I get this BS every damned day and I know what you are within the first few lines of chat. Here's the process that I see EVERY FUCKING DAY:
They send a chat message that says "Hi", or "Hey there.", or some other such generic greeting with no additional message.
Don't waste my time if "HI" is the entirety of your first contact with me. I am not a mindless idiot. I expect people contacting me to be better at conversation than that. I am intelligent and capable of many levels of communication. So just saying "Hi", and nothing else on an initial contact is insulting to my intelligence and puts me on immediate alert.
2. They use a lot of endearing terms almost right away, such as "dear", "sweety", or some similar term of endearment.
We don't know each other well enough for you to start doing that. Until we have met, FACE TO FACE, we have not met each other. No, do not try to convince me otherwise since I don't know if you are who you say you are until we meet in person.
3. They refuse to say where they are. when asked, and try any ploy; feigned indignance, redirection, asking me where I am and ignoring my immediately asking where they are from.
My first response to initial contact from them is "What city are you calling from" and, if they don't ignore the question, they respond with "USA" (hint: USA, or a state name is not a city). If they ignore the question, and then ask me where I am, then they get upset, as if I am the one being rude for asking, since I asked first. That is the first red flag that comes up.
For the record, if I am not the one reaching out to them, then I will not tell anyone where I am first. I want to make sure that you are close to me, that we can meet in person.
If you do live close to me, then you had better expect that I will want to meet you in person. I don't do online relationships and I WILL NOT fall for internet romance scams.
4. they give me a location/area that is close to me, and agree to meet in person, then at the last minute, cancel because they are "suddenly out of town and need air fare to get back", or "need gas money" in order to show up and don't want me to just pick them up. It always ends up with a request for money for some fake reason or another.
THAT is how I know it's a scam. I will report and block everyone that pulls this shit on me. Scammers beware, if you change your tactics, it will do you no good. I will find you out. If you were smarter than me, you wouldn't need to be a scammer.
I AM NO ONE'S SUGAR DADDY. I have no room in my life for weak people that believe that the world owes them my hard earned money. I do plenty for charity, so I don't need to give anything to scammers.
If you are real and change your mind about meeting, then fine. let me know ahead of time, and I can end the whole thing right then and there. I am not hurting for companionship.
