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[officeladies]

HAPPY 16 YEARS OF THE OFFICE (S01E01 / PILOT)

MARCH 24, 2005

[igotyouholtzy-blog]

What she says: I’m fine. 

What she means: I’m still not over how they treated Pam in The Office finale. Jim gets to thank the doc crew for giving him the ability to watch himself become a husband and a father. Pam says that she didn’t watch the whole documentary because it was “too painful” and talks about how “I spent so many years being less happy than I could have been. Jim was 5 feet from my desk and it took me four years to get to him.” She even says she would like if other people would learn from her own mistakes in not finding happiness earlier. 

I’m sorry, (and I love Jim and Pam together as much as anyone, maybe more) but can we talk about what actually happened here??? 

Jim and Pam had a mutual crush while she was engaged. The end of Season 2 is the first time that Jim says “I love you” and he’s kind of a jerk when she says “I can’t.” Instead of giving her space to process what he’s said, Jim then kisses her without permission and the next (day? week?) leaves town to work at a different branch. He is the one who starts dating Karen and then says that Karen should move to Scranton with him so they can continue to date even though he knows that Pam called off the wedding.   

Pam makes a move in asking Jim out for coffee after he moves back. She backs off when she finds out he’s dating Karen (it’s called being respectful) Pam dates Roy again but breaks up with him for attacking Jim right in front of her. Jim is really rude when Pam says she was stupid for dating Roy again “Yeah we’ll see.” He had just been attacked, but come on.

After the coal walk Pam gives a speech and tells Jim she called off wedding because of him but doesn’t try to break up him and Karen. She is the one who took that big leap to confess her feelings and unlike Jim she doesn’t immediately transfer to a new branch when he stays with Karen. 

So Jim leaves Karen for Pam and they are together in about one year from when Jim first said “I love you.” That’s not being stupid for four years. That’s relationships being messy and hard. 

Pam and Jim have a really solid relationship from first dating, through an unexpected pregnancy, getting married, and another kid. It’s not until Jim keeps taking a new job a secret from Pam that they start to waiver. Even then she supports him, and they both continue to make big romantic gestures for each other.

They’re ok until Pam lies about having trouble at home to protect Jim and Jim plans for them to move to Philadelphia without telling Pam. They both get worse at communication and start feeling overwhelmed (Like the writers were so aware of this that as the relationship gets rocky, the opening sequence shortens to just a kiss between Jim and Pam to reassure us that they’re going to be okay).

The miscommunication culminates when the sound guy mentions that Pam has been crying and Jim feels threatened. Pam is the one who says “I want you to stay and I want to fight” when Jim is just going to go back to Philly on Valentines day. She is the one who took that step towards saving their relationship. They go to counciling and even though Pam is really “blocked up” emotionally, Jim is able to reach through to her. He gives up his dream job for Pam. When she gets worried that he’ll resent her down the road for it, he doesn’t blame her or say she’s crazy.  He finds a way to show her that she means more to him than everything else with some help from the doc crew and the letter from the teapot he gave her before they even started dating (but, may I add, changed his mind about giving it to her back then. Something that might have brought them together sooner than the “four years” Pam took).

I guess the writer’s differed in opinion though, because the one that wrote the finale included questions at the documentary panel that completely blamed Pam for her reactions. “We’d all love to know, Pam, what romantic thing did you do to pay Jim back for leaving Athlead?” and  “Everyone watching sees how much you love each other and how you’re soul mates. So, Pam, how could you doubt that when Jim moved to Philadelphia?”

Jim takes some of the blame and is supportive, but it just feels like the writers want to play up him being the “nice guy.” Later in the finale we find out that Pam got an offer to sell the house as a surprise for Jim so that they can all move to Austin and he can work his dream job after all. It’s a great romantic gesture, but she certainly didn’t “owe” Jim anything and we didn’t need to have her attacked in the panel to believe that she just might be ready to move now when she wasn’t before.

Which brings me back to the ending comments and Pam being so hard on herself for something that she and Jim took equal steps backwards and towards throughout their years together. They could have kept the lines at the end without all the bullcrap about wasting time and being unable to see love right in front of her.  

“…it would just…just make my heart soar if someone out there saw this and she said to herself ‘be strong, trust yourself, love yourself. Conquer your fears. Just go after what you want and act fast, because life just isn’t that long.’”

This is exactly what Pam Beesly actually did. Pam is an important character to me. So I take this line and reject the rest.

[frodo-sam]

[mountaingoatsmp3]

I thought it was weird when you picked us to make a documentary, but all in all, I think an ordinary paper company like Dunder Mifflin was a great subject for a documentary. There’s a lot of beauty in ordinary things. Isn’t that kind of the point?

[officeladies]

I love all their reunions big or small

same i think it’s so cute how much every enjoyed making the show together

[officeladies]

i have been wanting to make gifs but my computer goes crazy anytime i try to open photoshop :(

[officeladies]

i don't know if there is a specific word or phrase to describe this but jim from the office (and many other men around the world) have one woman in the world that the respect and that is their wife (which is not good a thing) when any other woman who works in the office tries to talk to him he ignores them and is extremely disrespectful (especially erin and kelly) yet even though jim has people he doesn't like (dwight and sometimes michael) he gives them space to talk and listens to them like majority of the time

[nickismyspiritanimal]

Can gay people reclaim the office like they did with Community please? They're not enough gay office content on here tbh

[officeladies]

not enough f/f and m/m fics about the office for my personal taste...

[nickismyspiritanimal]

I love the office, but I'm currently thinking about how if the office weren't written by cishet straight white men. Then they wouldn't have glorified Jim's character. They would have acknowledged their golden boy is incredibly flawed like all the other characters, and they would have given him a proper character arc to be a better person. They would have let Pam and Karen become friends (or be a couple). They wouldn't have made all of Pam's storylines revolve around Jim. They would have given Oscar a proper love story like all the other straight couples. They would have let Michael, Andy, and Pam be confirmed bisexual (instead of having them act gay at times as a joke).

[princessrhcenyra]

THE OFFICE ⇢ 9x23 | FINALE

Do I get along with my co-workers?

[officeladies]

Angela is so good at playing moms!

i haven't seen her in that miranda sings show but i loved her character in never have i ever i wish she had more screentime!! also i feel like she has a /mom/ voice if that makes sense

[officeladies]

And he didn’t seem to care about missing it he acted so casually about it

like the event itself is minuscule i'm sure cece will have more events so the only person you can be mad at is yourself if you missed an event

[officeladies]

Just wanted to pop by to say I love Jim but he also deserves all the smoke for his late-season decision-making and general lack of communication with his damn WIFE especially considering they had CHILDREN by then

you would think at his big age he would have been more mature lmao

[officeladies]

Unpopular opinion but Jim was a douchebag in season 3, and later seasons too.. especially season 9

i agree!! the love triangle with pam and karen was absolutely ridiculous but since pam and he are endgame i feel like the drama is ignored. like being a relationship with someone when you KNOW you want to be with someone else who eventually becomes single FOR YOU is insane really... but all men care about is the chase.......

[filmtvanimals]

Stay alive! I’m getting help!

[ellesnix]

pam beesly + favorite smiles