Raffy definitely crossed a line. What he did wasn’t okay, and it shouldn’t be brushed off. At the same time, Rome isn’t entirely blameless either. He was there when it happened and didn’t step in, and that moment of silence does matter. But it also feels less like malice and more like hesitation or being caught off guard, which a lot of people might relate to in a tense situation.
When Rome later told Dean, it came from a place of honesty. Dean deserved to know the truth, and Rome did make sure that happened.
The issue is more in how it came across. By focusing on Raffy’s actions without fully including his own presence in that moment, it creates an imbalance, even if that wasn’t his intention.
What makes it complicated is that Rome clearly cares about Raffy. His actions don’t necessarily come from wanting to betray him, but rather from trying to do the right thing after the fact, even if he didn’t handle it perfectly.
And asking Raffy to look at him after all this…I wouldn’t blame Raffy for not choosing Rome. Because when it actually mattered, Rome ended up standing by Dean as a friend rather than showing up for Raffy in that same way. Because to him, everyone picked Dean over him. And now the one person who claims to be a "loser" for him, chose Dean over him as well.
And Raffy had every right to be angry too. From his perspective, Rome spent that time with him, took him out, let things feel normal and even good, only for it to lead to deleting the video for Dean.
That kind of emotional whiplash stings. Raffy trusted him, especially because Rome himself said he’s always been there for him, so this probably felt like a betrayal he never saw coming.
Raffy was in the wrong, but Rome’s response wasn’t perfect either. Instead of seeing it as him taking the moral high ground, it can also be seen as someone trying to correct a situation he didn’t know how to handle in the moment, even if he didn’t fully acknowledge his own part in it.