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A poem for my baby boo.

Sweet dreams, my sweet.

I will kiss your face at least a thousand times

while you sleep.

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Like home.

Welcome to K I M E M E E R A [dot] com 2.0! 

I am ever-so-slowly re-animating this blog that I started over ten years ago. While I’ve been in school the past four years, the site has been mostly dormant but I’m done with school and I’m back!

I updated the ‘About‘ page so head over there if you’re curious about my plans for this site. I am so pleased to be back and blogging again. It feels good…

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Shame on our shame-driven culture.

Shame on our shame-driven culture.

So many of us live with #shame and are not aware of it. Why?

We live in a culture of shame – shame about expressing emotion, shame about having absent parents, shame about coming from a poor family.

Why? Are we born this way? No. We are taught this. And if you don’t grow up with caregivers who help you process your emotions or even acknowledge them, then you are likely an adult who’s emotions are…

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An Open Letter to My “Toxic” Friend: It’s Not You, It’s Me. #selfcare

An Open Letter to My “Toxic” Friend: It’s Not You, It’s Me. #selfcare

Dear “Toxic” Friend,

I had to block you on all of my social media accounts and step away from our friendship last week because, well, I care about myself. And, really, in light of the explosive multi-pronged social media salvo of accusations and insults you directed at me, you gave me no choice. Let me explain.

First, I want you to know that I love you and I care about you. Your mind is…

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A broken brain: Trauma, abuse, neglect in childhood

A broken brain: Trauma, abuse, neglect in childhood

A paraphrased conversation I had with a friend a few months after –

losing someone special to me in a drunk driving accident,

then losing my belongings in a house fire two weeks later:

(It sucked. A lot)

Friend: “How are you?”

Me: “Not so good. I’ve been really depressed and sad about what happened.”

Friend: “Still?!? That was four months ago!”

Me: “….”

(…Now feeling really shitty about feeling…

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Kate Spade Would Be Alive if We Took Care of Our Minds the Way We Take Care of Our Hearts

Kate Spade Would Be Alive if We Took Care of Our Minds the Way We Take Care of Our Hearts

How the culture of silence around suicide and mental health is killing us

I don’t recall where I came across a portrait of Kate Spade yesterday morning. There was no headline or descriptor but I had a feeling that she had killed herself.

There’s something about the photos selected for news articles about famous people who end their lives. They’re usually a portrait. A portrait of just them, by…

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I write about #depression on @medium - my latest post is about #NegativeAutomaticThoughts - “Are You Aware of Your Negative Automatic Thoughts? You Can Totally Think Your Way Out of Them!” Check it out —> https://medium.com/@odawnialezena (at Seattle, Washington)

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Beauties and the Beast (AKA Roses and Fuzz Butt) #nofilter or digital edits. (at Seattle, Washington)

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Unhelpful thinking styles.

We often don’t realize when our thought process is running through a negative filter.

As you practice building awareness of your thoughts, you are able to catch your negative thinking, then work toward a more positive or helpful perspective. (And a more authentic and true perspective, I think.)

This is a great infographic showing types of unhelpful thinking patterns we often experience, but may…

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Seriously, #nature ? Stop being so effing #cute ! #nofilter (at Seattle, Washington)

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Have you ever seen a #flower with a five o’clock shadow? #nofilter (at Seattle, Washington)

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My, my, ya’ll are #prettylittlethings. #nofilter (at Seattle, Washington)

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#Flowers are nuts. #nofilter (at Seattle, Washington)

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#nofilter !! These flowers are ridiculous. (at Seattle, Washington)

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#Different is #normal. #thegoldenrule (at Seattle, Washington)

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“Come, Boy, sit down. Sit down and rest." And the boy did. And the tree was happy.” - Shel Silverstein, #TheGivingTree l (at Seattle, Washington)

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#flowers for my #beau - girls can give boys flowers, too. (at Seattle, Washington)