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This is my favourite band, 4 really awesome guys from Vienna:
You can feel their love for music in every song they make, and they put their heart and soul in every show they play.
But: They only have a small number of followers and monthly listeners on Spotify. All criticism of Spotify beside - can we get them some more? That would be so awesome!
(They're also on YouTube and Instagram.)
So, Tumblr, do your thing! And thanks for every follow!
What is it with men on dating apps when they're like "my relationship goal is to get to know you first" or "let's have a deep connection first" or something? Have y'all just figured out that that's what's called a relationship? Have y'all dated ppl without having feelings for them? I mean, that would explain so much, but like buddy... Dude... Bro, hear me out. Getting to know someone before entering a relationship is the way to do it. It's not a flex that you want to know my name before trying to fuck me.
Movie about a depressed and rather morbid autistic man planning to commit suicide and picking up a number of odd jobs in an effort to raise enough money to meticulously plan and prepay for his funeral so his mother doesn’t have to worry about it after he is gone. He begins to connect with people and enjoy life for the first time while working part time as a greeter in the funeral home, helping an eccentric old lady organize her basement, walking 7 dogs and maintaining a feral cat colony for a guy with a broken foot, playing a number of bit parts in local ads and stocking the shelves at the convenience store at night. In the end, he has befriended many of his neighbors and he decides he does not want to die and goes back to school to become a funeral director instead.
Just fyi: The uncontrollable laughter you hear every time some influencer says that putting salt in your food will kill you comes from ppl with POTS hugging their salt shaker like their life depends on it. Bc it does. (So does yours, btw.)
Before home computers were very common, people typically only typed for business-related things, so the only people that actually knew how to use typewriters and word processors were authors, secretaries, accountants, etc. These people would take classes for typing bc it was seen as a skill. This gradually fell out of fashion, much like teaching kids cursive
Typing is only intuitive to gen y & z bc most of us learned through computer games or had someone tell us where to rest our fingers. People who never learned to type use just their index fingers, hit one key, take a long time to find the next letter, hit it with an index finger, and repeat until finished
I am on dating apps (plural). Bc of my looks or the way I am or whatever I don't get a lot of likes. Most of them by men I would never date bc they're gym bros and give podcast-incel-vibes. But anyway. Sometimes there's a match. Hallelujah. I have never exchanged more than 5 messages with them bc at the point where it comes to "what do you do for a living", I answer honestly that I can't work due to my chronic illness. And that's where the conversation ends. Every time. It doesn't even matter if they're an engineer or a teacher or a social worker (a job having to do with ppl should make them more aware, but well... apparently it doesn't). The conversation never gets further than that. And I don't even know how I'm feeling about that, if I'm sad or annoyed or angry... I don't know. I just know that "I had to quit my job due to having a chronic illness" are the lasts words I'm going to say to this person. But what's my choice - at some point I have to tell them and I'd rather do it sooner than later and wasting my time.
helpful tattoo reminder: they are technically Injuries so u have to eat a lot of calories drink a lot of water and sleep a lot after so your body can Heal The Injury
another helpful tattoo reminder: the 24-48 hours after you get a tattoo your brain can not be trusted in regards to whether or not you should have gotten that tattoo, if you have somehow ruined your life, if it turned out ugly, etc. ignore that
finally, while i am at it: always bring a candy bar and a sugary drink to your appointment for blood-sugar reasons (worst case scenario) or so you can have a treat (unilaterally applicable)
Can I just emphasize that not everyone reading this has yet encountered the information that injuries require food, hydration, and sleep? I think the way many people associate rest and injury is that you rest the injury itself to avoid making it worse, but overlook that the healing process itself requires rest regardless of if not-rest directly injures it further.
Also exercise is a form of controlled injury so that as your body heals it heals stronger. You also need food-hydration-rest for strength and cardiovascular improvements after exercise.
Also: Slapping is your friend! DO NOT SCRATCH A FRESH TATTOO! With your flat hand, slap it lightly but repeatedly. You can also VERY CAREFULLY scratch OUTSIDE OF the outer lines of the tattoo. Your body doesn't know if you're scratching the spot that actually itches or if you're scratching right beside or around it. It will feel like you scratched the spot.
(Same goes for all wounds, btw.)
Also also: You need to clean fresh tattoos until they're healed. First 24 (or whatever your tattoo artist says) hours is just rest (as in: DON'T DO ANYTHING WITH YOUR TATTOO). After that, warm water and some mild soap are your friend to remove blood, tissue fluids, and ointment residue. DO NOT SCRUB. Put a small amount of soap on your hand and just slightly go over the tattoo, then rinse until clean. Dab dry with a clean sheet of kitchen roll - no towels!
Also also also (if you're not allergic): Ointments with Panthenol are your absolute best friend! Put that stuff on at least 3 times a day after cleaning your tattoo. It helps the skin to heal faster and there will be less scarring.
Your body has a wound. Tend to it.
PS: You usually don't need any disinfectant! On the contrary, it will usually irritate the skin more. If you're in pain and the skin gets unusually red and hot after the first day (or at any point), see a doctor! After the tattoo is done, you feel a bit sore, of course, but at no point in the healing process should you be in any pain!
Last night I had a dream where I argued with somebody. I have no idea who that person was, I have no idea, what we were arguing about, but my argument was the following (almost verbatim):
You know that if the majority of ppl just killed ppl they don't like - it would be seen as "normal" and it wouldn't be normal to not do that and ppl would've problems to publicly admit they don't just kill ppl, right?
You know that if the majority of ppl fucked animals or corpses - it would be seen as "normal" and it wouldn't be normal to not do that and ppl would've problems to publicly admit they don't do that, right?
You know that if the majority of ppl were cannibals - it would be seen as "normal" and it wouldn't be normal to not eat ppl and ppl would've problems to publicly admit they don't do that, right?
So... Just because you're doing something that's considered "normal" - doesn't mean it really is "normal", it's just what the majority of ppl "normally" do. "Normal" has no worth or meaning in and of itself. It gets its meaning from being compared to other stuff.
You thinking that trans ppl, gay ppl, disabled ppl, or anybody you consider "different" are not "normal" has no inherent worth or meaning whatsoever. If everyone was homosexual, you'd be the odd one out. Just because the majority of ppl do/don't do something, doesn't mean anything. When will you get that in that stupid fucking bigoted head of yours??
Me reading "potatoes" in the comments and texts: PotaToEs arEn'T vEgetABles, tHey'RE a SIDE DISH.
Man, growing up in Germany in the 90s really screwed me up... (They straight up told us, potatoes were unhealthy. But heroin chic models were the shit. So. Yeah.)
I sat behind the same girl in class all year and I was painfully jealous of her beautiful curly hair and I assumed she had just figured out some hair routine I didn't know, or had more time in the mornings than me, or was somehow more disciplined or just lucky. And then my friend talked to her one day and found out she gets 500$ perms and highlights 3 times a year. The answer was literally just money. The same friend found out that most of our classmates who I thought were just naturally smarter than me went to private highschools that cost 25k a year.
This is all a metaphor to say that there will be times when you feel like other people understand something that you don't, or have some ability that you don't, or are better than you in some way because they've accomplished something you can't. And it's going to turn out that they're just rich and they spent thousands of dollars to make that happen. You are not bad, you are not broken, the system is just fucked.
Sometimes I see beautiful skinny ppl who seemingly have it all and I always think to myself: My goodness, why can't you be like them, you stupid ugly fat bitch. And then I'm like. Uhm, honey, it's a list?
1. Chronically ill
2. Disabled
3. Bordering on being poor (I make ends meet, but like...)
4. As proved above: extremely traumatised.
And then I'm like, well, fuck, and treat myself to 24 hours of not thinking anything negative about myself.
Just btw: We need to stop calling offenders "monsters". They are human beings who've done horrible things. But monsters don't exist. They're part of fairy tales and ghost stories. I know where it comes from, the fact that we don't really have a name for offenders who've done horrible things. But "monster" let's them off way too easy! Yeah, well, they weren't even human, they were a monster. No. Nonononono. No. A monster can't even do anything about being a monster. We expect monsters to do horrendous things. And by calling offenders "monster", we somehow give them a pass. No. They are a human being who has done horrible things, more often than not by choice. Nobody made them do it. Believe me, that's worse than being a monster.
When having a conversation with others, make sure everyone in the conversation is getting a chance to speak and everyone who is speaking gets a chance to finish their thought. Avoid speaking over others or cutting others off. Even if you do accidentally interrupt someone before they had a chance to finish their thought, give them a chance to finish by saying something along the lines of "sorry for interrupting, please continue what you were saying"
And, if you do notice someone in the group keeps trying to speak but someone else keeps speaking over them, or someone else speaks first every time they try to open their mouth, you can create an opening for them by saying "what did you want to say?/what was it you were saying?" or you can look at them after someone else in the group has spoken over them / cut them off and say "go on, I'm still listening" to make them feel heard and included.
Ideally in a conversation everyone deserves equal speaking time, and everyone deserves to finish their thought. If someone is dominating the conversation by not giving others the chance to speak and interrupting others before they can finish their thoughts, it can give the impression that they view what they have to say as more important and more valuable that what others in the conversation have to say.
Likewise if someone isn't getting the opportunity to speak or finish their thought due to always being spoken over, it gives the impression that others in the conversation don't value what they have to say, that what they have to contribute to the conversation isn't as valuable or as important as what those dominating the conversation are contributing.
And who's going to correct all the mistakes AI makes? The stupid passive-aggressive owl can go fuck itself. I hope Duolingo dies - as any company using AI.