Top 10 Things I Will/Wonāt Miss
Living in a foreign country and culture is routinely both exciting and frustrating. There are many things about Japan that I love--so much so that I wish such things were more common in the west. But on the flip side, no matter how āused toā Japanese daily life I become, there will always be things that are beyond annoying--things that I absolutely will never miss once I leave. As my 10 week countdown begins, I realize Iāve started categorizing all of the things I see in my daily life as one or the other. Will I miss this?
Although most things I question get a āmeh, probably,ā there are a few things that get a resounding and definite āyesā or āno.ā Here are the top 10 things I will miss and the top 10 things I wonāt in no particular order.
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Top 10 Things Iām Not Going To Miss Even a Little Bit
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1. Lack of Appliances
One of the biggest frustrations of life in Japan is a lack of what I consider to be necessary appliances. Namely, a dryer, a dishwasher, and an oven. How is one meant to function without such luxuries? Iāve never understood it.
My time in Japan has been spent saving laundry, dishes, and cooking until the last possible minute because doing any of the above without the proper appliance is maddening. Iāve started driving to the coin laundry every week and using only paper utensils and plates because the alternatives are just so aggravating. For a society thatās so āhigh tech,ā itās amazing how little technology they use in their daily lives.
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2. The Language Barrier
Iāve studied Japanese for going on 7 years now, though Iām still not very good. I can blunder my way through standard conversations on the phone or at the store, but free conversations are still difficult. Add in the fact that I only understand about 50% of what people say to me and that students and many co-workers insist on speaking to me in Japanese as though I am capable of responding and you have my frustration with the language barrier.
I canāt even express to you how happy I will be to be able to read food labels, instructions for my new electronic, or the side-effects and ingredients in my cough medicine.
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3. My Job
Those who know me well know this one already--the number one reason Iām leaving Japan is that I absolutely canāt stand my job as an ALT. Itās boring, itās frustrating, I have no control over anything I do, Iām treated like a child, and I have no responsibility whatsoever. I canāt tell you how many times Iāve gone to a class just to say a quick āhelloā to the students and then stand in the corner for 50 minutes while the teacher explains grammar in Japanese. Such a waste of my time and skills.
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4. Being āThe Gaijinā
Have you ever lived in a foreign country where you were so obviously āthe foreignerā? If so, you know where Iām going with this one. Sometimes, being āgaikokujinā (foreign person) in Japan is a good thing. For example, you can get away with just about any social faux pas because you ādonāt understand.ā Thereās even a term for it among foreigners in Japan--Gaijin Smash. And yet, when you walk into a restaurant and the staff automatically assumes you donāt know what youāre doing...when youāre sick and your supervisor has to go to the doctor with you to translate...when youāre treated with ākid glovesā whenever you try to do anything...it gets kind of annoying.
But thereās more to it than that. As a Gaijin, youāre recognizable. Everyone in your city knows who you are and where you work. People youāve never seen before strike up a conversation with you at the convenience store. People constantly comment on your skin, hair, teeth, clothes, size, and anything else about you thatās different. And children you teach follow you like lost puppies when they see you in the grocery store. (Where are your parents, small child?)
I know some JETs really love this attention, but I really donāt. Itāll be nice to go back to a place where Iām not a town celebrity, thank you very much.
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5. Japanese Netflix
For those of you who donāt know, Netflix is region-locked. So U.S. Netflix is different from Netflix in the U.K. or in Australia or in Japan. Time was, you could use a proxy to trick Netflix into thinking youāre in the U.S. when really youāre not in order to access content in other countries. But Netflix, losers that they are, caught on to this and beefed up their security so much that proxies no longer work and if you live in Japan you have to watch Japanese Netflix.
Now, really, Netflix in Japan isnāt all that different from Netflix in the U.S., but a lot of the titles are different. Oh yeah, and all the anime/movies made in Japan are in Japanese with no subtitles. I canāt tell you how many times Iāve read articles online about what Netflix is adding in the coming months, gotten super excited, and then been sad because itās only American Netflix that got a cool new show or movie. Ugh. I will be plenty happy to return to my ārealā Netflix and the shows I actually want to watch.
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6. Sick Culture
When youāre sick in Japan, you follow a very specific routine.
1. Put on a face mask.
2. Take your temperature.
3.A. If you donāt have a fever, youāre completely fine go to work.
3.B. If you do have a fever, youāre dying. You should go to the doctor immediately.
4. Tell the doctor you have a fever.
5. Take the flu test, even if you donāt have flu symptoms.
6.A. If the flu test is positive, go home and sleep for 3 days. Donāt touch another person until your 3 days are up.
6.B. If the flu test is negative, youāre fine. Take your medicine and go to work, itās probably just stress.
7. Cry because Japanese people have NO CLUE how to be sick.
Now, the face masks are, of course, annoying. Theyāre uncomfortable and suffocating and MythBusters proved they donāt actually work anyway. But more frustrating than that is (a) the assertion that you must go to the doctor for every little ailment and (b) the assumption that youāre only āsickā if you have a fever (and on the flip side, the assumption that if you have a fever you must be contagious).
For example, last winter I had strep throat. Now, itās pretty hard to have strep throat and not know you have strep throat. I went to the doctor because thatās what you do when you have strep throat--you have to go get antibiotics. My conversation with the doctor went something like this:
Doctor: āWhatās wrong?ā
Me: āI think I have strep throat.ā
Doctor: āWhat are your symptoms?ā
Me: āWell, I have a high fever, my throat hurts, and there are big white spots on it.ā
Doctor: āHave you had a flu shot this year?ā
Me: āNo...?ā
Doctor: āLetās do a flu test.ā
Me: āI donāt have the flu. I donāt even have any symptoms of the flu.ā
Doctor: āYou have a fever. So we should do a flu test.ā
Me: āIf youād just look at my throat, youād know I donāt have the flu.ā
Doctor: āIāll look at your throat after we do the flu test.ā
Me: āFine.ā
(We do the flu test.)
Doctor: āYou donāt have the flu.ā
Me: āYes, I know.ā
(Doctor finally looks at my throat.)
Doctor: āYou probably have strep throat.ā
Me: āYou donāt say...? Wow, I never would have thought of that.ā
Then he proceeds to give me five different medications to cure the strep throat--one is an antibiotic, one is for fever, one is basically a painkiller, one is a Chinese herbal remedy for strep throat, and one is for nausea that I might or might not get from any of the previous medications.
Ugh.
And donāt even get me started on the argument I had with my vice principal, who thought I shouldnāt be able to use my sick leave for strep throat because it wasnāt the flu, even after I explained that (a) itās super contagious and (b) I kind of canāt talk at all.
Seriously, never get sick in Japan. Just donāt do it.
But on the plus side, you can wear the face masks when youāre not sick for cool benefits:
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7. Narrow Roads
If youāve ever been to Japan, you know what Iām talking about. If you havenāt...imagine a one-way street in your town. Narrow it by a foot. Thatās a 2-way street in the Japanese countryside. If you meet another car along the road, one of you has to pull off the road for the other to pass. Sometimes there isnāt room to pull off. In which case one of you backs up until there is room to pull off.
Then there are the people who (understandably) are tired of people driving over their garden because of narrow roads. Those people erect cement walls around their property. So thereās quite literally nowhere to go. Those people are fun.
I canāt tell you how many times Iāve felt like I was going to either destroy my car or die or both because of narrow roads in Japan. I will not miss them. Ā
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8. Politeness, Part 1
Everyone is so dang polite in Japan. Youād think this would be a good thing, and in some cases it is. I talk about the good aspects of this later, in the things I WILL miss section. But this aspect of Japanese culture definitely has its downsides, too.
Just because Japanese people are polite 98% of the time doesnāt mean they donāt get angry. It just means that (a) you donāt know theyāre angry and (b) theyāre going to passive-aggressively make your life a living hell while apologizing for it and totally not meaning it.
I am so, so, so tired of people who donāt say what they mean--people who agree with you not because they think itās a good idea but because they feel like they have to. For example, I once taught a lesson that was absolute crap (and on parentsā day, no less). The students were confused, the JTE was confused, and everything was chaos. After the class, I asked my JTE how he thought the lesson went.
āIt was good.ā He said.
āReally?ā I asked.
āYes.ā He said.
āYou didnāt think it was confusing?ā
āYes, it was confusing.ā
āYou donāt think it was too difficult for the students?ā
āYes, it was difficult.ā
Me, internally, āThen why the heck did you tell me it was a good lesson?!?!?!?!?!ā
But really, I said, āOkay, so what do you think I could do to make it better?ā
āNothing. It was good.ā
Me, internally, ā WTH???????ā
But really, I said, āOkay. Thanks for class.ā
This kind of exchange is fairly normal--thereās never an explicit yes or no answer. Itās always this convoluted nonsense that you couldnāt possibly understand unless you read their body language.
In another example, I wanted to take 2 days of vacation time so I could go on a trip during Golden Week. I donāt have to ask anyone but the principal, but as a courtesy I asked the head of the English department first. Her response was something along the lines of, āWe have a parentās viewing class that day. So itās not a good time for you to take off. No one can tell you that you canāt use your vacation time. So you could use it. But weād be happy if you came to school on that day.ā
The implication was a very heavy āNo, you canāt take that day off.ā But what she actually said was different. You better believe I still took that day off. And, as usual, although no words were exchanged about the matter, there have been a dozen little things over the last few weeks that make me certain sheās punishing me for going against her wishes.
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9. Lack of Cheese (And Other Nummy Foods)
Iāve missed cheese so much. So, so, so, so, so, so, so, so much!
Also, bread, cottage cheese, popcorn cakes, Dr. Pepper, and so much more. Words cannot express how much I am looking forward to food upon my return. (Though I am going to miss sushi and Cocoās Curry.)
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10. Culture Shock (But...)
For those who donāt know, culture shock is a big, annoying roller coaster of pain and annoyance. You start off all happy, in your cute little honeymoon phase, and youāre like āYay, this is going to be fun!ā We call that part āStage 1.ā
Then, just when you think life is going to be awesome forever, you hit Stage 2, where suddenly your car bounces off track and everything is miserable. This is the part where you hate everyone and everything that is different from your normal way of life. Except youāre surrounded by things like that and life just pretty much sucks.
Next comes Stage 3 where you sorta-kinda get used to some things and life gets a little bit better. Like realizing that having a bathroom thatās solely a *bath* room is actually a pretty neat idea. And eventually, you have enough of these revelations that you reach Stage 4 where you magically accept your new life and everything is wonderful again.
Except...
Nothing is ever that pretty and perfect. Oh sure, you go from Stages 1 to 2 fairly regularly, but after that is anyoneās guess. My time in Japan has been something like this: 1 - 2 - 2 - 3 - 2 - 2 - 2 - 4 - 4 - 4 - 4 - 2 - 3 - 2 - 4 - 3 - 2 - 4 - 2. And on any given day, I really canāt tell which Stage Iām going to end on. Itās completely unpredictable and insane.
Itāll be nice to go back home where I donāt have to worry about Culture Shock ever again. Right?
Wrong. Because Reverse Culture Shock is totally a thing. A thing which I experienced in part last summer when I returned to the U.S. for a couple weeks.
I can leave my shoes on inside? What?????
Iām given a fork at a Chinese restaurant and have to request chopsticks. What?????
Thereās no 5:00 song!
I want to take a real bath. :( Ā :( Ā :( Ā :(
All of the clothes fit me!!! But theyāre so low-cut!
Walmart is a thing that exists again!
The house is so big!
Whereās the otohime? (Otohime = a button you push in the restroom that makes running water noises so no one can hear what youāre doing in the toilet)
My drink is so big! I canāt drink all that!
Oh my God itās salt. Thereās salt. On my table. At a restaurant. I didnāt have to request it.
Oh yeah, I have to tip people again.
And so on.
Granted, Reverse Culture Shock eventually goes away for good, so I have that to look forward to. But for all of you who will spend any considerable time with me for the next couple years, I apologize in advance for any statement which begins, āWell, in Japan...ā
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Top 10 Things I Will Definitely Miss a Lot
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1. Bath Culture
Japanese people take their baths seriously. If youāve been to Japan, you know this to be true. Bathrooms are just that--the room with the bathtub and shower and nothing else. The tub is deep enough to sit in comfortably for hours. And thereās a very specific way youāre supposed to bathe:
-Step 1: Scrub the tub Do this every night so you never have to scrub and scrub and scrub. Just spray the tub with water, coat it with cleaner, and run over once with your awesome tub scrubber that extends and pivots so you donāt have to bend down and kill your knees.
-Step 2: Draw a bath In some houses, you can even control the temperature of your bath with a remote control. You can also set a timer so the bath draws itself automatically every night.
-Step 3: Cover the bath with your nifty bathtub cover
-Step 4: Stand outside the tub and use your showerhead to take a shower
-Step 5: Remove bathtub cover and soak for the rest of your life
And because baths are super important, you can buy awesome bath products everywhere. Like that scrubber I mentioned above. Or a stool you can sit on while you shower because comfort. Body scrubbers, body soaps, an entire aisle of bath salts and bath bombs, buckets so you can rinse yourself off with actual bath water, shower caps (that actually work) for those times when you donāt want to wash your hair, and even sponges that make the mirror in your bathroom not fog up. (Donāt ask me why thereās a mirror in the bathroom...but there is.)
Iāll admit, when I first came to Japan I was completely baffled by all of this. But itās super amazing, and I honestly donāt know what Iām going to do without my nightly bath now.
And donāt even get me started on the onsen (public open-air baths).
Want to relax with a beautiful view? Onsen.
Been out hiking all day and want to freshen up before your 3 hour drive home? Onsen.
Want to warm up after a day in the snow? Onsen.
Donāt have anything else to do? Onsen.
Onsen is always the answer. Onsen is life.
Why doesnāt the U.S. have onsen? I will be so sad to leave them behind...
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2. Random Products to Make Your Life Better
Cold? Donāt worry, just buy some disposable hot packs. They come in āstickyā and āunstickyā and in just about any size you can think of. Put them wherever you like. Pockets, shoes, or anywhere else thatās cold.
Hot? Donāt worry, we have hand fans, scarves that literally cool you off, and UV-protectant umbrellas.
Tired? Donāt worry, we have energy shots.
Hungover? Thereās a drink for that too, conveniently available at any convenience store.
Tired of dusting your shelves? Just buy this super awesome sticky paper that goes on the bottom...when it gets dirty, just rip away and toss it.
Tired of your bookshelves falling over in those pesky earthquakes? We have super, super sticky pads to glue them to your floor.
Tired of your perfectly-rolled toothpaste tube unrolling when you let go of it? Toothpaste squeezer will fix that pesky problem.
Tired of your bathroom mirror fogging up when you shower? We have a sponge for that.
Want to chop your leeks in perfect slices every time? Thereās a kitchen tool for that.
Want to look like a samurai while your beautify? Thereās a face mask for that.
Tired of your boring kitchen sponge, timer, hot water bottle, toilet brush, masking tape, file folder, calculator, toilet paper, etc.? Donāt worry--it comes in ācute.ā
Seriously, Japan is like the never-ending land of slightly useful but mostly unnecessary products. A trip to the 100 Yen Store is never a dull trip. And when I return home, the lack of endlessly entertaining cheap crap will certainly leave me feeling sad.
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3. No Shoes Inside
I used to make fun of people in the States doing this. I used to roll my eyes at people who insisted I take my shoes off before entering their house. To those people--I am deeply sorry.
Japanese people change their shoes every time they enter a building. Instead, they wear indoor shoes that have never seen the outdoor world or just slippers that are adorable and can easily be folded up into a bag and carried around to various locations. But the point is, no indoor shoes go outside and no outside shoes go inside.
It makes the world so much cleaner.
Iām definitely doing this back in the States.
(Though Japan can keep the toilet slippers thing...Iām not that crazy!)
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4. Money and Free Time
Many people compare the JET Program to study abroad. A lot of people join the program for a āgap yearā between college and their real jobs. And thereās a definite reason for this. I, as an ALT, have so much free time itās ridiculous.
My first year, I had so much free time at work that I quite literally spent more time sitting at my desk studying Japanese than I did in the classroom.
My second year, I started taking random online classes to fill this time. That year I got TEFL-certified and I learned JavaScript.
My third year, I was both Block Leader and AJET President, the work for both of which took up all of my free time.
And the point remains that Iāve never actually done that much āworkā at work.
But having few responsibilities in the office is good in other ways, too--mainly, I donāt have to stay late and I never have to do work on weekends. There are no papers to grade or lessons to make that I canāt do during my free time in the normal work day. This leaves my after-work schedule wide open for all kinds of cool things. Weeknights are filled with Dungeons and Dragons, board games, Japanese class, and TV nights, and weekends are filled with trips and events galore. Itās amazing all of the things Iāve done and all of the places Iāve gone since I moved to Japan--things I never would have considered in the States. And although some of that was simply the āadventure is out thereā mindset that infects many JETs, a lot of it is made possible by a generous salary and A LOT of free time. Although there are many days where I wish I had more responsibility in my job, thereās a lot to be said for having free time to climb mountains, go skiing, and drive 3 hours to see some famous shrine because why not?
I know that freedom will change once Iām back in the U.S. with big girl responsibilities. I hope Iāll be able to make time for the things I enjoy, though I know my opportunities to enjoy them will become few and far between.
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5. Presents for Inconveniences
Japan gives presents for everything. Itās really funny most of the time. For example, when I first came to Japan, I went to get a cell phone and walked away with a cell phone and a free supermarket-sized bottle of laundry deodorant bead things (idk, they make your clothes smell good and you just dump them in the washer with your detergent...as far as I can tell they donāt do anything but make your clothes smell like flowers). This is fairly common...I also got presents for opening a bank account and for getting an apartment. Itās just a āthingā here to entice people into signing on with a certain company.
But even better than the presents for ānewā accounts are the presents you get for being inconvenienced. Let me tell you a story.
Usually, when I pay for school lunch, I pay once a month and itās just deducted from my bank account with no muss or fuss. But about a month ago, the payment for my school lunch changed from once every month to once every two months. No one thought it was important to tell me this, and so when bill-pay time rolled around I didnāt have enough in my account to cover the full amount. So they sent me a physical bill which can only be paid at the bank during bank hours.
Banks in Japan are both really cool and really frustrating. But in this case they were frustrating. Banks are only open until 3 p.m. and never on weekends. If you want to go to the bank to do anything, you have to go in the middle of the work day. Which is fine for people who can drive to the bank, but not so much for people who canāt drive to work and therefore donāt have a car to use to go to the bank and therefore have to walk for 50 minutes to get to the bank. So in order to go to the bank, I had to wait for an afternoon where I didnāt have any classes and take 2.5 hours of vacation time to walk to the bank to pay this bill. I went, I paid for it, end of story, right?
Wrong. Because the teller at the bank had made a mistake...she was supposed to give me 10 yen ( about 10 cents) in change and instead gave me 100 yen (about a dollar). Neither of us caught this mistake and I left without any more thought to my time at the bank. That is, until about an hour later (after the bank had closed and Iād finished walking home) when I got a phone call from a panicked bank teller who, in the midst of many āexcuse meās and āsorry to bother youās explained to me that she had made a mistake and I would have to go back to the bank so I could give her 90 yen.
āCanāt you just deduct it from my account?ā I asked, thinking this was the most reasonable solution to the problem. But the answer was many āexcuse meās and āsorry to trouble youās with a āsorry, we canātā message thrown in somewhere.
I explained my situation to her--that I had to take vacation time to go to the bank and I could only go on afternoons where I wouldnāt have class--days which are super rare, and the earliest I could return to the bank would be Friday of the following week, the bank teller came up with a solution. The following day, she would send a bank employee to my school to meet me, verify the mistake, and get the 90 yen. I was both amazed and amused...because only in Japan would a bank send an employee to collect the equivalent of less than a dollar in change from a client (and only in Japan would it (a) matter and (b) have been recorded in enough detail that the teller could have figured out that out of all the people she had given change to that day, it was me she had made the mistake with). But whatever, it meant I wouldnāt have to go back to the bank again, so I agreed and the following day at the specified time the guy came and took my 90 yen.
Iāll admit that even though the bank was coming to meet me, I was pretty aggravated by the whole ordeal, and had spent those 21 hours between the phone call and the guyās visit mentally fussing about Japanese banks and their annoying habits.
But as the guy was leaving, in the midst of many āthank youās, āexcuse meās, and āsorry to bother youās, he gave me a pen with Arukuma on it (the Mascot character for Nagano prefecture) and three highlighters as presents for having inconvenienced me. Immediately I became un-annoyed. Because (a) Cool! Free stuff! And (b) OMG IT HAS ARUKUMA ON IT!!!!!
The moral of the story is, it might be a pain in the ass to deal with Japanese banks, but when they screw up you get cool free stuff. I think I can live with that.
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6. Politeness, Part 2
Politeness in Japan is cultural. Itās almost unheard of for any Japanese person to be anything but completely polite to anyone they meet in their daily lives. Frustration and fussing is reserved only for oneās family and extremely close friends, and as a result, itās very rare to have any sort of argument with someone who is Japanese. Japanese people are so polite they have a whole extra language (called ākeigoā) devoted to being polite--the idiosyncrasies of which are so complex that many Japanese people have to take classes on it in college so they can properly use it in their future business dealings.
As you can imagine, this has its down sides, which is why I talked about the flip side to this element of Japanese culture in the previous section. But in all honesty, itās really nice a lot of the time, too.
For example, have you ever walked into a store and the clerk has been in a bad mood? You havenāt done anything wrong, but theyāve had a sucky day and their smile is just a little forced...their thank you just a little sarcastic...maybe they huff a little when they have to stop what theyāre working on to ring you up or you hear them gossiping with another employee about āthis one really horrible customerā who left 30 minutes ago. Itās kind of off-putting, right? Except, while this is common in the U.S. (I know because Iāve worked retail and I know Iām guilty of behaving that way), this would absolutely never, ever, ever happen in Japan. Because no matter how much your day has sucked in Japan, you just donāt show it. Sure, maybe you go home and complain to your family, but it is expressed and stays for eternity within that close-knit group. I know for a fact that as a foreigner, Iāve done some stupid things in stores in Japan. And I know that employees Iāve dealt with go home and tell their families about āthis one time when the crazy foreigner came into my store.ā But the point is...no matter how frustrated Iām making them in the store, they never, ever stop smiling and treating me with respect.
Itās been a nice change of pace from the U.S. where people swear at you for bumping into them on the street, you know? And also, it kind of rubs off on you...
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7. My Students
In the U.S., classroom management is an art form. It must be developed for years and years before any new teacher is even remotely good at it. And during my student teaching, I learned that lesson hard (as do most student teachers, I imagine). Donāt get me wrong--I loved teaching in the U.S. and I certainly plan to continue in the future. And a lot of my students were really good kids. But any 8th grade class in the States in chaos incarnate, and nothing any teacher does ever will change that.
After my first week teaching in Japan, one of my JTEs asked me, āWhat do you think is the biggest difference between Japanese and American schools?ā
She probably expected me to talk about the daily cleaning time or the teachersā instructional habits, but what popped out of my mouth was, āThe students.ā
āHow so?ā she asked, and I proceeded to explain how completely amazed I was that the students would just sit there in class. There was no talking, no getting up to go to the bathroom, no paper airplanes, no loud noises, no class clowns, no students dropping their books or sneezing every 5 minutes...they were all completely, 100% compliant with the teacher. They were content to sit there and take notes for hours on end with no misbehavior or rebellion to be seen. I was completely and utterly astounded.
Over time, Iāve learned that not all classes in my schools are free of behavior problems, and that, of course, the kids are still kids and are completely crazy during break times and after school. And yet the fact remains that almost no classroom management is necessary in any of my classrooms.
Of course, the ease of classroom management isnāt the only thing Iāll miss about my students. Theyāre all great kids, and Iāve taught them all for three years now. Iāve come to know a lot of them very well, and Iāll miss them very much when I leave, but thatās nothing new. I have students from my student teaching that I miss, and Iāve known students in the past 3 years who have graduated and who I miss quite a bit--the girls I cleaned with my first year who taught me about ARASHI while I taught them how to sing Disney songs in English; the boy and girl the next year who studied abroad during summer vacation and hunted me down every day to have a conversation; the girls last year who couldnāt speak English very well but who always tried in such loud and excited voices; the boys who think itās funny that I say āhelloā to them and will run up and down the stairs or the hallway over and over again, saying āhelloā to me every time they pass me; the girl who is afraid to speak but who smiles at me in the hallway now; the girl who says āyoh-hohā to me instead of āhelloā and who loves pine cones enough to bring them to school whenever she finds them to show to all her friends...there are so many, and Iāll be sorry to leave them behind. But the classroom management, though...thatās definitely an added bonus.
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8. Public Transportation
My friends and I all agree--the number one way in which the U.S. is inferior to Japan is public transportation. Local trains, express trains, bullet trains, city busses, highway trams, subways, monorails, taxis, planes, and more--Japan has it down pat, thatās for sure. Getting from Point A to Point B is always easy, comfortable, usually convenient, and roughly the same price as (if not cheaper than) driving.
Granted, Japan is not the only country with awesome public transportation systems--in fact most places Iāve visited in Asia have some kind of modern rail and bus system in place. It seems only the U.S. is behind the times on this point, with transport systems few and far between and not at all clean or comfortable. Maybe one day that will change, but for the time being, Iāll certainly miss the trains.
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9. Tea...Tea Everywhere
I never really liked tea before I came to Japan. Now I love it. Tea is everywhere (so is coffee too, but itās more respectable to drink tea in Japan than it is in the west). You can buy tea leaves and bags pretty much anywhere, from supermarkets to convenience stores. Any place that will sell you coffee on tap will sell you tea as well. And you can find pretty much any flavor of tea you want. Not to mention that, because everyone loves tea so much, staff rooms are always stocked with hot water and tea bags and co-workers routinely make large pots of tea to share with everyone. Having a mug at your desk is practically a necessity. But if you donāt have one donāt worry, you can use one of the schoolās fancy china tea cups instead!
But tea isnāt available as only tea. No, you can also buy tea-flavored ice cream, tea-flavored cake...even tea āflavoredā bath bombs. And somewhere along the line, Iāve grown to love the tea. Iām going to have to find out where I can buy the good stuff in the States...
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10. My Friends
The thing Iāll probably miss most of all are the people Iāve met over the last three years.
Back in the U.S. I never had that many friends...but when I did make friends with people Iād stay close with them forever. I can count the number of people Iāve considered āfriendsā before Japan on two hands, and most of them Iām still friends with. This is mostly because Iāve never had much time for āother peopleā in my life, and I prefer to spend most of my free time alone and recharging after a day spent with too many people. But in coming to Japan with the JET Program, I joined a massive network of people from all over the world who mostly consider each other friendly and trustworthy.
Communities are everywhere in JET--I have just under 10 communities which I routinely participate in, either online or in person. But the people who live in my prefecture and in my block have become some amazing friends. Will they ever top the love I feel for the friends Iāve known my whole life? Probably not. But all the same, they mean a lot to me. These are people I meet with to play board games or people who come to NagaYes events or people who come to AJET parties and trips or people who just happen to live near me and work in my city. There are people I call when I want to go to the movies, people I call when I want to play board games, people I call when I want to go hiking, and people I call when I want to drop everything at the last minute and go on an adventure. And usually, these people are more than up for the task at hand. I am connected to this community, and knowing Iām about to return home, to be away from them by several thousand miles, and to know that I canāt go to Chushinās NagaYes next year (or the Ski Trip or the hanami party or that big camping trip everyone decided would be a cool thing to do) is really sad. I know Iāll be with my other friends and family, but I also know that things in the U.S. will never be what they were here.
Leaving is a lonely thing, and although I know itās what I have to do, Iāll still miss all of my wonderful fellow-Naganites. Maybe weāll meet again someday.
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Credits:
I did not draw any of the above comics. They come from the talents of...
Life After the BOE
Texan in Tokyo
Fried Chicken and Sushi
Mary Cagle











