My grandmother (Nana), who was born in 1916 and was -- undoubtedly due to her own life of suffering -- the sort of woman who viciously policed other people's gender expression right up until the Alzheimer's wouldn't let her do so anymore --
Well, when she noticed I had hit puberty, she decided:
I needed to dress more feminine.
I needed to carry a purse, or a handbag.
I needed to wear a posture bra. (Look it up if you dare.)
I needed... to take shorter steps.
This last... at the time that she made that decision, I was a five-foot, seven-inch tall 12-13 year old, and I walked accordingly. It wasn't quite *one* step per sidewalk square, but it was close enough that I had a lot of fun with it, and with walking in general.
(Insert rant here about shitty-ass, inaccessible areas which lack basic pedestrian -- and mobility-aid-user -- accommodations. Like the city we live in now.)
But Nana was wroth, and insistent. My father stayed out of it, as Nana was my mother's mother. My mother caved -- she'd always wanted a 'little princess' for a daughter, too -- and *continued* to cave... right up until Nana whipped out a short, smooth rope designed to be tied around my ankles.
After that point (and, to be fair -- if I could even *use* that word -- after things like the incredible physical pain the posture bra caused, and the fact that there was no earthly reason for me to have to carry a purse AND my 25-30lb backpack, and the fact that motherfucking *Talbot's* most assuredly did not care to dress fatty fats like me...), my mother remembered that she had a spine.
I honestly haven't the faintest clue if my 'failure' to live up to Nana's standards on How To Woman played a *huge* role in the fact that, like, we never had an actual *conversation*?
But this is the shit I think about every time I see something like this. Nana would've dressed me in those clothes in a heartbeat. Nana 100% shopped for clothes *based* on their ability to bind and *train*.
This... we all need to get this to the people in our lives who are even *thinking* about having kids.