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hklj420

im embarrassing and boring and im sorry

purplepuggy

pondwitch

god help us

mrost-deactivated20230428

I like how you can almost hear the despair of the tech guys.

edible-drywall

This is from their LinkedIn page.

ongreywings

I feel like I need to send them a gift basket.

sushinfood

T H E Y W E R E N O T P R E P A R E D F O R T R O U B L E

5ftdad-deactivated20170528

Spread these. Made by Sherronda Brown credit/original post

newcontinent

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thescienceofjohnlock

Some great advice from Facebook user Paul O’Connor who might make you think how to handle a potentially dangerous situation differently than a straight on confrontation or silently ignoring it. Good advice on what to do when you find yourself near a racist mouthy twat who is spouting out their crap at some unfortunate person. …

twodefenestrate

Good advice on what to do when you find yourself near a racist mouthy twat who is spouting out their crap at some unfortunate person.

NEVER engage the perpetrator. He (and it is usually he) is looking for confrontation. Instead speak to the person he is abusing. Say hello. Introduce yourself. Shake his or her hand. And just stand with them. Keep talking. About anything. Weather. Bus schedules. Football. This kind of bullying never works against a group of people having a conversation. Usually a single person travelling or a mom with a kid or maximum, two women are targeted.

Form a group of people with and around them if you can. Don’t tell them they are not alone. Just don’t let them be alone. I speak from experience. Once, I encountered a young girl wearing a hijab being abused as a terrorist by a drunk man on a train. I just went and sat beside her and started a conversation with her. After a while, the dude lost interest. I had a lovely chat with a young student from Qatar. She wanted to study literature while her dad was only prepared to pay for engineering or commerce as he wanted her to join the family business. It helped her feel safe and it expanded my horizons.

This is known in behavioral psychology as “non-complimentary behavior”; by not fueling the aggression of another person and you can flip the whole script of all their expectations, and without any footholds for their aggression (like direct provocation and confrontation/conflict) to launch into further tirades against, the aggressor can’t continue their angry scene-building. The more people who participate in script-flipping, the more successful it gets, as in this post you see with the advice to form a protective group between the bigot and their target for that very purpose.

There’s an NPR podcast called Invisibilia which goes into detail about how it works and what sort of people rely on it everyday professionally and for survival alike, in their Flipping the Script episode.

amemait

Ooohhhh

popcanpoli

@SaraSoueidan: Dear men, This is how you greet a veiled Muslim woman (a Hijabi). Hand on your chest, not offering to shake hers. 🙋

so prominent BLM activist deray mckesson just retweeted this which i think is super cool for various reasons :)))

a-duck-among-humans

I did not know this. Is it OK for a non Muslim woman to shake hands with a Hijabi? Or do we do the hand on chest thing too?@popcanpoli

popcanpoli

hey so i don’t wear a hijab and i’m not muslim so i definitely don’t have the authority to answer this question (or any other questions i’ve been getting abt this) (i’m just a lil canadian politics blog i didn’t expect this to blow up lol)

BUT here are some tweets by the original tweeter (who wears a hijab) that clarify some things

one:

two:

three:

animatedamerican

This is also good if you’re meeting an Orthodox Jewish person who’s not the same gender as you! Not all Orthodox Jews hold by this restriction, and many consider it a permissible exception to shake hands in a formal greeting context; I’d guess this is parallel to Ms. Soueidan’s last-quoted tweet above. And as that says, the sensible thing is to wait for initiation.

atheologist

Yup! Back when I worked for an LGBTQ organization, I had to warn my (Christian) boss ahead of time that the Orthodox rabbi we were meeting with would offer his hand to my boss but not to me. I just didn’t want my boss to be surprised and say something inappropriate.

breastforce

“Particularly prone to serious procrastination problems are children who grew up with unusually high expectations placed on them…or else they exhibited exceptional talents early on, and thereafter “average” performances were met with concern and suspicion from parents and teachers.”

Holy SHIT

t-ycho

WELL THEN

appropriately-inappropriate

Yep.

They actually tested me for a learning disability in high school because I was consistently failing math.

They discovered that I actually scored in the 80th percentile in that sort of learning.

Problem was, in every other subject, I was in the 99.8th percentile.

I had never learned how to study because I never needed to—and then, when something proved to be even the slightest bit challenging, my brain went

“LOL nope this is impossible abort”

Meanwhile, this entire time I’m scraping by in subjects like English. The assignments I did turn in, I’d score top marks—but I’d avoid turning in projects I didn’t think were “good” enough.

Essentially, my brain had two settings: “100%” or “0%”.

This sort of Baby Genius shit makes kids and adolescents neurotic and self-destructive.

cassiebones

We learned about this in Child Development. And we learned to reward hard work and not good job. Like don’t say to a child, “oh you are so smart.” Say “Oh did worked so hard.” Be proud of the child, not the achievement.

beyondthetemples-ooc

Be proud of the child, not the achievement.

thalassarche

Decades of research have been done on this by Dr. Carol Dweck. When the emphasis is placed on effort (a factor people can control) rather than talent (an innate skill), it’s a lot easier to see mistakes as a learning opportunity rather than something you just won’t ever be good at. And kids who were encouraged by effort were also more willing to take on more challenging work and considered it a lot more fun, while the kids who were praised for their intelligence were reluctant to put themselves in a situation where they might lose that identifier as a “smart kid” by making mistakes, so they preferred to do work they were confident they could master. Also, the kids praised for effort wanted to compare their results to kids who got higher scores, to see where they made their mistakes, while those praised for intelligence wanted to compare their results to kids who scored lower, to reassure themselves.

Not only does this set up “smart” students for a lot of trouble when they enter college and start being regularly challenged, the effects last long beyond that. It can be very hard for the “you’re so smart!” kids to unlearn as they become adults and struggle with even common adult things, and are afraid to ask for help because of that lesson they learned from misguided praise that they are supposed to be smart and supposed to know the answers.

kyanve

…Honestly +1 here. It’s very well researched and documented and yeah. Making the emphasis on “You succeed and we are proud of you b/c you are SMART as an intrinsic quality!” makes failure/setbacks/difficulty -TERRIFYING- b/c if you’re “smart” it doesn’t happen and if you fail that means you’re not smart and that’s what everyone’s drilled into you as your main point of worth.

And the rates of anxiety disorders among “gifted student” kids are kinda horrifying.

marisatomay

As someone who was a Gifted Child growing up, my mental illnesses/ disorders (and those of many of my equally Gifted friends) were dismissed or looked over for years because for so long I was able to compensate for the discrepancies by being super intelligent

I would drive my parents nuts because on paper I was beyond brilliant and while technically my grades were above average, I wasn’t performing at the academic level I should’ve been

It wasn’t until over halfway through 11th grade that my high school guidance counselor suggested that I be tested for depression, anxiety, etc

With just basic testing we found out that having a high IQ doesn’t mean jack shit if you’re compensating for combined type ADHD, dysthymia, anxiety, and other things

But the real cherry on top? I had already gone through these tests when I was 8 Because I was deemed Gifted my parents sent me to kindergarten a year early and by the time I reached 4th grade my parents decided to have me tested just to make sure I was actually smart enough to be a year ahead After I was diagnosed at 16 I decided to actually read the 4th grade report and the 11th grade one to compare and contrast and it was honestly a little creepy how similar the 2 were The only big differences were my age and what the focus of the reports were In 2004 they were looking strictly at my intelligence In 2012 they were looking for signs of neurodivergency

It took 16 years for someone to realize that maybe there’s a Reason for my failures that go beyond simple “laziness”

In the past few years, more and more of my equally Gifted friends have been diagnosed with a varying array of mental illnesses/disorders (with depression and anxiety being the most common)

My therapist gave me some advice that has really helped me and I hope helps other people who were given diagnoses in their teens or later She said: You have to remember that you have lived most of your life not knowing your problems had solutions beyond just “snapping out of it” so don’t you think it’s a little unfair to expect yourself to unlearn all of that negativity and all of those bad coping skills in only a few months/years?

Anyway I just want to remind everyone to stop praising kids for being “smart” and listen to children when they say they don’t know why they’re acting a certain way or they honestly forgot about an assignment or they can’t seem to focus because I never want my children to feel the way I did and still do

cutegirlonline-deactivated20181

when your anxiety is constant but you do a really good job of pretending it’s not there

reshipped

PSA Pokemon GO players

If you have spare lures and spare time, a good place to put them is at the pokestops in or around children’s hospitals. A lot of the kids here really want to play but can’t leave their beds or the hospital.

zechv

before doing this make sure you contact the hospital so that they are aware/okay with you doing this!!!

not every hospital is the same so contact them and make sure!!!

nolongeractive---sorry-blog

Read the addition, please. It’s important not to encourage this so widespread without a realistic warning as well.

wastedlittlecat

Hi may I take a moment of your time to introduce you to our lord and savior Moltres? c:

hey-there-nutlet-deactivated201

there is only one lord and savior around here mate

Originally posted by shelgon

blaroth

Excuse me you put the wrong gif.

Originally posted by pelipper

hey-there-nutlet-deactivated201

false prophet…

Originally posted by pelipper

bladeobrona

Originally posted by shelgon

Forget them. Zapdos reigns supreme.

angelrinisadork

How many times have I told you guys to stop fighting?!

Originally posted by neogohann

coolman229

We had a whole movie about this guys

whitejadeflower

insanitybreach

See this is actually a really neat look at how history works.

Who writes the history books?

The survivors.

Who survives?

The victors.

pengwhat

well

freezeflare

POKEMON GO PSA

It would seem that there is in fact a way to force an evolution of your Eevee. The Eevee Brothers from the original anime were named Rainer, Pyro, Sparky and they owned a Vaporeon, Flareon and Jolteon respectively. If you nickname your Eevee either Rainer, Pyro or Sparky, your Eevee will evolve into that desired Eeveelution!

Sparky = Jolteon

Rainer = Vaporeon

Pyro = Flareon

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teeth-and-spackle

I thought this was bullshit, but people in the local PokeGO community are reporting a 100 percent success rate, including a dude who named all six of his Eevees Sparky, and all six evolved into Jolteons (thanks, dude).

So I’m willing to try it and pass it along.