I’m doing student’s survey research around the world - please help me! it’s very important because it’s for improving relationships of the systems in the future
*it’s about relationships either between two system or system and a singlet (person without DID or OSDD) who knows about you being a system - can be a relationship that ended and relationship that you are still in - doesn’t matter but it has to be at least 3+ months long (if not then mention about it at the beginning or end of the survey, thank you)
*if you had more than one relationship like this please add numbers or nicknames etc to particular [ex] partners
*please write experiences of all alters - not body/system as whole, thanks
*you can send it anonymously to me if you are afraid of reblogging or sending a survey over under your tumblr name - it’s ok!
Did you know about you/them/both of you being a system before entering the relationship or found out later? When? How? How did finding out affected the relationship? Especially if you were engaged or married already or even had kids.
How old any of you are/were? If you have a different age than the body or are an age slider give me the age you are/were at the time or most of the time. Did any of the alters change their age during relationship? Why? Are/were any alters underage that got involved into the relationship by any sides? Are/were their partners also underage?
How many relationships between specific alters there are/were if your partner isn’t/wasn’t a singlet? Are/were there poly relationships? Tell me more about them if possible (how they worked - how many alters in one and such)
What gender/sex and orientation most of your alters have? What is/was your partner orientation and gender/sex? Did anyone change gender/sex/orientation on both sides? Why? Were they forced?
Was anyone forced to have sex with another? Were there accidental switches/fronts during sex that got out of control? What was yours/their reaction during and after?
How sex affect[ed] your relationship?
Are/were any alters sexually traumatised that no longer are?
Tell me more about your sexual alters/protectors - are they involved with all sexual activities? If not - why? Any other alters having sex?
How both sides treated alters that aren’t/weren’t involved in relationship[s]? How they were reacting?
Were there any kids that were kids of your partner somehow? Either treated by your partner like their baby or “adopted”? What about you, any adopted kids, if your partner is/was a system? How about other littles? How they treated your partner and if they are/were theirs - how do/did they treat[ed] you?
Did any of the sides had splits because of the relationship? Why? Who are they? Tell me more about it.
Did your partner help you anyhow in finding out about your system or your traumas (or anything else you are thankful for)? Did they cause new traumas? If yes - what kind and how if you don’t mind me asking?
Did any of your or your partner’s alters had relationship within your/their system and how it affected both of you?
If you broke up - what caused it? What was too much or not enough in a relationship? What do you need/want from another relationship? How your new relationship is any better if you are in one? Do you even want a relationship? If yes then with a system or a singlet? What do you blame your ex or current partner for? What do you want to change in a relationship if you are in one right now?
If you broke up - how differently your alters reacted to that event? How do they cope now? How did they behaved if you entered a new relationship?
How your ex partner behaved after your relationship ended? Especially if they are also a system - how did their alters felt/acted? What did they blame you for if anything? Show me your perspective on their opinions.
If you did something (or do) in a relationship you aren’t proud of - what would you do differently next time or to fix that? What do you regret of doing wrong?
If you have or had issues in a relationship - how do you try to find a compromise, fix things, understand another’s perspective etc? Share your tips.
Is/was your partner ill besides DID/OSDD? Are you? What is affecting your mental and physical health?
What would you want to tell to you ex or current partner (try not to skip that) or hear from them?
*if you can - tell me what kind of trauma caused you having DID/OSDD in the first place between the age of 1-5
THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR YOUR TIME!
if you want to add any other informations or questions you didn’t see in here - feel free to pm me :)
if you need someone to talk - also welcome