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@noceursystem
what no one tells you about being a system is that it’s so exhausting when you’ve got so little spoons from mental illness but everyone wants to do Things but you just want to rest
switching itself is exhausting
letting others front is exhausting
accommodating everyone is so fucking exhausting.
kudos to all the systems out there living their lives
- trin
Therapists are just…. Common sense filters
Me: yeah so I just don’t have the energy to get up and make myself a sandwich or wait for something to cook so I just. Don’t
Her: why don’t you just eat the sandwich components without putting them together
Me:
Her: you can just eat a handful of cheese and some sandwich meat. You don’t have to make a sandwich.
Me:
Me: what
Therapists finding loopholes for mental illness things is one of my favorite things about dealing with mental illness because it really helps me understand that just because a reaction is Common doesn’t mean it’s Right. Does doing dishes stress you out a lot? Buy paper plates. Do your obsessive thoughts make you worry about leaving your curling iron on so you drive home from work to check? Just put the curling iron in your purse and bring it to work with you while we work on tackling where this worry comes from. Symptom management doesn’t have to look like drudgery.
i used to go days without showering because seeing my body was so upsetting that i would end up spiraling and then i realized i could simply turn the lights out. it took some getting used to but i’ve been showering with the lights off for years and it’s now one of my favorite parts of my day.
do whatever you want nothing is real and there’s no need to inflict unnecessary suffering on yourself just to try to seem “normal”
I love this post
Hmmm
These kinds of loopholes make life so. Much. Better.
One of my favorite stories is this lady had extremely bad OCD. Every day she’d be late to work because she was convinced that her hair dryer was going to burn down the house so would always have to turn around and check it. Multiple times a day even. A bunch of doctors tied to “fix” her of that fear, until one day she got a doctor that suggested she bring the hair dryer with her. Other doctors were annoyed, saying that wasn’t a the correct way to help, but she gave it a go. When she had that fear, she’d look over and see the hair dryer unplugged in the seat next to her and was able to carry on. I think it’s such a perfect example of actually helping someone instead of forcing them into a neurotypical standard.
That story helped me stop repeatedly checking if my front door was locked. Instead of checking that the door was locked over and over I would check my security system app. If it’s on it will alert me if the front door opens.
“…actually helping someone instead of forcing them into a neurotypical standard” should be added to the Hippocratic Oath.
Treat people with psychosis with respect. Treat people with schizophrenia with respect. Treat people with personality disorders with respect. Treat people with DID with respect. Treat people who dissociate frequently with respect.
System Vine Asks
Step the f**k up Kyle!: Do you have specific alters that deal with any conflicts or decision making? and they were roommates! (omg they were roommates): If you have an inner world, do any of your alters share a room or a certain space? I am the sand guardian, guardian of the sand: which of your alters do you think are the most protective of the system? I’m in me mum’s car, brum brum: If you drive, do any of your alters have different driving styles/techniques? Are any alters not allowed to drive? hey my name is trey I have a basketball game tomorrow: Do any of your alters like or play any sports? when there’s too much drama at school, all you gotta do is walk awayeyeyey: have any of your alters ever gotten you in trouble at school? how so? Chris, is that a weed?? I’m calling the police!: do any of your alters smoke/do drugs? how do the others feel about it? hey I’m lesbian - I thought you were american?: do your alters have different sexualities? I wanna be a cowboy babyyyy: what are your alters dream jobs? this b*tch empty, yeet!: are there ever times where no one wants to front? if so, how do you deal with it? omg I love chipotle, chipotle is my life!: what are each of your favourite fast food places/restaurants? I didn’t get no sleep cuz of y’all, y’all ain’t gon get no sleep cuz of meee: what are each of your alters sleeping behaviours like? do you have different sleeping patterns? do any of you remember your dreams?
Please reblog if you think that “they/them/theirs” is a valid set of pronouns.
this post must be reblogged by everyone
Somedays I identify as they/them/theirs, myself!! Yall are valid as heck, and are never alone. I’ll be here if you need help or to vent or just a friend!!!! I’ll be here for yall, kiddos.
I think I reblogged this already but it never hurts to reblog twice
Silver’s OSDD comics, #6. Art © me
~~totes okay to reblog if you want, even if you don’t have DID/OSDD <3
It’s not always a smooth and pretty ride, and that’s normal! We’re going to make it to where we’re meant to be, even with the sadness and struggles. ❤️️
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Neurotypicals: Don’t let your condition bother you or affect your life in any ways! I know you have x disorder, but the symptoms shouldn’t really impair your life!
DSM Diagnosis of Literally Every Disorder: The symptoms cause clinically significant distress or impairment in social, occupational, or other important areas of functioning.
Raise ur hand if u ever feel like your trauma wasn’t “serious” enough to justify your reaction to it and u feel like a fake victim every day of your life!!!!!
Just In Case You Feel Fake
I struggle with this a lot so I know others probably do, and I want you guys to know this.
People with DID who have absolutely no memory of what the other alter did, or having alters that act completely and totally 100% different from you, are rare.
Yes, the diagnoses for DID is that you have problems remembering what you’re doing while dissociated. It explains that if you have trouble identifying simple things about yourself (name,age, address, where you’re from, etc.) and that you seem to have voices or thought streams that don’t at all connect to each other, and that you often have large gaps not just in your everyday (dependent) memory but also in your past (remote) memories, then you have DID.
However, what people often forget, is that the DSM-V addresses TWO TYPES of switches: Those where the alters are so drastically different that they’re completely different people (”possession-form”), and those that are less obvious and hard to detect but are still noticeable to the individuals within the system (”non-possession-form”).
If you don’t experience dissociative fugue (”coming to” in random locations), don’t really experience finding random items, and still have some vague clue as to what the other alter was doing but no actual memory of it, that’s non-possessive-form.
If you don’t remember a single thing, if you come-to in random locations, and people tell you it’s like you’re a totally new person – if your alters take on their own actions and you don’t have a clue what they did until later, that’s possessive-form, and it is VERY RARE.
The point of DID/OSDD, is that the system is trying to be covert, for your survival. Even if you have no active communication within your system, sometimes you’ll have some vague “we went to the doctor” kind of idea, but when, how, and what actually happened/was said may be completely beyond you. That’s normal.
In overt possessive-form DID, a second alter could literally go on a vacation, hit it up at a night club, and then switch, and the first alter has absolutely no clue what happened, just that they’re now in a night club and holding a drink when the last thing they remember doing was driving to work. (Bad example but you get the idea.) This kind of memory lapse and abrupt difference is RARE. This is NOT HOW ALL DID SYSTEMS ARE SUPPOSED TO BE, but it’s how some of them are..
Does it happen? Absolutely, yes. But the DSM-V recounts that most of non-possessive-form systems, and some possessive-form systems, don’t actually have clean cut “this is obviously a different alter” behavior.
“In many possession-form cases of dissociative identity disorder, and in a small portion of non-possession-form dissociative identity disorder do not overtly display their discontinuity of identity for long periods of time; only a small minority present to clinical attention with observable alternation of identities. … Possession-form identities in dissociative identity disorder typically manifest as behaviors that appear as if a “spirit,” supernatural being, or outside person has taken control, such that the individual begins speaking or acting in a distinctly different manner.”
It’s okay if you can just barely ‘know’ what your alter did, but have literally no visual or cognitive memory of it. That’s extremely common.
If you’re capable of visually remembering what your alter did (i.e., like you’re in the “backseat,” not co-con but still able to know what’s going on, can remember what they did even after leaving front, don’t have to discuss with them what they did, everyone seems to have a “memory pool” that most of them can pull from), that’s a form of OSDD.
If you have sudden switches where you come to in random places, people tell you you behave so differently they can’t figure out who you are, you’re faced with actions and consequences you have no recollection of doing but you clearly did them, or that people sometimes say (or you feel like) you were possessed – that’s possession-form, and is rare.
(Psst. Both of them are 100% valid.)
I needed this today.
incoming rant. angry N ready to FIGHT
makes it very obvious that we’re uncomfortable with being touched either by using body language or straight up telling them
someone hugs the body
fluches away, takes a step back, literally anything to stop it
someone: wow so rude
us: just not comfortable with being touched r-
someone: >:(((( it’s just a hug calm down
ah yeS how dAre wE hAvE bOUNDRIEs??? please learn to read body language and listen!! so sick of people not respecting our boundaries!! if we want hugs or anything else 👏 we 👏 would 👏 make 👏 that 👏 obvious 👏 . pls and thank u
(╬ Ò﹏Ó) - ranty sol
reblog if you:
- flinch away when someone touches you.
- panic when you accidentally break an object.
- get scared when someone walks behind you.
- feel your heart rate increase at every sudden noise.
- are easily panicked by slightly-louder-than-normal sounds.
- stare apprehensively at your bedroom doorway for hours at night.
- have trouble making eye contact with people.
- always feel either too mature or too immature for your age.
- simultaneously crave and be terrified of physical contact.
because i do all of these
Combating Faking
This was written by a friend of ours in another system, posted with permission, who specifically doesn’t want to be credited by name! I thought it would be helpful to post here, and wanted to share their advice with all yall.
“The way I combated self doubt and feeling like I was fake before I was officially diagnosed was by noticing things that wouldn’t make sense for me to fake. It wouldn’t make sense for me to fake having alters when I was by myself and nobody was around to see it. There were times when I would have symptoms I didn’t understand and only find out later that they were from DID. I couldn’t fake not having memory of certain things, not when the only person who knew I didn’t remember was me. Also, I would ask myself– If I found out tomorrow that I definitively don’t have DID, what would change? For me, the answer was that nothing would change, except the label. My alters wouldn’t stop existing if I didn’t have a DID diagnosis. I wouldn’t stop dissociating. I wouldn’t stop having PTSD symptoms, etc. In most circumstances, mental health diagnoses aren’t like strep throat or whatever other diseases they can test for, they can’t run a test and see with certainty “oh, you’ve got [disorder], we can tell because of the antibodies you have.” Most mental health diagnoses are just labels put on collections of symptoms that often appear together, and the circumstances surrounding them. So I guess the way you know for sure - and I would say this even applies if you are diagnosed, because I’ve done this process even after being diagnosed with stuff, and sometimes the diagnosis felt right and sometimes it didn’t, and then I talked with my psychiatrist about why - is to think about your experiences. If you completely ignore the diagnostic labels, what are you experiencing? Then, once you’ve come to terms with your own personal experience and reality outside of the diagnostic labels, which can take a while, you ask another question. Is this diagnosis a helpful/accurate way to describe my experience? Do the strategies that are designed to help manage this diagnosis work for me? If I told a professional who was knowledgeable about this diagnosis that this is what I have, would that give them a vague insight into what I’m experiencing? etc.”
PRINTS
i dont get offended at white people jokes even though im white because:
i can recognize white people as a whole have systemically oppressed POC in america, which is where i live
most people when they make white people jokes only mean the shitty white people and i am not a shitty white person
im not a pissbaby
my white friends that have reblogged this give me life
4. Sometimes I am a shitty white person and the jokes remind me to FUCKIN STOP
If ur white and like this post I fux with u
^absolutely
5. It’s hard to be offended when white people jokes involve bland food/tourist dads in socks and sandals/white girls in yoga pants obsessed with pumpkin spice/suburban PTA moms and other harmless and mostly true stereotypes while jokes about POC involve them being called thugs/criminals/slurs/uneducated/illegal immigrants.
i fucks with u heavy if ur white and you reblog this
6. They’re usually really fucking funny and don’t perpetuate stereotypes that will ever affect me economically, politically, or cause me any true harm, let alone create risks that “justify” my murder and/or death
Waits for my white mutuals to reblog😌
yesyesyesyes
Fake Service Dogs?
You’re sitting at a cafe with your friend when suddenly a woman walks in with a toy poodle in her purse. The manager at the counter informs her “I’m sorry, but we do not allow dogs”. She replies with a heavy sigh and a “She’s a service dog. She can come with me”. Not knowing much about service dog law, and worrying about getting sued for asking further questions, he sits this woman down at a booth. There, she promptly unzips her purse and places the dog on the booth seat next to her. When the woman’s food comes out, the little dog begs and she feeds her bits off her plate. This dog is not public access trained, and proceeds to bark at those who walk by. This dog is a nuisance and causes many in the restaurant to complain. The manager cannot do anything but inform the unhappy customers that this is a service dog, so he can’t ask her to leave. In the end, it’s the customers who end up leaving.
Now I walk in with my highly trained service dog pressed against my leg in a perfect heel position, and I’m quickly bombarded by the manager telling me “No dogs! No dogs! We ALL know what happened last time”. Confused, I tell him “This is my medical alert and medical response service dog. Her right to accompany me is protected under federal law.” With a sigh, he seats me at a table far away from others where my dog promptly tucks under my feet, out of sight. When my food arrives my dog is still tucked tightly under the table because she knows she’s not supposed to eat when she’s on duty. She stays there ignoring those who walk past for the remainder of my meal. When we leave, a woman by the door exclaims “Woah, I didn’t know there was a dog here!”
See the difference?
Scenario number two occurs at a local grocery store when a man decides to bring his certified emotional support animal into the store with him. Upon entering he flashes a fancy ID card and certification papers. This dog is not as unruly as the first, but he still forges ahead of his handler, sniffs the food on display, and may seek attention from those who walk past. You find this dog adorable, and when he and his owner walk past you ask to pet him. The owner says yes and explains how all he had to do was go online, register his dog, and a few weeks later they sent him a vest, ID card, and certification papers.
Now I pull into the same grocery store. I’m in a rush to get an ingredient for a dish I’m making so I hurry into the store with my service dog next to me. I’m quickly stopped by a manager who demands to see my service dog’s certification card. Remember, this is NOT required by law, and most real service dog teams don’t have them. After 15 minutes of trying to educate, pulling up the ADA website on my phone, back and forth bickering, and drawing more of a crowd than I want to describe… I’m finally allowed in. I grab my ingredient, stand in line (where my service dog obediently moves between my legs to make space for those around me), and I get bombarded by people asking to pet my dog. I explain that she’s working, she has a very important job to do, and she’s not allowed to be pet while on duty. People walk away grumbling and complaining about how rude I was when other handlers like the man they met earlier allow their dog to be pet.
Moral of the story? Fake service dogs create real problems. The ones who are impacted the most are the true service dog handlers who rely on their dogs every day to help mitigate their disability. How would you feel if everywhere you went, you couldn’t make it 10 feet in the door because people were asking you questions? Imagine how much time that would take out of your already hectic day. Businesses lose customers because word gets out that there are unruly dogs in their store, customers become misinformed and start thinking some of these behaviors are okay, some people even start to believe the lies that anyone can just register their dog online and make him a service dog. The result? MORE fake service dogs. MORE real problems.
I will reblob this until I die because it’s one of the few things that constantly genuinely infuriates me
Serious subject matter. Lying to get your way creates problems for those who are honest and needs what you are lying about..
hi can I get uuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuhh… some functionality, please?
Dissociation: eye machine broke, talking machine broke, ear machine broke, walking machine broke, thinking machine bro…
me: (climbing back in bed) Understandable have a nice day
