Stephanie Nguyen

[olearypoetry]

[wheeloffortune-design]

I want to apologise to

- Britney for making fun of her when she had her breakdown

- Monica Lewinski for judging her when she was a 22year old temp sexually assaulted by the most powerful man in the world

- Ke$ha for ever thinking she was trashy when all she wanted to do was make party music

- Kristen Stewart for ever thinking she was dumb when she’s actually one of the coolest people ever

- Megan Fox for ever thinking she was just a slut when actually she was an actress being harassed by her employer. 

- Hating all the women who made a career out of having a hot body. Being is shape is hard, beauty is a weapon and auto promotion is hard work. 

- All the Mary-Sues, who exist because young girls everywhere want to be part of a story they love so much

- All the female characters I ever snobbed because they got in the way of my ship.

- Hating the color pink during my teenage years, when it’s actually a lovely color and what I resented was society’s pressure to perform femininity. 

[zenkaiankoku]

This is what sexism does. The media runs a smear campaign against women. And when we were younger we knew no better and trusted them. Now we know better.

[niknak79]

[the-absolute-best-posts]

College.

[unflatteringcatselfies]

[brimalandro]

i think about this a lot

[dashaibo]

The guy got his life and career destroyed by his divorce, cut him some slack.

[ninja-pyro]

he was also sexually assaulted by a man who could destroy his career

[ima-fuckingt4ble]

protect him

[unlimited-shitpost-works-deacti]

reblog if the man on the right is just as beautiful as the man on the left

[konigstigerr]

people grow old? like, that’s a thing that happens? leave my guy alone.

[totallynotagentphilcoulson]

Also that photo on the right is from like 2010 when he specifically and intentionally gained weight for that unfortunately lame family comedy Furry Vengeance

This is from earlier this year

[ruby-white-rabbit]

Protect Brendan like we protect Terry Crews

[queerautism]

https://www.gq.com/story/what-ever-happened-to-brendan-fraser

Please read this. He’s a wonderful man who went through so much.

He’s got a house on the countryside and bought a horse used on one of his shoots for his Autistic son, who he clearly loves so much.

[kiwi]

“you’re so polite!” thank you i have anxiety

[sodapoplio]

[kai-wildfang]

Can someone from the Pokemon fandom explain this, I don’t understand nurse Joy’s reaction.

[coolsville-ghetto]

Ho-oh is basically a minor deity, so nurse joy pretty much just heard this ten year old say “i threw a rat at a god.”

[neyugneinahpets]

just a small rant

I think the issue with society today is somehow, along the way, we stopped empathizing with others. We stopped caring about how certain circumstances and/or situations could be affecting others and only care about how it conveniences ourselves. Cancelled plans sure are irritating, but recently, a friend confided in me that she had to cancel plans due to having a bad day, which then heightened her anxiety and depression so she decided to spare her friends her bad mood and cancelled. Naturally, our first thought it omg, what a flaky friend. But with some backstory, you’d actually see and understand that yes, although she was looking after herself, she also showed that she cared enough about her friends not to subject them to her mood.

I feel like anxiety and depression are such tough issues to write about. Although I’ve never been medically diagnosed with these mental illnesses, I am about 99.9% sure I have them, just like most of my generation. I don’t think mine is terribly extreme compared to others, but I’ve heard of some cases being so severe that it causes one to push themselves to the point of exhaustion, all because they (we, I) don’t want to be an inconvenience. Personally, I feel like mine stems from being a perfectionist. I can’t stand receiving a letter grade below an A. An A- is already pushing the limits of what I feel I should be capable of so receiving anything lower than an A makes me feel worthless, like I could’ve done better if I did this or focused harder on studying a different topic. I also understand my triggers, although it does not stop it from being a trigger. For example, my main trigger is death and everything related to it. I know what it is, but that doesn’t necessary stop me from thinking about it. I know what you’re thinking. “Stephanie, just distract yourself. Think about something else.” I try, and I do. But it’s not as easy as thinking about it and then thinking about something else. It’s always going to be in the back of my mind

A lot of these feelings come from being gen 1.5 of an immigrant (now citizen) family. People talk about how they feel their parents’ dreams have been passed down to them because our immigrant parents suffered so that we could work for a good future. To have a good future here, you need money. I don’t care what they say about doing what makes you happy or following your heart. Money is always going to be an issue. I wish it were as easy as choosing to do what makes you happy, but it’s not. At least in my case, it isn’t. Congrats if it worked for you though. However, I believe a majority of my generation is stuck in this circle of wanting to follow our hearts and dreams, but also having this huge pressure put on us to be financially successful. After all, this is what are parents suffered for. I’d also like to say that not all parents are like this. But it is very real. It’s been internalized since birth that I have to achieve higher goals than the norm because I am classified as a model minority. I don’t think many people realize that asians are more than high grades and excelling in academics. Asians can also excel in the arts (not me tho lol) and be creative with dance. We have so much culture to share, but in the end, it comes down to not wanting to disappoint our families that have put their blood, sweat, and tears in order to ensure our success.

Honestly, I feel like the value we put on time (and how it relates to money) is also an essential part of disregarding how someone else if feeling when we feel mildly inconvenienced. America has a work-til-you-die mentality. What this means is literally, put 110% in your work, stay overtime (but don’t expect overtime pay), and never miss a day of work in your life (even due to personal illness, family emergencies, etc). This essentially enforces the fact that each minute is valuable because each minute is a small piece of time that you could be doing some type of work. If you are not actively being productive, you’re wasting time and therefore, wasting money. Somehow, this translates into anything wasting our time is wasting our money and that simply is not good enough in our society.

[postingwhileblack]

Autistic NY Black teen gets lost running 5K, assaulted by a white man who’s afraid of getting mugged.

For more than two years, Clarise Coleman faithfully attended every track practice and every cross-country meet for her son, Chase.

A few weeks ago, Chase, who is a nearly nonverbal autistic child, was running in a meet in Rochester, New York, with his team from Corcoran High School - was assaulted by a stranger in the middle of a race.

Coleman was waiting for him at a part of the course where runners would come down a hill but he didn’t appear and she went looking for him. She was shouting his name and then she started to meet people who pointed in the direction of her son. One of them said:

“I see a grown man, who is quite tall and fairly heavy … exit the vehicle and give this young man a shove that puts him back 10 feet and flat on his butt. Like, just shoved him across the road. The kid didn’t seem to be doing anything but standing there, obviously had nothing in his hands and weighed all of 130 pounds. This guy was easily twice that.”

This tall white guy was a 57-year-old man named Martin MacDonald who told the police that the reason he attacked the Black kid was he thought Chase was going to mug his wife and take her purse.

“My son is a minor. [MacDonald is] a grown man,” Coleman said she told police. “He put his hands on my son. Of course I want to press charges.”

However the police was deaf and on Oct. 21, Rochester City Court Judge Caroline Morrison sent a letter to the Colemans that shocked them: 

She had denied their warrant application, and MacDonald would not be charged for second-degree harassment.

Now the autistic Black boy refused to go to practices and skipped running in his last meet of the season. He turned his running uniform in to his coach, who gently encouraged him to change his mind. Chase refused.

“We just keep telling him, ‘You didn’t do anything wrong. Chase is good. There are mean people and there are nice people and this person was just a mean person,’ ” Coleman said. “We just keep apologizing to him that happened. Especially me. I kept apologizing to him that I couldn’t keep him safe.” 

The attack deeply traumatized him and he lost one of the few things that gave him a sense of pride and belonging.

Please, make a shout out to this outrageous accident! The white man still didn’t receive any punishment for ruining life of the Black boy. THIS IS HELL!

#StayWoke #BlackChildrenMatter #WhitePrivilege

[mockiato-deactivated20200315]

Every reblog that includes Martin MacDonald in it is another web page to help make sure that when you google Martin MacDonald’s name, it’s in connection with child abuse and racism.

[windwaver]

[wander-in-arda]

Happy 10th Anniversary of the Finale of Avatar: The Last Airbender

[rufftoon]

The animation, the staging, the fx, the music…still so much <3

[arandomthot]

I hate that I relate so much to this

[dankmemesreasonforliving]

[turing-tested]

i really am, from the bottom of my heart, an actual fucking idiot

[spaceviral-archive-deactivated2]

“Your mental illness is all in your head” where did you think it was????? my ass????

[feministism]

[neyugneinahpets]

Honestly, I’ve been away from Tumblr for far too long

But now I’m back. I’m rereading a whole lot of my old posts about myself when I was a teenager and just wow. It’s amazing to see my own personal growth and where I’ve improved myself. There’s a lot of immaturity, as there should be, but I’m just glad to see growth in general. Honestly though, I’m just gonna be blogging more rambles. If you don’t like it, leave. I’m not here for followers. I’m here to vent and rant and get everything off my chest. I thought about starting something new or private, but honestly, I don’t care who reads this. One thing that hasn’t changed is that I’m an open book. I’ll answer most likely anything, but if it’s something I’m not comfortable with, I’ll tell you. kaythanksbye.

[theshitneyspears]

It’s the little things that matter the most 🎄🌈