever which is inane and bad faith in many ways, but primarily of all is the fact that anyone actually present in offline irl queer spaces should be able to see how much more present and prevalent transmisogyny is irl

like i live in a pretty small city where — for the queer community around my age — you’re probably only ever a couple people removed from anyone else. i can tell you that i don’t know/know of a single tme person — even those rare few who are supposedly transfeminists — who is not at the very least still friends with many people who are actively transmisogynistic. its either they’re an active transmisogynist, or they tolerate and police their friends who are.

so no event is safe; no one person is safe. the whole community is complicit. maybe thats why theres hardly any trans women in these friend groups or at these events? maybe thats why we’re supposedly all “terminally online” or whatever? maybe its because your transfeminism is the thing thats actually terminally online rather than present irl? tumblr users self-interrogate or introspect for five fucking seconds please

[lamiafemme]

You really start to understand that the “angry black woman” and “mean lesbian” stereotype only exists to shame us for the fact we get reasonably upset about people wanting to horrifically abuse us indiscriminately. Let’s get meaner !

[neovagi]

most talk of "male socialization" is doing the same for trans women btw

[neovagi]

girlfailure poetics blocked me so I’m saying it here.

The line of privilege only exists between cis and trans, not between transmasc and transfem. A cis man holds as much privilege over us as a cis woman, and a trans man is as equally unprivileged as a trans woman. Every example she gave of “transmasc privilege” openly ignored the cisgender privilege that actually exists.

So do you think that misogyny effects trans men and trans women equally?

[neovagi]

Trans women can never win when it comes to our bodies. if we are repulsed by our sex organs, they call us fetishists and imitators. if we are okay with our sex organs, they say it's proof that we're liars and invaders. if we are somewhere inbetween, they will say it's all of the above.

[kalina-c]

May 20, 2026

Jessie Gender @jessiegender.bsky.social‬ We see here how the concept of “male socialization” leads directly to transmisgony. “Stop acting like a man or else you’re not really a woman, nor are you transitioning hard enough.” Fuck off. No woman, trans or cis, has to act a certain way to be a woman, nor do you gatekeep someone’s transition.

broccoli ‪@billymayslesbian.bsky.social‬ the fastest ive ever seen "male socialization" debunked was the time in a gender studies class three cis men argued if trans women had male privilege for like ten minutes while a trans girl sat patiently with her hand up the whole time.

jenny tightpants ‪@jtp.bsky.social‬ wokely trans women haven't done the work to unlearn the idea that they deserve to be taken seriously when they speak. that's only for men.

[neovagi]

If anyone is wondering about the true nature of "transandrophobia", this is what I get in my inbox after less than a day of arguing with these people.

I am genuinely surprised. I didn't think it was this bad. This rhetoric is completely indistinguishable from TWERFs and channers. I'm sort of beside myself with awe. Child rapist and disgusting male, that's all it ever is with transmisogynists, no matter where they come from.

[nervousyoungpup]

holy shit ive also gotten an anon calling me ghislaine maxwell thats gotta be the same twerf that was weeks ago too thats wild that theyre still at it, sorry youre getting harassed this shit is horrible.

[neovagi]

Fascinating how they all function the same. And ironic to invoke Maxwell's name when treating trans women like this is particularly Epsteinite.

No need to apologize, I'm far enough in my transition that it doesn't phase me. But I appreciate it.

[neovagi]

quit putting ur anti-transmasc rhetoric in the transandrophobia tag its annoying as fuck lol

It's annoying as fuck to pretend that misandry is real.

[neovagi]

If anyone is wondering about the true nature of "transandrophobia", this is what I get in my inbox after less than a day of arguing with these people.

I am genuinely surprised. I didn't think it was this bad. This rhetoric is completely indistinguishable from TWERFs and channers. I'm sort of beside myself with awe. Child rapist and disgusting male, that's all it ever is with transmisogynists, no matter where they come from.

[neovagi]

congratulations, you are genuinely indistinguishable from a TWERF

[maidslime]

"tme/tma is terf shit!!" ah yes. The famous terf talking point of "transmisogyny is real"

[mousidy]

We've really gone from "gendered bathrooms shouldn't exist" to "we should actually have more separation in our spaces"

"and we should draw the lines exactly where the right wants them to be drawn, just with different terminology so it's Inclusive 🙂"