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they/he • black • punk fandom acc: @afronime

[artistformerlyknownasbutttrumpet]

i was training a young person at work, and she referred to sexual assault as "SA" out loud, and i immediately was like, "no, it's sexual assault, call it what it is," bc idgaf if the algorithm overlords have taught y'all that you should fear direct language, how tf do any of you expect to ever address real issues with any amount of seriousness if you can't even say the words? imagine an advocate looking a sexual assault survivor in the eyes and asking "did he grape you?" it's absolutely fucking absurd, but these young interns and new hires are coming into an environment where we deal with survivors of all different kinds of abuse, and they're coming with the mindset that the words are as bad as the actions, and that makes them shitty at the job and look juvenile af

i HATE self-censorship for a lot of reasons, but being in crisis work makes it even more frustrating. who are you censoring for? like i am being so fr, WHO are you censoring for? have you even thought it through? people who have been raped know that they have been raped. if someone attempts suicide or is grieving someone who did, saying "sewer slide" isn't going to protect them from any of the feelings. a murder victim's family isn't going to feel better bc you said "unalived" instead of murdered. if anything, it's just extremely invalidating and othering. it's saying "what happened to you is so bad that i won't even say the word," which is NOT trauma-informed care. you are not protecting survivors/victims when you self-censor. the ONLY things you protect when you self-censor are the puritanical ideologies that are being encouraged by rich fascists who want your money and obedience

say the fucking words, guys. just say the goddamn words before i go insane!!!

[klapollo]

you are not a "femcel" you are not a "foid" you are not a "hon" you are a woman worthy of respect and taking up space and being happy and the world is yours for the taking you're ALIVE!!!!!!!!! you're a HUMAN!!!!!!! FUCK what they told you!!!!!!

[what-even-is-thiss]

It’s very romantic to imagine that the Bronze Age collapse happened due to the mysterious sea people but I personally like the theory that a lot of these complicated civilizations fell apart due to overcomplicated bureaucracy imploding in on itself. 

[covid-safer-hotties]

[manletgoku]

Don’t let the government convince you to not care about disabled people

[covid-safer-hotties]

I mean, they already did when Biden said "it's safe to re-open schools" while separated by 20 ft from a reporter with millions-of-dollars of special HVAC pumping clean air onto him and Fauci said "the high risk will fall to the wayside, and some will die" and then everyone took off their masks and we had the Delta wave :)

I think people need to reckon with how frequently they already devalue disabled life and work to rectify how they show up for disabled people around them with their political and moral beliefs instead of worrying about falling for the propaganda. They drank the flavor-aid years ago, and that's gotta be pointed out clearly.

[veryluckyclovers]

[unhelpfultarot]

Strength and Ace of Pentacles

Yes! We can go out and throw the ball!

[glorious-spoon]

spent forty-five minutes today helping an 87yo woman who does not own a computer or a cell phone try to set up an email account so that she could then set up a second account in order to access benefits. went with protonmail, because they don't require 2fa, but it turns out that while you can still make a protonmail account without authentication you can no longer use it to create OTHER accounts without it, and the benefits page she needed to get to required both an email and a cell phone to create an account anyway. asked if she wanted to try going in person to see if someone there could help her, and she said that she had, and they'd directed her to the website. she tried signing up with her landline, but of course that didn't work because you can't do SMS authentication that way. finally ended up writing up detailed instructions for how to log in and authenticate her account so she can drive to her severely disabled daughter's house forty minutes away because that's the only person she knows and trusts who has both a cell phone and a computer.

anyway i fucking hate mandatory 2fa and i think the people responsible for it should have to spend a year navigating their lives with no cell phone and no internet access beyond the public library pcs. fuck.

[depsidase]

[haunted-hideaway]

I’m glad that OP:

1) Figured this out.

2) Shared so others can learn from their mistake.

[familyguysucks9000]

i never see misandry accusations leveled at men

[familyguysucks9000]

men will call other men they dont think are upholding the ideal of masculinity bimbo bitches unworthy of holding a cum rag. theyll call twinks their natural subservient varangian sex toys. but despite this, ive never seen a man be called a misandrist ! instead they are rightfully called homophobic, transphobic, sexist, etc. almost as if misandry is not a real axis of oppression employed by the people in power 🧐

[veryluckyclovers]

[braveburattino]

Faithful Servants

[bebsi-cola]

ableism really feels like the lowest common denominator across all groups regardless of their politics. right wingers will call their opponents the r word, their opponents will call them "brain dead" bc they want to use the r word but they have to reskin the term for optics. anyone on any political or social stance can somehow maintain that stance while being ableist. like homophobes and transphobes can be ableist. lgbtq people can be ableist. both racists and anti-racists can be ableist. even self proclaimed anti-fascists can be ableist despite a hatred of disabled people making up a chunk of the basis of fascist ideology. actually no matter what someone says, if they make their point by being ableist they've failed at confronting the universal myth that some people are inherently superior to other people. they just disagree over which group should be the one considered inferior

[lexsreadingcorner]

So many people hate their own body so much and are so casually fatphobia toward themself and the thing is, when you're not, when you've healed yourself enough that you can look at yourself and say "my body is just a body that does body things" it becomes nearly impossible to be around people who openly hate their bodies. It feels like they're flinging their muck all over you, and you gotta shake yourself out so it doesn't stick. And misery really does love company. They'll talk about how fat they are and how they can't eat this or that or wear certain clothes or cut their hair short, and they want you to lament with them. And you gotta not, okay? You gotta not. You gotta walk away from that shit.

And you HAVE to pay attention to the things you say about your own body in front of other people, lest you become the person flinging your muck onto others.

[chicken-delight]

i have tested positive for tzatziki

[cuppydogshane]

all the rights that come with marriage you should be able to have without marriage btw. you should be able to designate a person who can visit you in the hospital regardless of your relationship to that person.

[wizardsfang]

I said it once I’ll say it again and again and again;

a mom died & her children weren’t allowed to know because they had to talk to her husband first; a man who wasn’t living with her at the time; we only learned she died as early as she did because a nurse fucked up on the phone. Everyone should hate that, everyone should be angry about it, everyone should want that to never happen again

[medievalthymes]

how it feels to read 85 pages of a book in one sitting

[xx-scrpwtr-xx]

!!!