Para Support

A space to create community, share your stories, seek peer support/advice, and find resources on paras - no discussion of illegal contact, Tumblr is watching

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Para / 🥄 Support Resources (and intro)

emoji code used: here I am always looking for more resources, please send them in, especially if they're non-🗺️ resources

Generally Applicable:

⤸ Find a helpline ⤸ Your closest help centre ⤸ Find therapy ⤸ 🥄Carrd ⤸ 🥄Disorders

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⤸ Therapy tips for 🗺️s and here (applies to other paras too)

⤸ Other 🗺️-focused organisations, websites, and services: B4U-Act, Path2Prevention, StopItNow, ASAP International, VirPed, Global Prevention Project ⤸ B4U-Act also has a forum: bB4um ⤸ 🗺️Support Club - Prostasia Foundation

⤸ A 🗺️'s Journey (podcast) and 🗺️Accuracy (blog) specialised episodes: (1) benefits and challenges of therapy, (2) age dysphoria, (3) female 🗺️s, (4) transgender 🗺️s, (5) recovery after offending, (6) recognising and stopping grooming, (7) parenthood as a 🗺️, (8) working with children as a 🗺️, (9) supporting minor 🗺️s

⤸ 🗺️resources.info (support groups, guides, research, volunteering, etc. Also has help for🗺️CSA survivors, minor 🗺️s, P-OCD, and more) ⤸ further resources ⤸ and more resources ⤸ 🗺️Misconceptions

Personal Intro

Hello, you can call me Wraith (no pronouns or he/him if you must)

I'm a psychology and counselling graduate, panpara / omniphile, and non-contact 🗺️tivist and para activist. I have experience volunteering for 🗺️ organisations like the ones I've listed and providing peer support for fellow -philes, which I'd love to do here if Tumblr so allows it

I also have experience with receiving therapy as a minor and young adult for a para disorder. I've since gotten a lot better and no longer meet the critera for said disorder, but still receive therapy because it's tough being in this situation when society sees you as a danger

I use transids and identify as transeverything myself - currently looking into dissomei identities but not sure about switching yet I have schizoaffective disorder and experience delusions

Tags do not necessarily reflect my identity, I'd just rather this post access the people it needs to

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Hello! Sorry for the question, I tried to seek the answer myself but I couldn't find any explanation unfortunately. What is 'complex contact', exactly? I understand no contact and all that, but how does complex contact work? What does it mean? Thank you

It's basically just having varying opinions depending on the situation

I find that anti-contact lacks too much nuance. I think if you're going to call a type of relationship unethical, there's got to be an actual reason why the individual can't consent effectively, and anti-contact discussions often just end at 'they're x years old' rather than continuing to say 'and this is why they're not cut out to consent in this situation'

I also think that because the world has different legal ages of consent and different ideas of ethical age gaps, it's arbitrary to just pick an age and call it the universal age of consent and apply it to every situation. Especially when people take the American AoC and apply it to everywhere

[parasupport]

Thanks for posting that link list thingy, I just started listening to the MAP journey podcast and it seems interesting so far. And there are multiple episodes! (I’m not a map myself but paraphile stuff is my special interest.)

I'm glad you found it interesting, I love anything that allows 🗺️s to speak out about their life experiences