Once Upon a Date

Dating, Relationships, Life & Business. Everyday life of an everyday Girl 

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So here's a wee introductory blog about a guy I'm seeing.

Let's call him Raven...

Tall, dark, handsome and rather mysterious. Ticks all the boxes for a crush that could lead to trouble...

We have been "dating" if you can call it that almost as soon as Bort's feet were out the door.

There i was, Depressed, Rejected, Humiliated. Day 4 of being on my sister's couch, nursing my soul back to normal with take away pizza and scrolling through Instagram looking for something to make me feel anything other than useless. then I remembered about a message I had sent to Raven (who was a previous tinder match that didn't lead anywhere) only a month prior, I had watched this guy go through a pretty rough break up, he was posting some pretty tragic things to Insta and I truly felt for him. The Dude clearly had his heart broken, correction, Shattered. That girl took everything this guy had and left him empty. He wasn't the same person I had spoken with 3 years prior... so I had reached out to him back then to say I was there if he needed to talk. He shot me down pretty quickly and I didn't try again. This was before I knew me and Bort had our looming deadline... Plus; Who would wanna open up to some random bitch from tinder anyway... But here I was, a month later, in the exact same position as him. Soooo, I slide into him Dms again and told him he's not the only one with a broken heart.

And to my amazement, we hit it off. It was nice. It was comforting. That first week flew by. It made giving up on my fairytale with Bort just a little easier. Having someone to talk about the things I had been feeling for months just made it.... easy. My heart was still broken, but I wasn't alone anymore. I had made a friend. A friend who was hurting just as my as I was.

So, I'm not entity sure when it changed from going on about how much we missed our ex's to "your a bit of alright..." but I do remember really wanting to meet him in person. I had always seen pictures and thought he was way out of my league. Like, he's a rockstar and I'm just a nobody. The only reason we didn't meet the last time was because i geunially didnt think he would go for a girl like me. But maybe if I just hang out with him once. See if there was fireworks?

Now fireworks; this is a term I've been using in my head a lot recently. Because for a long time with Bort I felt like something was missing. He was romantic, he made me feel loved, but when it came to sex.... I was bored. And I remember finding out he had told his best friends girlfriend he was unsatisfied and it hurt me deeply, but he was right. Sex wasn't fun. Because, with everything Bort did in life, I was completely void of any passion. There were no fireworks...

But with Raven; as soon as I sat next to him for the first time I felt... electricity. My body shifted gear and my engine purred. I felt a low hum from deep inside me and I couldnt help myself, i instantly knew from the moment i got in his car, i had to have him. I was a crazy person!

I wanted him. I felt myself come alive again. And when he kissed me for the first time, I felt him shaking and I felt him hard. He wanted me too. It's wasn't just my engine that got us going.

It's been almost 2 months since that meeting, that first time, that first buzz. And still I feel it. Sometimes it's just a few Stolen kisses between secret meetings, sometimes it's hours we spend tumbling around in bed, on his couch, in his car...

But every time...

there's fucking fireworks.

I'm not sure exactly what this maybe but I don't fucking care. I don't need labels. But I do need to not be bored.

So Hi Raven, welcome to the blog.

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Regrets.

So, it was about time I took the plunge and did the unthinkable.

I changed my relationship status in Facebook.

I know, I know . It's insane. I still have Facebook. But I'm a 30 year old lady. I survived the death of MySpace and bebo.... I'm not ready to let Facebook die on me just yet!

Anyway, this is something I was avoiding due to the shit storm that was due to hit me, and I forgot my umbrella, i don't have a jacket, let's just call a taxi, I'm not going out in That... But i did it, and it went fairly well, i got the usual, I got the Nosey parkers, I got the "I’m so Sorry" but what I didn't expect was the messages from ex blog stars coming back for a second chapter...

"I regret...." 

That's what these messages said.

"I regret ghosting you" 

"I regret turning you down"

 "I regret not asking you out"

 "I regret picking my current girlfriend instead of you" 

Last ones paraphrasing but it's pretty much what Millport had to say about the situation before firing into me, getting rejected and then blocking me. Just to unblock me again, to block me again a day later... But ooook.

Advice for you, my dude, leave if your unhappy. Fuck your bullshit games and the pity party cause it's kinda pathetic. Oh, and pink isn't your colour. Byeeeeeee.

So there it is, 4 guys. 4 reflections. 4 regrets. 

But the truth, I don't regret being rejected by any one of you guys. 

Because I seen the real side of you then. 

And much as it sucks to hear, and sucks for me to admit. 

I seen the side that considered me unworthy of you...

So congratulations Here is your second chapter.  brief but straight to the point. 

You guys dont deserve a second chance.

 Ginger, Millport, unnamed and Alt 

 Your all strike from my list one last time.

 Because I regret nothing. 

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Happily Never After

my last update was in April 2018 and a lot has happened since. 

Me and Bort got engaged, moved in together, we booked our wedding. Even discussed starting to try for a family.  Everything was going so well... Till it wasn't. 

2020 has been a rough year for us all. What i didn't expect was it to take such a toll on something i thought was untouchable. 

It started off small, silly little secrets. Locking his phone when i walked by. Muting his mic on discord calls. when i asked how his day was it would be met with a simple “alright” and a shrug. I tried to work out what i was doing wrong. I tried to talk about it. I tried to get him to open up. But the more i tired the worst it got. So i stopped trying. i stopped making an effort, i stopped caring. i started looking forward to being away from him just so i could breathe again. Be away from the sadness that i was loosing the man i loved slowly every time i looked at him, and there was nothing i could do about it.

Depression is a disease, disguised as the dirty little secret that no one should talk about.. It takes over slowly, but all at once at the same time. It changes everything without a moments notice with no regards of who or what is going on in the world. It doesn't just effect the person with it, it takes a hold of your life, your relationships, your job. It’s a toxic spill, and it only gets worst if given the opportunity. it spreads and it corrupts everything it touches, without containment, it will never stop. Without willpower, its a loosing battle. A battle the people around you can not win.

So i lost. I lost the fight for the man i loved because the darkness took over him.  Because without some sort of light, he couldn't find his way. He is lost without any direction, and i couldn't find him or give him guidance. I to got lost in the darkness.

No one talks about what happens if the Prince gives up half way through the fight, because they loose the will to fight, because being alone is easier. So here i am. Telling my tale. My not so Happily ever after...

Bort is in the process of moving his things out, and here i am, 3 years after starting this blog, doing an entry i never thought i would ever have to make. Tinderella is single?... but maybe not ready to mingle...

What is a love story without a twist right?

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Jellybean & Bort - 3 month on

So its been 3 months since mine and John (aka Bort/Bortii/Bortis) had our first date.

Since then a few things have happened, we had a trip to IKEA and didn't have a domestic. We practically moved in together, with the get out clause being once his gran has finished decorating her has the option to go back, and he has brought out my inner geek which has me watching Lets plays and considering getting into gaming. 

So far, everything we have went through has been positive, i guess the honeymoon period is still going strong. 

so...

while i was at work the other day John called me to tell me the studio doors downstairs were locked and i had to go let him in. 

Imaging my surprise when hes standing there with the biggest bunch of flowers i have ever seen ever!

All for me! :D

it was adorable and i loved it! He is really a romantic at heart, and this defo earned him a lot of gaming time over the next few weeks. 

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Wreck the Dress

Last week was an interesting week, my sister announced to the public that she was officially split from her Husband. 

Growing up, my sister and her now Ex was the picture-perfect couple. Meeting at 18 and never looking back, so their split was a bit of a shock to most people. So she decided to do something special. 

She Wrecked her Wedding dress. 

Saying this to most woman the gasp in horror, 

“I couldn’t Do that! i love my dress!” 

Here is the thing, my sister hated her dress, her dream dress had always been purple, but while planning her wedding, her Future hubby/Now Ex refused to let her have a purple dress. saying he wouldn't marry her if she did. My sister was gutted, and settled for a lovely dress she found on Ebay,  but in her heart, it wasn't ‘Her Dress’. 

So when she asked to to take part in the wreck her dress shoot, she shared with me a secret. She had Dyed her wedding dress purple. Sending me thing picture, my heart sank. What was she thinking!!

When she showed up to my studio the day of the shoot, her dress bundled in a roll under her arm i was excited to find out the results, Don’t get me wrong, it wasn’t perfect, but it was lovely! And when she put it one, it was much better than i could have imagined!

and since she was planning on wrecking it anyway, what did it matter? 

So here are some of the images that i took on the day.

Let me know what you think of what she did? 

Do you think shes mad? or would you do the same? 

Personally, i had so much fun it was worth it! 

and im glad she had a little outlet for her break up. 

Jellybean xo

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To New Beginnings.

Today I’m doing a short blog about some changes that are coming to Once Upon a Date, the First is the name. 

I have decided that this blog is now going to be a general lifestyle blog, most people consider themselves kinda boring, but i think i lead an interesting life and i wish it to be shared in some small way. I used to keep a diary with every little thing i did written inside, now with the wonders of the internet i get to share this journey with strangers. That may not be something that interests more folks but i love the idea. 

Leaving a small imprint in the world, even if its a blog rambling about myself. After all, its my favourite subject. As is it is to more people in the world. 

So lets start the blog on a High Note, and let me say, hes gonna kill me for post this. 

The reason the blog has been so quiet recently is because i met a man, and instantly he change my life. But not in a whirlwind romance kinda way, he change it because he listened to me ramble for 6 hours and still smiled when i repeated the story 2 days later.  He took me for cheesecake on our first date and laughed when i wanted a second helping. He instantly changed my life because he became my best friend. We drank coffee and ate disgusting amount of pizza. within a month. We laughed, cried and fell for each other so slowly, but swiftly i didn't realised it was happening. He stresses me out just as much as a best friend does but i don’t get sick of seeing him when i wake up, even if it because of his snoring. 

I never believed Tinder could help me find a man like this, but in a weird and wonderful way, it does work. It opens doors that 20-30 years ago no one had, and we sometimes forget how lucky we are to have technology that we do today.

So let me introduce you to my Tinderfella, Bortis aka John. The most shy, and yet cheekiest and funniest man i have ever met. The Uber geek that stole this Tinderella from the very first date. <3

This is the worst picture ever, Taken quicky before our friends showed up for dinner, i didnt even wipe my camera lens, hence the blurry lines. It just when were together we tend to forget about silly things such as a selfie, we’re just together. In the moment and living it, and this blog is gonna now be a way to remember each of those moments. Not just with Bortis, but with my friends and family. With my work in photography and even just my Cat, who is my baby <3 

So lets bring on the new Daily (Hopefully) Blog :D

Jeni xo

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Update!

So its been a little while since i’ve done a blog post. 

Mainly because Life has taken over and my content would bore you silly. 

“Gotta Work work work work...”

I digress. 

The most important thing you should know is i met a man, and he was featured in this Blog back in January. He truly swept me off my feet. He might not be a knight in shinning armour, more of a Super-Nerd wrapped in a Princess Blanket. But he gets me, He knows when i need him and when i need space. Mostly he knows how to tolerate a woman without being a pain in the arse, So im ok with him stealing my blanket. Kinda...

Secondly, i moved my business! I was in a very toxic environment back in December, from my blog posts you would have seen that everything was a little more to the negative side. So i moved out, The lack of posting is mostly because the move has been delayed because of building work and my desision to re-branding my business as well as trying to keep up with everything from clients, Socialising when i can and my health, it has meant that this blog has sorta taken a little hit with priority. 

In other news, My health hasn’t been doing so well. I was have trouble with my legs most of last year, in early February my doctor admitted that there is only one thing they think it could be. Fibromyalgia. Since then i still haven't got an official diagnosis but i have been given lots of medication to try and lead what some would call a “Normal Life”  So when i was thinking of bring this blog back to life, i decided that this would be a feature i would like to talk about more openly. So much is unknown about this disorder that everyday im told something different will help. I guess everything is at least worth a try. 

So here i am. 

A New start to this blog. I don’t wish to give it up just yet so i have decided a Re-brand of the blog is in Order. 

Wish me Luck. 

The girl formally known as Tinderella xo

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When he already knows your a forgetful bitch with an fizzy drink addiction 🤣

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As Yet Untitled

On Sunday i had a date with a newbie.

His nickname is Bort. As a joke to do with the Simpsons its also his Gaming tag. Hes probably the quietest person i have ever been on a date with. He calls himself a “Super Nerd” as he spends most of his time online gaming. This, i have no problem with, 

Our date on Sunday is an introduction date as Bort decided to ask me to go to the theatre with him, he has tickets to see “The Sound of Music” which are really good seats and asked me to come along. Since its a lot more fancy than my usual dates we decided to have a chilled date before. So Bort suggested Pool and Nachos. 

We have Whats app’d for weeks but recently we have been talking a lot more intimately, and since December i haven’t really been myself. With him, i feel like no matter what i say to him he just accepts me. Even when i tell him my deep secrets he just accepts it and moves on. In person he opened up a lot more himself. Which surprised me. Considering he describes himself as shy he seemed to find it easy to talk. 

We went to Reardon’s Pool and Snooker Hall outside of Central Stations. Which offer a Free Membership to everyone and is only £2 Per person Entry. After that its £10 deposit for your table which covers your table fee (£7.50) and is less than a £1 an hour after the first hour. 

I was pleased that Bort decided not to drink and admitted he wasn't a big drinker. We Played Pool, I say we played, he destroyed me. I was to busy talking to even remember what i was doing. I was also so nervous i even Potted the Black on purpose. MORTIFIED! hes also not let that go... 

We ate nachos and he gave me a peck on the lips after he won his first game. A promise he had made via whats app before we even met. I thought it was really cute and a bold move for a shy guy. 

The only other thing that we had preplaned was Cheesecake!

So we went to the Sir John Moore, a Witherspoons just next to central station. we ordered cheesecake and coffee and chatted till last orders. There wasn't a silence, mostly from me. then when we checked the time we realised he had 10 mins before his last train, we giggled and i agreed to let him stay. Seems i can’t keep to my own rules these days. we stayed up till like 3am. It wasn't till he was Yawning we decided to head to bed. 

He was a total gentleman. He even wore most of his clothes to bed to avoid me being uncomfortable. we kissed and cuddled. Its the most comfortable I’ve felt with a man since Bonnet, and in a lot of ways Bort does remind me of Bonnet. In the positive anyway. And of course the chest hair!

On Monday, Bort was startled awake buy my Evil little pussycat with a meow. He laughed it off and i got up to get breakfast. Half way through i realised i was late for a meeting. Bort decided to come with me. I would say what the meeting was as its to do with my business and hasn't been announced yet. But its a good thing. 

Afterwards we went back to my flat and watched Brooklyn Nine-Nine. We binge watched most of 2nd series. Till it started snowing. Bort just looked at me and snuggled under one of my blankets and made it clear he wasn't ready to leave. So he stayed yet another night. He was a lot more comfortable at this point and we shared some intimate secrets. Even had a wee fondle... Whoops! 

So yesterday, we binged and ate and did nothing at all other than go to the shops for juice and munchies till it was time for his last train. I walked him to the train station and i kissed him before he got on the train. And i was genuinely gutted he was leaving. It was the longest “Date” I've ever had, even if most of it we spent in silence on my couch.

I’m so excited for next week when we get to go to the theatre. Im even going to pull out a decent outfit for this even. If im brave, Maybe even some heels. Hes 5′10 so means i have the option! 

Stay tuned!   

Tinderella xo

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First Date of 2018

Yesterday i went on my first date of 2018. With a guy ive been talking to for ages. Hi nickname is Sal. He is a actor who lives in Glasgow and seems to be doing well for himself. We have been talking since November but since we both were so busy our schedule never seemed to match. After i had a full on rant to him during the week he told me he was taken me out to have a night off. My old request. 

Lets go to Nandos.

Nandos have been described by Jack Whitehall, One of my favourite comedians as the perfect date venue, and i think hes right. I love a cheeky Nandos.

turns out Sal also had a gift voucher that was given to him from a mate, this mate recently became single. When he returned from ordering the food he smiled and joked that he was so getting his friend a gift card in return so he can in turn have a date with a girl at his expense. I think that is super cute and a great idea for recent single friends. 

So firstly we went to the Nandos at the key, to be told not only it was a 30min wait but they had no Wraps or Pittas. Me and Sol just looked at each other. Were both “Wrappers” (i genuinely laughed at myself when i wrote that. I’m not even sorry.) so we made a B-line for the city centre. 

I had always kinda assumed because Sol was an actor that he would have a ego or be a little pompous but when he greeted me with a strong Glaswegian accent and relaxed smile i was surprised that i found it so easy to just relax around him. We was a lot more like me that i expected. I had kinda worked up a lot of anxiety before the date, since my last one was such a disaster i was kind of worried about this one, i even sitting ready for 2 hours before i was even due to meet him because i was so worried id look a mess. Only changed outfit 3 times...

When we were in Nandos, we chatted easy and he told me about his health issues. He has been through so much i’m surprised hes such a positive man, Surviving Kidney failure and a transplant and is already on the road to recovery. As my sister always saying, I’m a sucker for a damaged soul. So obviously i melted slightly. 

at the end of the night he admitted he was off to visit his brother for the week in London, I mentioned i had a spare Oyster card (The card used for public transport in London) and i’m sure there was money on it so i offered it to him. He accepted and was really grateful for it. Unfortunately i couldn't find it in my  we stood for ages in my hallway chatting and he finally kissed me which was meant to be a goodbye. 40 mins later we were still there and still kissing. I felt so giggly and childish after he left. Its been a long time since a man just wanted to kiss me. 

After he left i had a quick look again and found the Oyster Card, obviously i messaged him to let him know. He offered to pop by to collect it today. 

Another 40 mins kissing in my hallway and i almost held him hostage. Its amazing the endorphins that are released during a great kiss. 

I was sad to see him go but as he left i said that i hoped to hear from him after his holiday, he smiled a smile that made my knees weak and said “Definitely”

Happy New year, 

Tinderella x

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My Worst Date

So recently you may have noticed that this blog has been a little quiet. I went from having at least 2 dates a week to doing nothing. 

I say nothing, I do stuff. Stuff also means staying home, in my slippers and playing online bingo. 

So tonight my sister gave me an intervention. 

I haven't stopped myself from talking to anyone, but when asked out i come up with some kind of excuse not to go. Ever since my bad date with a man i haven't mentioned my confidence has totally evaporated. So i decided to tell you about the date rather than keep it to myself. 

The man i Nicknamed Blue. 

Blue was a nice guy, Messaged me daily and wanted to know about me. I was totally won over with his charms. 

One night when i was working at am event he mentioned that he was working nearby. I suffer from Fibromyalgia. This is a disorder that give me chronic fatigue and muscle pain. This night i had been working a wedding, 8am till 11pm. Its safe to say i was dead walking. I also was suffering a lot of pain in my legs, i could barely stand!  When i mentioned how exhausted, he was he was a complete gentleman and asked to drive me home. This is usually the number 1 rule for me not to do as i know it can lead to trouble. But i truly trusted this guy. 

I invited him up so i wasnt being rude. He was so charming and sweet, my legs were so sore he offered to rub my swollen ankles. As i was falling asleep he asked if he could stay with he to make sure i was OK. I kinda liked the idea of him being near me so i agreed. 

It was my time of the month so no chance of sex. What was the harm in a little spooning?

i provided him pyjamas and was shocked when he got into bed in just his boxers. He just giggled. We cuddled and he kissed me. I told him again that nothing could happen. My period should have been a clear reason. But he kissed me anyway. 

I fell asleep in his arms. 

I woke soon later with him on top of me, kissing me. When i told him no he stopped and apologised. I shrugged it off, Turned over and again fell asleep. 

Again, i woke to him on top of me and grinding me like a horny dog. Again i said no, but i did kiss him, but kissing wasn't enough. He kept climbing on top of me. 

Over all, He woke me 4 times in this way. I was so exhausted and fed up, the last time i just lay there. I didn't stop him. Afterwards i was furious with myself. I just lay there and let him do what he wanted to me instead of telling him to leave. I just gave up? This wasn't me. But i couldnt move, I was in so much pain from my day at work i just wanted to close my eyes.

The next day Blue woke up, and was annoyed. He was annoyed because he needed a shower because he was covered in my Menstrual Blood, he dress and left rather quickly. I lay in bed crying. how had i let myself be in that situation? 

was i that lonely that i would let a man i hardly knew into my bed just so i had someone beside me? 

I messaged him later that day and he replied. His reply was moaning about his lack of sleep and need to get up early to shower. 

I instantly blocked him. Again i was angry. 

I’m still angry, 

I put myself in a vulnerable position. 

I let myself believe the chat of yet another dangleberry.

Recently i have wanted to unblock Blue purely to ask why he did what he did that night. I just want to know why cuddling wasn't enough? was he even interested in me more than that? 

Answers on a postcard...

This is why i haven't been dating. 

I've been healing my damaged ego. 

But its time for Tinderella to get back out there. 

Not every guy is after this Surely.... 

Tinderella xo

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He's just not that into you...

Whenever I get a crush on a new guy Its the best feeling in the world. Then... I get the fear. It's all sunshine and rainbows till I tell someone about said crush and then it usually comes crashing around my ears.

This crush I'm suspecting to have the same results but I plan on enjoying it for as long as possible!

Or maybe as long as I have his attention...

10 seconds later...

Well today, he dissappered.

Which left me pathetically pinning after him. I found myself pawing at my phone like a lost pup waiting for a message.

Which didn't come.

I actually hate myself for doing it. But I'm standing my ground. I'm to old for this school girl with a crush rubbish. Or am I?...

He's maybe just busy.

He might be on a date.

Maybe he's been sucked into another universe and is fighting 3 headed dragons with a kitchen knife.

Or maybe hes just not that into me.

Simple.

Sometimes it's hard to admit to ourselves that our crush isn't anything more than a fantisy. I know I often get swept up in the Rom com that runs in my mind where there's a romantic power ballad paying as he sweeps me off my feet in a bold romantic gesture.

But I also know that I'm more likely to be found along singing Adele to my cat.

Romance is what makes a crush so powerful. It's the fantisy of what "might" happen. It's the butterflies that make us do silly things. It's the warm fuzzy feeling knowing something exciting might happen if only you just....

Even as a grown woman I'll never give up on the idea of having a crush. It's one of the best feelings in the world and I love it.

Even if your crush becomes a crash. Sometimes we fall before we learn to fly.

Tinderella xo

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Tinderella Goes... To Berlin!

So you may have noticed recently I haven't been posting very much. I had a bad experances on a 'date' and decided to have a break for a while. I also had a little adventure to Berlin with my sister.

I decided to tell you some of the things I got up to.

Firstly on our arrival we decided to go on the "Hop on Hop off" bus tour. i would highly recommend if you go anywhere in the world look at the hop on hop off bus, even if its for one day. it gives you the best access to all the proper “Tourist” spots. The one in Berlin had 2 Route, but i wont bore you with to many details. But ill leave the link her for your to look at

Hop on/off Bus Link

So before we went me and my sister went deep into Pintrest for the best things to do in Berlin. My sister came across Monster Kabinett. an art insulation by a Berlin Artist it features Robot Monsters. It was mad, i can imagine people on drugs wandering around the place convinced it was real, and the heavy metal monster at the end was just outrageous. It was definitely something a little different to what i expected but i would recommend it to people who have a love to the stranger things in life. 

Monsters Kabinett

so that calls a close to day 1. Day 2 was spent walking, and walking, and walking, and getting lost.... 

Mostly my fault. But i also blame Google Maps.

yes i got us lost but the reward for getting lost was outstanding. 

The Ritter Sport Chocolate Shop & Cafe!

I tried Chocolate Fondue, and a beautiful Ritter Chocolate Moose. and we Bought a stack of Chocolate! But the best part was custom making our own chocolate bars. There was so much choice it was mind boggling! i ended up making three, one for Kedi, one for Huskie (Hes in Paris and promised me something in return) and one for myself. This is a Must if you visit Berlin and have a thing for chocolate. I cant promise your wont get lost like we did but i can promise its worth it! (Link Above)

On out Last full day we decided to take it much more easy, we did a few tourist sport and finished the night by visiting the Botanical Gardens in Berlin, We had to travel a bit outside of where we had been previously but it was so worth it. At this time of year the Berlin Botanical Gardens has their Christmas Garden show. Its a beautiful light show and walking trail which i highly recommend! it was lovely but wrap up warm! Its cold! 

At the end of the trail there is ice skating, hot drinks and food. Open pit fires and even a mistletoe Kissing arch with a beautiful view over the park.

 The Christmas Garden

Unfortunately this Tinderella didn't get a kiss under the Mistletoe arch, and barely any flirting. They say Holiday romances are easy, the closest i got was the man working at Ritter Sport saying my name more times than was appropriate. But it was nice for a bit of attention.  

Now i’m back and my heads back in shape maybe its time for a date. Maybe its time for a new introduction. Maybe i already have someone in mind.... 

Tinderella xo

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The Re-Run

Can we just discuss the awkwardness that is matching on a dating site with someone you have previously dated?

This can’t just be a thing that happens to me!

Recently i matched with a man that i have a disastrous date with over 4 years ago. The date considered of a photo shoot where he offered to do some Boudoir (or Dudior) style shots for me as advertising and i ended up giving him a massage. After, he left so quickly that i was convince i had been on a date with Roadrunner! 

After this i got various awkward drunk messages which resulted in me getting blocked because it didn't reply.

so when he popped up on tinder of course i had to swipe, even just to see if he did the same... 

and he did! 

But is a re-run of a fauiled date really want i want?

Maybe hes grown up over the last 5 years..

Just got to wait and seen.

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When you Ex’s boss has decided to message you on Facebook

Is it just me or is this inappropriate conversation to have with the ex girlfriend of someone that works for you…

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The Show Must Go On.

Today I had a horrible day.

I fell out with friends.

I had a bad sales day.

I had Negitive feelings and I genuinally wanted to quit my business.

And don't even get me started on men.

You may have noticed a lack of introductions to the blog in recent weeks. In all honesty my tollorance level have dipped and there's only so much I can handle.

And men seem to be pushing the limits recently.

Firstly I had a man who called me out of various things. At first it was rather refreshing. A man who can stand up for himself. It was nice. I like some fire In a man. Then the arrogance set in, and Calling out became full on slander.

It wasn't just one single thing that led to the realisation, but a list of many and I realised I actually hated talking to the guy. Which led to me blocking him. But he just decided to bother me through text for an explanation. When I replied and explained I wasn't exactly enjoying him calling me stupid in a posh and arrogant way, his response was to correct my spelling.

Yeah, smart move. Bait the girl your begging for an explanation of being patched.

Secondly I had an encounter with a man I actually don't want to discuss.

Mostly because the situation was of my own making and the regret is far to strong.

Do you ever do something really dumb and just wish the world would swallow you whole.

That was my Friday night.

So instead I left Tinderella at home and went off out as my boring little grumpy self, and I had fun!

I went to the last show of The Glasgow Festival of Burlesque. Then to the Riding Rooms for an after party. 

I'm a huge cabaret fan. I love a show, and what a show. I can no describe how amazing GFOB was at Wicked Cabaret. A friend of mine who goes by the stage name Roxy Stardust who is known as “ Powerhouse of Scottish Burlesque “ and there isn't a truer statement! She is a huge talent and im honoured to call her a friend. 

But lets get back to the night. 

The show was great, I’m so gutted i couldn't make more of the weekend. But I must mention the after show act Markee De Saw, i haven't ever seen an act like hers, she sung some of my Favourite songs, Ranging from Rammstein to Memories from Cats! Which is like my favourite musical. 

i didn't intend on staying long at the after party but i ended up staying the full show. I would highly recommend the Riding Rooms for some evening entertainment. The drink isn't to pricey either and Free entry before 11! 

It took just night out with friends that let me reevaluate my life and refocus. I may not be ready to get back out on the dating game, but i do have something to look forward to.

I go to Berlin on Saturday!!

I so can’t Wait!

[onceuponadate]

Is this dude for real!! Bear 💜 Lied about being married 💜 Told me he had left his wife 💜 Slept with me 💜 Left 💜 Ignored me for weeks 💜 Then I find out him and his wife have a new place and are back playing happy families... Now I'm getting a snap Chat saying "I need somewhere to rest my ginger head" Well keep in walking you maniplitive piece of trash... You talk a good game but you won't fool me twice.