the thing is, a lot of the people who say "im pro-endo but anti-endos can interact" will be best friends with people who constantly post hate about endo systems or theyll sometimes even be best friends with people who legitimately harass people and send people death threats. and, a lot of the time, these people arent close to any endo systems - kinda like the group of people who call themselves "endo-neutral" and then exclusively befriend and interact with anti-endos and hold very anti-endo beliefs and arent actually "neutral" at all but just say that theyre neutral so they can reblog moodboards and whatever with no consequences (saying this as someone who was one of those people for a while).
also, the idea that "all/most anti-endos are uneducated children who dont know what endos actually are" is a strawman fallacy i see a lot (anti-endos do this too towards pro-endos). the majority of anti-endos do know what endo systems are, and the majority of anti-endos are very educated (even if theyre educated on very cherry-picked sources, they do have sources, most arent just completely making things up). and, from my time in the anti-endo community, anti-endos are actually mostly adults or older teenagers (like 16/17). anti-endos are wrong because they cherry-pick outdated and debunked sources, not because theyre children or dont actually understand things. a lot of the time people on the internet will use "theyre all children" as an argument when its 1, factually wrong, and 2, ageist. a 13 year old pro-endo is not inherently incorrect about everything because theyre 13, either. (obviously you arent saying all of this or using it as your main argument like a lot of people do, but i figured id point it out anyways since i see this a Lot. its also something ive done myself because, like one of my favorite archaeologists said recently, literally everyone makes logical fallacies because its basically human nature to do that)
id also like to argue that many anti-endos are as bad as a lot of homophobes, just not on a national scale (theyre not as bad as nazis, i was just using that as an example of an oppressive group thats on like 100% of dnis). save for a select few anti-endos who just "dont want non-disordered systems to use actual systems' terminology" or whatever, the majority of anti-endos believe that all endo systems are either confusing their plurality with something else, actually are traumagenic but dont realize it, or are faking out of malice (just like how very common arguments towards gay people is either "youre just confused" or "well their attraction isnt the same as us straight people"). anti-endos post endo systems' private posts to make fun of them on very popular subreddits such as r/fakedisordercringe (just like that one libsoftiktok person or whatever her username was). many anti-endos harass endo systems for simply existing (even if they try to claim it "isnt real harassment" when they repeatedly send people asks saying that theyre liars and horrible people for "faking"). anti-endos have, in the past, doxxed endo systems and even caused at least one endo system to commit suicide (iirc, i heard about this a while ago so i might be remembering wrong - but i do have a couple friends who have been made extremely suicidal because of harassment from anti-endos). anti-endos arent just an online thing either - a couple of my irl friends are endo systems and theyve gotten harassed and hated irl too (including one of my irl friends having an anti-endo bring several of their anti-endo friends to "debate" him by just interrupting him constantly to say "thats not real", "thats impossible", "youre spreading misinformation", etc for twenty minutes until he was finally able to get them to leave). i know people who have had professionals tell them that being endogenic is impossible and that theyre faking for attention - ive had professionals doubt my DID diagnosis because im not anti-endo. obviously, not all anti-endos do every single one of these things, but most of them do this enough for it to be harmful (and id say that even telling someone "hey you dont exist" and nothing else is still very harmful, especially to people with paranoia or anxiety). anti-endos are not just "kids online who say mean things sometimes", they are a legitimate hate group, they arent any less harmful to people just because their community is smaller.
the majority of "pro-endo but anyone can interact" people used to be fully pro-endo until they realized that they could just interact with anti-endos and no one would care as long as they put "anyone can interact" on their profile. the reason why theres tons of anti-endos in the mogai community now is because all the formerly pro-endo bloggers dont care anymore because they and all their friends arent endo systems so they see no need to care. they post stuff like "anti-endos who dont harass people are amazing i love you" (because apparently the harassment is the only bad part, and the fact that theyre invalidating peoples entire existences doesnt matter) and get tons of notes because a lot of the people in that community do not actually care about endo systems. its incredibly unsafe for endo systems to have people claim to be pro-endo and then directly expose endos to harassment.
theres probably a lot more i could say but its currently 40 minutes past when i promised id go to bed so im going to end it here lol
